When 19-year-old Shana Grice reported her stalker to the police, they didn’t just dismiss her—they fined her. Months later, she was found murdered in her bedroom, her throat slashed, and her home set on fire. The man responsible had a documented history of harassment, and Shana had done everything she could to be heard. In this episode, I tell the devastating story of Shana Grice—a young woman who was failed at every turn by the very system meant to protect her. I'll go over the red flags that were ignored, the chilling behavior of her killer, and how one police department’s negligence became a national scandal. This is more than a true crime story. It’s a warning.

If you are in a situation where you are being stalked or harassed by a partner or a stranger you can contact:
(In America) The Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC) at [email protected]
or call them at (202) 558-0040
(In the UK) The National Stalking Help Line www.stalkinghelpline.org
or call them at 0808 802 0300

Connect with us on Social Media!
You can find us at:
Instagram: @bookofthedeadpod
X: @bkofthedeadpod
Facebook: The Book of the Dead Podcast
TikTok: Bookofthedeadpod
Or visit our website at www.botdpod.com

Featuring a Promo for True Crime Connections PodcastWe honor deep healing while also making room for laughter, lightness, and moments of joy. Many guests say being on the show felt like chatting with a friend who truly understands. As a survivor of physical, financial, sexual, and psychological abuse, I know what it’s like to feel silenced, devalued, and lost. Back then, terms like gaslighting, narcissism, and love bombing weren’t common, making it even harder to spot toxic patterns. 
My mission is to empower others by sharing my journey and helping people recognize the critical difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. 


listen here

Anderson, S. (2019, April 13). The story of how Shana Grice was stalked, killed – and failed by police. HuffPost UK. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/the-story-of-shana-grice_uk_5cb0695fe4b0ffefe3aedb22BBC News. (2017, March 8). Shana Grice murder: Throat cut “by obsessed ex.” https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-sussex-39206436BBC News. (2019a, August 8). Shana Grice: Sussex abuse victims “will not face fines.”https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-sussex-49283730BBC News. (2019b, August 9). Shana Grice murder: Michael Lane harassed 12 women before killing ex. https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-sussex-49297674BBC News. (2020, December 24). Shana Grice murder: Parents lose stalker High Court bid. https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-sussex-55438017Definition & FAQ | Stalking Awareness & Prevention | SPARC. (2023, April 28). Stalking Awareness. https://www.stalkingawareness.org/definition-faqs/#1537979698234-d60259f0-ea8eDuc, F. L. (2021, March 20). TV documentary shines a light on Shana Grice murder case. Brighton and Hove News. https://www.brightonandhovenews.org/2021/03/20/tv-documentary-shines-a-light-on-shana-grice-murder-case/James-Hanman, D. (2017). DOMESTIC HOMICIDE REVIEW. In Brighton & Hove Safe in the City Partnership[Report]. https://www.brighton-hove.gov.uk/sites/default/files/news/alina/BH%20DHR%20Alina%20(Adult%20H)%20OverviewReport%20-%20%20final%20version%20August%202018.pdfLampen, C. (2021, March 24). Shana Grice Reported Her Ex to Police 5 Times. Then He Murdered Her. The Cut. https://www.thecut.com/2021/03/shana-grice-ex-stalked-her-for-months-before-murder.htmlNightmares, T. C. (2025, April 7). Nowhere To Turn: The Stalking and Murder of Shana Grice. Medium. https://medium.com/@authorcindyparmiter/nowhere-to-turn-the-stalking-and-murder-of-shana-grice-3bae04b00434Reporter, G. S. (2017, March 20). Man accused of murder says he checked lottery after finding ex’s body. The Guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2017/mar/18/man-accused-of-says-he-checked-lottery-after-finding-ex-shana-grice-bodyRichardson, V. (n.d.). The murder of Shana Grice: why police attitudes must change. Hudgell Solicitors. https://www.hudgellsolicitors.co.uk/client-stories/the-murder-of-shana-grice-why-police-attitudes-must-changeRoberts, R. (2017, April 29). Ex-boyfriend who murdered Shana Grice “stalked 13 other young women and girls but police took no action” | The Independent. The Independent. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/shana-grice-murder-michael-lane-ex-boyfriend-stalking-other-women-sussex-police-ipcc-a7709636.htmlShana Grice: Footage of Michael Lane police interview released. (2017, March 23). [Video]. BBC News. https://www.bbc.com/news/av/uk-england-sussex-39364639Understanding stalking: recognizing signs and seeking support | Title IX Office | The George Washington University. (n.d.). Title IX Office. https://titleix.gwu.edu/understanding-stalking-recognizing-signs-and-seeking-support#:~:text=Signs%20of%20stalking%20may%20include%3A&text=Following%20or%20lying%20in%20wait,%2C%20relatives%2C%20friends%2C%20or%20petsYork, C. (2019, April 10). Police approach to stalkers slammed after death of 19-Year-Old Shana Grice. HuffPost UK. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/stalkers-police_uk_5cacbc0be4b02084ce908075?origin=related-recirc