Compassionate Conversations with Esther Kane, MSW

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Have you ever wondered what it would like for 2 highly sensitive people to be in a long-term romantic relationship? Esther Kane, an HSP psychotherapist who helps HSPs thrive, & her husband Nathaniel discuss their own personal HSP-HSP marriage combo. They share the pros and cons of such a union in a humorous & thought-provoking discussion.

00:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
00:24 HSP Series Intro
02:13 Introduction of Nathaniel Richman, Esther's husband and HSP
03:29 Esther and Nathaniel discuss what its like for two HSPs to be in a long-term relationship (they have enjoyed over 23 years in theirs!)
03:48 What the research says
05:40 What Esther and Nathaniel feel are the pros of being two HSPs in a couple
14:00 Pro #1: Being able to be quiet together and giving each other space
16:30 Pro #2: Understanding each others' needs
17:30 How Esther and Nathaniel are different types of HSPs
27:00 What Esther and Nathaniel feel are the cons of being two HSPs in a couple
27:35 Con #1: Putting others before ourselves as a couple
28:30 Con #2: Boredom and feeling stuck in our routines/Wanting the other person to take charge
31:29 Con #3: Being too serious and not having enough fun
35:23 Why we chose not to have children
35:48 How we socialize with others in an HSP way that works for us


To find Elaine Aron's work:

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Book #1: The Introvert Entrepreneur by Beth L. Buelow
Book #2: Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World by Jenn Granneman

Where to find these books:

The Introvert Entrepreneur by Beth L. Buelow
https://www.amazon.ca/Introvert-Entrepreneur-Amplify-Strengths-Success/dp/0399174834

Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World by Jenn Granneman
https://www.amazon.ca/Secret-Lives-Introverts-Inside-Hidden/dp/1510721029

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https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

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Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 HSP Series Intro
2:13 Differences Between High Sensitivity and Introversion
5:42 How do I Know if I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
12:39 How do I Know if I am an Introvert?

Resources mentioned:

The Highly Sensitive Person: How To Thrive When The World Overwhelms You by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.
https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-person/

The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in an Extrovert World by Martin Olsen Laney
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/49322.The_Introvert_Advantage

FREE resources:

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:

https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sensitive-people/

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People (and Introverts), click on this page:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter 

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

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Nathaniel Richman is the Founder and Creative Director of Nrichmedia, a Website Design company which helps individuals and organizations market themselves and grow while also making a positive impact on the world. Check them out at: www.nrichmedia.com

He also happens to be my husband of nearly 22 years and we are near to celebrating 24 years together! Why am I dragging him here to be a YouTube video and a podcast guest? Because he happens to be highly sensitive person who is also a male and I needed one to interview.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 HSP Series Intro
2:13 Introducing Esther's HSP husband, Nathaniel Richman
4:08 What Nathaniel sees as the differences between HSP men and non-HSP men
5:36 Elaine Aron's Acronym “STYLE” for Highly Sensitive Males (HSMs) and Nathaniel's take on it
21:20  Growing up as an HSM in a non-HSP family and non-HSM peers
31:20 Advice Nathaniel has for younger HSMs facing these challenges
36:10 Nathaniel's  message of hope for HSMs

Article mentioned in this episode:

How Are Highly Sensitive Men Different? article by Elaine Aron:
https://hsperson.com/how-are-highly-sensitive-men-different/

FREE Resources:

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:

https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sen...

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People, click on this page:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Support the show

Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

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Esther Kane and her friend Maryanne take you on a deep dive into the world of Highly Sensitive People and how they are affected by noise,  along with their top tips to managing noise sensitivity.

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 HSP Series Intro
2:13 Introduction of Maryanne Pope
4:12 Maryanne being an extroverted HSP and Esther being an introverted HSP
7:25 How we are both affected deeply by sound as HSPs
8:45 How different we are as HSPs being an extrovert vs. an introvert
11:00 HSP 101
13:35 What are "Soundaries" and why are they so vital to HSPs?
16:20 Maryanne's specific noise sensitivities and her "soundaries"
22:45 Esther's specific noise sensitivities and her "soundaries"
28:45 Maryanne and Esther's tips for navigating noise sensitivities
36:00 Dealing with other people's insensitivity re: the noise they make in a productive way

Where to find Maryanne:

https://www.pinkgazelle.com/

FREE resources:

To learn more about the Highly Sensitive Personality:

https://www.estherkane.com/highly-sen...

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on Highly Sensitive People, click on this page:

https://www.estherkane.com/category/highly-sensitive-personality/

To receive my FREE report designed to help HSPs create better boundaries called, "10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy", click here:

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel and give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
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Join Esther Kane in this wonderful episode where she interviews Louise Green of “Big Fit Girl”.

Louise Green is an award-winning plus-size trainer, athlete, and activist working to change the narrative around body size and the idealistic standards often found in our fitness culture. She is the author of Big Fit Girl and Fitness for Everyone, and the creator of the fitness app and online coaching community Big Fit Girl. Louise is also the founder of the Size Inclusive Training Academy, where she educates health and fitness professionals on how to be more size-inclusive. 

Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Body Image Series Intro
2:44 Introducing Louise Green, Big Fit Girl
3:32 Louise's personal story
7:00 Why Louise advocates representation of larger size bodies
9:25 Opening a plus-size boot camp
11:35 How Louise adapted a boot camp to plus-size people
15:00 Dealing with societal weight biases
19:00 Changes needed in the worldwide fitness community to make it more inclusive
24:23 Louise's advice for larger bodied people wanting to improve fitness
32:14 Benefits of fitness programs designed specifically for people living in larger bodies
33:50 How we can learn to love the ’skin we’re in’ and come to a place of body acceptance through fitness activities
37:38 Louise's own journey to love/accept/appreciate the body she has
40:48  Stories and feedback from Louise's clients and students

To find Louise Green:

www.louisegreen.ca
louisegreen_bigfitgirl
@sizeinclusivetraining
https://www.sizeinclusivetraining.com


FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/eating-disorders/

To receive my 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

To order my book: It's Not About the Food: A Woman's Guide to Making Peace with Food and Our Bodies
https://www.estherkane.com/resources/its-not-about-the-food/

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Please don’t forget to subscribe to this channel, click the 'like' button, give it a great review if you really enjoy it and pass episodes onto others who could also benefit from them.

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Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Body Image Series Intro
2:44 How Do I Stop Overeating?
2:57 Stress Eating
3:12 Emotional Eating
3:50 Esther’s Top Five Tips to Stop Overeating
 

FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/e...

To receive my 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Watch my YouTube Channel videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

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Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

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Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Body Image Series Intro
2:44 Food-Obsessed Teen
5:00 The Roots of my Orthorexia
6:57 Vegetarianism as the Gateway to an Eating Disorder
8:37 Diet as Religion
11:11 How Orthorexia Took Over my Life
15:05 Healing From Orthorexia

The article I refer to in this episode:

Orthorexia: What is it and Do I Have it?
https://www.estherkane.com/orthorexia-what-is-it-and-do-i-have-it/

FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/eating-disorders/

To access a FREE 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Watch my YouTube videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

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To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

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Episode Contents:

0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Body Image Series Intro
2:44 What is Orthorexia?
4:55 Orthorexia in Action- Client Example
7:03 Orthorexia Risk Factors
8:45 How Do I Know if I Have Orthorexia?

Resources Mentioned in Video:

Confessions Of An Orthorexic-Esther’s Story
https://www.estherkane.com/confessions-of-an-orthorexic-esthers-story/

Book by Dr. Steven Bratman: Orthorexia: Health Food Junkies: Overcoming the Obsession with Healthful Eating
https://www.amazon.ca/Health-Food-Junkies-Orthorexia-Overcoming/dp/0767906306

Article: Orthorexia Nervosa: Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment of a Misunderstood Eating Disorder
https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/orthorexia-nervosa-101#causes

My book: It's Not About the Food: A Woman's Guide to Making Peace with Food and Our Bodies
https://www.estherkane.com/resources/its-not-about-the-food/

FREE resources:

To read a whole lot of articles I've written on women, eating disorders and body image, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/category/eating-disorders/

To access a FREE 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies, click on this page:
https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

Watch my YouTube videos:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-DU4xM_co9zSxOWZvd08oA

Support the show

Links

To watch episodes on Esther's YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/@compassionateconversations441

Subscribe to my newsletter to receive either of these for FREE:10 Tips for Getting Rid of Relationships That Drain Your Energy or the 6-part audio program, Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies: 

https://www.estherkane.com/#newsletter

If you want to do therapy with me (only residents of British Columbia, Canada):

www.estherkane.com