Confidently She (now on Substack)

The reason you want to feel good in your body is because you feel enslaved to "better" - there's very little freedom when you always feel pressured to be perfect (or at least a better version of yourself) I'm honored to have Tanner Hobbs from the Chasing Freedom Podcast share her journey towards body image freedom and how you can get out of the mindset keeping you stuck in insecurity.

How do you get closure? By realizing not everything is about you, babe. So much of what we stress about is a result of a self-centered worldview. Listen to this episode to learn how to create closure for yourself around anything from a friendship to a breakup or job interview that didn't go "your way" (see? again, self-centered) Tap in to listen now, you won't regret it.

Find out why we're wired to fear something that doesn't hurt us anymore...and how to logically overcome fear of rejection.

Is your whole world wrapped up in romance? Yikes. That's dangerous for your heart. We are designed to flourish within a community. That means deep friendships...even if you're married, sis. For my fellow single ladies, too, an over focus on dating or progressing in a romantic relationship can trick you into being with someone who is not right for you. That's the most lonely feeling in the world! Trust me, I've been there. So this episode is encouraging every woman (single, married, or otherwise) to build your life outside of a romantic relationship. Make sure you are in good, solid community so when life hits you with a wave of unexpected trials, you have a village there to catch you.

Some people, no matter what you decide to do, won't support you. When you're starting on a healthy path, unhealthy people can't help but feel threatened by your growth and courage. Your steps make them feel insecure about their lack of progress. This is not up to you to fix or make them feel comfortable. Your growth is your business. When you're growing, you will soon see who is truly supporting you and who is just accepting the parts of you that are like them.

Ohh closure, we think we need it and do crazy things to get it. Or at least I have. Becoming confident in yourself includes learning to let go of things without needing answers. The truth is, closure only comes from YOU.

Girl, don't let anyone convince you that a massage, pedicure, or reflexology is a "once a year treat" - nope. I used to feel self conscious getting my body "serviced" by people. I would feel guilty, like I shouldn't be doing it. Or I would hope they didn't notice parts of my body I was insecure about at the time. This made what was supposed to be a stress-free experience...stressFULL lol. Don't let this happen to you! Listen to this episode for examples and inspiration on why investing in professional care for your body is an honorable way to care for yourself, especially as a single woman with no man around to rub your feet, girl.

No matter your relationship status, you need to work on building out a life you love beyond romantic partners. Love shows up in so many ways, it's not just husbands and kids. Plus, you will insulate yourself from being lonely while you're single OR being completely shaken after a breakup.

But for real, dating as a Christian can feel like when the Israelites were in the desert for 40 years. Lots of complaining, messing up, and the thirst gets real. Here's an episode of the podcast to bring some practical advice and encouragement when you're single and dating. Remember that every man in the church is your brother before he is your husband. He's your brother in Christ who has desires of his heart and is being transformed by God right there with you. Give grace and stay humble, but don't get it twisted - you deserve a dynamite amazing spouse...if that's what God is calling you to. P.S. you can be single and not looking to date, it's 100% okay to not be pursuing marriage as a Christian woman. THAT IS OKAY. You are not a second class Christian if you're single, ask Paul to back me on that one.

You know that person who makes you feel like you're not good enough, no matter what you're doing. Rather than striving to meet their expectations, confident women know to set their own and be gentle with themselves as they focus on that.