Confident Collective

If you're like us and consistency and routine is your lifeline, traveling for an extended period of time can be a challenge. Raeann is 2 weeks into her solo travel adventure, and although she is having the best time, the lack of her normal eating and exercise routine is starting to weigh on her mental health. Kristina is getting into a new gym routine, but shares how the pressure to get fit for summer is real and reminds us that we should be working on being healthy and strong all year round. We also talk about the dangers of social media comparison and what a world without social media would feel like. We also reflect on being a product of your environment and recognizing positive cultural differences. Thanks for hanging with us and tuning in to our summer series!

"You could be in the most amazing place and doing the most amazing things but if you're feeling off in your body it can have a bigger impact than we want to admit." - Raeann

What we talk about:

• Getting into a fitness routine and creating consistency

• Raeann's Florence/Tuscany update

• Raeann's hot take on Italian men and how they're different from American men

• Top Gun movie review

• How social media impacts happiness

• Prepping for Greece and what's next

• Ask Away: What to do when you hate your haircut

"There's so much pressure leading up to summer to try and be fit. Then summer comes and you feel like, if you didn't get into the shape you wanted, giving up on fitness. But it's good to be strong all year round." - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Kristina's product: Unite 7 Seconds Detangler

• Raeann's product: Saie Slip Tint Tinted Moisturizer

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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We finally have the long awaited update for you about Steve's psychic reading and the messages she had from his dad who has passed away. She shared information with Steve no one outside of the family knew and truly knew everything. Plus, she tells Steve and Kristina what the gender of their next child could be and where they should ultimately end up living. This story will give you major chills! We also talk about Raeann's travel experience so far in Italy, how to meet friends and take photos while traveling solo, and advice for anyone looking to live abroad.

This was the best thing he's ever done. It gave him so much clarity. - Kristina

What we talk about:

• Where to get Kristina's favorite pasta in Florence

• The full story of Steve's dad's spirit reaching out through a psychic & what messages and insight she had for him

• How to meet people while traveling

• How to take photos when you're traveling solo

• Tips for applying for global entry

• TMI about digestion and travel

• Ask away: Tips for settling in and living in a different country

You need to be willing to spark up conversation. - Raeann

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Read Jacey Duprie's new book "Liking Myself Back: An Influencer's Journey from Self-Doubt to Self-Acceptance"

• Arizona Love Sandals

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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We're kicking off our summer mini episode series documenting our Euro travels and summer adventures. We begin this episode with an update from Raeann on her chaotic first couple days in Rome! We get into Kristina's plans for the summer, products they're loving for travel, and some key advice for anyone traveling this summer (especially to Italy.) We also chat about what we think about the Depp vs Heard trial and verdict, share lots of fun personal stories and share our opinions about how to keep calm while trying to get pregnant from a listener's question. Hot Girl European Summer is ON, baby!

"Don't let the fear of not knowing keep you from traveling" - Raeann

What we talk about:

• Something Raeann was not anticipating about Rome

• What app Raeann recommends for dating in Europe

• Something Italians don't do that we do in the US

• Complexities of the outcome of the Depp/Heard trial

• Not being afraid to be inquisitive about the culture when you're abroad

• Ask Away: Tips for not stressing out over trying to get pregnant

"There's a difference between being ignorant and being inquisitive and wanting to learn about the culture." - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Beis diaper bag

• Megababe thigh rescue

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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Have you ever had lunch with a friend who kept talking about her weight and diet, and then you started to question your lunch order and weight and diet? Sometimes we adopt others' insecurities and don't even realize it. A pivotal part of our confidence journeys has been realizing when we've taken on others' insecurities as our own. Today we're sharing stories from throughout our lives where our confidence was challenged because of other people's opinions and insecurities, and how we persevered to protect and practice our own self confidence. At the end of this episode we'll share tangible tips to help you if you've found yourself in similar situations.

"We're not programmed to feel negatively about ourselves, we are influenced to feel negatively about our bodies." - Raeann

What we talk about:

• A learning Kristina had about toxic weight loss culture

• What Raeann has learned in therapy so far

• How other people's insecurities effect:

  • Body image and weight

  • Career moves

  • Having kids

  • Relationships

• How to find your core values and get to know yourself better

• How to tell someone how you feel and set boundaries

• How our family culture influences confidence and insecurities

• Surrounding yourself with the right people

• Practicing gratitude and mindfulness

• How to clarify your wants and desires

• Ask Away: Tips for not comparing your timeline to others'

"Something I've had to work through in therapy is that so many of these insecurities are not actually my own, they're coming from other people." - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Knowledge is power. We encourage you to read the resources on the Everytown website and find ways you can make an impact. Moms Demand Action is a subsidiary and they have chapters in every state.

• Evereden Golden Body Serum

• Tan Luxe Face Drops

• "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

• Stay in the know with our newsletter!

When it comes to modern dating, everyone is looking for the best advice on how to find love. Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, co-hosts of the Dateable podcast, join us to discuss the most important dating advice you need to know. Julie and Yue were active daters turned dating sociologists who talk to experts and daters about what's working in our modern dating world. In this episode, Julie and Yue give advice and feedback from relationship scenarios submitted by our listeners. We also talk about what to do when you experience dating burnout, how to use dating apps intentionally, how playing games interrupts the real dating experience and maintaining confidence while dating. Make sure to subscribe to their podcast if you loved what you heard for more insight. Plus, you might hear yours truly in a future episode. We can't wait to hear what you think!

"It's better to communicate what you want rather than creating rules in your head." - Yue

"The best thing you can do is find someone who wants the same things you do." - Julie

What we talk about:

• What successful relationships have in common

• How to shift your mindset when you're feeling like you're "no one's cup of tea"

• What to do when you experience dating burnout

• How to use dating apps intentionally

• How the ego gets involved in dating

• Their take on being on the same page about kids before getting into the relationship

• Communication tips

• "Relationship chicken" and how it's the biggest problem in dating

"You have to make your own rules and be yourself because you want to live your life with someone where you can be your full authentic self." - Raeann

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Check out Dateable podcast

• Follow @dateablepodcast on Instagram

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

• Stay in the know with our newsletter!

Kristina and Raeann are answering your questions in today's episode and sharing raw and honest emotions about what's been going on in their lives behind the scenes. Raeann opens up about struggling lately with the sadness of heartbreak. Whether you've recently experienced a break up or are still dealing with emotions from past relationships, we're here to remind you that it's okay to be sad when you lose something you love. But we're also sharing our tips for moving on, focusing on yourself and appreciating where you are now. We also get Kristina's perspective on what you can do for a friend who is a new mom to support her.

"Sometimes you have to sit in sadness and accept how you're feeling and know that even though there are brighter days ahead, it's okay to be sad." - Kristina

What we talk about:

• How to stop judging women based on their appearance

• What to do if your long-term boyfriend hasn't proposed yet

• Can exes be friends?

• Daily tasks to build self love

• How to support a friend who's a new mom

• What to say if/when a doctor fat shames you and how to advocate for yourself

• Leaving a long term relationship

"Oftentimes, when you feel triggered, you need to look within yourself. It's your insecurities that are feeding these thoughts. The more you build confidence in yourself and your worth, the less you'll think about other women." - Raeann

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Leather Laptop Sleeve from Cuyana

• Beis Cosmetic Case

• The Tik Tok Raeann mentions

• The Instagram video Kristina mentions

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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Courtney Swan (@realfoodology) is an Integrative Nutritionist with her masters of Science in Nutrition and Integrative Health and she also happens to be a dear friend of Raeann. Courtney posts daily about the real food and organic movement on her Instagram account: Realfoodology as well as her weekly podcast, also called Realfoodology. She aims to educate on the dirty practices of the food industry and how to eat healthy, with real food, and today she's on the podcast sharing her top 5 wellness tips for women who are looking to improve their overall health.

"You need to cancel out the noise and stop being so focused on, 'this one thing is bad, and this is good.' Just come back to, 'is it real food?'" - Courtney Swan

What we talk about:

• Raeann recaps Stagecoach

• Tips to wind down to prioritize sleep

• The danger of heating food in plastic

• How to tell if packaged food is okay to eat

• Ingredients to avoid in sunscreen

• Why sunscreen doesn't protect you from skin cancer

• How spending time in nature impacts your nervous system

• Unsuspecting foods that can be high in sugar

• How to find ways to enjoy moving your body

• Tips for tracking your cycle naturally

• What Courtney recommends for testing yourself for food sensitivities or allergies

"Getting outside in nature does wonders for your nervous system." - Courtney Swan

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Raeann's obsessed with: Living Proof dry shampoo

• Kristina's obsessed with: Biossance body scrub

• Package/food quality reviews: Yuka app

• Scientific article: "Melanoma is not caused by sunlight"

• Track your cycle: Natural Cycles app

• Listen to The Realfoodology podcast and follow Courtney Swan on Instagram @realfoodology

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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Not wearing socks with holes in them. Folding damp towels. Planning literally anything. We love the men in our lives, but living with them is not the easiest sometimes! We're reading off the things men just don't get that drive our listeners crazy and it's equally hilarious and frustrating. Tune in to see if your submission made it into the episode and if you can relate to any of these situations!

"When it comes to men not understanding urgency, we need to meet in the middle. Why create more stress?" - Kristina "I am concerned for the general straight male population with their lack of ability to make a plan." - Raeann

What we talk about:

• Raeann's prep for Stagecoach

• Raeann's recent health issues

• Raeann shares about getting her IUD removed and off of birth control

• Reality TV relationship trainwrecks

• Why are women better at multitasking?

• How to allow men in our lives to do more for us

• What men do that drive women crazy and why we think that is

• Ask away: changing sizes/getting comfortable with going up in clothing size

"Tracking your cycle and knowing your body is such a powerful tool." - Raeann "Once you let go of the number or size of clothing you wear, which means nothing, and are in clothes that fit your body, you're going to feel so much better and look so much better because your clothes are going to fit you." - Raeann

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Shop Kristina's Cult Gaia beach bag

• Snag Raeann's favorite fitness tracker: the Oura Ring

• Listen to Episode 82 with Eve Rodsky and buy the book here

• "Your Brain on Birth Control" by Sarah Hill

• Follow us on Instagram:@confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

• Stay in the know with our newsletter!

Feel like you contribute more to the household duties than your partner? Do you find yourself saying, "I'll just do it myself" more than not? If you're feeling burnt out or overwhelmed by all of the invisible mental work required to run a household, this episode has your solution. Eve Rodsky, author of the best-selling book Fair Play, is sharing her simple strategy for dividing household tasks fairly using boundaries, systems and communication. Whether you're single and can use this information to start strong in your next relationship, are married or have kids and truly need more peace and to truly be able to enjoy your free time, we hope this conversation is helpful, validating and enlightening.

"A boundary is 3 things: a permission to be unavailable from your roles, vanquishing guilt and shame in that unavailability so it doesn't ruin your unavailable time and being able to ask for what you need." - Eve Rodsky

What we talk about:

• Scheduling European adventures (Kristina lets us know THE time to be in the Greek islands)

• Kristina has a spooky story that will give you chills

• Our hot take on The Kardashian's new Hulu show

• The "invisible mental load" we carry

• WHY women have been pigeon-holed into roles within the home

• Overcoming the urge of saying "I'll just do it myself"

• Developing the "why" behind your systems at home

• Examples of how you can have these conversations with your partner

• Implementing CPE (conception, planning, execution) and minimum standards of care

• Eve plays the Fair Play Card Game with Raeann and Kristina and we get to learn more about their family systems growing up

• Feeling deserving of your free time

"Even though time is our most valuable currency, we're taught to give it away for free." - Eve Rodsky

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Check out Kristina's Elta MD Sunscreen

• Find Rae's Set Active Bodysuit

• Read Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

• The Fair Play Card Game

• Read Eve's new book Find Your Unicorn Space

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

• Stay in the know with our newsletter!

Have you felt torn between what you think you should do versus what your gut is telling you you want to do? Whether it's to make a friend or family member happy, a work opportunity or FOMO – saying no to things that sound like a good idea or that you know would make someone you care about happy is extremely hard to do. As finances and the balance between work and a social life become more challenging to manage in adulthood, it's important to be aware of your options and understand how to make the right decision for YOU. In today's episode, Raeann and Kristina talk about recent decisions that have been hard to make, and walk through their process of how they decide when and how to say no. If you struggle with setting boundaries, prioritizing your time, preparing for big goals and managing finances this episode is for you!

"SAYING NO GIVES YOU THE TIME TO DO THE THINGS YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO DO." - KRISTINA

What we talk about:

• Kristina's Coachella experience - addressing the drama

• Validating how difficult it is to shop in-store and find a size that fits

• Shifting your mindset when you feel left out and your ego is in the way

• Why it's so hard to say no

• How to decide when to say no

• Navigating money/financial obligations

• How to communicate boundaries with others

• Why Kristina almost quit blogging and content creation

• Ask away: how to recover from sleeping with someone after the first date that you want to see again

"YOU HAVE TO START THINKING ABOUT THE VALUE THAT THESE DECISIONS BRING WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY AND WHAT'S WORTH IT FOR YOU – AND SOMETIMES IT'S SAYING NO." - RAEANN

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Shop Kristina's current favorite Good American Skate Pants here

• Grab some Cookie Dough Granola Butter by Oathaus

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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