Overwhelm & Confidence (and everything in between)

This is jam packed conversation primarily about overwhelm with lots of other chat and topics included too!  We talk about metaphors and how they can help us to describe overwhelm and how we are feeling about it.  

Did you know we use a metaphor in every 6 words?  We discuss why "mood hoovers" and "negative Nelly's' can be good for you and that as humans we are constantly judging each others' language.

As well as defining overwhelm, Sheryl gives her top 3 tips for managing overwhelm in the moment.

 About Sheryl

Sheryl Andrews – aka ‘The Listening Detective’ is a coach, listening skills trainer, motivational speaker and author of “Manage your critic – from overwhelm to clarity in 7 steps” and soon to be published ‘Do, delegate or ditch with confidence.’

Sheryl has a distinction in personal performance coaching, is a certified clean language facilitator and level 1 systemic model facilitator but she says her greatest achievement to date was learning what kind of listening her teenage daughter needed in order to rebuild their relationship when they were in crisis. 

Sheryl draws on 30 plus years motivating, managing and mentoring others at work and her own challenges of managing a blended family of 5 children through change, to resource, support and inspire others. Sheryl is both funny, raw and honest when sharing the stories of what happens inside when on the outside the rest of the world thinks you are okay. She makes the impossible feel possible through simple step by step strategies that you can learn and quickly apply. 

Connect with Sheryl

https://stepbysteplistening.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherylandrews/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

This is a great episode of the confidence conversations podcast where I chat to Vicky Booker who is a style and personal brand coach.

For me there is a big link between confidence and what you wear, it's linked to your environment and how you feel which in turn impacts your confidence.

As well as talking about what confidence means to her and how she manages it Vicky shares with us how she helps her clients to be more confident with their style and clothing choice.

Working with people one to one and in groups Vicky is able to explore people's colour types in relation to what they wear.  It was so interesting to hear her talk about the psychology to what you wear and what the different colours mean.

 We needed no excuse to talk about big pants with that on the inside or the outside and you'll have to listen to the episode to find out more about that.

I loved that Vicky shared her advice about beginning with the end in mind from Steven Coveys 7 habits of highly effective people.  Preparation is key to feeling confident and feeling confident in what you are wearing can form part of your preparation.

We talk about the most common reasons why people work with Vicky how she helps them to think differently about what they have been wearing and what they could wear.

Listen to the episode in full to find out Vicky's one piece of advice for feeling more confident with your style.

 About Vicky

Over the past ten years, I’ve boosted hundreds of women’s and men’s image confidence. Helping them to be the most stylish and impactful version of themselves.

I coach clients to discover how they want to make an impact. It might be in their business, their career, or their personal life. I enjoy guiding them to find their own sense of style that both suits them, and projects their values and personality, as well as showing them the best colours and shapes that work for them. 

 I’ve also worked with dozens of businesses and organisations, helping them to deliver personal branding and impact workshops for their teams and clients.

Here are the links for where to find & connect with Vicky:

 https://vickybooker.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Vickybookercoachandstyle/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/vickybooker/

https://www.instagram.com/vickybookerstyle/

And this is the link to the research Vicky mentioned about the superhero t-shirts in the episode:

http://karenpine.com/research/fashion-psychology/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

In this episode of the confidence conversations podcast I chat to Elly Johnson from Well Minds Training.  This was Elly's first ever podcast and I'm delighted she chose to do that with me.

Back in 2022 I trained as a mental health first aider with Elly, I want to add some tools around mental health first aid to my coaching kitbag as well as understanding more about mental health increasing my knowledge and my confidence in how I could best support those who suffer with poor mental health.

In this episode we talk about lots of topics; 

• the links between confidence, mental health & physical health; 
• how the pandemic might have helped with the stigma around mental health;
• the focus put on physical health and first-aid & why there needs to be the same focus on mental health 
• 10 keys to happier living https://actionforhappiness.org/10-keys

 The stats on mental health speak for themselves, 1 in four people will suffer from poor mental health and 1 and 6 working age adults have symptoms associated with poor mental health resulting in 72 million working days lost per year. 

Give the episode a listen, we'd love to know what you think. 

About Elly…

I am passionate about raising awareness of mental health and mental ill health, helping to reduce the stigmas and discrimination that surround mental health, and supporting people to live positive and meaningful lives. 

With 12 years experience as a registered nurse working in the UK and abroad, I now enjoy meeting different people through delivery of the Mental Health First Aid courses, from senior managers of international organisations to self-employed personal trainers.

 From early on in my professional life I have had an interest in overall well-being which has resulted in me always thinking about people holistically whilst caring for them, but on a personal level I have experienced a period of poor mental health myself and, unsurprisingly given the statistics, have many close friends and family members that have been affected either directly or indirectly by a range of mental health issues.

I am an experienced MHFA England Instructor member and I started Well Minds Training Ltd in 2018, delivering open courses to a variety of individuals or as an associate trainer for other training Organisations. I am also currently a volunteer for West Sussex Mind, part of a team providing help, information and advice related to mental health to anyone living in West Sussex.

https://www.wellmindstraining.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/eloise-johnson-b0065125/

https://www.facebook.com/wellmindstraining

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

In this episode of the confidence conversations podcast I chat to Emma Jenkings and I'll let her tell you more about what she does but her bio is also below.

This is a great conversation around conflict and its relationship with confidence my objectives for this conversation where to understand as Emma puts it how to argue well for me it's about how to argue well with confidence. 

We talk about what mediation is and what it's not, about the language we use in relation to conflict and how talking about it differently makes it feel different. 

Emma has some amazing tips about how to face into conflict with confidence and also what happens when you don't face into conflict because of a lack of confidence.

We all face conflict from time to time and there's so much information in this podcast but I really encourage you to listen to the full version to find out more.

 All About Emma: 

Emma Jenkings is an experienced, accredited and CMC-registered workplace mediator, living in Hampshire with her company Mosaic Mediation. She is also a Branch Director for the Mediator Network – which supports mediators with resources, coaching and training and offers dispute resolution services to individuals and organisations.

 Alongside her mediation work, Emma is a trained Conflict Coach, Mental Health First Aider, DISC Practitioner, speaker, and communication skills trainer. On many occasions, Emma has successfully supported clients by using a blend of the different services she offers and of the variety of skills she has acquired.

Emma enjoys delivering online and in-person training to small groups and large audiences, and has also created a range of e-learning courses on managing conflict, communication, and assertiveness. Since starting her company almost 7 years ago, Emma has provided services for the NHS, colleges, council offices, property services organisations, pharmaceutical companies, and charitable organisations.

As a conflict resolution specialism, the aim Emma has for all of the services she delivers is to equip organisations and individuals with the skills, knowledge and confidence to improve communication and relationships. Essentially, to learn how to ‘argue well’!

You can connect with Emma: 

Websites: www.mosaicmediation.co.uk and www.mediatornetwork.org

Instagram – www.instagram.com/mosaic_mediation

Facebook - Mosaic Mediation - Mediation & Communication Training | Gosport (facebook.com)

LinkedIn - Emma Jenkings | LinkedIn

E-Learning and Downloadable Resources:  https://mosaicmediationvipmembervault.com/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

In this episode of the confidence conversations podcast I chat to Emily and Alan from Yellow Tuxedo about having confidence in your online presence.

They've been working together as a real life couple for about a decade. They describe themselves as marketing mentors helping to show small business owners and entrepreneurs how to demystify the internet and get it working for their business.

In this episode we talk about everything from marketing structure to your ecosystems to micro & macro marketing, from seasonal affective disorder affecting confidence to you being the expert on you.  

There are some moments in this episode where we talk about upbringing, anxiety being a child at school again, getting the answer wrong and how that would affect confidence. 

We agree that often there's more to be said in saying nothing when it comes to content but that takes confidence to say to yourself I'm not going to post anything this week.

This is one of the longer podcasts in the series but it's well worth a listen because there's so much content in this podcast that there aren't enough words for me to describe what we talk about. 

My final question was three tips that you would give the listeners about online presence and confidence and of course yellow tuxedo had more than 3, I think it was 3.75. 

So grab a cup of tea and give it a listen. Don't forget that you can connect with yellow tuxedo by following the link to their website which will take you to all of their socials.  And the link is below for the Digital Circus Live - 28th March 2023.

https://www.yellowtuxedo.co.uk/

https://hopin.com/events/the-digital-circus-live-2023/registration

Https://www.yellowtuxedo.co.uk/links

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

 The Confidence Iceberg 

Before we start with series 2 in this episode I spend a few minutes talking about the origins of confidence as well as the things that positively and negatively impact our confidence on a day-to-day and throughout life. 

If confidence is the thing we outwardly display to others this becomes just the tip of the iceberg of what makes up confidence. Therefore the roots of the iceberg go much deeper.

You can listen to this bite-size episode where I talk about the confidence iceberg in more detail or you can head over to my YouTube channel where you can also watch a video explaining the iceberg theory.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUcXjsJsHjI&t=4s

In the new series of the confidence conversations podcast you will hear me referring to the confidence iceberg and the things that we are able to make a difference to in relation to our confidence.

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

Series 1 of my podcast, Confidence Conversations, came to an end recently and there were some great topics we discussed, from the comfort zone to comparison.  

 So with this in mind, I have recorded some bite size podcasts (about 5 - 8 mins each) which give some context around some of the topics that were talked about.

In this bitesize episode I talk through 5 Things Confident People Do.   Maybe there is one thing that resonates with you that you can take action with or maybe reading it gives you reassurance about what you are doing - a little boost of confidence.

Want to know more about me & Enrichment Coaching then follow the link below to my website.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

Get the 5 Things Confident People Do download (It's free - no email required)

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

Series 1 of my podcast, Confidence Conversations, came to an end recently and there were some great topics we discussed, from the comfort zone to comparison.  

 So with this in mind, I have recorded some bite size podcasts (about 5 - 8 mins each) which give some context around some of the topics that were talked about.

In this bitesize episode I talk about BIG PANTS, my mantra that has served me well over the last few years.  Give it a listen to understand why I think BIG PANTS are more than just big pants!  

Want to know more about me & Enrichment Coaching then follow the link below to my website.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

Series 1 of my podcast, Confidence Conversations, came to an end recently and there were some great topics we discussed, from the comfort zone to comparison.  

 So with this in mind, I have recorded some bite size podcasts (about 5 - 8 mins each) which give some context around some of the topics that were talked about.

In this bitesize episode I talk about The Comfort Zone and why it can be a dangerous place to hang out along with how to identify when you are in it! 

Want to know more about me & Enrichment Coaching then follow the link below to my website.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/

Series 1 of my podcast, Confidence Conversations, came to an end recently and there were some great topics we discussed, from the comfort zone to comparison.  

 So with this in mind, I have recorded some bite size podcasts (about 5 - 8 mins each) which give some context around some of the topics that were talked about.

In this bitesize episode I talk about exactly what the definition of confidence is.  I've learnt that it’s a big word that we use a lot and it's often more than we think!

Want to know more about me & Enrichment Coaching then follow the link below to my website.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

I'd love you to connect with me.

https://www.enrichmentcoaching.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gayletong/

https://www.instagram.com/enrichment_coaching/