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Ep 62- Stop Letting people bully you and Sex Infidelity

Hollywood starts the show out with a blistering tirade against the state of this country. When has it become okay for people to let themselves be pushed around? The country is not what America is all about. Political Correctness has destroyed this country. It has made people cower and give up their power to fight back against corruption

Later on in the show we will be talking about Sex Infidelity caused by a sexless marriage. China Doll also gets into rant action!!!

Buckle up for a wild ride! 

“Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” – Les Parrott

Showing gratitude to your spouse is an important daily practice; it’s essential to nurturing a healthy marriage. There are many ways to express your thanks to your husband or wife, so today, we’re sharing 10 ideas for showing him or her your appreciation.

1.  Say it out loud…and more often!

Intentionally saying thank you to your spouse more often is the simplest, most obvious way to show him or her your gratitude. It can be easy to neglect to thank your spouse for everyday tasks that may seem mundane. But you’ll find that your gratitude can transform your spouse’s view of these tasks, especially if he or she has been feeling bogged down. It doesn’t take much effort, but those two simple words go a long way.

2. Write a thoughtful card, note, or letter.

Write a sweet note of thanks to your spouse and hide it where they can easily find it: in their lunchbox, on the dashboard of their car, on the bathroom mirror, or someplace similar. It’s amazing how a little note like that can brighten someone’s day. Even scribbling a message onto a sticky note can make all their daily efforts feel more worthwhile.

3. Give your spouse a break.

A few hours of quiet time might very well be #1 on your spouse’s wish list, especially if he or she is overworked or caring for young children. Or they might just want a break from their regular tasks. Whatever the case, give him or her the opportunity to get that needed time, whether it means several hours to curl up with a book, or you taking over their chores for the day. (If you have children, take care of finding child care or keep the kids yourself.)

4. Cook a special dinner.

Does your spouse have a favorite meal they love, or a recipe they’ve been dying to try? You do whip up a dish every once in awhile that brings back happy memories for you both? Set aside a little time to prepare a home-cooked meal just for him or her. Light some candles, play some music, and dine-in together at home.

#LOYALORDEROFMOOSE #FREEMASONS #ELKS

Ep 60 The Decline of the American Fraternal Organizations

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The International Order of Loyal Raccoons was once an important part of everyday life for TV characters Ralph Kramden and Ed Norton of "The Honeymooners."

But like those characters from the 1950s television classic, fraternal organizations are in danger of becoming a grainy memory from years past.

As older members die off and younger generations find civic groups irrelevant, membership in centuries-old civic clubs like the Moose, the Elks, the Optimists and others is dwindling.

Organizations like the Odd Fellows, for instance, boasted about 1 million members in their 1940s heyday -- today, the Odd Fellows' ranks have thinned to half that number, according to a club spokesperson.

Is there a future for civic groups in America?

Ep. 59 - Dealing with your spouses ex who is a police officer

As the victim of a police officer, your situation is very different than that of other victims. If you have ever tried to get help you may have become discouraged because no one seemed to understand your plight. - Diane Wetendorf

 Domestic abuse is an unfortunate reality of life. The fact that it is sometimes committed by law enforcement professionals is a harsh reality that many of us don't like to acknowledge, much less deal with professionally. That it exists is not a comment about law enforcement in general. We are all human. No one is perfect. Law enforcement professionals are not exempt. In this article, our Police Life contributor, Michelle Perin, talks candidly about its impact in the law enforcement community, law enforcement families, and her own experience with it. This could not have been an easy article for her to write and we hope that readers approach it with an open heart and mind. This is not a "police-critical" article. Law enforcement as a whole is not being indicted here.  

Every year, community kitchens and shelters feed millions of Americans, many of them homeless, on Thanksgiving. This year, the need will be even greater, and it will stretch far beyond Thanksgiving. Feeding America says 1 in 6 people will experience food insecurity by the end of the year. Organizations in New York City are working to safely provide both food and comfort this holiday.

Ep 57 How do you know you found your Soul mate 

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. –Rainer Maria Rilke This beautiful quote creates a wonderful visual for what a healthy relationship requires. No matter how close two people are, they are still two separate entities with their own unique qualities. The space between you and another allows for each individual to maintain his/her own identity and integrity. Personal growth and growth alongside another occurs when we learn to live with and love another’s uniqueness as we would want for ourself. And that last sentence, “for each to see the other whole against the sky” means that a healthy relationship, the right partner, wants all of you, not just some pieces that they like, but everything about you. But before we get into the specifics of how you know you’re with the right one, it’s important to identify the essential qualities of a good relationship. Trust is an absolute. We learn trust from our past relationships. If we’re lucky, these have been largely positive and we feel safe with those we rely on. Trust implies reliability, stability, and consistency. Being trustworthy implies openness and a willingness to be forthcoming. Things are as they are and there is no hidden agenda or deception.

EP. 56 What to Do After a First Date If You Want a Second 

  Is there anything better than a great first date? Even if you came in  with the jitters, that can all be forgotten if you felt that certain,  special spark. After a great first date, there’s the excitement and  anticipation—that feeling that you could be at the beginning of  something great. But wait, before you get too excited, slow down for a  second. .

 You need to get to that second date first. To help you get there, here  are a few tactics that’ll let your date know you’re open for more. Step 1: Follow up. There are no rules about who calls who. If you’re a woman and feel like a  guy needs to call you first, just know that you’re following some  outdated dating standards. If you like someone, don’t waste your time  constantly checking your cell phone. Text them and let them know you’d  like to see them again.  Find out more

Ep. 55 Discrimination against Swingers Clubs

MARKHAM, Ill. — The mayor of Markham has been working to close some  of the south suburb’s seedier spots, including an adult swingers club  that has been around for more than three decades.

WGN Investigates previously reported how the mayor took the club, called Couples Choice, to court late last year and claimed it was operating as an illegal business.

Before the pandemic hit, the club may have closed but the parties didn’t stop.

And that’s causing more trouble in Markham.

“You know, there’s nothing wrong with what we do,” Couples Choice  owner Tim Geary said. “Everyone enjoys themselves here. I don’t know  what the problem Markham has with us.”

Geary said the club is now closed. His son, Cameron Geary, lives at the property, which has a dance floor and 18 bedrooms.

“I’m quitting social media,” you declare. Suddenly a feeling of freedom washes over you as you’re no longer concerned with likes, views and who’s doing what. You stop hunching over your phone and your posture straightens, elongating your spine and immediately you’re an inch taller than just before. You weightlessly drift away from the endless scroll to a trailhead in the mountains. Your free time is filled by strolling through meadows, journalism, meditation, long conversations and lots and lots of “being present.”

Or at least that’s what some of the “I quit social media and it changed my life” blog posts would have you believe. Unfortunately, dropping social media alone will not lead you to full self-actualization. But that doesn’t mean the idea is entirely without merit, either.

In improving your health and wellness, no one change is going to drastically alter your entire life (We know. We’re sorry. We were really hoping it would be green smoothies.). A series of small behavioral changes that lead to positive habits make a lasting impact. Can quitting social media be one of those changes? Absolutely. Some research suggests that social media is harming us in several ways. But that doesn’t mean it’s all bad and cutting it off entirely could have both positive and negative effects on your life.

We weigh the pros and cons.

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Ep 53   Covid19 worsens social isolation

For many older Americans, loneliness and isolation were already a problem. The covid-19 pandemic and its associated lock downs have often increased that sense of isolation, especially at holiday time when visits by family would be most welcome.

"We've all seen images of family members who were not able to visit their loved ones in assisted or skilled nursing facilities or the hospital during this time of physical distancing," said Brittney Schrick, assistant professor and extension family life specialist for the University of Arkansas System Agriculture Division.