Compassionate Conversations with Esther Kane, MSW

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Psychotherapist Esther Kane and Megan Snedden, founder of a of kindness movement called the Kind Effect, discuss how Megan found healing, meaning and purpose after suffering two losses of close family members. 

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Introduction of Megan Snedden
1:37 Megan's personal story of loss
10:52 How Megan coped with mental health issues after these losses
16:39 Inspiration for the kindness movement 
27:10 How she transformed the perils of grief into the gifts of kindness
33:25 Megan's advice for those suffering a major loss
40:45 How to support a loved one who is going through a major loss

Show Notes:

Previous Episode of Compassionate Conversations on Grief and Loss:

Video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nm9EPEjPxDU

Podcast:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/2022477/episodes/12254659

Where to find Megan:

TheKindEffect.com

FREE resources:

To read articles I've written on grief and loss:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/grief-and-loss/

To receive my FREE report called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:
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Canadian Psychotherapist Esther Kane and her friend Maryanne Pope discuss how they have both grieved the losses in their lives, as well as how to help someone who is grieving and how to find meaning and purpose after a big loss.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Introduction of Maryanne Pope
1:50 Story of how Esther and Maryanne met
8:18 Maryanne's writing and public speaking
10:53 Story of John's death
14:48 Why Maryanne wrote a Widow's Awakening
17:36 How we handle death in western cultures
18:54 Post Traumatic Growth
22:58 The importance of surrounding yourself with the right people
26:35 The worst thing someone said to Maryanne after the loss of her husband
28:55 How to best help a grieving person
32:28 Esther's experiences with grief and loss
42:00 Why grieving and healing from loss can take so long
46:30 Maryanne's advice for others dealing with grief and loss

Show Notes:

Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) and Noise Sensitivity

Video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VskvI9W05VQ

Podcast:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/2022477/episodes/11313890

Where to find Maryanne:
https://www.pinkgazelle.com/

To buy A Widow’s Awakening:
https://www.bhcpress.com/Books_Pope_A_Widows_Awakening.html

FREE resources:

To read articles I've written on grief and loss:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/grief-and-loss/

To receive my FREE report called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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If you prefer video, check out Esther's YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Support the show

Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

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In this episode, Esther Kane interviews Jenn Granneman, founder of the world’s largest online community for introverts, IntrovertDear.com, and the co-founder of HighlySensitiveRefuge.com. We discuss her new book, SENSITIVE which she co-wrote with Andre Solo.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 HSP Series Intro
2:13 Introduction of Jenn Granneman
3:10 Jenn's personal experience of being a highly sensitive person 
7:58 How she manages being in the public eye as an introvert and HSP
10:00 The evolution in writing about introversion and now sensitivity 
16:06  Differences between introversion and high sensitivity 
19:00 Strengths of sensitive people 
22:12 Language to use when talking about sensitivity 
28:38 Practical tools to manage overstimulation
32:23 Difference between empathy and self-compassion
36:06  How to thrive as an introvert/HSP
40:00 What Jenn would tell her young self now as a 'wise elder'

You can find Jenn’s wonderful work here:

Her on-line communities:
introvertdear.com
sensitiverefuge.com

Books:

Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World, to be published by Harmony in March 2023

The Secret Lives of Introverts, published by Skyhorse in 2017

My review of Jenn’s first book:
https://www.estherkane.com/esther-recommends-the-secret-life-of-introverts/

Esther’s “What is the difference between a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) & an Introvert?” 

Blog post:
https://www.estherkane.com/what-is-the-difference-between-a-highly-sensitive-person-hsp-and-an-introvert/

YouTube Video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOMdpUn15Ug

Podcast:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/2022477/episodes/11327301

More FREE Resources:

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:
https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sensitive-people/

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter 

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel, give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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In this episode, Esther Kane  speaks with author William Allen who has written two books about highly sensitive men and is an HSM himself.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 HSP Series Intro
2:13 Introduction of William Allen
3:29 William's story of being a highly sensitive man 
12:01 Why he decided to focus on men and high sensitivity
18:52 Problems HSP men struggle with the most
30:54 How HSP men challenge traditional masculine stereotypes
40:57 Tools for HSP men to relieve stress, anxiety and overwhelm 
47:52 What we can do to help HSP boys

To find William:

https://www.thesensitiveman.com

His books:

Confessions of a Sensitive Man, An Unconventional Defense of Sensitive Men 
On Being a Sensitive Man, Success Strategies for Harnessing Your Highly Sensitive Nature

FREE Resources:

My interview with Nathaniel, my HSM husband:

Video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BF5xnfOWyxo&t=0s

Audio:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2022477/episodes/11307086

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:
https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sensitive-people/

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter 

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel, give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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Are you a food addict? Do you need some simple and practical tools to break free?  Watch this video where Eating Disorders Therapist, Esther Kane interviews Clarissa Kennedy and Molly Painschab of Sweet Sobriety. They take a deep dive into how to break free of food addiction for good. 

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Body Image Series Intro
2:44 Introducing Clarissa and Molly
4:20 Molly's personal story with food addiction 
14:28 Clarissa's personal story with food addiction 
29:00 Their focus on highly processed foods as addictive
38:14 Using a harm reduction approach to FA
39:00 Why food addiction recovery is so tricky
41:36 Sugar addiction
48:20 Assessing food addiction and practical steps to begin recovery

Research Study mentioned:

“Low carbohydrate and psychoeducational programs show promise for the treatment of ultra-processed food addiction”

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2022.1005523/full?&utm_source=Email_to_authors_&utm_medium=Email&utm_content=T1_11.5e1_author&utm_campaign=Email_publication&field&journalName=Frontiers_in_Psychiatry&id=1005523&fbclid=IwAR0y-Dei1QFMPoIs_WjYvQqcOGxMwYJehDRQNmfkcGeVRDDC0BJmQL6tb9o

How to connect with Molly and Clarissa
https://www.sweetsobriety.ca

Food Junkies Podcast:
https://www.foodjunkiespodcast.com

FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/e...

To receive my 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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YouTube version of this episode:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6_sGEubvmcg

Support the show

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https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

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www.estherkane.com

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Do you find yourself eating when you're not physically hungry? Do you turn to food when you feel mad, sad, or glad? Watch this short video to learn some tips and tricks to stop the emotional eating habit for good.

To buy a copy of my book, It's Not About the Food: A Woman's Guide to Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies:

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-About-Food-Womans/dp/0978070623/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1236270846&sr=8-2

FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/e...

To receive my free 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Support the show

Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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www.estherkane.com

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Esther interviews Tamara about how she used the book, “Dump That Chump: A 10- step plan for ending bad relationships and attracting the fabulous partner you deserve"  to end toxic relationship patterns in her own life for good.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Introduction of Tamara Wensley
2:40 Why Esther wrote Dump That Chump
3:55 Esther outlines the ten steps in the book and Tamara describes how she worked through each one of them:
4:19 Step One: Make a commitment to yourself
8:43 Step Two: Do some family-of-origin work
11:44 Step Three: Re-examine your beliefs and value systems
13:56 Step Four: Change your “self-talk”
17:00 Step Five: Figure out who you are and what your needs are
21:38 Step Six: Start becoming the kind of person you want to attract
25:53 Step Seven: Create a strong image of your ideal partner
28:07 Step Eight: Study people who meet the criteria of your ideal partner
31:17 Step Nine: Become friends with people who meet your criteria
34:15 Step Ten: Date until you find your ideal partner

Show notes:
 
You can find Tamara here:
https://www.primalsisters.com

Where to Find Dump That Chump:
https://www.estherkane.com/resources/dump-that-chump/

Book mentioned:
Succulent Wild Woman By SARK

Exact quote: “Marry yourself first -- promise never to leave you!”

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Succulent-Wild-Woman-(25th-Anniversary-Edition)/SARK/9781668001219

FREE Resources:

To read articles I've written about healthy relationships, click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/healthy-relationships/

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

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Are you sick and tired of being in dead-end relationships? Do you end up in ones where the another person treats you badly? Are you ready to attract your ideal partner once and for all?

Esther Kane can help you do just that. In fact, she wrote an entire book dedicated to making this a reality in your life. It's called,  “Dump That Chump: A 10- step plan for Ending bad Relationships and Attracting the Fabulous Partner you Deserve".

This short video is an introduction to the book and explains how we get into toxic relationships, and gives hope on finding a way out.

Where to Find Dump That Chump: 
https://www.dumpthatchump.com

To read Esther's articles about healthy relationships, click here:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/healthy-relationships/

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel, and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

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Resources mentioned in video:

Dr. Ramani Durvasula- psychologist and author of "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist"
https://posthillpress.com/book/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-surviving-a-relationship-with-a-narcissist

Excerpt from an American Psychological Association interview with Dr. Durvasula entitled, "Speaking of Psychology: Recognizing a Narcissist" 
https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/narcissism

How to write the unsent letter:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/therapeutic-letter-writing/

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To read other articles I've written on how to handle people with personality disorders, click on this page:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/dealing-with-personality-disorders/

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive articles full of tips to help you become the best version of you possible. As a bonus, you'll get 10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy for FREE!

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Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

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The book reviewed:

The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World by Martin Olsen Laney
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/49322.The_Introvert_Advantage

FREE resources:

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:

https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sensitive-people/

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People (and Introverts), click on this page:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

Support the show

Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

If you want to do therapy with me (only residents of British Columbia, Canada):

www.estherkane.com