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We dig into the sneaky money habits that quietly drain your bank account and stall your growth—emotional spending, underpricing, “it’s on sale” rationalizing, and saying yes to expenses that don’t align with your goals. Then we map out simple, doable fixes you can start today.

• You shop when you’re stressed, bored, or celebrating—and it adds up.

• You keep underpricing because you’re afraid people won’t pay more.

• You avoid looking at your numbers and feel perpetually “behind.”

• Subscriptions and “little treats” eat the profit you thought you had.

• Name the trigger → change the pattern: How to identify emotional spending cues and interrupt them with a 60-second pause script.

• Money Dates (weekly, 15–20 min): A simple agenda to track what’s coming in, what’s going out, and what needs to change.

• Underpricing to Right-Pricing: A quick gut-check to raise rates with confidence (value, outcomes, capacity, demand).

• Moderation > Deprivation: Micro-cuts that stick (e.g., choose AM or PM coffee, not both).

• Subscription Sweep: A 10-minute audit + a keep/cancel/share framework.

• Accountability that’s kind but firm: Pick a person who will ask, “Does this align with your goals?”

Key Moments

• 00:14 Financial self-sabotage—what it is and why it sticks

• 01:11 Emotional vs. “impulse” shopping—how to tell the difference

• 03:26 How personal habits bleed into business finances

• 07:00 The “talk yourself off the ledge” store-aisle script

• 09:07 Why you can’t save while spending first (order of operations)

• 14:40 The Starbucks math: halving a habit, funding your savings

• 16:00 Subscriptions: cancel/rotate/share to keep costs down

• 21:00 Why preparation beats “I’ll cross that bridge later”

• 22:02 The 3-step reset: Track → Notice patterns → Weekly Money Date

Try This This Week (one small win):
Pick one area you know is a sabotage loop (emotional spending, underpricing, or avoiding your numbers). Make one change:

• Move a non-essential purchase to a 48-hour waitlist

• Increase your price on the next proposal by a set %

• Schedule a 15-minute Money Date and list top 5 expenses to trim

Coach’s Notes
Self-sabotage isn’t about being “bad with money.” It’s about patterns that once kept you comfortable but now keep you stuck. Awareness + tiny consistent shifts = momentum.

Share the episode
If this helped you, send it to a friend who needs a gentle nudge to break a money habit that isn’t serving them.

In this episode, Dawnette and Lauren break down identity shifts—how to shed outdated roles, show up authentically, rewire your money and leadership decisions, and step into a future-focused identity with practical daily practices and the ABCs: Accountability, Balance, Communication.

• Name the pattern: Why self-doubt often disguises fear—and how to spot it fast.

• Identity drives income: How your self-concept shapes pricing, boundaries, hiring, and risk-taking.

• Authenticity > approval: Stop “fitting the room” and start attracting aligned clients, partners, and friends.

• Upgrade your circle: Tell the difference between genuine supporters and “monitoring spirits.”

• Money without guilt: Release the “greedy” label and embrace impact—money as a tool for mission.

• Daily anchors that stick: Prayer, night-before planning, and built-in breaks to prevent burnout.

• The ABCs: A simple framework to keep you aligned when life gets loud.

• 00:32 New levels require new identities (“new levels, new devils”).

• 01:26 The first thing to let go of: doubt (and how fear fuels it).

• 05:06 Purpose + provision: reframing money as impact, not greed.

• 06:54 Imposter syndrome vs. authenticity—showing up as who you are.

• 10:00 “We’re not tea—we’re champagne.” Why you’re not for everyone.

• 11:34 Spotting false support vs. real friendship; guarding your heart.

• 14:59 “You’re different”—how to wear growth as a compliment.

• 21:24 Define your tribe, then thrive.

• 25:19 The ABCs to move from stuck to stepping forward.

1. Identity Audit: Write the top 3 labels you’ve outgrown (e.g., “people-pleaser”). Cross them out; below each, write the upgraded identity (e.g., “decisive leader”).

2. Boundary Boost: Choose one new boundary this week (pricing, response times, meetings). Communicate it today.

3. Money Reframe: List 3 ways more revenue would multiply impact (jobs, giving, community projects). Keep it visible.

4. Circle Check: Identify one “drainer” and one “builder.” Limit access to the drainer; book time with the builder.

5. ABCs Daily: End your day with:

   • Accountability: What got done? Who are you reporting to (coach/peer)?

   • Balance: Where will you rest tomorrow?

   • Communication: What boundary or ask needs to be said?

• “Every new level requires you to retire an old identity.”

• “Self-doubt is often fear in a nicer outfit.”

• “We’re not tea—we’re champagne. We’re not for everyone.”

• “Money is a mission multiplier—not a moral scorecard.”

• Try the ABCs tonight: Accountability, Balance, Communication.

• Journal prompt: “Who is my next-level self, and what decision would she make today?”

• Share this episode with a friend who’s outgrowing old rooms.

Enjoyed this? Rate the show, leave a review, and tag us with your biggest identity shift this week. ☕️✨

In this powerful episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette and Lauren dismantle the illusion of overnight success and reframe what most people call “failure.” Entrepreneurs and high-achievers often feel like they’re falling behind when things don’t happen fast—but the truth is, sustainable success is built brick by brick… with plenty of lessons (and detours) in between.

Pain Points Discussed:

• Feeling like a failure when success doesn’t come quickly

• Being discouraged by social media’s highlight reels and false narratives

• Facing disappointment when a product, service, or launch flops

• The temptation to give up after a series of setbacks

• Difficulty dealing with criticism, rejection, or unexpected roadblocks

Solutions & Encouragement Shared:

• Reframing failure as feedback and every “no” as part of the learning curve

• The power of resilience, reflection, and adaptability in business and life

• Learning to pivot based on what the market (or life) is telling you

• Why grit and grace matter more than perfection

• Embracing curiosity over judgment when things don’t go as planned

Takeaways:

1. There’s no such thing as an overnight success—what you’re seeing is years of unseen effort.

2. Failure isn’t the end—it’s a redirection. Every loss is a lesson if you're willing to look deeper.

3. Market feedback is gold. Use it to refine, rebrand, or repurpose your product, service, or path.

Action Step:
✨ Journal your reflections:

• What didn’t work recently?

• What could I do differently next time?

• What opportunities have come from this setback?

We want to hear from you!
DM us on Instagram or Facebook, or leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Let’s keep growing—together.

🎧 Tune in, take notes, and remember—you’re not failing, you’re learning.

As entrepreneurs, especially in the early stages, we often feel compelled to say “yes” to every opportunity, networking event, collaboration, or request — out of guilt, fear of missing out, or the desire to be seen. But this constant “yes” culture leads to burnout, poor alignment, and resentment. Many business owners find themselves overextended, exhausted, and misaligned with their vision, wondering how they got there.

In this episode, Dawnette and Lauren break down the real reason saying “no” feels so hard — and why it’s essential to practice it anyway. They share powerful tools for establishing values-based boundaries, prioritizing your mission and vision, and confidently turning down opportunities that aren’t aligned.

Listeners will learn:

• Why “no” is a business growth tool, not a rejection

• How to evaluate opportunities through the lens of alignment

• How guilt and people-pleasing sabotage your progress

• What to say instead of “sorry” when setting a boundary

• Why boundaries protect your time, energy, and mental health

• How to use your calendar and energy capacity as filters for decision-making

Whether you're just starting out or scaling your business, this episode is your permission slip to protect your peace, respect your time, and say “no” shame-free — so you can say “yes” to what truly matters.

🎯 Perfect for: Entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, and anyone juggling too much and struggling to draw the line between hustle and harmony.

Too many professionals—especially women—settle for less than they’re worth in jobs, business deals, and personal arrangements because they lack the confidence or tools to negotiate effectively. Whether it's fear of rejection, not knowing how to ask, or simply accepting the first offer, this mindset leads to being underpaid, undervalued, and overworked.

✅ In this empowering episode, Dawnette and Lauren unpack the real meaning of negotiation—not as haggling or arrogance, but as confident, values-based communication. They share personal stories, client wins, and actionable strategies to help you:

• Know your worth and how to communicate it clearly

• Ask the right questions (even the “uncomfortable” ones)

• Recognize your negotiables vs. non-negotiables

• Evaluate opportunities beyond just salary

• Navigate confidence without crossing into arrogance

• Use role-playing to prepare for any scenario

• Leave a negotiation with clarity—not confusion

  
  

  🎯 Key Takeaways:

• Confidence is a skill, not a personality trait. The more you practice asking for what you want, the easier it becomes.

• Negotiation is not about being greedy—it's about alignment. Make sure the offer meets your needs and values.

• Information is power. Do your research, ask clarifying questions, and understand your potential employer or client before sealing the deal.

• No is not rejection—it’s redirection. When something doesn’t align, gracefully walk away and stay open to the right opportunity.

📣 Call to Action:
Ready to level up your negotiation skills? Apply at least one tip from this episode in your next business or personal interaction. Then let us know how it goes—DM us on Instagram, tag us in your stories, or drop a comment. We’d love to celebrate your wins with you!

☕ Join the Conversation:
Tune in, take notes, and sip on some confidence with us. Your next opportunity could be one strong negotiation away.

Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re not showing up as your best self—in business or in life?

In this soul-stirring episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette and Lauren dive deep into the real talk of personal development. From burnout and sleepless nights to guilt over taking a break, they open up about the pressures that come with growth—and how to give yourself permission to pause.

You’ll learn:

• Why chasing perfection in personal development often leads to anxiety and exhaustion

• How to shift from guilt to grace when you need rest

• The key areas of development (mindset, skills, rest) and how to tackle them one step at a time

• The power of baby steps and why they matter more than hustle

• Why investing in yourself isn’t selfish—it’s the most selfless thing you can do

The truth is, your mindset sets the tone for everything. And when you work on you, you unlock a kind of magic that touches every part of your life—from relationships to business success.

🎯 Challenge of the Week: Choose one area of personal development to focus on for 30 days. Whether it’s reading a book, joining a course, or simply taking better care of your mind—track your progress and watch the magic unfold.

📲 Join the conversation and tell us what area you’re working on! Connect with us on Instagram @coffeewithcoaches or email us—we may even invite you on the show!

In this episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette Palmore and Lauren Cole dive into a deeply relatable conversation around the overwhelming pressure women feel to "do it all"—and the toll that takes on their mental, emotional, and physical health. From never-ending to-do lists to always being accessible, the struggle to balance life, business, and self-care is real. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

They offer powerful yet practical solutions:
✔️ How to show up for yourself in small, consistent ways
✔️ Why grace with boundaries is non-negotiable
✔️ How to protect your peace (and your phone notifications)
✔️ The truth about productivity vs. busyness
✔️ Why your morning routine might be the key to breaking the cycle of overwhelm

Whether you're a business owner, a stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in between—this episode is your reminder that investing in your well-being is not selfish... it's essential.

Key Takeaways:
🔹 Consistency doesn’t mean perfection—it means persistence.
🔹 You don’t need to do everything to be enough.
🔹 Protect your accessibility and energy like it’s your most valuable resource—because it is.
🔹 Show up daily for yourself in small, intentional ways and watch the transformation unfold.
🔹 Mental health is foundational—start your day by pouring into you.

Connect with Us:
📱 Instagram: @coffeewithcoachez
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💬 DM us anytime—we’d love to hear how you’re choosing to show up for yourself this week.

In this raw and soul-stirring episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette Palmore and life coach Lauren Cole dive deep into the silent but powerful lies that shape our identity, keep us small, and are passed from generation to generation — often without a word.

They tackle the core wounds many women and young people carry, such as:

• “You’ll never amount to anything”

• “You’re a victim”

• “Recovery is your forever identity”

With honest stories and powerful insights, they unpack:

• The emotional scars that words leave behind and why they often take longer to heal than physical wounds.

• How labels and limiting language disempower us — and how to reclaim our voice and power by shifting vocabulary.

• Why intentional parenting and affirmations matter, and how simple affirming words can transform a child’s life.

• How to stop carrying the emotional baggage of others and release false narratives that don’t belong to you.

You’ll walk away with clarity and courage to:

• Identify and uproot lies you’ve believed

• Speak life over yourself and others

• Step fully into your recovered, not recovering self

• Break generational cycles with truth, love, and integrity

If you’ve ever struggled with self-worth, felt crushed by past words, or are ready to rewrite your story, this conversation is for you.

• Words can wound or heal — choose yours wisely.

• Victimhood is a mindset, not your identity.

• Your healing journey is yours to claim — you can go from recovering to recovered.

• Stop carrying bags that aren’t yours — especially if they’re full of someone else’s shame, fear, or judgment.

• Real leadership means unlearning while guiding others with integrity.

🧠 This is more than a podcast — it’s a call to put the bag down and pick up your purpose.
Tune in and be reminded: you are not what happened to you — you are what you choose to become. 💪

In this heartfelt episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette Palmore and Lauren Cole open up a raw and real conversation about a problem too many women face—cattiness, backstabbing, and lack of genuine support from other women.

The pain is real:
🙅‍♀️ Miscommunication
👀 Misinterpretation
📱 Ghosted messages that lead to false narratives
💬 Gossip instead of direct communication
😔 Emotional wounds from broken trust in sisterhood

But here’s the solution...
This episode is a powerful call to:
✅ Communicate directly and honestly
✅ Hold space for one another with grace and compassion
✅ Release assumptions and stop writing stories in our heads
✅ Show up authentically and consistently
✅ Choose growth over gossip, and healing over hurt

You’ll also hear moving personal stories about holding space for strangers, and why sometimes all it takes is a hug, a prayer, or a moment of presence to be the light someone needs.

✨ This episode is your reminder that your greatest strength as a woman is in how you uplift others—even when it's hard.
Tune in and let this conversation challenge and inspire you to be a better sister, friend, and leader.

🔗 Follow us on Instagram: @coffeewithcoachez
💬 Leave a review and let us know how you are learning to hold space and lead with love.

In this episode of Coffee with Coachez, Dawnette and Lauren sit down with powerhouse guest Brian E. Sibley — Navy veteran, nationally recognized speaker, and author of The Success Profile — to unpack the urgent crisis we’re facing in youth development and what we can do about it.

🔻 The Pain:
Our youth are growing up in an era of instant gratification, absent mentorship, broken discipline structures, and social media overload. Schools are under-equipped, parenting boundaries are blurred, and too many young people are being shaped more by algorithms than by real-life role models. The result? A generation searching for identity, guidance, and hope — often in the wrong places.

✅ The Solution:
Brian shares how his personal story — from homelessness to national stages — and his revolutionary book The Success Profile are helping teens reclaim their power, purpose, and path forward. This interactive curriculum bridges the gap between self-awareness, leadership, and real-life tools, helping youth visualize and create a future with intention.

We talk:

• Why mentorship isn't optional — it's essential

• How social media is shaping identity and how to take the reins back

• The truth about parenting, discipline, and generational cycles

• How The Success Profile is transforming classrooms, co-ops, and communities

• What every adult can do now to support the next generation

Whether you're a parent, mentor, educator, or leader — this episode will challenge and inspire you to take action and be part of the solution.

📚 Mentioned in this Episode:

• The Success Profile by Brian E. Sibley

• Rich Before The Money™

• Street Frat Youth Organization

• The 100 Black Men of Los Angeles

• Upcoming Pandora’s Box Tour keynote

📲 Connect with Brian at @BrianESibley on all platforms or visit brianesibley.com for inquiries and bulk orders.