Carrrnversations

Part 2 of this 3 part conversation, where Sena Madonsela - a law student, teenage mom, and former student of mine - shared her entire experience from when she actually started having sex, what she thought sex was versus what she thinks sex is now. She discusses how she found out she was pregnant at 16. Her fears when she found out and having to drop out of school for a whole year, the effect that had on her and her friendships. I did not allow her to speak about the father of her child as I felt it would not be fair because he was not present to speak for himself. Then we spoke about Motherhood and what it meant then and what it means now.

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This is a 3 part conversation, where Sena Madonsela - a law student, teenage mom and former student of mine - shared her entire experience from when she actually started having sex, what she thought sex was versus what she thinks sex is now. She discusses how she found out she was pregnant at 16. Her fears when she found out and having to drop out of school for a whole year , the effect that had on her and her friendships. I did not allow her to speak about the father of her child as I felt it would not be fair because he was not present to speak for himself. Then we spoke about Motherhood and what it meant then and what it means now.

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Today we discussed the culture of ghosting in relationships with my return guest and friend Siya Mazibuko. We tried to get to the root of why people ghost and what could be a more healthier alternative. Here Siya revealed that he does ghost and I revealed that I had been ghosted and I was still healing from that. We also spoke about the pain ghosting causes when the relationship has ended. In the end, it was a funny conversation with personal stories.

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Meet my dad - a pastor and marriage counselor. My dad discussed the challenges he faced when it came to raising me, and what he feels is missing in black relationships. He also mentioned why family structures are so broken and why some children really struggle to connect with their fathers. This was a beautiful conversation filled with so many gems. The secret to raising a girl child, and the different expectations that raising a boy child might have.

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On the third episode on this subject, I invited my friend and conversationalist Siya Mazibuko. Siya was completely against the idea, and mentioned how there is no way such a relationship could work. He also mentioned that it promoted infidelity and dishonesty in relationships. We eventually had to agree to disagree.

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Today we discussed the pros and cons of being in multiple relationships with my good close friend Lianca. Lianca said she was not keen at first , as she felt that it took away from what she believed a relationship should be. We then also spoke about insecurities that could arise as a result of being in such a relationship.

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Scelo ‘Sonic’ Khuzwayo is an English teacher and an Honours student. Here we discussed Polyamory , which is multiple dating. The pros and cons of being in ,such a relationship. Sonic shared that he was open to navigating such a relationship, and how it would bring so much knowledge of the self. We also spoke about having children might be a bit complicated in a polyamorous relationship.

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Nkuli Mbatha is an MC and an actress for children’s theatre, and an activist. In this episode, we discussed what Freedom is as Black women, and what are the things that imprison us as women. The influence of Social Media on what we know as Freedom. Also learning to accept our own skin colour, our own body shapes, sizes and how that acceptance could bring freedom.

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