Coming Up Clutch with J.R. Helping Pro and Executive Athletes maximize their success and significance

"But focusing on myself is selfish, J.R."

I hear that a LOT.

Then I'm forced to bust out the overused airplane oxygen mask analogy. You know…

If you're sitting next to someone less able than you, make sure to put YOUR mask on FIRST *BEFORE* you assist the person next to you.

I wonder why that is?

If you can't invest in YOU, how the hell you going to invest in others?

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with ultra-successful entrepreneur, publisher, author, and speaker, Julio Melara.

We lean into this "invest in yourself" topic head-on.

The man has been through the lowest of lows and the highest of highs in sports, business, and LIFE. …and he didn't hold back his wisdom during our conversation.

If you want some practical tips to make investing in yourself easier, check out today's episode to get the cliffs notes version of my interview with Julio.

[00:01 - 10:56] Julio's BIG Three

• #1: How To Harness The Power Of Focus And Limit Distractions

• #2: The Four Disciplines Julio Employs To Manage Pressure

• #3: How To Stay On Top Of Your Money With So Much Going On Around You

[10:57 - 13:50] Wrapping up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Julio to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"The best investment you'll ever make is in yourself." - Julio Melara

CONNECT WITH JULIO

• Instagram: @juliomelara
• Facebook: @julio.melara.9
• Twitter: @julio_melara
• LinkedIn: in/juliomelara
• Website: https://www.juliomelara.com/

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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What would you do if you suddenly found yourself in MILLIONS of dollars in debt after making what you thought was a great decision?

Would you throw up the white flag?

Or would you dig in and fight until you turned your situation around?

That's exactly the decision Julio Melara was faced with back in 2008. And today, he's become one of the most successful entrepreneurs in his industry. He's also published several books and inspires people all over the country with his talks on leadership and mindset.

Join me and Julio as we get real about sports, business, and LIFE.

In this episode, we talk about…

• How to harness the power of focus and limit distractions
• The four disciplines Julio employs to manage pressure
• How to stay on top of your money with so much going on around you

…and so much more.

If you want to reach your highest levels of success WHILE building deeper relationships with the people you care about most, don't miss out on today's conversation.

[00:01 - 12:00] Introducing Julio to the Show

• Julio's most embarrassing moment
• Julio's story and clutch moment

[12:01 - 24:42] How To Harness The Power Of Focus And Limit Distractions

• Julio's biggest lesson learned
• Stay humble
• Must have people around you that you trust…DO NOT DO IT SOLO
• There's two ways to learn things - MISTAKES and MENTORS
• LEARN, be a student…don't just take people's advice
• Can't just be one-dimensional in life (all your eggs in your craft basket) - people who are 1-dimensional get hurt more often by their blindspots
• Must be literate with money, faith, relationships, etc.
• To know what you know, and to know what you don't know is to KNOW - this is all about self-awareness

[24:43 - 34:56] The Four Disciplines Julio Employs To Manage Pressure

• PRAYER - the man that stays on his knees (in prayer) will always be able to stand on his feet
• GET YOUR MIND RIGHT - constantly feed your mind the RIGHT information, and the RIGHT self-talk (what goes in, must come out)
• Wake up every day in GRATITUDE
• SURRENDER
• Solve problems
• Lead with purpose
• Serve people
• Bring the energy

[34:57 - 43:00] How To Stay On Top Of Your Money With So Much Going On Around You

• Get a financial advisor
• Give - you can never go broke being generous
• Have a budget
• STUDY - You can never exhaust your capacity to grow and learn…it's something you can take to the grave.
• Talk to people who have way more money than you
• Everybody wants money, but most people don't want to respect it. You'll never have access to something you don't respect.
• Julio's Golden Rules
• Don't get involved in anything you don't understand or control
• Don't get involved in something just because a bunch of your friends did - ALWAYS do your due diligence…1.) UNDERSTAND THE DEAL and 2.) look at the DOWNSIDE first, then the UPSIDE

[43:01 - 44:47] How To Maintain Strong Family Life In Sports, Business, And Success

• Be intentional
• Determine that divorce is NOT an option
• Study successful marriages / study successful parenting
• Set boundaries

[45:15 - 48:47] Wrapping up!

• Julio's BIG domino
• How to connect with Julio

KEY QUOTES

"Fear and faith have two things in common. They both start with the letter F and they both believe in a future that hasn't happened" - Julio Melara (quoting Jon Gordon)

"The best investment you'll ever make is in yourself." - Julio Melara

"You master what you focus on." - Julio Melara

"The man that stays on his knees (in prayer) will always be able to stand on his feet" - Julio Melara

"You can never go broke being generous." - Julio Melara

"You'll never have access to something you don't respect." - Julio Melara

CONNECT WITH JULIO

• Instagram: @juliomelara
• Facebook: @julio.melara.9
• Twitter: @julio_melara
• LinkedIn: in/juliomelara
• Website: https://www.juliomelara.com/

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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Intentionality = the fact of being DELIBERATE or PURPOSIVE.

Curious…

How purposeful are you with your priorities?

How deliberate are you with your calendar?

Is there even a connection between your priorities and your calendar?

Dang right there is.

A STRONG one.

Show me someone with priorities dominating their calendar, and I'll show you someone who's well on their way to unlocking their best.

In today's 5-Minute Drill, I share a strategy that will create more headspace in your life and get you one step closer to your ultimate best.

More headspace = more mental energy that you can devote to your skills and gifts…

To your craft…

To the things and people that matter most to you!

If you want access to this so you can unlock the best in your life, don't miss out on this drill!

LET'S GET IT!

[00:03 - 04:53] Opening Segment

• What's crucial if you really want to unlock the best of you on and off your Field of Play

[04:54 - 13:56] What's The Drill? Introduction to the Clutch Calendar™

• Step 1 - Grab two pieces of paper, or an Excel or Google doc
• Sheet #1: write out all of your ideal daily or regular routines and how long each routine takes, starting with your ideal Wake-up Routine, and Bedtime Routine (if you don't have one, create one).
• You may also have things like an ideal workday shutdown or gameday shutdown routine, etc.

• Step 2 - On Sheet #2, list out the IDEAL times you're up in the day (this is the framework of your Clutch Calendar™)
• For example: if you want to get to bed at 10PM and get 8 hours of sleep, in the left margin of that sheet, list every hour of your day, starting with 6AM and ending with 10PM.

• Step 3 - Plug each routine into your calendar
• IDEALLY, where do you want each of your routines to fit in your day? Plug them in where you want.

[13:57 - 16:44] Wrapping up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"Without a prioritized schedule, other people will insert THEIR priorities on your schedule." - J.R.

"Your most important priorities in your schedule are your routines." - J.R.

"The stronger your routines, the more intention you have in life." - J.R.

"Intentionality goes a LONG way when it comes to peak performance." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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When pressure is mounting and distractions are flying at you left and right, how do you show up...

To the game?

To the meeting?

To the dinner table?

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with 2x NFL Pro Bowler and 7-Year NFL veteran, Mike Karney.

The man was responsible for and became an All-Pro protecting some of the best players in NFL History…I'd say he knows a thing or two about managing pressure and distractions.

If you want a better game plan to manage yours, lock in to today's Recap to get the cliffs notes version of my interview with Mike.

[00:01 - 08:19] Mike's BIG Three

• #1: The biggest threat to coming up clutch more often

• #2: Mike's key to managing pressure

• #3: How to manage your family, friends, and business so they remain an asset to your career instead of a liability

[08:20 - 10:35] Wrapping up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Mike to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Show up with WHO you are and WHAT you believe. " - Mike Karney

CONNECT WITH MIKE

• Linkedin: in/mikekarney
• Twitter: @Karney44
• Instagram: @mkarney44

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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How well do you handle uncertainty?

If you're anything like me, fear of the unknown shows up at my door more often than I want.

For some reason, this type of fear doesn't pay attention to my DO NOT DISTURB sign.

Seriously, though…

I feel like with each new level of growth, I'm faced with a whole new level of uncertainty and risk.

So I decided to lean into this topic with 2x NFL Pro Bowler and 7-Year NFL veteran, Mike Karney.

This former New Orleans Saints and Los Angeles Rams fullback has an amazing perspective when it comes to facing the unknown.

In this episode, we talk about…

• How to KEEP GOING when you're unsure about what's ahead
• Mike's key to managing pressure in sports, business, and life
• The keys to setting boundaries between your career and personal life

…and so much more.

If you want to better protect yourself from distractions and be able to consistently look your unknowns and pressures in the eye, don't miss out on today's conversation.

Time to learn from a pro's pro.

[00:03 - 16:00] Introducing Mike to the Show

• Mike's most embarrassing moment

[16:01 - 32:45] Facing the Unknown

• Don't just talk about it, be about it!
• Remember what got you here
• ALWAYS stick to who you are
• How to KEEP GOING when things get tough
• Embrace the fact that you're going to fail, but don't accept failure

[32:46 - 45:14] How Mike Handled Pressure of Life and Sports in the NFL

• Fall back on your work ethic
• No need to reinvent the wheel
• Keep things in perspective, begin with the end in mind
• Have a schedule and prioritize EVERYTHING.
• DO NOT have to be ON all the time

[45:15 - 49:20] Wrapping up!

• Mike's BIG domino
• How to connect with Mike

KEY QUOTES

"Get up and keep going.'" - Mike Karney

"Be vulnerable knowing it's not always going to be perfect." - Mike Karney

"Show up with WHO you are and WHAT you believe." - Mike Karney

"Don't accept failure. Embrace it." - Mike Karney

CONNECT WITH BLAKE

• Linkedin: in/mikekarney
• Twitter: @Karney44
• Instagram: @mkarney44

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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I stumbled upon a goal-achieving strategy. And it's since become my secret weapon to reaching my goals in record time.

Something magical happens when you're accountable to someone you love who looks up to you.

In today's 5-Minute Drill, I share what happened with my son that has put a powerful twist on my approach to setting and achieving goals.

If you want to consistently hit your goals at record speed and get the added benefit of being a role model for those that look up to you, this Drill is definitely for you!

LET'S GET IT!

[00:01 - 05:35] Opening Segment

• What our family's 10,000 steps per day challenge uncovered

[05:36 - 11:55] What's The Drill?

• Part 1 - Think about a goal you have or want. The bigger the goal, the more impact this drill will have on it.

• Part 2 - Define how you're going to measure your progress towards it. You have to have metrics!

• Part 3 - Find your secret weapon - the nearest kid you care about and that you want to influence.
• If you have kids old enough, use your own (6 years old and above is the sweet spot)
• If you don't have kids or yours aren't old enough, grab a niece or nephew, or a friend's kid, or someone you coach.
• Bottom line, it has to be a kid who you would REGRET disappointing.

• Part 4 - Once you have your goal, your metrics for measuring progress, and your Accountability Partner, it's time to go! This is how…
• You have a set time to check in and update your progress with your Accountability Partner. Is it daily? Is it weekly?
• NOTE: For this drill, I'm not a fan of having metrics that are measured beyond a weekly basis. If you're not checking in weekly with your Partner, you're missing an opportunity for true accountability and acceleration towards your goals.

[11:38 - 13:44] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"Athletes and high achievers have another gear when it comes to pursuing big goals and having a high level of NECESSITY attached to them." - J.R.

"Find an Accountability Partner, but not just any Partner…find a kid who you'd regret disappointing." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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When you pass away, what do you want people saying about you? Most importantly, what do you want your family saying about you?

Dads - what do you want your kids saying about you?

What if I told you that you're one letter away from accelerating the trajectory of your legacy?

Because you are.

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, I summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with Blake Brewer, a man who's turning his family tragedy into triumph for thousands of Dads and families across the world.

He's helped me and thousands of other Dads create powerful, lasting legacies for their families.

If you want to take one more step towards leaving YOUR lasting legacy, lock in to today's Recap to get the cliffs notes version of my interview with Blake.

[00:01 - 09:02] Blake's BIG Three

• #1: The power of your words and how they can hurt or help yourself and your kids

• #2: How to increase your kids' confidence, success, and emotional intelligence

• #3: The three things EVERY child needs to hear from their parents, especially their Dad

[09:03 - 11:11] Wrapping up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Blake to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Kobe, I don't care if you score 60 points or 0 points…I'm going to love you no matter what." - Blake Brewer (quoting the Dad of late NBA Legend, Kobe Byrant)

CONNECT WITH BLAKE

• Instagram: @blakebrewer
• LinkedIn: in/blakecbrewer
• Legacy Letter Challenge: https://jamesreid.com/legacyletter

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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I couldn't imagine watching my Dad die in front of me, especially as a teen.

And if that happened, I sure as heck don't think I'd be able to tell the story over and over again, day in and day out, to thousands of complete strangers.

But that's exactly what Legacy Letter Challenge Founder, Blake Brewer, is doing…

And it's impacting thousands of Dads all across the world and forever changing their families, including mine.

🚨 Parents…ESPECIALLY you Dads reading this…

Blake comes on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show today and shares his POWERFUL story of legacy.

❗️❗️This is a CAN'T MISS, MUST SHARE episode! ❗️❗️

In this episode, we talk about…

• The power of our words and how they can hurt or help ourselves and our kids
• How to increase our kids' confidence, success, and emotional intelligence
• The three things EVERY child needs to hear from their parents, especially their Dad

…and so much more.

Grab a pen, your notebook, and some Kleenex for this one. We get very real.

[00:01 - 12:08] Introducing Blake to the Show

• Blake's most embarrassing moment
• Blake's story of turning a tragedy into his daily mission

[12:09 - 24:54] The Power of a Father's Voice

• Recognize that your words to your kids can either PREVENT them from greatness or POSITION them for greatness
• Have to affirm your children and let them know you're proud of them
• Watch your expectations you have for your children

[24:55 - 35:26] Why It's Hard For A Father To Connect With His Children And Have A Voice That Can Be Heard in Today's Culture

• Your children need to hear your voice. AMPLIFY your voice. Your children need it.
• We act out of our identity
• Social media and peers can shape kid's lives
• A kid's confidence, successful, and emotional intelligence increases when identity is shaped by moms and dads - BEST way to do this is write a legacy letter to them
• You have to see yourself as an amazing father

[35:27 - 37:38] The Three Things Every Child Needs to Hear From Their Dad

• I love you (and it's not conditional)
• I'm proud of you (not proud of what you do, but who you are)
• I believe in you

[37:39 - 44:09] Wrapping Up!

• Blake's BIG domino
• How to connect with Blake

KEY QUOTES

"You don't want to get the end of life and say, 'I missed it.'" - Blake Brewer

"Your children need to hear your voice." - Blake Brewer

"Don't be the limiting factor on what God wants to do with your family. Think bigger." - Blake Brewer

CONNECT WITH BLAKE

• Instagram: @blakebrewer
• LinkedIn: in/blakecbrewer
• Legacy Letter Challenge: https://jamesreid.com/legacyletter

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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One minor change in your word choice can have a MAJOR impact on your psychology.

For years, J.R. "believed" a lot about himself and his circumstances, but he was still miserable and depressed.

But when he started substituting his "I believes" with "I knows," a major shift occurred in his career, marriage, and life.

In today's 5-Minute Drill, J.R. shares a POWERFUL strategy he personally uses and gives his clients. It will put your confidence on another level!

If you want to 10x your career, relationships, and life, this Drill is for you! LET'S GET IT!

[00:03 - 07:32] Opening Segment

• The dangerous gap between what you believe and what you know

[07:33 - 11:55] What's The Drill?

• Part 1 - Prepare two pieces of paper
• Sheet #1: Your convictions
• Fold it in half.
• At the top of the left column, write, "I know…"
• At the top of the right column, write, "Because…"
• Sheet #2: Your opportunities
• Make three columns.
• Column 1: I believe/think…
• Column 2: What would have to be true for me to KNOW
• Column 3: My first step is…

• Part 2 - Identify your CONVICTIONS and your OPPORTUNITIES
• Fill in each sheet of paper with your convictions and opportunities
• With your opportunities, schedule time to complete each of your "first steps"

[11:56 - 15:06] Wrapping Up!

• What's coming up on the next episode
• Final words

KEY QUOTES

"There's a BIG difference between believing something and knowing something." - J.R.

"Watch your words! Your confidence depends on them." - J.R.

"Try leaves room for excuses. Do makes room for execution." - J.R.

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
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How emotional do you get when it comes to your money?

J.R. has gotten caught one too many times in the GO ALL IN, aggressive mentality with his.

Where'd that leave him?

In more frustration and debt.

Let's prevent that from happening to you.

In today's episode of Coming Up Clutch™️, J.R. summarize the Top 3 nuggets from Monday's interview with 12-Year MLB Pro turned financial advisor and entrepreneur, Jeff Reboulet.

If you want to learn from a man who's had to deal with all the distractions and emotions that come with an 18-year career in professional baseball, this recap is for you!

[00:01 - 06:56] Jeff's BIG Three

• #1: The mentality you must have when you're not seeing the fruits of your labor.

• #2: The keys to keeping your family and friends an asset to your career instead of a liability.

• #3: The approach to money you should be taking so it's NOT a distraction for your career

[06:57 - 08:58] Wrapping up!

• Make sure to listen to the full interview with Jeff to get more of his wisdom and hear his BIG DOMINO
• Take action…
• Pick ONE of the three nuggets to work on
• COMMIT

KEY QUOTES

"Aggressiveness as an athlete does not work as an Investor." - J.R. (quoting Jeff Reboulet)

CONNECT WITH JEFF

• Twitter: @jeb36
• LinkedIn: in/jeffrebouletfinancialadvisor
• Website: https://www.masterspse.com/team/jeff-reboulet
• Academy: https://www.rebsportsacademy.com/
• Jeff's Clutch Moment in Game 4 of the ALDS: https://www.mlb.com/orioles/video/jeff-reboulet-s-heroic-swing

CONNECT WITH J.R.

• Facebook: @jamesJRreid
• Instagram: @jamesjrreid
• LinkedIn: in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: @jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com

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