Co-creating Peace

Learn more about the power of dialogue in “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 2 – Discovering Deeper Connections With Dialogue”.

Recently, I was interviewed by Duncan for The Omni-Win Project podcast. We discussed topics related to with dialogue & exploring ways that we can see past our differences – in fact, embrace them – to nurture democracy, co-create peace & co-create a world where different ways of being & different perspectives are embraced, celebrated, and utilized to co-create better tomorrows than our yesterdays have been.

The Omni-Win Project podcast is 1 hour long, so I am airing this conversation in 2 parts over two podcast episodes. Last week, in Part 1, Duncan & I discussed facilitated dialogues between law enforcement & various community members, including activists. Today, in Part 2, we discuss other, more informal types of dialogue & the importance of learning another person’s truths, and the wisdom, insights & shared humanity that often can only be discovered when we look beneath the surface.

Positive paradigm shifts happen when we expand our awareness, explore new understandings & embrace the glorious diversity of humanity. All this can happen through dialogue. This, my friends, is your invitation to join in the conversation.

If you’d like to learn more about dialogue, participate in dialogue events, or host a dialogue in your home, here are a few great resources for that:

• The National Coalition for Dialogue & Deliberation (NCDD) is a network of innovators who bring people together across divides to discuss, decide & take action together on today’s toughest issues.  For more information, go to www.NCDD.org. & listen to Episode #66 of this podcast where I interview Courtney Breese, Executive Director of the National Coalition for Dialogue and Deliberation.
• Living Room Conversations. Living Room Conversations works to heal society by connecting people across divides - politics, age, gender, race, nationality, and more – through guided conversations proven to build understanding and transform communities.  You can utilize the many structured topic guides, or create your own. 
• Make America Dinner Again  wants to bring the country back together, 1 dinner at a time. They provide a step-by-step guide to make hosting your own dialogue dinner easy as pie. View the guide here.   Download host kit here. To host an online event, go to their Online Events page.

You can also view the full 1-hour interview on YouTube.

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Welcome to “Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 1 – Bringing Police and Activists Together Through Dialogue” – Episode 93 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. 

Recently, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Duncan Autrey of The Omni-Win Project for The Omni-Win Project podcast. I want to share that interview with you in this podcast. The Omni-Win Project is a multimedia effort to raise awareness of the myriad existing and emergent opportunities we have to improve our democracy and heal our political culture.

We discussed a wide range of related topics having to do with dialogue, and exploring ways that we can see past our differences – in fact, embrace them – to nurture democracy, co-create peace, and co-create a world where different ways of being and different perspectives are embraced, celebrated, and utilized to co-create better tomorrows than our yesterdays have been.

• Duncan  & I discuss how dialogue is severely underused when it could solve many problems.
• I shared stories about two dialogue series involving law enforcement officers that I collaborated on and co-facilitated.
• We discuss the potential dialogue has to bridge divides, and the different forms dialogue process can take, from those that are professionally facilitated to those that people host in their home or community center.
• I provided several resources for learning more about how to bring dialogue into your world.

The Omni-Win Project podcast is one hour long, so I will be airing this conversation in two parts over two podcast episodes. 

This week, in Part 1, Duncan and I discuss facilitated dialogues between law enforcement and various community members, including activists. Next week, in Part 2, we discuss other, more informal types of dialogue and the importance of learning another person’s deeper truths, exploring what’s inside them, and the wisdom, insights and shared humanity that often can only be discovered when we look beneath the surface.

You can also view the full 1-hour interview on YouTube.

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Welcome to “Say It Now” – Episode #92 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. 

We’ve all heard the saying, “Timing and delivery are everything!”, and that is especially true when it comes to communication. It is so important to be mindful of not only what we want to say, but when and how. There are some messages that should be shared sooner, rather than later. Joining me today to talk about the importance of saying certain things without putting them off is Sherry Richert Belul, author of “Say It Now”.

Sherry Richert Belul, founder of Simply Celebrate, helps people find creative, intentional and impactful ways to celebrate life and to express love for family and friends. As a certified high-performance coach, Sherry supports people in living their best lives, full of joy, success, engagement, and meaningful relationships. She is the author of "Say it Now: 33 Creative Ways to Say I Love You to the Most Important People in Your Life". Her work has been featured in the New York Times, Town + Country, and The Wall Street Journal.

You can find Sherry at simplycelebrate.net or on social media as @simplycelebrate. Buy "Say It Now" today on Amazon.

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When we marry, we enter into a wide variety of new relationships. We’re usually marrying into our spouse’s family with all of their personalities, idiosyncrasies, and interpersonal dynamics. Families often have their own unique culture with all the expectations and biases that can come with that.

Welcome to “Finding My Place & My Harmony Within the Group” – Episode #91 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. 

In this episode, I share a letter from a listener in France, seeking my advice about boundaries and communication with the very large family she married into. 

Francesca’s challenges in finding a peaceful rhythm with the family she married into aren’t unique, although there are often increased complexities with a family that large.

The concepts and tools I shared with Francesca can be applied in any group dynamic, not just in family dynamics. The longer a group is together, the more likely they are to develop their own unique culture. Mindfulness, thoughtfulness, clear communication, well-clarified, well-maintained boundaries, and the willingness to adapt – at least to some degree – are the best tools one can use to find their place and their harmony within the group.

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Welcome to “How to Communicate with Your Partner in Difficult Times”, Episode #90 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.  

A strong lifelong partnership with someone special is something that is important to many of us. As wonderful as it is to find that special someone, that doesn’t always guarantee that the relationship will always be smooth and easy. Difficult times can arise in any relationship. What’s important is how we navigate those difficult times. Joining us today to share some insights into that is relationship expert Laura Doyle.

New York Times Bestselling Author Laura Doyle was the perfect wife...until she actually got married. When she told her husband how to be tidier, more romantic, and more ambitious, he avoided her. So she dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him.

In desperation, she asked happily married women for their secrets, and that's when she got her miracle: the man who had wooed her returned.

Laura's books have been translated into 19 languages in 30 countries and accidentally started a worldwide movement. Laura's mission is to end world divorce. She is the founder of the international relationship coach training school Laura Doyle Connect, the star of Empowered Wives on Amazon Prime, the Creator of The Ridiculously Empowered, Happy Wife program, the host of The Empowered Wife Podcast and she has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America and The View. She has helped over 15,000 women fix their relationships--even the hopeless ones without their husband's effort.

But the thing that Laura is most proud of is her gratifying 31-year marriage with her hilarious husband John, who has been dressing himself since before she was born.

To learn more about Laura and her work, visit LauraDoyle.org

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Welcome to “Living Room Conversations: Connecting Across Divides”, Episode #89 of Co-creating Peace.

There is an unmet need that many of us experience. You’ve heard me speak about it before. It is the need to feel heard, to be acknowledged for who we are and how we perceive the world. Sadly, sometimes we have great difficulty in getting that need met. That’s where Living Room Conversations comes in. Living Room Conversations is an organization that helps people to have safe, peaceful, comfortable conversations about the kinds of issues that we find disagreement about, that we feel a great deal of passion about.

Joining me today is Annie Caplan to tell us about  Living Room Conversations, the resources they have to share, and how each and every one of us can have these conversations ourselves.       

Annie Caplan is an educator, community organizer, and Community Engagement Partner for Living Room Conversations. She loves connecting people and witnessing what can unfold when people come together and share their stories and experiences. Annie aims to foster inclusive and accessible environments where folks feel comfortable showing up as their most authentic selves.

To learn more about Living Room Conversations and access their vast array of dialogue resources, visit livingroomconversations.org. You can find their Conversation Agreements at: livingroomconversations.org/conversation_agreements

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Welcome to “What’s Your Story?”, Episode #88 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.  

Each of us has a story to tell. Many of us keep our story locked inside of us, examining only some parts of it, perhaps suppressing others. Some parts of our story bring joy with their memory; other may bring sadness, even pain. Yet, every part of our story is significant and has much to teach us, and – perhaps – to teach others. The wisdom and the empowerment that reside in our story are most easily seen when we write our story down. However, that can feel daunting. We may question what value there will be in writing it down. We don’t know where to start. We’re afraid of what our story might reveal to us or to others. It can feel like just too big of a proposition to take on.

Fortunately, there are people out there who can help is write our story through a process called Guided Autobiography. I met such a person during an online dialogue recently, and when she told me what she did, and how writing our story can be very useful in conscious communication and conflict transformation, I knew I had to invite her as a guest to share guided autobiography with you. Joining us today is Lisa Culhane, a life coach, writer and guided autobiography instructor. Lisa will tell us all about guided autobiography and share some ways you can start implementing aspects of this process into your life starting today to help strengthen your communication with others and with yourself. 

Lisa Culhane is a published author and contributor to several anthologies and blogs. Lisa’s current work is about helping others write their stories. This work is based on the premise that the stories we tell are prophetic and thus, taking the time to think about, write and share our stories - to see ourselves as storytellers and to view our lives through the lens of story - allows us to use our stories to heal, to become whole and to experience profound connection with others. In other words, writing and sharing our stories, is a way to build conscious communication with ourselves and others while resolving conflicts that run through our story line.

Lisa combines her expertise as a certified Guided Autobiography Instructor (GAB), a certified Martha Beck Life Coach and a writer to help people step back, reflect and write their stories, 2 pages at a time, using a research-based group writing process that is both profound and enjoyable. 

You can learn more about Lisa Culhane and her classes at lisaculhane.com. 

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In last weekend's episode of "Co-creating Peace", I had a wonderful conversation with Rabbi David H. Green, who shared some great insights into our soul's journey and how conflict can be an opportunity for soul growth. 

I hope you will enjoy “Conflict and Your Soul’s Journey”, Episode #87 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. 

Conflict plays out in our lives in many ways, and it can serve many purposes. I often speak about conflict being an opportunity for several positive things, including growth at various levels. Rabbi David Green joins me from Jerusalem to talk about the relationship between conflict and the soul's journey.

For over 30 years David Green has been teaching topics such as individuality and soul awareness. Originally from Toronto, Canada, David spent time in the Hollywood music business as a songwriter at the young age of 16. He then studied music composition and Indiana U in Bloomington. After a lot of questioning, he went to Israel to find himself and a more soulful expression of his music. He found both by learning an array of topics about spiritual growth. Years later he attended Yeshiva, a study program for Jewish philosophy and became a rabbi. He has recorded two albums and authored 2 books, titled “A Book About You” and “Pictures of Your Soul”.

Visit www.realyouproject.com to find David’s books and learn more about his work. His music can be found on your favorite streaming service.

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I hope you will enjoy “Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious”, Episode #86 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.  

Joining me is Duncan Autry, creator of The Omni-Win Project, where his goal is to facilitate the healing and evolution of our democratic systems and political culture, so that we can co-create a future that works for everyone. 

Duncan has some great insights and ideas to share with us, along with a model for approaching difficult conversations and conflict called ARC - Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious.

Duncan is a conflict transformation facilitator and educator with nearly twenty years of experience working on conflicts of all sizes throughout the U.S. and Latin America. His life work is exploring the fractal nature of conflict, which arises from the infinite and ongoing dance between self and other. 

Learn more about Duncan Autrey and the Omni-Win Project at omniwinproject.com. You can find his online newsletter at omniwin.substack.com 

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Welcome to “Clean Inquiry: simple questions for conversations when emotions and stakes are high”, Episode #85 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.  

When we are experiencing high emotion, and the outcome of the situation we’re in will have a strong and lasting impact on our life – positive or negative – is when we often have the most difficulty communicating consciously and in ways that help others feel safe and empowered to collaborate with us. Yet, that very communication could well affect the outcome. How do we approach conversation in such a tenuous situation? Joining me today to talk about that is Sharon Small, international authority on the use of clean language, and founder of the Clean Language Institute.

Sharon Small studies how we transform things from how they are too how we want them to be. Her work with Clean Language applies when problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal development, or finance. Founder of the Clean Language Institute and internationally recognized trainer who inspires, Sharon has taught hundreds of professionals clean language methodologies, including Symbolic Modeling, Clean Space, Emergent Knowledge, Clean Inquiry, and Clean Language Interviewing.

For more information on Clean Language and Sharon’s work, go to: cleanlanguagetraining.com.
 
Here are some additional Clean Language resources Sharon would like to share with you: 

• Metaphorum 2022: [Ticket Tailor - Log in](https://app.tickettailor.com/event/1137736) Metaphorum is an annual one-day online un-conference. It features both new and experienced clean language enthusiasts sharing their models and experiences with Clean Language - a great way to meet people in the Global Clean Community. 
• Podcast: Ready to Come Clean with Sharon Small
  Linked on Resource Page: https://cleanlanguagetraining.com/resources/
  [Stream Ready To Come Clean? music | Listen to songs, albums, playlists for free on SoundCloud](https://soundcloud.com/user-798043847)
  [‎Ready To Come Clean with Sharon Small on Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ready-to-come-clean-with-sharon-small/id1439026699?mt=2)
  [Ready To Come Clean with Sharon Small on Stitcher](https://www.stitcher.com/show/ready-to-come-clean)
  [Ready To Come Clean with Sharon Small | Listen to Podcasts On Demand Free | TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Education-Podcasts/Ready-To-Get-Clean-with-Sharon-Small-p1162842/)
• CLI Start Here page:
   [Really…START HERE!! - Clean Language Institute](https://cleanlanguagetraining.com/start-2/)

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