Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change.  

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00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others
02:32-The Annoying Problem with Surface-Level Self Comparison Tips
03:46-Self Awareness vs. Self Coaching: What's the Difference?
05:34-Dangers of DIY Approaches to Rewiring Perfectionism
07:25-Why “How To Stop COmparing Yourself To Others” tips backfire for perfectionists
12:10-Comparing Insides to Outsides Never Adds Up
14:13-Moving the goalposts
17:49-Punishment vs. Discipline: Changing Behaviors without Pain
19:31-Understanding the Why Behind Your Perfectionistic Tendencies

• Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session
• Be Proud of Yourself Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 237
• Chasing Validation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 236
• Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232

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Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965

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