Coming Up Clutch with J.R. Helping Pro and Executive Athletes maximize their success and significance

When you bring a bad day home with you, everyone suffers. In today's 5-Minute Drill, J.R. will help you transition better between the roles you play in life, especially the transition between the professional you to the personal you. This will be especially helpful if you struggle to "turn off" a bad performance when you leave your place of work - whether it be stadium, office, or home office. Monday's Special Guest, Dr. Anthony Randall, talked about having short memory loss, so J.R.'s going to help you with that today. LET'S GET IT!

[09:34 - 15:15] What's The Drill?

• #1: Learn from the bad stuff
• Identify what went wrong and what you can do about it

• #2: Relive the good stuff
• Relieve what went right through visualization. If you can't recall a moment exactly like your current one, relive something that was similar to it

• #3: Reflect on what you're thankful for
• Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness.
• Gratitude helps deal with adversities better
• Gratitude helps your relationship - Individuals who took time to express gratitude towards their partner not only felt positive toward the other person but also felt more comfortable expressing concerns about their relationship
• Managers who remember to say "thank you" to people who work for them may find that those employees feel motivated to work harder.
• Research: Harvard Article, "Giving thanks can make you happier"

• #4: Set intention for the next stuff
• Identify the ONE thing you're going to do next with excellence
• Then, note WHY you're going to do this…why is it so important? What emotions will YOU or the people around you experience as a result of you doing this thing with excellence. We list our motivation because WHYpower is stronger than WILLpower.
• MOST important part: visualize you doing it

[19:41 - 22:44] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"'Just move on' is not advice. It's a trap." - J.R.

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In this week's Wednesday Recap, J.R. summarizes the three BIG nuggets of wisdom from his interview with decorated 25-year U.S. Army vet and Army Ranger turned executive coach and author, Dr. Anthony Randall. So if you want the cliffs notes version of Monday's episode, make sure to check out this week's Recap!

[00:01 - 21:35] Anthony's BIG Three

• #1: How to tap into your calling
• Key question to ask yourself after you say, "I was called to_____": What's behind that?
• When the tangible things get stripped away, what you're left with is your calling.
• Realize that the only thing that changes is the environment you're in. Your calling doesn't change.

• #2: How to transition better between your professional and personal roles in life
• There's no such thing as work-life balance. Instead, there's healthy boundaries.
• Run everything by your spouse.
• You have to write down and be real with yourself on what are your needs versus your wants.
• Must have a process for letting go of bad performances before coming home.

• #3: How to thrive under stress
• Practice whatever you need to practice under healthy stress (NOTE: go check out J.R.'s episode with Dr. Patrick Bisher if you want to learn more about putting yourself under healthy stress).
• Gains happen in the plateaus. Take it one step at a time.
• Stop listening to whomever is telling you to grow in every area of your life at once. Focus on one area of growth at a time.

[21:36 - 23:58] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Anthony to get his bonus tips and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"The mistake too many people make: they're always looking for the gains…the big jump… Gains happen in the plateaus" - Dr. Anthony Randall

CONNECT WITH ANTHONY

• LinkedIn: in/anthonyvanguardxxi/
• Website: www.vanguardxxi.com & www.anthonyrandall.org
• Grab Anthony's Book, "Practice Makes Permanent" on Amazon
• Anthony's Book Recommendations:
• Reggie McNeal's A Work of Heart
• Dr. Nate Zinsser's The Confident Mind

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When everything is stripped away, what are you still called to do? That's a BIG question to answer. In today's episode, Dr. Anthony Randall, decorated 25-year U.S. Army vet and Army Ranger turned executive coach and author, helps you answer that and teaches you how to thrive under stress and prevent bad days from coming home with you.

Anthony is the founder of Vanguard XXI and specializes in confidential executive coaching, moral/ethical leadership, character development, emotional intelligence, and talent management.

He has taught and trained over 12,000 professionals, coaches, and athletes in the marketplace and in pro and collegiate sports. A retired Lieutenant Colonel, he served over 25 years in the U.S. Army as an army chaplain, army ranger and master parachutist with seven deployments to Iraq, Afghanistan, and Egypt. He also served as a combat arms officer and supervisory chaplain serving in tactical, operational, and strategic conventional and elite special operations units.

And if that isn't enough, Anthony's a black belt in Japanese Jujitsu and Tae Kwon Do, a brown belt in Judo, and a purple belt in Brazilian Jiu-jitsu.

[00:01 - 16:00] Introducing Anthony to the Show

• Anthony's most embarrassing moment as an adult
• Anthony's journey in the military and how it molded him into the leader he is today

[16:01 - 26:25] How To Tap Into Your Calling

• Anthony's definition of leadership
• Discovering your calling and purpose in life

[26:26 - 41:46] How To Prevent You Taking A Bad Day Home With You

• Finding ease with life transitions
• How Anthony's mindset shifted with each deployment
• Anthony's advice to people who find it difficult in transitioning to different roles in life
• Define your needs vs wants
• How to not bring a bad day at home

[41:47 - 51:21] How To Thrive Under Stress

• Establishing healthy boundaries to decompress
• How to thrive in a high-pressure environment
• Put yourself under good pressure through daily practice

[51:22 - 54:10] Wrapping Up!

• Anthony's BIG domino
• How to connect with Anthony

KEY QUOTES

"Leadership is influence. You either positively influence people, negativity influence people, or you have no influence on people." - Dr. Anthony Randall

"Your leadership doesn't come from rank. It comes from your influence on who you are as a person of character, trusted professional, a decision-maker, and how you lead." - Dr. Anthony Randall

"When you tap into your calling, you find your true drive and passion. " - Dr. Anthony Randall

"You can either hire character to create a high performance culture, or you can go hire a bunch of characters and they'll destroy your culture" - Dr. Anthony Randall

CONNECT WITH ANTHONY

• LinkedIn: in/anthonyvanguardxxi/
• Website: www.vanguardxxi.com & www.anthonyrandall.org
• Grab Anthony's Book, "Practice Makes Permanent" on Amazon
• Anthony's Book Recommendations:
• Reggie McNeal's A Work of Heart
• Dr. Nate Zinsser's The Confident Mind

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In today's 5-Minute Drill, J.R. will help you lean into and overcome your fears, specifically those WHAT IFs that are wreaking havoc in your career, relationships, and life. He's going to teach you how to leverage a strategy and tool he uses over-and-over again with his clients - a strategy that has led to breakthrough after breakthrough in their lives and careers. LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 09:33] Confront Your Trauma

• Inspiring story of an 8-year old girl
• The power of your alter ego
• To knock your fear down, look it straight in the eye

[09:34 - 15:15] What's The Drill?

• #1: Get out a piece of paper and make three columns. If you'd prefer using J.R.'s template, go to https://jamesreid.com/whatif
  • Column 1 - WHAT IFs
    • List all your WHAT IF scenarios causing anxiety and fear
  • Column 2 - What's the worst that could happen?
    • Lean into and write down the worst things that could happen next to each one of your WHAT IFs
  • Column 3 - How would the best, most courageous version respond?
    • Write down how the best, most courageous version of you'd respond
    • NOTE: if you're not clear on what the best, most courageous version of you looks like, STOP. Take yourself through a visualization to get that clarity.

• #2: Create your WHAT IF Vault.
  • Create a Note, Google Doc, or Google Sheet - something you have access to 24-7. Enter in everything you wrote down from Step 1 above.
  • As life happens and new WHAT IFs come to the surface, write them in Column 1 of your Vault, the take yourself through Columns 2 and 3. Rinse and repeat.
• #3: Constantly review each WHAT IF in your vault, the worst case scenario of it, AND how the best of you will respond.

[15:16 - 20:23] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"You can't move past something you can't see." - J.R.

"If you really want to knock your fear down, you have to look it straight in the eye. That's called awareness."

"Awareness of fear is OK. Staring at it without any intention to move past it isn't." - J.R.

"You are called to live with power. It's already in you." - J.R.

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In this week's Wednesday Recap, J.R. summarizes the three BIG nuggets of wisdom from his interview with MMA, self-defense, and close-quarters combat expert, Jonathan Burke. So if you want the cliffs notes version of Monday's episode, make sure to check out this week's Recap!

[00:01 - 07:32] Jon's BIG Three

• #1: How to overcome a self-restricting mindset
• Get a positive performance phrase
• Put faith in yourself and the skills you've acquired
• Make your "What if?" thoughts positive

• #2: The strategy to take into a pressure-packed situation
• Surrender. Allow. Accept
• If you're pursuing big goals, there will always be pressure
• Allow what's going to happen, happen. Just flow with it. If you try to control every outcome…it's never going to work.

• #3: The mindset to take into highly emotional, highly-charged situations
• #1 - look past the tip of your nose (i.e. the present moment)
• #2 - play the game of chess (i.e. play the outcome WAY past the first move)
• #3 - Ask: What's going on in ______ (other person)'s mind?

[07:33 - 10:17] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Jon to get his bonus tips for parents about keeping your kids and family safer
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Allow what's going to happen, happen. Just flow with it. If you try to control every outcome, it's never going to work." - Jonathan Burke

CONNECT WITH JON

• Instagram: @nextlevelcombatives & @6levels
• Facebook: @nextlevelcombatives & @6levels
• Website: https://www.nextlevelcombatives.com/ & https://www.6levelsorlando.com/

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Your strength and skills can only take you so far if you can't get your mind and emotions under control. In today's episode, J.R. sits with Jonathan Burke - a 4th-degree black belt in Gracie Jiu-Jitsu and Founder of Next Level Combatives and 6 Levels MMA Gym in Orlando. J.R. and Jon talk about the mindset mistake stunts progress and what to do about it, the one strategy from Gracie Jiu Jitsu that's a MUST to take into pressure-packed situations, and the mindset you MUST take to succeed in HIGHLY emotional, highly-charged situations.

Jon earned his black belt from UFC Legend, Royce Gracie, and has over three decades of experience in mixed martial arts, self-defense, and close-quarters combat. Following 9/11, Jon was a team leader and instructor to train counter-terrorist teams in what is now recognized as the Department of Homeland Security. His tactics have been implemented by U.S. Navy SEALs, U.S. Army Special Forces, U.S. Army Rangers, as well as numerous U.S. federal and state law enforcement agencies.

You'll also find Jon working with Fortune 25 companies, as well as world-famous actors, musicians, and pro athletes. He's been featured on ABC, NBC, FOX, ESPN, and multiple other media outlets. Speaking of TV - go check out Episode 8 in the first season of Shaq Life on TNT - Jon has been training the NBA Legend for over 20 years. And for you women listeners - Jon has also authored the book "Safe is the New Sexy," which is a women's guide to self-defense.

He is an amazing teacher - no doubt. But he's also a devoted husband and father and RELENTLESS entrepreneur.

[00:01 - 18:32] Introducing Jon to the Show

• Jon's most embarrassing moment as an adult
• A quick backstory and how Jon's love for jiu jitsu began
• The biggest obstacle Jon had to overcome during his Gracie Jiu Jitsu journey

[18:33 - 50:48] Win The Battle In Your Head First

• The skill from Gracie Jiu Jitsu that would help you handle pressure better
• Overcoming a limiting mindset by believing in your skillset
• Getting rid of the negative "What if" thought
• Accepting the worst and believing in the best
• People as Energy Beings
• Learning to surrender
• Jiu jiutsu as real-life training in handling stress and pressure
• Jon's 3-step advice on how to deescalate a highly emotional situation
• Tips for parents:
• Keep your family safe when using social media
• Develop a family code system
• Expose your children to the reality of the world

[50:49 - 54:10] Wrapping Up!

• Jon's BIG domino
• How to connect with Jon

KEY QUOTES

"You can't control every outcome, but you can mitigate risk and be ready." - Jonathan Burke

"Be empathetic before you're responsive." - Jonathan Burke

"Put more value on yourself, not your things." - Jonathan Burke

"Don't optically judge your opponent…ever." - Jonathan Burke

CONNECT WITH JON

• Instagram: @nextlevelcombatives & @6levels
• Facebook: @nextlevelcombatives & @6levels
• Website: https://www.nextlevelcombatives.com/ & https://www.6levelsorlando.com/

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In today's 5-Minute Drill, J.R. digs into a more effective alternative to affirmations. He's going to share a strategy that actually works when it comes to positive self-talk and affirmations as a way to increase confidence - because there's a big misconception about affirmations out there. Too many people are taking this wrong approach and actually hurting themselves mentally and emotionally more than helping. LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 06:17] Is Your Affirmation Helping or Hurting You?

• Backstory on a broken affirmation
• When you say an affirmation to yourself, but don't believe it, it's ineffective

[06:18 - 09:24] What's the Drill?

• Step 1: Identify where you're lacking confidence. If you can dig into the exact feelings you're feeling, even better.

• Step 2: Hit the recall button through visualization.
  • If it helps you, get in a quiet place and close your eyes.
  • Think about all the times you felt this way…felt this lack of confidence before.
  • Start collecting mental notes of all the things you did to overcome it and move past it.
  • Are there any specific victories you had as a result?

• Step 3: Create a Victories Vault
  • Come out of your visualization and write it all down.
  • WHENEVER you're in a place where you forgot how you've overcome these stretches and struggles in your life and career, you can pull up your vault to remind you of the character traits you have and the behaviors you did.

• Step 4: Attach a TRUTH to your AFFIRMATION
  • I am _______ (affirmation) because ________ (truth)

[09:25 - 11:09] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"Your affirmations are EMPTY without revelations of truth." - J.R.

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In this week's Wednesday Recap, J.R. summarizes the three BIG nuggets of wisdom from his interview with entrepreneur, investor, and 3rd Overall Pick of the 1998 NFL Draft, Andre Wadsworth. So if you want the cliffs notes version of Monday's episode, make sure to check out this week's Recap!

[00:01 - 10:13] Andre's BIG Three

• #1: Shift your focus to what's in your control when you're getting passed by for opportunities and categorizing that as you're FAILING.
• If you choose to worry, worry about what you can do
• Ask yourself, "What could YOU do to PREPARE yourself better for the next opportunity…as if it was GOING to happen?"
• If you've done everything you can do and there's still a gap, let God fill it
• #2: The recipe for preparing yourself to overcome major failures and hits to your ego.
• Make sure you have a strong foundation for your character. Here's how you could do that:
• Believe in something bigger than yourself.
• Have multiple mentors.
• Know your purpose in life.
• #3: Affirm yourself when you're in the pit of failure and get knocked down.
• Remind yourself of what you did have success in the first place

[10:14 - 11:36] Wrapping Up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Andre to get his BIG DOMINO about relationships
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

Key Quotes

"If you've done everything you can do and there's STILL a gap, let God fill it! " - J.R.

CONNECT WITH ANDRE

• LinkedIn: @andrewadsworth
• Facebook: @andre.wadsworth.92
• Instagram: @andrewadsworth
• Twitter: @andrewadsworth
• Visit Impact Church Arizona: https://www.impactchurch.com/

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Failing sucks. But we can't have success without learning from it. In today's episode, J.R. sits down with former 3rd overall pick in the 1998 NFL Draft, entrepreneur, and investor, Andre Wadsworth. You'll have NO excuse to let failure overtake you after listening to Andre's story and advice.

Andre was a 3rd overall pick out of Florida State after not receiving any D1 scholarship offers out of high school. Ironically, Andre chose FSU because of its business school, not football. He ended up walking on the football team and becoming one of the most accomplished student-athletes in FSU history and was enshrined into its Hall of Fame in 2004. In addition to being a remarkable athlete, Andre is a strong man of faith, father of four beautiful and talented daughters, entrepreneur, and investor.

Formerly, Andre was a minority owner of the AFL franchise, the Austin Wranglers, and co-owner of All Pro Imports Automotive Group. Today, he's owner of several Creamistry ice cream locations, along with having an investment portfolio that includes several companies in the marketing and tech space. If that wasn't enough, Andre is also the Executive Pastor of the Scottsdale-based church he founded, Impact Church Arizona.

[00:01 - 19:07] Introducing Andre to the Show

• Andre's story and life as an athlete
• Recalling Andre's clutch moments

[19:08 - 45:14] How To Overcome Major Failures And Hits To Your Ego

• Preparation meets opportunity
• How Andre's life shifted after a career-ending injury
• Finding himself and purpose in Christ
• Surround yourself with the right people
• Why it pays to have a mentor
• Dealing with a divorce after 20 years of marriage
• Discovering individuality and preserving togetherness

[45:15 - 48:29] Wrapping Up!

• Andre's BIG domino
• How to connect with Andre

KEY QUOTES

"To be a big time player, you have to make big time plays." - Andre Wadsworth

"You can't let knockouts keep you knocked down." - Andre Wadsworth

"You can only control what you can control. The rest is in God's hands." - Andre Wadsworth

"Everyone you encounter in your life has the ability to impact it. Treat everyone like they can." - Andre Wadsworth

CONNECT WITH ANDRE

• LinkedIn: @andrewadsworth
• Facebook: @andre.wadsworth.92
• Instagram: @andrewadsworth
• Twitter: @andrewadsworth
• Visit Impact Church Arizona: https://www.impactchurch.com/

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J.R. gets into the topic of momentum in this week's 5-Minute Drill. Too many talented athletes and executives struggle in their day-to-day life because they're overwhelmed by big goals or big projects. The root cause: the 0 to 100 mentality. Because of it, high achievers are drowning in overwhelm and frustration. J.R. is going to help you apply what Monday's Guest, Dr. Patrick Bisher, calls the 1% Mentality. If you lock in to today's Drill, it will prevent YOU from going down the overwhelm spiral. LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 13:55] What's the Drill?

• Step 1: Give yourself some grace. If there's an area of your life where you're not making progress, forgive yourself.
• Step 2: Engage the best, future version of you. Get in a place where you can close your eyes, engage with your body and breath, and visualize you having a conversation over coffee, or dinner, with that version of you.
• Tell him how you feel about your lack of progress. Then ask him, "Hey, what should be my goal right now?" What's his answer?
• Step 3: Ask that version of you, "What's the next best step I can take towards achieving this, no matter how small it is?"
• Heads up! Don't make the mistake that many people do…that is, overanalyzing the next step.
• Step 4: Come out of the visualization and get to work!

[13:56 - 15:41] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

Key Quotes

"If you REALLY want your success to stick, stop focusing on the big play and start focusing on forward progress." - J.R.

"The progress you make is dependent on the next best step you take." - J.R.

Connect with J.R.

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