In this episode, I strip away the Pinterest-perfect “bonding” myths and tell the truth about breastfeeding when you have a trauma history.

This is my lived experience of dissociation, panic, and the “weird body feelings” nobody warns you about—and how somatic breathwork + embodiment (MELT) helped me feel safe in my body again.

CW/Trigger Warning: sexual trauma, child abuse, postpartum mental health. Please pace yourself.

We cover:
🍼 The dark side no one talks about — why breastfeeding can trigger stored trauma (and why that doesn’t mean you’re broken).
🧠 Dissociation, freeze & intrusive thoughts — what was happening in my body and how I learned to read the signals.
⚡️ Nervous-system safety > technique — why supply wasn’t the real problem; safety was.
🤍 Shame, secrecy & self-blame — dismantling the “I should love this” narrative.
🌬️ Somatic tools that actually helped — conscious connected breathing, micro-movement, safe-space visualisation, and grief release.
🧭 Building real-life safety — sleep, support, boundaries, and designing postpartum to protect your nervous system.
🫀 MELT & womb clearing — how breath + embodiment helped me reconnect with my body and feel safe again (and how you can start, gently).

Why this matters:
Your reactions aren’t proof that you’re “bad” at motherhood. They’re your body asking to be felt, held, and released.

One practice to try today:
Place a hand on your heart + one on your lower belly. Breathe 4 in / 6 out for 3 minutes. Name one sensation, one need, and one tiny action that would help you feel 2% safer right now.

🔗 Mentions & Links
Come hang out with me on Instagram: @themfknempress
Join my community: @thespiritworldco
Explore MELT & sessions: add your booking/link
Submit anon questions & feedback: @comeoverandbringv.pod

🆘 Mental Health Resources
If this episode brings up anything for you—especially if you’re in a situation that crosses into abuse or trauma—please reach out for proper support.

Australia: 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | PANDA (perinatal) – 1300 726 306 | Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
UK: Samaritans – 116 123
USA: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – 988
Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566
Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

In this raw, TMI-filled episode, I share the story of how old sexual trauma, subconscious manipulation, and one cruel comment from an ex silently shaped my marriage for years until a single, honest conversation changed everything.

We cover:
💔 Sex ≠ Love – how I linked passion, pain, and manipulation with intimacy and carried it into a healthy relationship.
😶‍🌫️ The Silent Years – months of rejection, self-blame, and the insecurity my ex planted that I believed for half a decade.
🗣 The Conversation That Broke the Cycle – how admitting my deepest fear to my husband led to mutual vulnerability and instant closeness.
🧠 Nervous System Healing – why creating safety in your body is essential before you can fully open to pleasure and connection.
💡 Honesty as the Doorway to Intimacy – how facing our hidden fears allowed us to reclaim our sexuality and build a stronger marriage.

This episode is unfiltered, intimate, and practical. It’s not just about sex it’s about breaking patterns, healing the nervous system, and remembering that real connection starts with radical honesty.

🔗 Mentions & Links
Come hang out with me on Instagram: @themfknempress
Work with me in a private MELT somatic healing session: @thespiritworldco
Submit your anon questions & feedback: @comeoverandbringv.pod

🆘 Mental Health Resources
If this episode brings up anything for you, especially if you’ve experienced sexual trauma or relationship abuse, please reach out for support.
Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
UK: Samaritans – 116 123
USA: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 988
Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566
Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

In this raw AF episode of Come Over and Bring V, I pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to burn your business model to the ground (again), be 20 weeks pregnant, get diagnosed with ADHD, and rebuild from scratch — this time with The Spirit World.

🧠 We cover:

🔥 Burnout → rebirth — why I walked away from an identity that stopped fitting (and what starting over really looks like).
🫁 Learning to relax (for real) — the breathwork class that melted my body for the first time in 29 years.
🪞 ADHD & grief — being diagnosed mid-pregnancy and using it as design input, not a verdict.
💼 Anti-niche business — building a living “gym for your spirit” instead of forcing a single box forever.
🌬️ Regulation over performance — replacing hustle-proof “rituals” with tiny, repeatable nervous-system resets.
🧹 Clearing the room — blocking energy leaks, leaving draining spaces, choosing fun as a healing strategy.
🌸 Integration > punishment — why loving validation is medicine, and how growth can be enjoyable again.

This isn’t a polished highlight reel — it’s the messy, behind-the-scenes reality of building something bigger than me. If you’ve ever felt trapped in hustle culture, addicted to healing, or scared to pivot, this one’s for you.

✨ I hope you are going to leave this episode feeling validated, seen, and reminded that you can soften, rebuild, and come home to yourself.

Mentions & Links:

• Follow me on Instagram → @themfknempress

• Join my community → @thespiritworldco

• Submit your anon questions & feedback → @comeoverandbringv.pod

🆘 Mental Health Resources
If this episode brings up anything for you, especially if you’re in a situation that crosses into abuse, trauma, or mental health challenges, please reach out for proper support:

• Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636

• UK: Samaritans – 116 123

• USA: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 988

• Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566
  Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

In this episode, I strip away all the fluffy “trust your gut” bullshit and dive into the raw truth: you’re not disconnected from your intuition because of religion, culture, or society. You’re disconnected because you’re not being honest with yourself.

We cover:
🪞 Radical self-honesty — why lying to yourself and avoiding discomfort silences your intuition.
🚫 Avoidance patterns — the small promises you break daily that erode self-trust and keep you disconnected.
💔 Why it’s not about crystals or “psychic tricks” — if you can guess what crystal I’m holding but still ignore the red flags in your relationship, you’re bypassing the real work.
🔥 Feeling = power — how fully allowing emotions (tears, rage, grief) reconnects you to your spirit instead of numbing you out.
✨ Why intuition is survival — your gut isn’t about being “special,” it’s about guiding you away from cycles that could cost you (and your kids) everything.
💡 One journaling practice to try today — name the one thing you’re avoiding, write down why, and commit to having your own back as you face it.

This episode is real, raw, and not for those who want surface-level “woo.” It’s about truth-telling, facing the uncomfortable, and remembering that your intuition doesn’t need to be built — it needs to be trusted.

Because here’s the truth: intuition is a gift we’re all born with, but every time you silence yourself, you silence it too.

✨ I hope this episode leaves you feeling seen, called out in the best way, and empowered to reconnect with your inner knowing — not through tricks, but through truth.

🔗 Mentions & Links
Come hang out with me on Instagram: ⁠@themfknempress
Join my community: ⁠@thespiritworldco
Submit your anon questions & feedback: ⁠@comeoverandbringv.pod

🆘 Mental Health Resources
If this episode brings up anything for you, especially if you’re in a situation that crosses into abuse or trauma, please reach out for proper support.

Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
UK: Samaritans – 116 123
USA: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 988
Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566
Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

In this episode, “Toxic In-Laws 101: Boundaries, Culture & Cycle Breaking”, I dive into a juicy listener question: how the fuck do you actually deal with toxic sister-in-laws and in-laws without losing yourself in the process?

We cover:

👩‍👩‍👧 Family drama & culture clashes — why wog/Arab households make this shit even harder and why “keeping the peace” doesn’t mean abandoning yourself.

🗣 Why your partner needs to step up — and the exact convo I had with my husband to finally get him to see it.

🚫 Boundaries that work IRL — how to be polite, keep the peace, but not overshare, overextend, or let people walk all over you.

💔 Jealousy & competitiveness in in-law dynamics — how to see it for what it is without letting it eat you alive.

💡 The superpower that changes everything — holding compassion without tolerance so you stop fuelling the cycle and actually start breaking it.

🔥 Cycle-breaking in action — why seeing behaviour through a bigger lens is the only way to protect yourself and set a new standard for your kids.

This episode is raw, honest, and practical. It’s not about pretending toxic behaviour is okay. It’s about knowing what you can’t control, owning what you can, and choosing peace over pettiness — without silencing yourself.

Because here’s the truth: toxic people aren’t just “out to get you.” They’re usually operating from deep wounds. That doesn’t excuse their behaviour, but it does give you power to step out of the drama and stop the cycle from repeating.

✨ I hope this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and equipped with real-life tools to handle messy family dynamics without losing your sanity.

🔗 Mentions & Links

Come hang out with me on Instagram: @themfknempress

Heal your nervous system here: @thespiritworldco

Submit your anon questions & feedback here: @comeoverandbringv.pod

🆘 Mental Health Resources

If this episode brings up anything for you, especially if you’re in a situation that crosses into abuse or domestic violence, please reach out for proper support.

Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
UK: Samaritans – 116 123
USA: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 988
Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566

Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

This isn’t your perfectly curated self-help podcast.This is a DNM (deep and meaningful) with your bestie where we laugh, swear, cry, and most importantly… call out the bullshit. In this episode, "The Truth About Shadow Work: Safety, Red Flags & Green Flags"

I sit down with Lurinda @perspectivebylurinda — a mum, stepmum, partner, retreat facilitator, and somatic shadow work coach — to unpack what shadow work actually is when it’s done safely, ethically, and in alignment with the nervous system.

We cover:🖤

What somatic shadow work really is (beyond the buzzwords you see online)

🚩 Red flags when shadow work or mentorship turns toxic — shame tactics, bypassing, and unsafe power dynamics

🌱 Green flags that show you’re in a safe space — consent, repair, aftercare, and true empowerment

🧠 Why shadow work gets confused with harm, and how to tell the difference

🙌 What a human-first approach in self-development should look like

About Lurinda: Lurinda brings both lived and professional experience to the table:

Mum + stepmum + partner holding multiple life roles with depth

Somatic shadow work coach and retreat facilitator

Support coach for the Shadow Alchemy certification

Passionate advocate for ethical, embodied, trauma-aware mentorship

Together, we validate the concerns so many women have about unsafe spaces in the coaching industry, while also offering clarity, reassurance, and practical tools to help you spot the red flags, recognise the green flags, and find safety in your healing journey.

Because here’s the truth: shadow work isn’t meant to shame you, break you down, or keep you dependent. Done right, it’s one of the most powerful tools for healing, integration, and genuine empowerment.

✨ We hope this episode leaves you feeling hopeful and grounded — knowing that safe mentorship does exist and that you deserve it.

🆘 Mental Health Resources

If this episode brings up anything for you, please reach out for proper support. You are not alone.

Australia: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636UK: Samaritans – 116 123USA: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – 988Canada: Talk Suicide – 1-833-456-4566Or search your local crisis line if you’re outside these areas. You don’t have to go through it alone.

🔗 Mentions & Links

Follow Lurinda on Instagram: ⁠@perspectivebylurinda @surrenderretreats @shadowalchemycoachingacademy⁠

🔗 Mentions & Links

Come hang out with me on IG → ⁠@themfknempress⁠

The Future of Healing → IG ⁠@thespiritworldco⁠ & TikTok ⁠@thespiritworldco⁠

Submit anon questions & feedback → ⁠@thespiritworldpod⁠

Instagram: @themfknempress (DM me your takeaways or story)

In today’s episode, The Dark Side of Self-Development (And How We Fix It) I share the messy, human side of my experience in the coaching industry—why I re-recorded this episode, what’s actually harmful (and why it can feel “normal”), and how to find safe, ethical support without abandoning your intuition.

We cover