Confidently She (now on Substack)

Who is on your life team? Go read the book Safe People by Henry Cloud & John Townsend, then get back to me. This episode is essentially a master class in discernment, emotional vulnerability, and picking the right people for your life. Relationships influence everything, you might not notice it right away, but over time you will see how the people you surround yourself with impact what you value and how you live. Listen in to this episode for a download on discernment, wisdom, and why it's so darn important.

Our worth primarily comes from our parents growing up. Especially our fathers, so when we don't have a loving, faithful, caring father it's hard to feel a strong sense of self worth. This is why I love that God is our perfect, heavenly father who truly gives us our identity and value! No matter what kind of earthly father you have, your heavenly father gets the final say in who you are (and he has great things to say about you!)

I see a lot of advice around "how to get anything you want" but in my experience, I don't want to get anything I want. Sometimes I've wanted really bad things. Instead, in this episode I'm giving you "how to get what you need" by changing this slightly. It is Biblical to ask for things, absolutely. Asking for things means you have the confidence to speak up, but the humility to be wrong about it. Listen to this episode for encouragement about speaking up for yourself, pursuing a life you desire, but trusting in the safety God provides by closing doors.

The best way to celebrate 100 episodes of this podcast and my journey over the past 2 years is by telling the story God is writing with my life. Want to give me the BEST present ever? Leave a rating & review before you listen. This episode is my testimony of God's goodness, love, and endless pursuit of my heart through a whole lot of pain, stress, mistakes, and heartache. I love you for listening.

Building self confidence starts with focusing LESS on yourself! You can use the 5 love languages to focus on loving people in your life. I'm not talking about just a boyfriend or husband. There are so many people in your life you can love - coworkers, friends, strangers, etc. it's more practical than you think!

"I don't want to judge" - well, okay...but you realize there's a difference between being a jerk and being smart, right? Confident women carefully choose their center of influence. Confident women have discernment about who they date, who they marry, who they're friends with, what they listen to, etc. In this episode, I'm sharing how I do that - and what God has to say about it.

How do you reply when someone is mean? What's the confident way to handle rude comments? If you have a question please email [email protected] and I'll respond in an episode. When you have an encounter with someone rude or intentionally nasty, there's a few ways to emotionally protect yourself while still responding to the situation. Listen to this episode to hear how I handle these scenarios with grace...because I used to have a rude, nasty side of me that came from insecurity. It wasn't cute, guys! Thankfully, that's been mostly worked out of me, but I still have moments where I really want to give people truth without love.

The idea that we ever "finish" or "arrive" is a lie to make you unsatisfied with where you are right now. Eternity is set in the hearts of man. We always long for more, different, or better. In this episode, we're thinking about that moving goal post of "success" and how to find peace as a living work-in-progress.

Why are we so afraid of hearing 'no'? Confident women know how to ask for things without getting too attached to the outcome. It's okay if the answer is no, but if you never ask - you're never going to get what you want!

Do you apologize for everything? Are you constantly saying you're sorry? Or on the flip side, do you avoid taking any kind of responsibility for hurting others? These are all insecure responses to when things go wrong in life. Say it with me, balance! You gotta find the balance in your apology life. Confident people should be quick to show empathy, discerning about what they take responsibility for, and humble in their apologies for wrongdoing. However, somehow we got it all twisted up and are apologizing for things just to "make the problems go away" but actually are taking blame we don't need. Listen for the full context!