Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers

So you're doing your damndest to be "your best self." Maybe you're confident and comfortable in your identity these days. But, at the same time, you still find that self-condemnation is a big part of your day to day. Why? 

Let's talk about self-judgment taking place on subconscious levels. How your identities mask the ongoing self-loathing that created them. And how to heal that shit, once and for all.

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Today, sharing a mini essay I wrote for another platform, where controversial perspectives are the topic of conversation.

In so much of this "trauma recovery game" we're inspired to hunker down against past patterns. But is that really healing?

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Ever feel like you've got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that's normal. 

Today, let's talk about Internal Family Systems and the roles cemented in your brain. Protectors, Exiles, Distractors, and their vicious cycles that leave us feeling out of control of our own noggins. Plus, how to work with them, instead of hosting raging battles inside forever.

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🍻 Cheers y'all

Jess

Let's talk about the opposition we face during trauma recovery - namely, from our social contacts who aren't ready to have their own histories and perspectives pulled into focus. And, let's discuss the reason why the battle is worth all the effort.

Don't give up, brave Motherfucker. Remember that what you're doing matters. For everyone. ✊

Related eps: perspective series, filial obligaton series, brain programming series, family hijinx series, NC eps, refind yer Self series, inner and outer work series

So we do this painful and energetically expensive inner work. And then what? Return to the same old lives? Naw, Fucker. That's the fastest way to hit "revert to draft." Once the integrative inner work starts, the outer labor has to keep up. 

Let's talk about supporting our brain changes by building new lives, to enable further cognitive evolution as we keep stepping. 

Related eps: inner and outer work series, refind & empower yer Self series, re-association eps, confronting common human fears ep, early season motivation eps

Aiming for recovery, but finding that you never have the conditions to make progress?

Let's talk about what it takes for a brain to heal. The basic mediums of life that most of us are unable to access in our traumatized society. 

Related eps: time distortion series, "rat cage" societal trauma series, inner and outer work series, refind yer Self series

A brain is busy with all those survival processes running in the background and the second-by-second management of triggers and symptoms. So what happens when that system gets overloaded?

Today, we're talking about the pattern of symptom masking/ignorance, overcompensation, loss of functionality, and eventual collapse. And how does "resilience vs. resistance" change our perspective?

Related eps: brain operations series, perspective series, inner and outer work series

Back to this self-limiting conversation... what happens when our "selves" are limited by incohesion? When we have inner wars over "the right thing," or oppositional memory and emotional responses confusing every issue?

Let's talk about the battle that rages inside. Revisiting "parts" and how they're the crux of pulling your shit together for long-lasting recovery. 

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You've decided to enact new behaviors to change your life... only to find you can't actually put them into practice. You stall out and revert to old programs to your own bewilderment. Something is stalling progress from the inside.

Let's talk about self-limiting strategies for living spawned by trauma. And the ways they become "default modes" of daily existence. 

Related eps: self-limitation series, the cages we create ourselves, refind yer Self series, inner & outer work series

Ready to retrain your brain and behaviors? Talked a lot about these topics, and highly recommend diving deeper for reflection. Hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the full series on this subject.