“You are responsible for the energy you bring to this space.”

Don’t let the dark and cold of the season make a darkness in your thoughts and words.  Cultivate the light within.

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Impatient leaders are the best.  They get things done.  They make things happen.  It’s the reason they have gotten to where they are.  It’s also the thing that will keep us from being more than a one man show.

How many times have you assigned a task, decided it’s not happening fast enough, and then done it yourself?  (For me, that’s probably thousands of times.). What happens if you do that all the time?

You end up with a staff like this:

1. They have no initiative.  They will wait to see if you just do it for them.

2.  They start to resent that you don’t trust them enough to get their job done and they eventually leave or “silently quit”. (See point 1)

People inherently want to do a good job.  They can’t do that if ”good job” is unknown, or if they aren’t given the space to show you they can do it.

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Many high performing leaders will tell you (if you ask) that they do what they do for their families.

If that’s you, then make sure you show up with the right energy when you’re not working.

How do you walk in the door?  How do you talk to them when you leave for the day?

If your job sucks all the energy from your life such that you have nothing left for them, then your actions are basically saying, “my job comes first, you get the leftovers.”

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Studies posit that our happiness has a default set point that we return to over time - regardless of the circumstances in our life.  What if the same is true for our anxiety/stress levels??  And if so, what can you do to change that set point?

Ps - here is more info on that first point…

https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/hedonic-treadmill/

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Today's recording is a reflection on a video I did 5 years ago detailing where my team was at.  The best part about being a leader is being passionate about the future and brining other people on the journey.  But sometimes it's worthwhile to stop and see how often your dreams are right, and what you learned from the outcome.

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Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult?  Why can you live in a place for 20 years and still think that your best relationships happened where you grew up?  Or never at all?

I think the secret is in our calendars…

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“Jesus, I surrender myself to you. Take care of everything.”

I heard this prayer at Bible study yesterday. It’s called the Surrender Novena.

And I thought - Take care of everything? Take care of EVERYTHING!?!? But what would I do if I didn’t worry about all the outcomes constantly? That’s really asking a heck of a lot from me to trust someone else to take care of everything.

As I sat in silence with this prayer, I thought of all the things weighing on my mind and my heart that I truly can’t control.  It made me realize how much unnecessary weight I carry through the day.  What’s on your heart that you need to surrender?

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Doing things for the first time… does it ever get less intimidating?  And doing hard things… does it ever get less stressful?

Today I had to do something both difficult (psychologically) and something new and difficult (process wise).  It sucked.  But I did it, and I did it early in the day before I could chicken out…

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“Whatever truth you seek, you will find it.”

I heard this comment today and it stopped me cold.  The speaker was talking about a $1M hole he had gotten into in his construction business.  At the end, he didn’t want to trust his gut that his partner was shady, he wanted so hard to be right that he sought out anything and everything that would prove his gut wrong.  Spoiler alert - it wasn’t.  What thing are you trying to force in your life that you should let go?  What “truth” are you seeking despite all signs to the contrary?

Ps - the speaker on that podcast was Pace Morby for all you FHL attendees

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