Come Home to Peace

This podcast episode may bring all kinds of emotions to the surface for you.

What were the expectations of grades when you were growing up?

What expectations do you have for your kids when it comes to school?

If your kids fail, does that mean you're not a good parent?

What about special needs kids?

What do the letters of the alphabet or numbers on a page really mean?

If you've ever felt the stress that occurs at this time of year around the grading system in our schools, this is the episode for you.

💔 I mention this YouTube video in the podcast episode. It's a must-watch for all parents and kids. 💔

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IO6zqIm88s

Is failure a trigger for you? 😟

It sure has been for me. 

If you're like me and are a recovering perfectionist, failure is very uncomfortable. But the more I've practiced failing (yes, you can practice failing!) the better I've become at it. And the better I get at failing, the more successful and happy I've become. ✨ (Sounds backward, right?) ✨

If you want your kids to be as successful as possible in this time in society and have a leading edge over 90% of the population in the world - teach them to fail.

This podcast will help guide you through that process by changing your mindset around failure using some powerful tools.

Peace in your heart and home has to include peace around failure. You've got this! 💚

I reference Brene Brown's FFT Podcast episode. You can find that podcast here. 

Each year on New Year's Eve, my family had one tradition I did not love. My Grandma would have us write out our goals for the following year on a piece of paper. We’d fold them up and she would store them in this special envelope until the following year. We’d open up our goals and see what goals we had accomplished and then write out new goals for the upcoming year.

At first, I carefully wrote out my biggest dreams and wishes for the year. Some were personal and emotional - like “make new friends”, “be better at playing piano”, “Get good grades.” Some were physical-type goals such as “earn $50”, “Ride my bike 100 miles”.

Somewhere along the line, a shift happened. I began listening to the goals of my aunts and uncles. I started listening to the voices of what others expected of me. My goals began to be goals that I hoped to achieve so I could be “good enough”. 

It didn’t take many years before this activity didn’t bring me happiness and anticipation. I began to dread the opening of the envelope. Would I have achieved anything that would help me be worthy and enough? Nope. Once again, I hadn’t lost the 25 pounds, been asked on any dates, or been any less lonely in school. Every year, opening the envelope became a way for me to see that I couldn’t reach the expectations I had of myself and that I felt like the world had set for me to achieve. 

How many of you believe the same way I did?

In this episode, I'll share with you how I learned to set micro-habits or micro-goals that did start to make a difference in my life. 

These habits are ones I can do on my worst day. They help me become a better version of myself. 

I can't wait for you to try out these scientifically proven techniques!

This week is Christmas. I want to give you the most wonderful and beautiful gift. I would like to wrap it up in beautiful paper, put a shiny bow on it and deliver it to you.

I’d love to give each individual a gift of self-love this Christmas.

You, my friends, are amazing. You are beautiful. You have more value and influence than you know. You are doing better than you may think. You are enough. 

We don’t hear that enough. The voices of society and the world tell us that we don’t have value. That we have to reach a certain point to be worth and acceptable.

This week, there is a special gift waiting for you on my website. Visit it to download it today. 

What if our culture focused on self-love, self-acceptance, and trusting our bodies to do what they needed to do? What if we never felt guilt and shame around food? What would it be like to eat when you're hungry and not when you're stressed out or emotional? 

When we know better, we do better. As you listen to this podcast, keep that in mind. 

I have thought many times back to the food and diet culture during my childhood and teenage years. I have no doubt that living in a culture where I could learn to love myself and treat my body with kindness and respect would have made a world of difference to my mental health and physical health later on in life.

One of the most surprising things I learned from Diana is the research that tells us that kids and teens who diet are highly likely to either 1. Become obese or 2. Develop an eating disorder.

This is a fascinating interview and you will learn research-backed information that will make you think twice and question what our culture has taught us and what actually is true. 

Diana is a registered and licensed dietitian and a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the owner of Tiny Seed Family Nutrition a nutrition counseling practice aimed at helping children and adults with a range of food issues, including selective eating, food fixations, eating disorders, and healing from chronic dieting. She is also active on social media at Anti-Diet Kids, where she helps families recognize the influences of diet culture on children and is the host of The Messy Intersection, a podcast for mothers seeking to figure out their own relationships with food and their bodies while helping their children do the same.

Diana’s mission is to help families enjoy food rather than stress over it and to understand the cultural factors that lead to food and body fears, including diet and wellness culture, weight stigma, and anti-fat bias.

You can find Diana at dianakrice.com, @anti.diet.kids on Instagram and Facebook, and in her private Facebook group, Raising Anti-Diet Kids.

https://www.instagram.com/anti.diet.kids/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/antidietkids

www.dianakrice.com

💚 For more information and help with the emotions that you feel around food, or the struggles your teen may be having with their self-image, visit https://www.comehometopeace.com/coaching-with-me and schedule a free call today. 💚

As a person who has struggled with depression for many years of my life AND parent of children and teens who have also experienced depression, I’ll tell you – this journey isn’t an easy one.

Childhood depression is a difficult situation to manage. We watch our children, full of life and excitement, diminish to these kids who stay to themselves, don’t interact much with others, and find it difficult to socialize, even with those whom they socialized with before.

In this podcast, we unpack the science behind SAD and depression. This is especially relevant during the holiday season. 

As a special gift to you, you get access to two bonuses this week! Visit my freebie page at https://www.comehometopeace.com/resources to download the two guides you'll find at the top of the page - How to Say No and Coping With Depression. 

💚 Please, my friends, if you can relate to the feelings that we talk about today, don't suffer alone. Reach out and schedule a free call ASAP. I may not be the person you need, but I can help you find the help you need. 💚

Many of the parents I speak to wonder if working with a coach is the right solution for them or their teens.

Counseling (or therapy) has been the traditional means of looking for a deeper understanding of our thought patterns, beliefs, and habits for many years.

Coaching is a relatively new option that is now available worldwide and has grown tremendously. The International Coaching Federation states that "between 2015 and 2019, the number of professional coaches worldwide increased by 33% globally and 33% in North America."

But who are these coaches? What is their training? Does insurance cover coaching? When and for whom is coaching a good option? How do you know if you are getting a Life Coach with good training and a background that will ensure that you get what you need?

Hilary Philips is has a master's degree in Professional Counseling and more than 15 years experience as a psychotherapist. She has created an online coaching program that can be found here - www.alignandconnect.com. We met through a business coaching group and became fast friends.

We have different educational backgrounds and may serve different communities, but we have one important thing in common:

In this podcast interview, Hilary will provide an enlightening and unique perspective as to who could benefit from counseling and who could benefit from coaching, and how to know which service to choose.

Today in this final episode of the Anxiety 101 four-part series, I share with you the main sources of anxiety that I see in myself and my clients.

Perfectionism

Insecurities

Control

Discomfort

Fear

Each has its own role in our lives and each can cause its own type of anxiety issues.

I used to brag about being a perfectionist because I felt like it would mean that I was detailed enough and worked hard enough to be good enough. It was almost like a badge of honor I held. If you asked me to do something, I was going to do it exactly right.

I was exactly wrong.

But I desperately needed others to not see me for who I really was. So I held up that shield of perfectionism until I couldn't anymore. When I ran out of strength, emotional and physical, I was forced to put down that shield and show up authentically,  just the way I am.

I couldn't have done it without the help and support of my own Life Coach. I am so grateful for her and all she did for me.

If you need that support, reach out. Let's find someone who can help you through these issues so that you too can Come Home to Peace.

This episode might feel a little heavy today, but the good news is that there is so so much help out there. Anxiety is so common that there are many places to go and treatment options available to help you get to where you’d like to be.

Do you know the differences between panic attacks and anxiety?

• Panic attacks usually occur without a trigger. Anxiety is a response to a perceived stressor or threat.
• Symptoms of a panic attack are intense and disruptive. They often involve a sense of “unreality” and detachment. Anxiety symptoms vary in intensity, from mild to severe.
• Panic attacks appear suddenly, while anxiety symptoms become gradually more intense over minutes, hours, or days.

How about when to seek help, what makes anxiety worse, and the long-term health effects of anxiety? 

All this about anxiety and more are included in this episode of this podcast.

Share with a friend who needs the extra support that's available. 

Peace begins from the inside out. You too can Come Home to Peace. 

Schedule a call today!

In part 1 of this Anxiety 101 series, we learned that anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress. It’s a feeling of fear or apprehension about what’s to come. The first day of school, going to a job interview, or giving a speech may cause most people to feel fearful and nervous.

In part 2, we talk about what anxiety might look like in your teen and when to get them help. We will also review these helpful tips from https://childmind.org/article/what-to-do-and-not-do-when-children-are-anxious/ and practical ways to implement them.

1. The goal isn’t to eliminate anxiety but to help your teenager manage it.

2. Don’t avoid things just because they make your teen anxious.

3. Express positive — but realistic — expectations.

4. Respect their feelings, but don’t empower them.

5. Don’t ask leading questions.

6. Don’t reinforce your teens' fears.

7. Encourage your teen to tolerate her anxiety.

9. Think things through with your teen.

10. Try to model healthy ways of handling anxiety.

However, the best thing you can do if you have an anxious teen is to address your own anxieties and make sure you're modeling the behavior that is the most healthy for them to see. 

Anxiety is totally treatable and the most common problem people contact me about. If you're looking for some help managing your anxiety or your teen's anxiety, follow this link to schedule a FREE no-pressure discovery call! I'll help you with some suggestions and make sure you know what path is right for you.