Clear the Clutter

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On today's episode, I give my perspective on how I'm dealing with the covid-19 virus.  But as always I am going deeper than just what we are all dealing with now.

Regardless of when you are listening to this episode. It can be now, live, during the covid-19 pandemic.  Or it can be during an extremely stressful time in your life.  The circumstances doesn't matter.  What matters is that I go over some timeless principles that you can use to get grounded and centered.

What am I trying to get you grounded and centered?  Well, when you are well-rested and not full of stress hormones, you have the brain juice to make the tough decisions with grace.

Which means a lot when you have extra stress on your plate. These are the exact methods that I have used when my husband and I both faced extreme health crisis during our marriage.  It's also the tools that I have used to deal with death in the family and unrealistic stress and anxiety from our old IT corporate jobs.

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Have you ever had a few weeks or even a month when everything is going AMAZING? Your job is on point, your bills are right where you expect them to be. You have more than enough time for friends and family. Most of all you have enough time for yourself too.

You're on top of the world and then you start thinking that this is not possible to maintain. That life can't always be this good. There always has to be friction and stress and frustration in your life.

Well outside of a crazy family emergency, your daily life is your choice. What most people don't understand is that they have just created some bad habits. They don't know or even expect to maintain their current levels of success.

In reality, it's 100% possible to maintain new levels of success and freedom. As long as you do two things. Identify what's working and make an action plan to fix what's not. It really can be that simple.

In this episode I uncover:

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I’m here you giving you permission to stop doing unnecessary tasks that take up your valuable time. It’s ok to stop rewriting that same follow-up email that you send out a million times a month, from scratch.

I’m here to tell you to put down the grocery list that you make from scratch each week only to write down the same things over and over again.

There is this big reward for always being busy. But I am always willing to argue that people that don’t simplify their tasks are just afraid of not being busy. Because if they weren’t busy then they would have to level up.

Not everyone is ready to level up. But if you’ve made it this far in listening to me that you are the one that’s raised your hand and said yes.

Leveling up means that things have to change. We must shed our old task, objections, and beliefs to make way for new ones that serve us and move us forward. To do that calmly means that we have to create space in our life for the things we want. It’s hard to do things well when you’re constantly overwhelmed.

One of the ways that I am always making more space in my life is by taking tasks that I call the minutiae of my life and “automating” them.

Now that doesn’t mean that I have a made or VA doing these tasks for me. When I talk about automating them, I’m talking about making my process so simple and easy that anyone other than me can do them just as well.

Why? Well, I believe that I can never have enough time to spend with my furbabies, husband, and reading. So why not make life a bit simpler and calmer so that I can give my energy to the people and things I love.

In this episode I go deep in  how to identify tasks to simplify. How to have your friends and family use your tools. What it looks like to share your tools with other.

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Do you ever wonder how some people just don’t seem to have a ton of stuff on their plate? Wouldn’t it be nice to stop filling our brains and schedules that we have to pay for over and over again?

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Archiving Love Course

Its been a while since I recorded this podcast. You might have been wondering what happened to me? Did I fall off the face of the earth? Did I get overwhelmed? Did I get eaten by a 10000 mosquito?  While the mosquito one is mostly true. They are crazy and fierce during this time in Florida, there is a deeper story.

Part of it was that I just wasn't ready.

I wasn't ready to deal with the grief I had gone through. But also it felt dishonest to not record an episode about this. There were so many times that I wanted to just "skip" this episode and not admit what had happened. But that would have been hiding and I don't hide.

Instead, I said the prayer over and over to everyone above that my grief could be helpful to someone else. That my pain was not pointless. For that to have happened, I gifted myself two things. Time and Honesty.

In this episode I go deep into my personal life about:

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I was chatting with one of my girlfriends a few weeks ago. But all I could do was complain that I never seemed to get anything off my plate.  I was so frustrated, because even though I am a smart accomplished woman. I was treading water with about 10 tasks that were literally taking months too long to get done.

So I started asking myself a different question.  It's one that is the undercurrent in the whole podcast.  It also was my game changer to go from a person treading water to someone that actually gets shit done.

In this episode I dive into how to turn your to-do list into projects closed list. Why this will make you more money at work. Plus, how this build an important muscle for your future self.

Hopefully, you listened to this podcast and do the journal prompts at the same time.  This podcast episode is designed to move you forward in life.  Its also going to give you more time back.  And who doesn't want more time to do things they love?

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Sure self-care is hot right now. But self-care and loving yourself are not the same thing.  As frustrating as it is to see another 50 ideas of self-care.  There is some truth to it.

Most women are not taking care of themselves. Let along putting themselves as a priority.  Which gets me slightly crazy, because what we mimic and show to the world is what we value.  Its also just really bad habits that we are showing our kids.   Why would we want them to mimic us in our constantly frazzled state?

In this episode I dive deep into the difference between loving your self and self-care. I help you identifying gaps in both worlds, along with healthy boundaries.

This episode has crazy amounts of examples can help you understand the difference.  I also want to encourage you to start having this conversation with your girlfriends and family.

Don't let this stop with you. Teach your sons, daughters, and spouses that we ALL should be prioritizing ourselves.  That when we are recharged on a consistent basis that we are able to tap into our superpower way more often.  Instead of existing between burnouts.

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Have you ever been asked what your non-negotiables were? I have. The worst part was that I couldn't give you any really good ones. What was even worse than not having an answer was that I kept confusing my boundaries with my non-negotiables.

They were the same thing. Right? Instead of taking the time to sit down and discover my non-negotiables, which were different from my boundaries. I kept flailing around, wasting time and energy on defending my wishy-washy beliefs. Then getting mad when they were not honored by others. Regardless that I couldn't honor them myself.

In this episode I go over the difference between a boundary and a non-negotiable. I know that giving 2 different sets of examples for both home and work will help shift you in the right direction.

When you are going over and writing out the journal prompts, don't forget to focus on what's going to move you forward in life. Your future self will thank you.

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I use to check my phone every five minutes. I couldn't go anywhere without it.  Being online when from a way I created a community to an obsession. I believe that we are all addicted to technology right now,  but no one is talking about it.

Instead of joining another social media platform.   Why don't we question the real reason to be on it in the first place.  Instead of running out to get the latest phone, for upgrade sakes.  Why don't we prioritize the things that are important to us and base our purchases from that.

In this episode I go over how to set your own healthy boundaries around tech. Why having boundaries is important for our health. Plus, key questions to ask yourself to see what you can get rid of and what needs to stay.

It might sound like I'm anti-tech.  That's the furthest thing from the truth.  But what I am trying to champion is that we have a healthy relationship with our electronic devices. Instead of living on them 24/7.

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We are not trained to ask for what we want.  Most western cultures have this crazy double standard for achievement.  If you are wanting what is socially normal or acceptable, then cool.  Ask away.

But asking for that raise or a better home for your family, that breaks social norms.  Then you're getting "to big for your britches".   Its this crazy double standard that we don't have to opt into anymore.

In this episode I go over how to identify what you want. I also go through the scenarios of building up to the ask. And, why having confidence thats facts based and sold is important.

Asking for what  you want is not selfish or greedy.  Instead its a way to make sure that you and your family are provided for.  While also giving you the resources to provide for others too.