Coaching Through It

In this episode Laura and Julie CAREfront each other to recognize when coaches need support and being coached themselves. We share a bit about how and what coaches seek out a thinking partner and coach to move us forward in our own lives. Julie and Laura get real to unpack self-care and ways we seek out support for our coaching practice.

• 3 Signs of Burnout: 
  • 1) Exhaustion 
  • 2) Cynicism or Depersonalization 
  • 3) Impact or Meaning Is Lost
• Coaching vs. Therapy
• Understanding When and How to Refer Clients to Therapy
• Mindsets
• Understanding Motivational Interviewing
• Change Talk (example)
• Coaching Questions from the GROW Model
• Somatic Coaching
• What is Mentor Coaching?

Questions for Coaches:

1. How much time do you dedicate to coaching each week?
2. What does your calendar look like for a coach?
3. What ways do you build care into your coaching practice?

Book: Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change, 3rd Edition by MIller & Rollnick

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We have another Coaching Through It + Coach to Coach podcast crossover episode!  In this episode @Katie__Linder (coach & coach trainer) and @laurapasquini talk about coaching skills and strengths. This is a cross-posted episode from Season 6, Episode 4 of the Coach to Coach podcast. [Direct link + transcript: https://www.drkatielinder.com/cc46/] Plus we chat a bit about the value of joining a new community of practice, the International Coaching Federation (ICF), specifically what membership offers coaches who join the club!

• What have you learned from coach training & the certification process?
• What is ICF membership all about?
• ICF Converge 2021 Conference - October 26-28, 2021

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For this episode, Julie & Laura chat about who their coaching client is. Not the names or actual people, but the types of folks who find us for coaching based on the following topics, word of mouth referral, etc. We reflect on going deep and earning trust with clients, and who we want to coach as we build our practice.

• ICF Coaching Log [Download Excel File]
• What are you learning about your coaching arena?
• How are you figuring out your niche as a coach?
• What does your coaching testimonials say about your practice?  
• How are you showing up as a coach?
• What ways do you earn trust to go deep as a coach?
• WHo do you WANT to coach?
• Let’s Talk About Hard Things by Anna Sale
• What awkward question have I not asked myself today?

Future episode: Marketing of Coaching Services

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On this episode of Coaching Through It, we’re sharing a conversation with @Katie__Linder (our coach trainer) and @julieclarsen. This is a cross-posted episode from Season 6, Episode 4 of the Coach to Coach podcast. [Direct link + transcript: https://www.drkatielinder.com/cc44/] We also answer the following questions in our intro:

• How did you get into coaching?
• What motivated us to do coach training & certification?

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In this episode Laura & Julie continue to debunk what coaching practice is and is not. There is no shortage of self-help resources and folks who are consulting, speaking, and offering help. That being said, the land of coaching is unregulated and they might not be an actual coach.  Listen to the questions we get asked about coaching, questions we ask potential clients and each other, and a short list of frequently asked questions (FAQs) to put in your back pocket if you are exploring coaching as well.

• What happens during a coaching session? by Chelsea Hetherington
• 5 signs that coaching is right for you by Chelsea Hetherington
• Laura’s Coaching FAQs
• How to Change by Katy Milkman
• Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
• ICF Credentialed Coach Finder
• Coach Clients: What questions do you ask a coach?
• Is Coaching for Me? Questions to Ask Yourself via ICF Australasia
• Hint: If they are coaching you, and not the problem -- that's probably the coach you want to hire. 

If you are a coach:

• What questions do you ask a potential client?
• How are you educating clients about your coaching practice?
• What questions do you ask or get asked during an exploration session?

Future episode reflection: 

• How did you get into coaching?
• What motivated us to do coach training & certification?

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And we’re back! For Season 2 of Coaching Through It -- we have so much to share! During our break we’ve been in a couple of other coach training courses and are learning a whole lot about ourselves in our coaching practice. This episode will introduce you to the topics and ideas ahead for season 2 of the pod.

Courses from Higher Ed Coach Training:

• Values-focused Coaching Tools & Confronting Obstacles
• Habit Building, Creating Change, & Group Coaching Fundamentals

Failure to Launch (Movie)

Topics we want to chat about for this season of Coaching Through It:

• Marketing & publicizing our coach practice
• Niche or Ideal Clients - Who should I be coaching?
• Coaching for Stakeholders (sponsored coaching)
• Executive Coaching - leadership development
• Group Coaching Programs

Coaching questions asked and answered:

• What’s your favorite or “go to” coaching question(s)?
• What are/were your barriers to start your coaching practice?
• What advice would you give your past self, as a coach?

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Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Are you a coach who wants to chat with us during Season 2 of the pod? Just let us know!

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Email us at: [email protected] 

Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen

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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie and Laura talk about the “business” of coaching -- specifically the nuts and bolts of how we are setting up our coaching practice diving deep into confidence, values, when we can do it, and what it means to actually launch our coaching practice as a business.  

Intake forms for exploring coaching and booking coaching appointments:

• Contact info: phone, email, mailing address
• What do you want to explore with coaching?
• What are your goals, interests, and topics for coaching?
• What motivated you to explore coaching?
• Have you been coached before in the past?
• Share with me anything you would like to talk about during our coaching session

FYI: Requirements for earning an ACC coaching credential coaching is 70 paid hours and 30 hour pro bono for 100 hours. For PCC Level coaching credential there are 500 hours required.

Tools for Our Coaching Business includes: 

• Online appointment scheduling: Acuity & Calendly 
• Payment tools for charging for coaching services: Venmo & PayPal
• Meeting with clients online (recorded): Zoom, Phone, Audio Hijack + Skype or Zencaster
• Taking/sharing notes, progress, and recordings: Email, Dropbox & Notion 

Other things mentioned in this episode:

• How I Built This Podcast Ep. Calendly: Tope Awotona
• Q&A #35: How and Why to Form an LLC
• Cynthia Pong Comprehensive Coaching 
• Group Coaching
• Team Coaching
• Present Company with Krista Smith
• Laura’s Blogged Reflections on Coach Training/Coaching: Coaching Through It 

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Email us at: [email protected] 

Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen

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On this episode of @CoachingThruIt Laura and Julie do a walk-through of what powerful questions are and how they are used in coaching practice and as a skill in life.

“They help the coach and the client to seek understanding and find clarity around any issue, challenge, or topics that a client brings to the session.” Via Dr. Katie Linder https://www.higheredcoaches.com/

Elements of powerful questions:

• They are short.
• They often start with “what” and “how” stems.
• They are open-ended.
• They are non-judgmental.
• They come from a place of curiosity.
• They are focused on the client.
• They are goal-oriented.
• They are followed by silence.

Phrasing powerful questions around:

• Past / Present / Future
• Learn / Be / Do

Popcorn Sharing

Coach to Coach Podcast, S4. Ep. 4 Powerful Questions

How to Design Powerful Questions

Coaching Questions: A Coach’s Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus

17 Motivational Interviewing Questions and Skills

Recommendations:

The Power - Snap!

The Queen’s Gambit (Netflix)

I’ll Be Gone in the Dark (HBO)

The Home Edit by Clea Shearer & Joanna Templin

Eat a Peach by David Chang

Home Cooking with Samin Nosrat & Hrishikesh Hirway

Joy at Work by Marie Kondō & Scott Sonenshein

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Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!

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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie and Laura talk about having coaching clients make distinctions, define terms, and get to the heart of the matter in a session. We chat a bit about “fillers” vs. blunt questions, and how we are thinking about defining terms and comparison when in our own coaching practice. 

Tools we compare in this episode -- specifically to know the “how” and “what” certain words mean to them:

Making Distinctions - differentiating between two things; comparing two concepts or ideas.

e.g., leadership vs. being a leader; community vs. relationship

Defining Terms - how the client describes a concept, term, etc.; e.g., “What do you mean by that?” or “Tell me more about that…”

• Removing the “barnacles” or fillers: the extra words, context, or “scratchy bit,” that might get in a way of your question; e.g. “Help me understand...” {insert question}
• Do these context pieces or summarization direct/lead our clients? 
• Does empathy look different in a coaching relationship?
• How much can our coaching clients take in with these questions?
• Bottom line: Shut up, and just ask the direct question 
• Mirroring behavior: “Emotions are real!”
• Setting the tone with coaching clients to bring them up/down/even
• Bottom lining: when a client is giving too much context, etc. to redirect the client
• Checking in with clients: Just to say “Hi, How are you?”
• Peeling back the onion in the “murky middle” of a coaching session
• Put on your “opportunity overalls” -- let’s get to work!
• Self-reflection tool for making distinction
• Do we not spend enough time thinking about words?

Book:

Finding Your Why by Simon Sinek

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In this @CoachingThruIt episode, Julie and Laura chat about pivoting from advising, helping, and mentoring to not be a problem-solver. We unpack the phrase we are told in our coach training: “Coach the Client, Not the Problem.” We join our coaching clients on their journey -- so we talk about our triggers that might  “helper” tendency, to listen to how we are thinking about coaching clients to empower them to reach their own answers and identify their own solutions.

• The “How can I help?” question allows coaching clients to talk out needs & support 
• Avoid giving the hack or solution to the client
• How much more powerful is the solution or direction if the client says it themself?
• Allowing clients to talk out loud ideas, issues, and actualizations
• Every coaching session “success” metric might look different or show up later
• Allow for reflections & takeaways from the client at the end of each session
• Change Talk: “What if …?” and “What would this look like?”
• Motivational Interviewing (episode to come)
• Removing Barnacles: get rid of the context and just ask the short and direct question.
  • “Just so I understand…” or “Out of curiosity…”
• Powerful questions for family, friends or peers: “What would you do to solve this right now?” or “What do you want the outcome to be?” or “I have some ideas… but what do you think we should do first?”
• Empowering others to solve their own problems

Coaching Presence:

• Holding space: coaches are “team you” to sit with clients during the decision-making process and tough conversations around your goals/interests/ideas
• “Sit on Your Hands” to allow for patience
• Coach responses: “Hmmmm” or “Mmmmm” + head tilt or nod

Books & Learnings:

• The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier
• Start Finishing by Charlie Gilkey
• Tell Me More by Kelly Corrigan
• NPR Life Kit https://www.npr.org/lifekit 

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Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!

Follow the pod on Twitter: @CoachingThruIt & Instagram: @CoachingThruIt

Email us at: [email protected] 

Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen

Music credit: The song reCreation by airtone has been remixed under a CC-BY license.