My mother arrived here at 9:15 am and I knew she came to tell me my Grandfather was dead. He died at 1:00 this morning while my brother, Chuck was sitting with him. He said BigDaddy was breathing slower and slower, yet still able to talk somewhat as he passed on. I cry even typing this because I will miss him. I am glad his suffering with this brain cancer is over, for his sake, and I have felt helpless to relieve his suffering for the past four months.
His favourite song was the Tennessee Waltz and I don’t know the words so I went out and bought every version of it I could find on CD and a CD player in a feeble attempt to make his last few weeks more bearable. I tried to go sit with him two Sundays ago, and when he saw it was me he turned his head and made those funny eyes at me he always does and said “Well Hello Babydoll!”. The next words out of his mouth, for as far back as I can remember, would always be “you are so beautiful!” but this time he said “you are so….so….so something, I can’t remember the words anymore”.
The cancer had taken his mobility, his ability to communicate and his memory in just a few short months. I was there for several hours, but I was no help to anyone, because all I could do was cry and cry and cry. I tried not to let him see or hear me cry and spent most of my time there holed up in the bathroom. I’ve never had to deal with the death of anyone I knew and I wasn’t handling it well at all.
As much as this hurts, I know that it was for the best and I will be able to close this chapter of my life, albeit sorrowfully. I can’t lay the book down where Don is concerned. I still wonder every day if he is alive, if he is in prison, if he is in some mental ward, if he is rotting in a swamp or laying at the bottom of the gulf.
On Thanksgiving I had guests in the cabin. (Norma’s sister from Ft. Lauderdale and her husband). They are quite wealthy and seemed like wonderful people, but I had forgotten to ask Dad to bring in the coffee and doughnuts, so I made cinnamon rolls and coffee for them and delivered it to the cabin. They were sitting outside at 7:30 in the morning in their pajamas, and looking a little wild eyed.
The husband asked the history on the cabin and when I told him he said he was expecting something a little more dramatic and when I asked why he said, “because it’s haunted”. He claims that last night he heard loud shoes, like boots come up the steps, the gush of air as though the door had opened and as he turned to see who it was, he and his wife both felt the bed sink as though someone had climbed in to go to sleep. The next evening I noticed the trail lights were out and the switch was flipped off and the box left open, just like Don did almost every night since I bought those things.
I am going over to hug Momma Jacquie this morning although I know that she, like me would rather be alone. I will take Jamie with me. Jamie didn’t want to see BigDaddy last Sunday after church, but I dragged her anyway to at least say hello to Momma Jack. Jamie said she wanted to remember BigDaddy the way he was, strong and funny. I know that is how he would have wanted us to remember him.
My dad is taking this worse than just about anyone, other than my mom, who is BigDaddy reincarnate. Dad and BigDaddy built the cabins together, did the flea markets and auctions and a lot of traveling together. Dad couldn’t even come tell me about the death because he was so overwhelmed by it. I have to catch four cats, 2 Lynx and 2 Western Cougars, today so I hope he will be able to help me with that, without getting himself hurt.
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