Beth Pinsker CFP®, MarketWatch columnist, and author of My Mother’s Money explains how caring for her mom exposed the gap between “knowing” and “doing” estate/care plans. Only ~30% have wills; even fewer have POAs/health proxies, creating real cash-flow and authorization crises when care starts. She describes the emotional and ethical knots (siblings, guilt) and how illiquid assets/annuity rules and bank hurdles complicate paying caregivers. Takeaways: set POAs/health proxies, add phone legacy contacts, name beneficiaries on all accounts/titles to avoid probate, and use fee-only help when needed. Beth frames inheritances as “Bubby money” spending aligned with a loved one’s values and urges investing in health and lifestyle now.