When it comes to relationships - Whats the difference between settling and compromising? Have you compromised to be with your partner or did you settle because it could be worse? It could be said that how much a man or woman compromises depends on an individuals age and their stage in life. The older a man gets the less reason he has to compromise because he could always date younger ladies while having a successful career. The older a woman gets the more she is willing to compromise because she is on the clock. But are either of these true? we discuss in Episode 56.

So summer is finally here and the holiday season is upon us which inevitably means its the time for lads holidays. But it could be said by some of the female camp that lads holidays are bad news especially for their relationship but what is there to fear and is this perception of an all boys trip misplaced. What about an all girls trip - should it be just as concerning or is this a case of men are bad, women are good, men can't be trusted but women are trustworthy? We discuss in episode 55!

Society often depicts men as being consistently strong, reliable and devoid of emotion. One of the major downsides to this unhealthy level of expectations is mens in ability to communicate their emotions. It is a taboo for men to be seen to be crying by women especially by their partner. But what derives this stereotype and what if anything can be done to change it? Should men be able to cry and express their emotions as freely as women with out it being considered a sign of weakness or would such a change shatter the centuries old held belief of a mans worth in providing strength and security to his family. We discuss in episode 54.

Following the sudden death of social media self-help coach Kevin Samuels - the internet has been alive with chatter. To some (mainly men) he was a hero who spoke the truths to women that wouldn't otherwise be said and which they didn't want to her but to others (mainly women) he was a patronising, misogynistic bully. I am sure the truth is in the middle somewhere. Some have argued that he was a man for the people - his people who believed in building up the black family and empowering it to be great. Others would say he thrived on putting down black women publicly and making them feel lesser than their white counter parts. The controversial black coach has now passed and while some moan his death, others have shown jubilation - but what was his legacy and what of his message? If you looked yourself in the mirror - how do you rate yourself? 

Toby Obumseli a 27 year old black man from Texas was recently pronounced dead after being fatally stabbed by his girlfriend instagram influencer Courtney Taylor Clenney while at an apartment block in Miami. The death of Toby has shocked many women in the black community but it could be said for all the wrong reasons. See Courtney, who is a white woman, has not been charged with this murder and in fact was spotted out drinking at a bar a few days after the incident when most people would be in jail. But soon after this story came to light and the black community was starting to galvanise in order to seek justice for Toby, it was revealed via the exposure of previous social media posts and videos that he in fact had a distaste for black people...especially black women but was very complimentary of white women which he sought in the shape of Courtney Taylor. Interestingly his bother has since released a statement requesting assistance from the same black community for justice but with these tweets about his own black people making for some interesting reading to most, the movement has since tapped out and the black women have overwhelmingly indicated that this is not their fight and that he has in fact made his bed. But should an individuals self hate over shadow the need for a united front to seek justice especially when it comes to the death of someone from the black community? we discuss in Episode 51.

Who is SOJA you ask.... I've never heard of them either...that is until the all male white band with dreads from Arlington - Virginia won a grammy for best reggae album this year beating out the likes of Sean Paul and Spice in the category. Was this award deserved? Does it matter that they are not from the islands? Since the beauty of music is its ability to unify - should music awards also be colour blind? I don't have the answers but we discuss this and more in Episode 50. 

Topboy season 2 has just dropped on Netflix and as you would expect it has gotten a lot of attention and fanfare not least because it was being promoted by the likes of Drake and Lebron James but what of the content and story line? The black movie & tv industry in the US has matured in the years it has been active and has given us a variety of different classics from Friday to Love and Basketball. The UK scene on the other hand seems to be just getting started but with every other movie following the Gangs, Drugs and Violence formula - are the black directors and script writers in the UK scene simply choosing to refight the battles already fought by their US counter parts or are they producing such films because their investors want a return and this is a tried and tested formula? Given the cultural stereotypes that already exist in UK society what responsibilities if any do directors, script writes and all those behind the camera have to fix the image of black culture in the UK movie industry?