Coaching, Cocktails, & Conversations

What a powerful episoode!  Dr. Khalek Kirkland, Principal of THE Boys Prep in the Bronx, NY, is ON FIRE, as he talks everything from the power of connection to several ways to tap into our Black and Brown boy scholars differently and intently within the educational arena. 

During conversations, we delve into how to humble thyself to live another day, respecting your mother, setting expectations and holding yourself accountable, with ownership and courage by your side.  He shares The SARAH Model of receiving constructive feedback and  I share 4 considerations of how to master your F.A.T.E.  You don't want to miss it!

The title of today's episode is a quote pulled from the poem, Invictus, by William Earnest Henley, written in 1875, where, after a leg amputation and many surgery interventions on the other, he wrote this powerful piece on navigating adversity and coming out on the other side, despite the darkness that you may or may not experience within your circumstance.

The Breakdown:

03:34 - An overview of our guest, Dr. Khalek Kirkland 

1:18 - Welcome to Coaching, Cocktails & Conversations

1:45 - Affirmation (https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop), however this week taken from "Invictus."  I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

2:30 - Podcast Lineup

3:11 - Coaching and Soul Work

9:38 - Cocktails to celebrate you

11:52 - Conversations with Dr. Kirkland

46:18 - Thank You

Enjoy

Other Links

Dr. Kirklands School - https://www.publicprep.org/our-schools/boysprep

Invictus Poem - https://www.publicprep.org/our-schools/boysprep

Lolita's TEDx Talk - https://bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

Coaching, Cocktails & Conversations Zoom Cast - RSVP at https://www.lolitawalker.com

Coaching, Cocktails & Conversations on Clubhouse App - search the title on the app - would love to have you

Coaching, Courses, Keynote Speaking - https://www.lolitawalker.com

Imagine being born to immigrants, being a 1st generation American, having a largely successful career, launching your own law practice and BOOM- Federal Prison!  On this episode, I've invited Rashmi Airan to share her story and to gift us with tangibles of how we can begin to turn our pain to purpose TODAY!  Who hasn't experienced pain?  Whether physical, emotional, mental and more, we each have a pain-story, even you.  

We talk takeaways from her experience, learnings from prison, lessons for and from children and so much more.  Grab your pen and pad because we are digging deep in this episode, Change Agents.

Here's what you can expect:

Minute 02:46 - Show Overview

Minute 1:28 - Affirmation from Walker & Walker Enterprises - "I am the passion that fuels my power that turns my pain into purpose."  (https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop)

Minute 3:28 - Invitation to partner with Walker & Walker Enterprises

Minute 4:29 - Coaching and Soul Work where I give an exercerise of Venn Diagram, alongside 4 considerations to begin to turn your pain into purpose.

Minute 13:55 - Conversations with Rashmi

Other useful links:

Rashmi's Website:  https://www.rashmiairan.com/ethics-speaker/

Rashmi's TEDx Talk:  https://tedxgreenville.com/portfolio/airan/ 

Goods for Inmate Children Non-Profit: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=569962777130725

Lolita's Website:  https://www.lolitawalker.com

Lolita's TEDx Talk:  https//bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

"Dear Meghan" is not only the title of my powerful poem that I share at minute 15.59, but it is also a celebration of one of the Power Women that I am calling out as a woman making history as we speak, specifically for walking into fear with courage by her side.  How often do we struggle to do that?

Lemmie ask you this. How often do you truly pause and "see" those around you for who they are and what they are bringing to the table? How often do you acknowledge the hurt that you and others may be holding on to? How often do we gift folks the flowers they deserve in this moment?

This episode is a celebration and thank you to the women everywhere who are making history and standing in all of their power. Listen in and grab a few things to shift differently.

In this episode,  you'll grab a bit of COACHING, where I gift you 5 considerations to climb out of the B.O.X.E.S. that we are oftentimes place ourselves within, particularly as women, either by choice or by societal norms of expectations that threaten to bound us to the complacency of moments past. 

Whether Power Women like Cori Bush, Gitanjili Rao, Stacy Abrams, Kamala Harris or YOUSELF, here is a reminder that you are greatness where you stand in this very moment. If you know a power woman to send this episode to for motivation, inspiration, affirmation and renewed action, please do not hesitate. 

You leave with the affirmation that you are making history today so make it count.

 

The Episode Rundown

Welcome (minute 0.14)

Affirmation from lolitawalker.com/shop (minute 0.42) is "I am the history that is currently being made."

Podcast Breakdown (minute 1.12)

COACHING (Minute 2.12)

Soul Work (minute 6.33), where I gift you 5 considerations

COCKTAILS (minute 10.49), with a special shout out to Guernsey, our newest location with listeners of the podcast and to Stacy Luckett, the latest 5-star reviewer of the podcast.  CHEERS!

CONVERSATIONS (minute 14:00), where I begin my original poem, titled, Dear Meghan, to express the emotions that I had during the Oprah Winfrey interview with Meghan Markle and Prince Harry.

I'd love to hear your thoughts

 

Helpful Links from the Episode

40-deck card of affirmations - https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop

People Magazine article celebrating women making history - https://people.com/human-interest/womens-history-month-women-making-history-2021/ 

My upcoming 2nd book -  wil soon be uploaded for pre-orders at https://www.lolitawalker.com 

The Intersection of You & Change, my first book - https://www.lolitawalker.com/the-book

What if....you were unconvenional and used it to power your dreams?  Imagine being an executive assistant for 10 years and building a six-figure business from your cubicle?  You heard me right!  What if ... a woman you knew felt her power and sat in her "Queendom" during this Women's History Month and dared to live as she colored outside of the lines?  Imagine that! 

In this episode, I am joined by Celebrity Ghost Writer and Power Communicator and Journalist, Pauleanna Reid and Phenomenal Poet, D'Naia Bryant.  Through their work and their words, we each leave empowered, with a few nuggets to leverage today and with a revised pep in our step.  Are you ready?  I'm #allin

Here's a breakdown of this power episode that is for each of you to listen time and time again and to share with others who will find the value in the amazing soul work that is within these 37 minutes.

**Don't forget to leave your 5-star review IF and when you found any value in this amazing episode**  Thanking you in advance!

Minute 0:00 - Episode Overview

Minute 0:52 - Welcome

Minute 1:20 - Powerful Affirmation from www.lolitawalker.com/shop - I am beyond the greatness that others have yet to see! #believeit

Minute 2:01 - Show Expectations

Minute 2:33 - Guest Introductions

Minute 3:47 - "Queendom" by Poet D'Naia Bryant to celebrate every women during this Women's History Month

Minute 7:20 - Coaching with Lolita E. Walker + a bit of Soul Work on being unconventional and helping you get at what is in your way. For 1-1 or group coaching, contact Lolita at www.lolitawalker.com/coaching 

Minute 12:14:  Cocktails to celebrate the greatness of each of you

Minute 14:54:  Conversations with  Pauleanna Reid, who shares her story, emphasizes the power of communication and how to strengthen your skills, turning conversations into leads and so much more.

Grab your CC&C Journal from www.lolitawalker.com/podcast and let's get into it.

Other links for you to stay connected:

Pauleanna Reid Website - https://pauleannareid.com/ 

Pauleanna Reid IG -  https://www.instagram.com/pauleannareid/

D'Naia Bryant IG - https://www.instagram.com/dnaiabryant/ 

Lolita's Website - https://www.lolitawalker.com

Lolita's TEDx talk - https://bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

Affirmations / Affirmation Calendars & More - https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop

See you next episode!  Till then, May you embrace, act, and thrive - on purpose.

We are celebrating Women's History Month with poetry, perseverance and power.  I've tapped some of the amazing poets that I met on the Clubhouse app and am excited to bring them to this platform to share their work.  This episode is dedicated to all women, particularly the ancestry of the Black women highlighted in the poetry and experiences of the poets today - Duane Reid, Livia Kojo Alour, Tariq Saint Sankofa & Yours Truly.

Special shout outs to a few poetry rooms that I have been enjoying thus far on the app in case you are looking around:  Poetry Palace and all of its weekly variations, The B Side, Poetry with Liv, Resistance Poetry and there are so many more.  Next week, I’ll be the featured poet on Poetry Place’s Verbz and Vibes A.M. Open Mic with Michael Guinn and other amazing poets.  Join us at 7:00am EST each week.  Cheersssssss

 A run down of today's exciting show:

min 0.13:  Welcome

min 0.47:  Today’s affirmation is I am forging forward because I have already leaped over my past

min 1:22:  Show Outline – What you can expect and how we flow

min 2:56:  Our Sponsor Savings for Pure Romance – text the phrase “kitchen table” to 530-763-3648 for your instant savings code.  Check out the details at https://bit.ly/youdeserveyou

min 3:55:  Coaching by way of little known Women’s History Facts

min 8:05:  Soul Work where you outline a plan to connect or reconnect with a powerful woman in your life

min 10:10:  Cocktails

min 11:53:  Conversations via powerful poetry

              min 13:15:  Duane Reidd:  My Friend

              min 14:46:  Livia Kojo Alour (missapoet):  Black WomXn

              min 21:50:  Tariq Saint Sankofa:  Say Her Name

              min 26:02:  Lolita E. Walker:  Dear Black Girl

Stay Connected with each of the poets featured today:

Duane Reid - www.instagram.com/ontheblocwithduaneandsam 

Missapoet (Livia Kojo Alour) - www.ceremonialcabaret.com

www.instagram.com/missapoet

Tariq Saint Sankofa - www.ea-moore.com

www.instagram.com//saint_sankofa

Lolita - www.lolitawalker.com

www.instagram.com/heycoachwalker

Kiran Bassi joins Lolita Walker in this episode to talk vulnerability in the workplace, shame, ethnic and corporate culture, owning your story and everything in between.  What if you found the courage to tell your manager that you were uncomfortable in a particular workplace situations and their first question was, What did you do? Think about this even in your personal life! 

Does the weight of shame overtake you?  Do you retreat and begin to question yourself?  Some of us will never know until it happens to us. Others of us have been here and wonder what we could have done differently.  In this episode,  Kiran is telling her story, the pain, shame, conflicts within her ethnic culture, the irony of the corporate culture, owning her truth and using it to help others share their stories.

Come and grab a seat around the kitchen table.  Here's the run down:

Welcome:  0.18 min

A Bit About Kiran Bassi:  1:31 min

Sponsor Ad & Promo Code:  Pure Elegance (text "kitchen table" to 530.763.3648 and site - https://bit.ly/youdeserveyou )

Coaching:  (3:56 min) Lolita gifts 5 considerations to shake the S.H.A.M.E. of being you

Cocktails:  A cheers to AliRyan08, who left a 5-star review, a cheers to each of you who continue to support this podcast and share the nuggets with others aboard your train.

Conversations: (13:08) We delve deep with Kiran, as she tells her story of her being sexually harrassed at a corporate job.  We talk bullying, mental health shame, resilience and giving yourself permission to process and even how to write, talk and think differently so that you may shake the shame that is threatening to overtake you.  

Don't forget to connect

Kiran Bassi:  

LI:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/gurkiranbassi/

Email:  [email protected] 

Lolita:

Coaching, Cocktails, Conversations (Clubhouse each Saturday at 12noon EST, Zoom Cast every other Wednesday, Podcast on alternating every other Wednesday

TEDx:  https://bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

Website, speaking, coaching, shop:  https://www.lolitawalker.com

How do your fears translate into how you show up at work and life? What if you could shift the lenses of life to offer you a new perspective each time you faced fear? Novel idea right?!  I knooowwwwww!  On this episode, Jamie Alexis-Fowler, of Empower Work, is joining Lolita Walker at the kitchen table for some good-ole-fashioned conversations on what you can do today to begin to shift your perspective on fear!

Here's the rundown:

Today's affirmation is "I am a shifter of perspective so that I may shape and reshape my lens on life."

Welcome (min 0.22)

A Bit About our Guest (min 2:09)

Black Business Sponsor:  Pure Romance by Kanika (min 3:18) including a special savings code when you text the phrase "kitchen table" to 530-763-3648.  Head over to take a browse at https://bit.ly/youdeserveyou .

Coaching & Soul Work (min 4:16) to include today's affirmation from https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop .  Today's soul-work gifts 4 considerations for shifting your FEAR through an exercise of imagery :  Face your fears head on, Experience vulnerability, Accept where you are in this very moment and Remember that fear is an emotion

Cocktails (min 11:30) to include a cheers to Matshidiso Lee, who left my latest 5-star podcast review

Conversations (min 13:27) with Jaime.  It's a good one yall

Stay Connected:

Volunteer for Empower Work - https://www.empowerwork.org/ , where you can help others feel empowered through work fears, complications and more.  A great space to be, with great training, to shift lives on the spot.

Grab 1:1 help on your journey through Coaching with Lolita - https://www.lolitawalker.com/coaching

Grab your deck of 40 Affirmation Cards at https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop

Grab additional inspiration, with a few nuggets - https://bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

Check out Lolita's book to help you leap from where you are - https://www.lolitawalker.com/the-book

Is "authenticity" a buzz word or a way of life?  Hmmmm.  In this episode, we talk truth, liberation, direction setting, empathy, empowerment, self-awareness, reflection and everything in between. You'll een grab an exercise of soul-work that asks the question, "What if you were a house"  Imagine that!  I am joined by Cameo King, global leader, podcaster, business owner and powerhouse of all things "living authentically," for great conversations, a few laughs and a few gems.  Please don't forget to listen, subscribe and leave an amazing review IF you are finding value in these episodes and soul-work.

 

The LineUp

Min 0.59:  Powerful Affirmation from Walker & Walker Enterprises:  I am Unique, I am special, I am crafted to be free.  Grab yours at https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop

Min 1:39:  Podcast structure for newbies

Min 2:16:  Learn more of Cameo King

Min 3:26:  Virtual Women's Retreat Sponsor Ad - February 2021 Retreat (www.lolitawalker.com/retreat) is when you will be pushed beyond your complacency with a bit of accountability.  Register today.

Min 4:40 minutes:  Coaching & Soul Work, where I take you through an exercise of imagery, using a house to depict liberating your most authentic self…hmmmmm.  We start with the questions, What do you think of when you think of the word liberate?  How does that meet your definition of authenticity?  How can you liberate your most authentic self?  There's also a reminder of two episodes of great reference: episodes 10 (writing & owning your journey) and 18 (finding the essence of your truth)

Min 13:42:  Cocktails to celebrate the greatness of who you are when you show up

Min 15:55:  Conversations with Cameo King, where she leaves us with advise from motivational speaker and past employer, Eric Thomas, three stories that we often tell ourselves and nuggets that help us liberate our authentic selves TODAY! alongside 4 considerations in the acronym, S.E.L.F.

 

Self awareness, self-reflection and self-accountabililty

Empathy and empowerment

Living in your truth an owning your narrative.

Force your truth

You ready?  So am I #letsgo

Other Resources

Purchase 40 Card Affirmation Deck - https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop 

Cameo King & The Good Girl Podcast - https://www.thegoodgirlpodcast.com/

Cameo King & Grit, Glam & Guts NonProfit - https://www.gritglamguts.org/ 

Lolita E. Walker Coaching, Speaking, Book & More - https://www.lolitawalker.com

Lolita E. Walker TEDx Talk - https://bit.ly/LolitaTakesTedx

Episodes 10 & 18 on this Coaching, Cocktails & Conversations Podcast are resources for this episode (Owning Your Narrative & Finding the Essence in Your Truth)

KICKING OFF SEASON 2 RIGHT!  We're talking Relationships during COVID!  They are tricky to say the least.  In this episode, Relationship Coach & Matchmaker, Candice Harper, shares 5 ways to leverage dating during this pandemic.  I add on 5 considerations for dating between many of our laughs, hilarious dating stories and so much more.  Grab a pen and paper and grab these nuggets as we talk everything from the single life to married and relationship burnout!

Here's what you can expect:

Minute 0.21:  Welcome to Dating during COVID

Minute 1:01:  Powerful Affirmation from www.lolitawalker.com :  "I am open to the endless possibilities within me."

Minute  1:32:  Personal thank you & share for and from my family during COVID

Minue 3:16:  Podcast structure and setup

Minute 4:51:  February 2021 Women's Weekend Renewal Retreat Promo

Minute 6:03:  Coaching & Soul Work, where I leave you with 5 Considerations for Dating during COVID

Minute 9:15:  Cocktails are giving cheers to your wins and a few of mine too.  What are you celebrating? From family to my Clubhouse app buddies to everyone in these COVID dating streets

Minute 12:12:  Conversations with Candice Harper, where we go all in.  What is your default setting?  What two questions does she ask in dating pre-chats and how would you answer them?  hmmmmm

Join us with a pen and pad and let's get into it.

 

Additional Resources:

Candice Harper's Website for Matchmaking and Relationship Coaching:  https://candiceharperlovecoach.com/contact/ 

Lolita's Website for Life, Leadership & Executive Coaching + Speaking:  https://www.lolitawalker.com

Lolita's February 2021 Women's Weekend Renewal Retreat:  https://www.lolitawalker.com/retreats

Affirmation Cards so you begin 2021 with intention:  https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop

Dr. Monica Goldson, CEO of Prince Georges Public Schools (PGCPS), joins me in a fun, candid and raw, behind-the-curtain interview of an all-the-time mom and daughter, who is a full-time, Power-Woman-Boss.  We talk everything from communications surrounding the murder of George Floyd, to navigating a male-dominated industry, to the prayers for decision-making and even missed mommy-moments with her son.  Listen in as we chat learning, leadership and life.

Episode Rundown

The affirmation for this episode (min 0:40) is I am learning.  I am leadership. I am living my best life.  Grab your deck of 40-affirmation cards at www.lolitawalker.com/shop

Welcome (min 1:20)

Sponsor Ad:  Walker & Walker Enterprises Women's Weekend Renewal & Training Retreat (min 3:38) https://bit.ly/feb2021retreat 

Coaching & Soul Work (min 4:50) with an exercise on winning in 2020 through your learning, leadership, & life

Cocktails (8:19) to celebrate you

Conversations with Dr. Goldson (10:29)

Resources

Contact Monica Goldson:  [email protected]

Stay updated @ PGCPS Website: https://www.pgcps.org/ 

1:1 or group coaching, speaking, facilitation:  https://www.lolitawalker.com

Learn more on Feb 2021 Retreat:  https://www.lolitawalker.com/retreats

Buy Lolita's Book:  https://www.lolitawalker.com/the-book

Check out 40-card affirmation deck:  https://www.lolitawalker.com/shop