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Have you ever felt forsaken or forgotten by God? What do you do when tragedy hits, and life changes forever?
In this episode, I am sharing the story of the day my life changed forever. Today marks 25 years since that tragedy, and even though I've previously shard the story on my blog, I wanted to share it with you here on the podcast.
While this is not a typical episode related to leadership as a Christian woman, my prayer is that it's an encouragement to you or someone you know.
If you wish to read this story rather than listen, you can do so here:
Life-Changing Part 1
Life-Changing Part 2
But if you listen to this episode, you'll hear an expanded version of the story, as well as some of my thoughts on dealing with the question of why.
Scriptures referenced:
John 9:1-3:
"As he went along, he saw a blind man from birth. His disciples asked him, 'Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?' 'Neither this man nor his parents sinned', said Jesus, 'but this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life.'"
Psalm 22:1-5
"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, from the words of my groaning? Yet you are holy, enthroned in the praises of Israel. In you our fathers trusted, they trusted, and you delivered them. To you they cried and were rescued, in you they trusted and were not put to shame."
Matthew 27:46
"And about the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, 'Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?' that is, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'"
Luke 23:46
"Jesus called out with a loud voice, 'Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.' When he had said this, he breathed his last."
If my story has impacted you in some way, and you know someone else who might need to hear it, I would love if you would share it with a friend. Just shoot them a text, an email, or a message and give them the link to this episode.
And if you yourself are going through a hard time, feel free to DM me on Instagram, post in our private Facebook Group, or send me an email [podcast @ estherlittlefield.com] and let me know how we can be praying for you.
Key Quotes from the episode:
"We all have a story to tell. We all experience tragedy, pain, and heartbreak in our lives."
"It's perfectly okay to ask God WHY in the face of tragedy."
"If we could get all the answers to our questions, we wouldn't need faith."
"Even when you feel forsaken, God has not forgotten you. And He is faithful."
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What role does creativity play in leadership? What should you do when you feel discouraged in your creative work? And can your business also be your ministry?
In this episode, I talk with Jenny Randle, wife, mom, business owner, entrepreneur, and author about how God created each of us to create, how to fight for our creative nature, and how she handles being multi-passionate. Whether or not you believe you're creative, this is an episode you will not want to miss.
Jenny's Leadership Journey:Jenny's first memory of leadership is when she ran for student council in the fourth grade, but didn't vote for herself. Her parents reminded her that she needed to believe in herself enough to vote for herself. They raised her as a leader and gave her "gold nuggets of wisdom" along the way.
In 10th grade, she went on a leadership weekend, which was the first time a teacher actively poured into her life. Her senior year, her field hockey coach wanted her to be the captain even though she was "terrible."
She held leadership positions in high school, ministry, and now she runs her own businesses. Currently, she's discipling her two children daily. She and her husband Matt run a digital marketing agency where she does the creative strategy and casts the vision while her husband handles the logistics. She runs a ministry called "Freedom Creatives."
Jenny's MentorsJenny has had several mentors through the years. Dr. Webster of Spirit and Word Ministry has been an encouragement to her as a leader in ministry. Her parents are mentors to her as well: her dad as an example and her mom as she lives out being a strong woman.
She also has a friend who consistently encourages her and tells her to stop over-analyzing. And she loves how her church in New York has created space for people to use their gifts.
How Jenny Embraced her Wiring as a Leader:On the DISC Profile, she's a DI. She also loves the Fivefold Ministry Survey and the Heights Spiritual Gifts Survey.
Her mentor, Dr. Webster walked her through how God wired her and it was life changing to hear that affirmation. She often felt like she was "too much" and should step back, but God designed her to do what she's doing.
How Faith has Impacted Jenny's LeadershipFaith is the lens through which Jenny views everything. She prays over projects. The Holy Spirit is actively moving and wants to be a part of the work.
Jenny's Advice for Younger Leaders:Titles don't define you. Be flexible in how God is moving. Our giftings build on each other.
Creativity + LeadershipIt's important to realize that we're all created to be creative. Two helpful questions to ask when you're struggling with creativity:
Doubt, perfectionism, a performance-mentality, and comparison can stifle our creativity. Jenny believes that as Christians, we are meant to be influencers and leaders.
Three Practical Steps to Fight for your Creativity:Creativity is how we influence the world. Jenny encourages us to go into the mainstream spaces, influence the people there, and glorify God with your work.
Jenny believes that our creative calling isn't always for what we're producing but who we're producing with and who we get to influence.
It's important to know how God wired you and lead people well so people can see God.
Vulnerability and Dealing with Criticism as a Creator:Creativity calls for vulnerability. We have the opportunity to create from pain AND from pain that we've processed through and seen God work through. Jenny recommends the second option, because we're in a healthier space to deal with criticism when it comes.
When you get negative reviews or feedback as a creator and you've processed through the pain, you're already secure in the outcome and you hold on to your identity. You don't let other people define you.
Practical Ways to Practice CreativityJenny has both a ministry, Freedom Creatives, and a business, her digital marketing company. She believes that being in the mainstream space is a ministry.
Our purpose is to glorify God so you're free to do that in lots of ways. Believers should hold leadership positions in all companies so our culture can change.
We cannot diminish our voice by doing doubting our value or saying something is just "your opinion." Place value in your God-given voice. There's a reason you are where you are.
We can change culture by stepping into the dark areas, by using our voice, and by walking confidently in the areas God is sending us.
Jenny's Real LifeJenny struggles with being multi-passionate because she loves to work so she must be intentional about "turning off." She has people who hold her accountable. She also knows where she is gifted and delegates tasks to others. She also has learned to set up boundaries. Jenny understands the rhythms of when she works best and being at peace with that.
Jenny recommends filling in the white space with Jesus and holding each day loosely by asking the Holy Spirit what He wants you to focus on. She recommends asking God what He wants you to do and where to spend your time. Find out where you excel and what times of day are best for you to get work done.
Jenny's book recommendation:Connect with Jenny:
Jenny is a faith-based speaker, creative entrepreneur, founder of Freedom Creatives and author of "Courageous Creative*". She has a deep passion to empower people and businesses to live with impact and loves a good freestyle rap battle with her husband and kids.
Go here for a free creativity assessment to determine what's killing your creativity.
Giveaway:Jenny is giving one listener a FREE copy of her book, Courageous Creative. To enter, follow me on Instagram, find the giveaway post and follow the instructions there! Giveaway ends Sunday, April 21st. Winner will be announced Monday, April 22nd.
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How can we lead most effectively in a ministry role? Why is it important to do what you love and embrace your gifting instead of trying to do it all? And how can developing a team help a ministry to grow and thrive?
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In this episode, I talk with Holly and our church's women's minister, Sandy Flewelling, about how to be an effective, God-centered leader, how to not do ministry on your own, and how we can serve the women in our church's women's ministry.
Sandy's Leadership Journey:Sandy says that she fell into leadership. As an introvert, she never intended to be a leader. When she moved back to Maine, she found herself increasingly getting involved in her church's women's ministry. She noticed that her heart came alive as she worked with and taught women.
After insisting that she wasn't a leader, she realized that she was rewriting then teaching her church's Bible studies. She felt the Holy Spirit pressing on her that she could write her own material. Sandy felt like leadership had to look a certain way and required certain skills. She realized that she was a leader when she understood that she didn't have to be everything.
Sandy's MentorsHer pastor's wife saw in and called out gifts that Sandy didn't see in herself. A women's ministry co-leader, Karen Reynolds, was supportive and reminded her that she didn't have to be or do everything on her own.
How Sandy Embraced her Wiring as a Leader:Sandy reminds us to not take at face value that you'll always be who you are right now.
Sandy's Advice for Younger Leaders:Focus on what you love. Work in places where you get life and energy. What if you have an idea that isn't in your skill set for your church? Trust that God will raise up the right person.
Building an Effective Women's Ministry TeamSandy's role at her church as women's minister is to teach and shepherd women. She does this through event planning, overseeing women's Bible studies, prayer groups, and small groups. She sets the vision for how women's ministry executes the mission of the church as well as representing women to the church leadership team.
How Holly and Sandy Worked TogetherHolly had been involved with other ministries at church, but knew they weren't her thing. She just wanted to be around Sandy, which works out well because they are a natural fit. After Sandy's fellow women's ministry leader stepped down, Sandy asked Holly to help her.
Sandy's gift is teaching and setting the vision + direction. Holly's gift is executing that vision and having a heart for the women in church.
When Holly came into leading the women's retreat, she felt overwhelmed to make it perfect. Then she realized her job was to mentor those who were supervising each area, i.e. food, registration, decoration. Her job was to set the tone for the retreat so in each meeting, she reviewed the mission and ensure that each woman on her team feel cared for and welcomed.
The importance of not doing women's ministry on your ownThe biggest advantage of not doing everything on your own is that you get to do what you love. What you love, you do well.
Three challenges of working with a team
Sandy believes that what everyone truly needs is time and opportunity to be intentionally face-to-face with God. But they may not realize what they need, so you need to provide this in ways that will allow it to happen.
Sandy and Holly both feel that what women need and want in churches are the following:
Ultimately, the goal of any women's ministry is to make a place for people to be who they are, to love what they love, and to come together in a place where they feel comfortable.
Key Quotes from this Episode:
Sandy Flewelling is wildly passionate about helping you find freedom through a relationship with Jesus Christ. Whether speaking before a crowd in a retreat setting or sharing a conversation with one in her cozy office, her desire is to be faithful and true to the God who loves us and changes us with that love.
She has been a graphic designer for 25 years and is the owner of TrueBlue Design. But smack dab in the middle of that career she decided she wanted another one, so Sandy attended The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology where she earned her Master's in Counseling.
In her spare time, Sandy is a Women's Minister at Church of the Open Door in Hampden, Maine as well as a self-proclaimed toilet paper ninja and unashamed lover of two long-haired felines, Buddy and Bear. Her home is in Maine, where the tender beauty of summer makes the long winters worth enduring.
Stay Connected:Subscribe on your favorite podcast app. Click here to find all the options where you can find the podcast.
Join our Purposeful Leadership Facebook group! In the Facebook group, we can chat about what you need as a leader, what your challenges are, as well as celebrate the wins. This is a great community to learn and grow together. We want to get to know YOU.
Other Podcast Episodes Mentioned:Today's show is brought to you by the Confident Leader Club. If you're a Christian woman leading in ministry or business, and you have a desire for deeper community with other leaders, accountability towards reaching your goals, access to ALL the downloads I've created, monthly bonus content including workshops and trainings on specific topics, and much more, I want to invite you to check it out. Visit confidentleaderclub.com to learn more.
This episode was first published on estherlittlefield.com/episode42.
How do you lead well from behind-the-scenes? Are there specific strategies that help you engage and care for your volunteers? And how can the collaboration of Christian women change the world?
In this episode, I talk with Christa Hutchins, wife, empty-nester, founder of Do A New Thing, and volunteer for Proverbs 31 Ministries as a coordinator for online Bible studies. Christa shares her leadership journey, which includes leading from behind-the-scenes, her best practices for working with volunteers, and the importance of women supporting each other.
Whether you lead a volunteer team or run your own business, there are multiple takeaways from this conversation.
Christa's Leadership Journey:Christa grew up as the classic "bossy older sister" and held leadership positions in high school. In college, the leader of her student ministry asked Christa to lead a mission trip to Chicago, which involved planning, training, and coordinating logistics. This was the first time someone had called out leadership qualities in her. However, because she was planning a wedding, Christa was unable to go.
In her career as a chemical engineer, Christa led large teams at work. To her, leadership meant authority, but when she volunteered at church, she began to see the cracks in that philosophy.
When she became an empty-nester, Christa asked God where He wanted her. He led her to volunteer at Proverbs 31 Ministries hosting an online Bible study. Volunteering there was a change of pace from her male-dominated work environment, and it made Christa nervous.
As she volunteered at Proverbs 31, she began to see a different type of leadership: servant leadership. She began to learn how to put people before projects, how to serve God by serving others, and how to still be herself.
With her business, Christa helps bloggers and creative women set up structures and processes to achieve their goals. Through Do A New Thing, she takes her project management skills and helps creative women with their big ideas.
There are all different types of leadership, and for Christa, the most foundational is self-leadership.
Christa's MentorsFrom Melissa Taylor, the director of online Bible studies at Proverbs 31 Ministries, Christa has learned to become a student of leadership. She's also learned how to give grace, to put people before projects, and not to give up when there's conflict.
How Christa Embraced her Wiring as a Leader:Christa never related to personality assessments like the Meyers-Briggs or DISC Profile because she never liked the person they described her to be. However, she loves the Strengths Finder system because she's learned the benefits of her strengths and feels more confident in them.
She does get frustrated when she knows that she needs to put people before project, but just can't do it. Her strength of responsibility doesn't mean that she's responsible for everything, that she can wait to be asked to help.
Christa has learned to embrace her wiring because she understand how her wiring fits with other people and how each person plays in a role to work together well. As she embraces all parts of her personality, she's learning how to embrace other people's personalities as well.
How Christa figured out her giftsOne of Christa's gifts is taking messy things and bringing structure to them. She figured out this was a gift when she saw the peace it brought to others. When she structured, planned, and organized for herself, she feels compulsive. When she uses this gift for others, it brings peace to her heart and to the lives of others.
Christa shares that it's hard to recognize our own gifts because they seem so normal to us. Not until you use your gift and see how God uses it to help others, do you understand your giftings.
Christa's Advice for Younger Leaders:Christa's Message to the World
Leadership can feel very lonely. Christa strives to come alongside people and help them connect. Leaders and creatives can hit an emotional or skills wall. Because you don't want people to think you're weak or incapable, you often don't connect with those who could help you.
Christa's Advice for Working with VolunteersChrista is both a volunteer and works with large volunteer teams. Here are her best practices in working with volunteers:
Christa's book recommendation:
In a team environment, a great idea is for each person to read a chapter and then give a 5-minute report back to the group.
Key quotes from the episode:
"God taught me early on that as the leader, I don't have to be the do-er."
"It all starts with self-leadership."
"God is raising up women to work together."
"You don't have to do this alone."
"Nobody expects you to be perfect and if they do, you're probably in the wrong place."
"Making mistakes means that you are growing."
"You have to study to be a leader."
"Women can bond together and be a formidable force for Him."
Connect with Christa HutchinsChrista is giving away a free month of accountability coaching PLUS two free printables, "Top 10 Productivity Tips for Go-Getter Jesus Girls" and "The First 10 Things Your New Volunteer Needs to Know." To enter to win the free coaching and to get the freebies, go here.
Christa Hutchins is a "doer-of-things" who provides ministry coaching and project management for speakers, writers and ministry leaders. Her writing provides practical insight into moving your God-sized dream from vision to action. Christa lives in South Louisiana with her husband in their delightfully empty nest, where you usually will find her with her nose stuck in a book or sipping on a triple tall, non-fat peppermint mocha.
Stay Connected:Subscribe on your favorite podcast app. Click here to find all the options where you can find the podcast.
Join our Purposeful Leadership Facebook group! In the Facebook group, we can chat about what you need as a leader, what your challenges are, as well as celebrate the wins. This is a great community to learn and grow together. We want to get to know YOU.
To join the Purposeful Leadership Facebook Group, go to estherlittlefield.com/group.
Other Ways to Connect with Esther & Holly and the Christian Woman Leadership Podcast:Today's show is brought to you by the Confident Leader Club. If you're a Christian woman leading in ministry or business, and you have a desire for deeper community with other leaders, accountability towards reaching your goals, access to ALL the downloads I've created, monthly bonus content including workshops and trainings on specific topics, and much more, I want to invite you to check it out. Visit confidentleaderclub.com to learn more.
This episode was originally published on estherlittlefield.com/episode41.
What sets Christian business owners apart from the rest? Should we follow the standard business advice out there, or should we be doing things differently?
In this conversation, Holly and I dive into the topic of business again. In episode 38, you heard Holly interview me as I shared about my business journey. But today, we are digging into some key principles that we believe set us apart as Christian women in business.
Whether you have a business of your own, work in a business environment, or have considered working from home or starting a business, this episode is sure to give you some points to consider!
And if you are someone who would like to earn some extra income from home, join me for my free workshop to help you understand your options. It's taking place April 9th, 2019 at 12:30pm Eastern.
Sign up here for the free workshop:5 Ways to Earn Income From Home.
Ministry or Business?Before we discuss the key principles, we want to tackle one question that we received in our private Facebook group: How do I know if I have a ministry or a business?
Holly and I each share our perspectives on this, and we note that we all have a ministry, regardless of what kind of work we do. We are all called to bring glory to God in whatever we do, and we're also called to make disciples.
However, if we are purely discussing ministry vs. business in an organizational sense, we identify a ministry as typically being a non-profit organization whereas a business would be for-profit.
In this conversation, we are primarily focusing on business in the traditional sense, where a product or service is being offered in exchange for money.
5 Key Business Principles as a Christian Business Owner: 1. Our focus is a Kingdom focus instead of an earthly one.Colossians 3:2 - "Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth."
Having a Kingdom focus will affect the way we view work itself, the way we view our money, and the way we treat others.
In episode 3, Abby Rike Rockenbaugh shared that in Christian leadership, we might do things differently than what the typical business advice might be.
2. We steward our money and recognize that it belongs to God.
When we view our business finances in this way it really gives us a good perspective on how we handle things. We are working in God's business and we are handling God's money so what we do with it matters.
Hebrews 13:5 "Keep your life free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, 'I will never leave you or forsake you.'"
The issue is not earning money but rather having a love of money. It comes down to trusting God to provide what you need.
At the same time, you need to be willing to work when necessary without being obsessed with money or wealth.
3. We treat our clients and customers as people made in God's image, not just as a means to an end.
We believe that if you are a Christian business owner, then every person you interact with should be treated with dignity and respect, because they are made in God's image.
This means that even if they hold different values than you do, or even if they are rude or unkind, we still have the choice to treat them with kindness.
Also means that we don't see our clients or customers just as dollar signs or stats on a page… but rather real people.
Honesty, respect, and integrity should mark us as Christian business owners.
It's also important to remember that we never really know what others are going through. We are able to meet people's needs and minister to them even in the business world by showing them love.
Your business does not have to be faith-based to be effective or to be a ministry.
4. With our marketing, we are strategic but not sleazy.
There's a lot of things you can do in marketing that are legal and even praised in the business world…. But they can sometimes become sleazy.
It's possible to promote a product or service without being dishonest.
It's also vital not to be desperate in our marketing attempts.
It's not wrong to sell or to use marketing tools in your efforts, and it's important to recognize that not everyone will love what you do or buy your product or service.
5. We operate out of our core values.
What are core values? They are how we make our decisions. We all have them, but we're not all intentional about identifying them.
Getting clear on your core values will help you make clear decisions. Our core values should be connected to our faith in some way.
When we follow other business mentors or leaders, we need to discern whether what they are teaching line up with our core values and/or line up with Biblical principles.
It's easy to get "FOMO" and feel worried about missing out on business or leads if you don't know what your core values are.
Other Episodes Mentioned:Episode 3: Surviving Loss & Embracing Leadership with Abby Rike Rockenbaugh
Episode 35: Healing from Ministry Hurts with Melissa Whaley
Episode 36: Ditching Balance for Surrender
Episode 38: From Social Worker to Business Owner
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Episode Sponsor: Confident Leader Club
Today's show is brought to you by the Confident Leader Club. If you're a Christian woman leading in ministry or business, and you have a desire for deeper community with other leaders, accountability towards reaching your goals, access to ALL the downloads I've created, monthly bonus content including workshops and trainings on specific topics, and much more, I want to invite you to check it out. Visit confidentleaderclub.com to learn more.
Key Quotes:
"The love of money can affect rich, middle class, and poor. When our obsession becomes money, that is when it's a wrong perspective and a wrong attitude."
"If I were to only serve Christian business owners, I'm actually losing an opportunity to minister to people who might not otherwise get to know God."
This episode was originally published on estherlittlefield.com/episode40.
How can we deal with unchecked sin in the church? And how do we ensure that we have safe people to confess to and receive accountability from? What happens when leaders do not create this structure in their lives?
In this episode, Holly and I talk with wife, mom, author, and Facebook ads consultant Beth Nyhart. Beth shares her story of pornography addiction and how this has been redeemed in her life and work.
She walks us through why it's important to be accountable to others in the context of the church and how the church can encourage and equip those struggling with chronic sin.
Beth's Leadership Journey:
Growing up in a Christian home, Beth was very engaged with her church and youth group. She had a reputation as one of the "good kids." As a student, she led the youth drama team, started the first live worship band, and was a student representative on the church board. Beth believes people felt that she was a leader because she was available and responsible.
Behind-the-scenes, though, Beth was struggling with a pornography addiction, something she'd been battling for years.
In college, she tried all different majors, but didn't find the right fit. Then she got married, had a baby, and "dropped off the map."
She didn't hold a leadership position for a while, which was hard for her extroverted, productive personality type. Recently, God has been slowly putting her back into leadership. She first found "her people" online when she started a mastermind, which encouraged her to write a book of her story.
Because of her consulting work and her mastermind group, she knows that being a leader has done a lot for her confidence. Through the book-writing process, Beth has wanted to share how she lives out what she preaches by posting on Facebook and her website.
Why We Need Accountability As LeadersThroughout her life, Beth has had many different mentors hold her accountable, and she's always seeking out who can disciple her. Currently, her mastermind group, accountability partner, and therapist mentor her.
Beth believes strongly that leaders need to have accountability in order to stay healthy and avoid falling into sin. As we have seen recently, more and more leaders' "secret lives" are being exposed, and it shows us the need for having a structure in place for this.
It's valuable to have several people holding you accountable so that you are not relying on just one person to keep you on track.
How Beth Embraced her Wiring as a Leader:
Beth hasn't found personality tests to be practical to her, but her mastermind group has taught her so much about herself. With a group that holds her accountable to change and is committed to communication, she knows they will call her out when necessary. Her mastermind makes space for her and she makes space for them.
Beth's Advice for Younger Leaders:
Beth's Struggle with Pornography Addiction:
Beth was introduced to pornography by age eight and this introduction became a full-blown addiction when her family got the internet at home. Because she was viewed so highly both those in her church youth group, she didn't feel like she could talk to anyone about her struggle because they had a different perception of her.
Her struggle went unchecked from ages eight to 18.
Beth attended a small discipleship school with the purpose of dealing with her pornography addiction. Her advisors there helped rebuild her understanding Christianity, who God was, who she was, and how she needed to interact with the truths of the Bible as well as the Holy Spirit's prompting. This process took another 10 years.
It took time for her to feel comfortable talking about her long struggle, but she felt God's prompting to write about it. This idea annoyed Beth, but God impressed on her that He'd redeem the worst of her story.
Beth explains that when we come into relationships with our strengths, we neglect what unites all of our: our sin nature.
Beth encourages us to get to a place where we can share our struggle so we can actively deal with our sin.
How the church can help those struggling with pornography
Beth's Everyday Life:
Beth works from home, has a four year-old, and is in the midst of launching a book so her life feels really full. Here are two habits that are helping her right now:
Beth's book recommendation:
Final Thoughts:
As leaders, I believe that we need to be willing to have tough conversations and deal with challenging topics. I want to thank Beth for being brave and sharing her story on the podcast. It's clear that none of us are immune from sin or addiction, and that we need to set up systems of accountability in our lives to help us guard against it.
If Beth's story impacted you, please reach out to her and let her know. If you know someone who could benefit from hearing this story, please share it with them.
Key Quotes from the Episode:
"As leaders, we need to be very intentional about saying, 'I need people to keep me in check.'"
"God will ask you to do uncomfortable things."
"We all need to be able to deal with our sin nature effectively so we can be in right relationship with God."
"Satan will make you feel like you're the only one struggling."
Connect with Beth Nyhart:
Beth is a wife, a mother, and a business owner, passionate about obeying God's leading in both the big things and the mundane. God is redeeming her story of pornography addiction as she uses it to teach churches about how to confront sin in their congregations, their families, and their own hearts.
Other Ways to Connect with Esther & Holly and the Christian Woman Leadership Podcast:
Today's show is brought to you by the Confident Leader Club. If you're a Christian woman leading in ministry or business, and you have a desire for deeper community with other leaders, accountability towards reaching your goals, access to ALL the downloads I've created, monthly bonus content including workshops and trainings on specific topics, and much more, I want to invite you to check it out. Visit confidentleaderclub.com to learn more.
This episode was originally published on estherlittlefield.com/episode39. To join the Purposeful Leadership Facebook Group, go to estherlittlefield.com/group.
How does a social worker with no formal business training end up owning and running a business that supports her family? And what are some of the challenges and the benefits along this journey?
You've heard from other business owners and women in leadership, but today, Holly interviews me about my own business journey. We're kicking off a few episodes focused on leadership in business, so we thought it would be fun for you to hear a bit of my backstory, how I ended up where I am today, and the lessons I've learned along the way.
Direct Sales:
My first business was with a direct sales company shortly after graduating college and beginning my social work career. I was invited to a scrapbooking party and ended up becoming a consultant. I continued this business for about 3 years.
After this, I joined a different company which focused on wellness, and quickly found that it had a more profitable business model. I was able to work with that company for over 9 years and earned consistent income.
That business allowed me to go from working full-time as a social worker to eventually being at home full-time.
My Passion:One of my passions has always been writing. I started my blog in 2006 and continued it, though sporadically, over the next 9 years. However, at the end of 2015, I started to feel burnt out from direct sales, and the desire to write and reach women became stronger. I felt that God was putting it on my heart to pursue the writing again.
So I stepped back from my business at the time and began focusing on my blog. I learned everything I could about online business, growing an email list, gaining traffic to my blog, and creating income from a blog. I became a podcast listener and took in as much as I could to help me with my blog. I also took courses to grow my understanding and skills as well.
Over the next year, I implemented a lot of what I was learning and began seeing results. I loved writing and connecting with the women I was reaching. Most of all, I loved helping others.
Starting My Own Business:
As much as I loved working on my blog and connecting with the women there, we got to a point where I was going to either have to go get a job, resume my direct sales business, or start something new.
It was then that I realized that I had a lot of skills and natural strengths that I had used and/or learned by working on my own blog. Not only that, but other people would actually pay me to do a lot of those things for them as a virtual assistant.
So in January 2017, I officially began my business Morningstar Media Services as a virtual assistant. Soon I transitioned into being on online business manager, as I was offering support in a variety of ways as well as strategic input into my clients' businesses. Later, I niched down to focusing on working with business owners who have (or want to have) a podcast to help grow their business.
Business Lessons Learned:I could not have gotten to where I am today without the impact of mentors. I learned a lot from various mentors during my business journey, and I share about 3 of them: Sheila, Kindel, and Julie.
Business Challenges:Leaders Are Learners:
I share my favorite resources for learning and growing a business, most of which are podcasts.
We hope this conversation has been helpful for you to hear the background of my business journey. Thanks to Holly for interviewing me! We would love to continue this conversation in our Facebook Group so that you can share your business tips or questions.
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Key Quotes from this episode:
"There's nothing that has been more powerful in my business than the relationships I've developed." - Esther Littlefield
"The end result has been wanting to help people; it's just been a different vehicle that I've used to achieve that goal." - Esther Littlefield
Other Episodes Mentioned:Episode 23: Using Your Voice & Telling Your Story as a Leader with Abbey Jo Bailey
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Have you ever wondered how to remain grateful even when experiencing unexpected losses or hardships in your life? Would you like to learn how to lead more effectively, including how to grow and manage a large team?
In this episode, I talk with Simple Pin Media Owner and Founder Kate Ahl, who shares the importance of allowing your team to make mistakes, how to stop being in control, and how she avoids the comparison trap.
Kate also shares some of the incredible challenges she and her family have faced over the years, including her husband's 3 job losses, her daughter's health crisis, and their experience as a foster family. Kate gives us tips on how she has navigated this journey with gratefulness, and how she manages her roles as wife, mom, business owner, and ministry leader.
Kate's Leadership Journey:Kate started her leadership journey while in high school when an adult in her life called out the leadership potential in her. Through work and various roles throughout her life, she has learned that leadership is not the same as administration.
In addition to her business leadership role, she also co-leads the women's ministry at her church and leads and thrives in her role as a mother.
How Kate defines leadership:
To Kate, leadership is all about equipping and empowering people to use their gifts. She enjoys using her leadership gift to help others find where they fit.
Kate's MentorsKate has had many mentors in her life including her two business coaches and mastermind leader. She also values time learning from a woman at church who champions her business and reminds her to practice gratitude and choose joy.
Her goal is to remain teachable throughout her life because there is always more to know and learn.
Leading a Large Team: How Kate grew her teamWhen her business was eight months old, Kate's daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. She realized quickly that she needed someone to do her work while she was away. She didn't want her personal life to overtake her business life and vice versa.
A week after her daughter's diagnosis, Kate was training a friend to help her to do the work. As she built clients and added a team, she hired a coach to help her through the formal hiring process. She learned that she is good at steering the ship while others shine in their giftings, areas where Kate wasn't as strong. Over time, she addressed the naturally-occurring needs of a team experiencing growing pains by building in layers of leadership.
On her team, Kate likes to say that, "We fail forward."
How to handle mistakesAt one time, Kate thought that leadership was about more control. Now she has found that leadership is very different.
She recommends that we ask ourselves, "What's the worst that can happen?" Most cases are fixable if both sides are rational.
Kate reminds us that everyone wants to feel successful, and when we have all the control, we're the only ones who feel successful and have the freedom to be creative. It's important to also ask yourself what goal you're trying to accomplish when you hire a new person.
The Impact of Faith & Giving Thanks Amidst PainHer husband's first job after they got married was to serve as a youth pastor. A couple years into this job, he experienced a nervous breakdown. They went through the painful process of letting go of their church and support system.
Yet they both knew that God was calling them back to ministry even though it was hard to go to church. During this time, God was teaching them about reconciliation and restoration. Kate now is the women's ministry leader at that same church, and her husband is an elder.
Over the next several years, Kate and her family experienced several losses, including her husband losing 3 jobs, her daughter's diagnosis of Type 1 Diabetes, and a foster child leaving their family.
She asked God to bless her work so her husband could do what he wanted. Through this process, she learned what it meant to steward a business well while also holding it loosely. God also taught Kate how to give thanks even in pain through the support of her church family, practicing gratitude, and returning to joy.
How Kate Embraced her Wiring as a Leader:Kate says that the Kolbe A Index has completely transformed her work because she understands how both she and her team are wired. Each person falls under one of four categories:
She also recommends the book Traction.
Kate's Everyday Life:Kate shares thoughts on how she lives out her leadership in her everyday life.
How Kate Manages her RolesKate offers several best practices and strategies that work for her as she manages her roles as wife, mom, and business owner.
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We hear so much about achieving balance in our life as women and leaders yet is this what we should really be after? What would it look like if we could ditch balance and pursue surrender instead? Is it possible that surrender might replace our overwhelm with peace?
In Episode 34, we discussed the question of whether balance is even possible. In this conversation, Holly and I discuss how to ditch balance for surrender. We provide some practical strategies for doing so, along with a free resource to help you take action.
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What does it look like when we are not surrendered to God's will, or when we are striving for balance, or when we are not spending our time on the things that matter most?
3 Ways to Reduce Overwhelm as a Leader
Set up your life:Remember the goal of life is not to be viewed by the world as perfect or having it all together but to have an audience of one.
To walk in surrender to God means you will not be focused on what everyone else thinks or trying to achieve a perfect balance in your life.
Your worth is not dependent on what you do or how well you do it. God has assigned your worth already. He has taken care of 100% of your salvation and nothing you do can add to that to make you more loved.
Conversely, not having it all or even not handling life well does not make you less worthy or loved by God. We love God and therefore we want to please him as an act of worship and to bring him glory. Taking care of the things, responsibilities, and people he has entrusted us with is our act of worship in response to his beautiful gift and his unfathomable love for us.
Key Quotes from Episode:"This is not about your feelings. This is about what God is calling you and surrendering to whatever that is."
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Have you ever been hurt through your time in ministry? Do you wonder how to weave faith into the day-to-day operations of your business? What role does obedience play when you're processing hard times while growing your business?
In this episode, I talk with virtual tax advisor Melissa Whaley about what leadership looks like when you're processing ministry hurts plus how our faith grows as we lead our businesses.
Simple ways to weave your faith into your business:Anyone who has gone through a church split or left a church knows that it's emotionally difficult to process. After going through a split at her church, Melissa shared these lessons:
Key Quotes from episode:
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