In this solo episode, I reflect on two recent conversations that have been quietly reshaping how I think about faith, love, and identity—my dialogue with theologian David Congdon on polyamorous Christianity, and my conversation with Rami Kaminski on otroversion and The Gift of Not Belonging.

On the surface, these episodes come from very different worlds. But as I sit with them, I begin to hear a shared invitation: to step out of inherited scripts, resist mono-normative ways of living, and take responsibility for crafting an ethical, relational, and spiritual life that is truly our own.

This episode explores the courage it takes to choose your own adventure—to discover your authentic voice, to seek deep connection without losing yourself to groupthink, and to live without the false safety of guarantees. Drawing from my work as a therapist and from the heart of Green Flags, I reflect on what it means to belong without disappearing, to love without rigid rules, and to build a life rooted in curiosity, integrity, and real intimacy.

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit the scripts you were handed—this one is for you.