Why do a lot of career high-achievers struggle in their relationships? Is it ever ok for a Christian couple to indulge in pornography to spice up their sex life? What about masturbation?

Hyrox is all the rage now but did it really save a marriage? And speaking of saving, does saving sex for marriage really make sense?

The quality of our relationships determine the quality of our lives. Join Kysern, together with Kevin and Esther, as they explore how to better our relationships on this new episode of Hot Topics.

00:00:00 Intro

00:01:25 What is a Relationship Coach?

00:02:40 The "Dinner Time" Fight: Early Marriage Lessons

00:05:50 Transitioning from Long-Distance to Living Together

00:07:46 Common Patterns in Newlyweds: Handling Stress

00:11:08 Emotional Regulation

00:13:15 Personal "Reset" Methods: Running vs. Showers

00:19:50 Why Post-Marital Counseling is More Critical

00:20:40 Understanding & Addressing the "7-Year Itch"

00:23:50 Mismatched Sexual Desire: Managing Different Drives

00:25:35 Sex as a Form of Communication

00:30:00 Masturbation & Pornography in Marriage

00:34:35 Why "Date Night" Might Be a Recipe for Disaster

00:35:48 Hyrox Better Than "Date Nights”?

00:41:00 The Indirect Route: Solving Problems via Teamwork

00:45:30 The High-Achiever’s Struggle with Vulnerability

00:54:10 Playing to Strengths: Role Flexibility in Modern Couples

00:56:00 The Danger of Stagnation: Keeping a Shared Growth Trajectory

Watch our first conversation on relationships here: Hot Topics Ep.7

🎧 Ep 10 now streaming on Spotify, YouTube & Apple Podcasts.#Relationships #HotTopics #ChristianPodcast

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Most conflicts in church are not spiritual warfare nor about theology. They usually happen because pastors and leaders fail to have honest conversations. What happens when the relationship between two senior leaders implodes and both have their own thoughts about right and wrong? And what is on the other side of this collision? Join us in the second part of this conversation with Kevin and Kysern. Some key insights:

• Are betrayals really betrayals or are they actually mismatched assumptions that were never put on the table?
• How many "conflicts" are actually just unfinished conversations?
• Friendship isn't a “soft” leadership strategy — it might be the only thing strong enough to survive a real conflict.
• Why “God told me” can be the three of the most dangerous words a leader can say.

You can find Part I here: Conflict in Church | Ep 8 - Hot Topics  

🎧 Ep 9 now streaming on Spotify, YouTube & Apple Podcasts.

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We’ve seen it far too often - disagreements between church leaders becoming destructive and escalating further to distrust, toxicity, factions and even church splits. Collective went through a season of dealing with this tension as well. 

In this episode, we explore conflict in church as told through the real-life conflict between Kevin and Kysern. 

We covered: 

• The struggles in managing a multi-faceted working relationship.

• The culture of fear that permeated Collective in the early days.

• Confrontations that almost destroyed a friendship. 

• How leaders can navigate church conflict and confront issues in a healthy manner.

🎧 Ep 8 now streaming on Spotify, YouTube & Apple Podcasts.

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What do you do when the sparks in your relationships are stoked not by romance but by the fire in your feuds? Or perhaps you long for whatever kind of heat in your marriage because it’s colder than ice? Is “till death do us part” still real in today’s world?

We dive into the topic that probably defines us most as humans - relationships, and in this episode we explore the romantic kind together with Kevin and Esther, who have been married to each other for 20 years. He is the lead pastor of Collective and she is a relationship coach.

Some of the things we talked about: 

• Why date nights at certain points in a marriage may do more harm than good.

• Do women who grew up in church have unrealistic expectations of men?

• Can a Christian marry a non-Christian?

• Why is Kysern single?

Note: We apologize for the glitches that appear intermittently throughout the video. Like in any  relationship, sometimes we have to accept the flaws. Thanks for understanding!

🎧 Ep 7 now streaming on Spotify, YouTube & Apple Podcasts.

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Ever felt like all the church talks about is money? Or perhaps you think the church doesn’t teach enough on it. While it can be a loaded topic, Jesus Himself has a whole lot to say about money. And we have some thoughts too. 

Join us as we dive into this conversation where we discuss: 

• Imprints from childhood that influence how we view and manage money.

• “Prosperity gospel” leaning teachings we have encountered in the church. 

• How much should we "stretch our faith" when it comes to giving in church?

• Resources that have helped shape our money mindset.

🎧 Ep 6 now streaming on Spotify, YouTube & Apple Podcasts.

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Lynette Chai is a licenced and registered counselor. Keith Tay is a pastor at Collective. In this episode we discuss how mental health is approached from both their professional perspectives. Where are they aligned and where do they not?

Our conversation covered:

• How some “supernatural” church experiences may be explained scientifically. 

• What pastors should stop doing when navigating mental health issues.

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy.

• Individual and Collective Consciousness.

• Are more expensive therapists generally better?

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Hot Topics is back! In this episode, the first of a two part series, we explore the topic of mental health. We discuss: 

• how we have navigated anxiety and depressive states

• the effects of sleep on our mental health and vice versa

• why we sometimes hesitate to seek professional help 

• steps we have taken that we have found useful and recommend   

Note: This episode was recorded in October 2024. 

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Are strong Christian women really the problem—or are we just not ready to talk about what healthy masculinity looks like?

In this episode, we unpack:

• Why women feel pressure to lead when men won’t
• What happens when strength is misunderstood
• The danger of mothering grown men
• And how Christian relationships can thrive without a power struggle

If you’ve ever been called a people pleaser or felt the pressure to keep everyone happy — even when it’s costing you — this episode is for you.

We’re talking authenticity, performance culture, and what it really means to stop pretending and start showing up as your true self.

Whether you’re in ministry, leadership, or just plain exhausted trying to be everything for everyone — you’re not alone.

What do you do when everything you’ve worked for — your career, your comfort, your carefully built life — no longer fits where God is leading?In Episode 2, Jay Galido shares the story of choosing purpose over the life she built in the U.S. and learning to surrender when nothing made sense. This one’s for anyone caught between purpose, and letting go of what they thought their life would look like.#MySideOfTheStory #WhenGodWrecksYourPlans #OutOfMyComfortZone