Confidently She (now on Substack)

Hurt people, hurt people. In this episode, I share how confident women respond when people are nasty for no apparent reason. When you're confident in yourself, you aren't as quick to retaliate when someone hurts you.

Did the church make you feel like having sex outside marriage makes you less valuable as a woman? Yikes. I bet it did, cause same! Guess what? Thankfully, that's not true. Your worth as a woman does not depreciate by the number of men you've slept with. It also does not appreciate by only having intercourse with your husband. Ope. Sorry. Not according to God. Is purity important to God? of course. But impurity comes in 10,000 different flavors and sex outside marriage is just one of them. There's a lot of work to do to remove sexism from the message of purity within churches. I'm here for the women who feel shame and unworthiness around their sexual past. The good part of being human is we all miss the mark and God renews us. Girl, none of us are pure on our own. Listen to this episode for the full context!

You're never going to reach a point where you stop feeling inadequate. Yikes - too harsh? It's not because you're behind or there's something wrong with you, it's because we aren't meant to fully "arrive" during this life on earth. We're imperfect humans, we'll never stop being a work in progress...but that's kinda a freeing thought, isn't it?

Has someone called your jealousy a sign of insecurity? This is a tricky topic because it's misunderstood. You're allowed to feel jealous when someone is being unfaithful to you in friendship, business, or a romantic relationship. God has this trait, He is jealous when we worship things other than Him. This is not a flaw in God (blasphemy?) so it is not a flaw in us. Listen for the full context for this episode about having healthy expectations and standards for your relationships- and why you jealousy isn't a universal trait of insecurity.

Join me as I coach Hailey through how to move into a new season of her life without feeling guilty about leaving some friends behind.  As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another - you become who you hang out with. Finding new friends is challenging, but you need friends who are strong in their faith so you can be poured into. Updates: Marigold confidence app is launching September 17th! Private coaching with me is now customized based on your goals.

There are 3 kinds of "I'm sorry" - each one takes on a higher level of responsibility for the situation. Listen to find out 3 ways confident women know how to say "I'm sorry" ...and a 4th that they NEVER use.

Time doesn't heal all wounds. This listener is searching for the courage to cut her hair even though her ex boyfriend told her she never should. If you have a question, email me at [email protected] and I'll answer in an episode. Letting these limits control your life, even if they seem harmless, shrink your confidence and make you doubt yourself. In this episode, I cover how to work through actually healing from damage past relationships have done to your body image and confidence. P.S. she ended up cutting her hair and loving it! yay!

Your sexual history doesn't disqualify you from anything. Feeling shame and guilt around your body because of your sexual past isn't something you have to live with! Nothing you've done disqualifies you from fully enjoying and experiencing marriage (and sex) in the way God intended. You can't change your sexual history, God forgives sexual sin just as completely as any other sin, so you're 100% free to move on from that. You don't lose anything by not being a virgin.

Do you feel like your beauty is only worth something if someone else sees it? Specifically, if you can use it to get attention from a guy? Yikes. I have been there, though. Beauty is valuable without anyone else seeing it. Your beauty does not need to be a tool to influence or manipulate other people into giving you attention. The relationship I used to have with my own beauty and confidence was definitely not being used to glorify God, but I'm really trying to figure out what the purpose is for me on this planet and it's been a bumpy ride. Listen to the episode for the full context!

Jealousy is not a sign of insecurity, it's a character trait of God and I'm done apologizing for it. The important distinction to make, though, is between jealousy and envy. Listen up, ladies - this one is a favorite of mine.