Confidently She (now on Substack)

Making big changes can make you regret not doing it sooner - don't be like that. You can choose a perspective of confidence and see the opportunities before you, rather than the time behind you. Change is a good thing and instead of worrying what people think about your decisions, move forward with confidence! Have you signed up for The Confidence Kickstart yet? Girl. What are you waiting for? I've been known to just "take things down" so get it while you can :) www.rebekahbuege.com/programs to sign up now!

Sexism in Christianity - it's all over the place, what do we think about it? Well, the Bible elevated women above their social status at the time, which was a very feminist thing to do - if you ask me. To help in the heavy lifting of this discussion, I brought a guest. Again, I don't always have guests, but when I do, I prefer to have guests who are very smart and provide deeper insight I simply don't have exposure to at the moment. We are blessed by Phylicia Masonheimer to do a mini Bible study on how God clothes virtues within men and women.

I'm a nationally ranked competitive speaker - I've won several state championships in competitive speaking events. NERD alert, I know. But through all this - I know how to put words together. In this episode, I'm sharing some basic things to help you speak with confidence, because even if you're not in front of a microphone or crowd of people - the more confident you are when you speak, the more people hear what you have to say. These tips are actually backed up by the biblical teaching in James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry." Still sleeping on The Confidence Kickstart? SIGN UP NOW www.rebekahbuege.com/programs

Struggling to love yourself just as you are? Can't seem to feel confident 24/7? Yikes. Same, girl, same. Misogyny makes you believe even existing as a woman is a burden. There's a lot to unpack around that topic. Thankfully, confidence isn't a state of being. Confidence isn't a personality type. Confidence is a practice and mindset! Listen to this episode to get my no-longer-a-secret sauce to facing my day-to-day insecurities and how I think about day-to-day things like buying new jeans, etc. Your thoughts are not who you are. Your body is not who you are. Your clothing size is not who you are. 

Feeling sexy in your body is a huge part of confidence, but I want you to think about why sexiness is so important to you. Social conditioning starts young, especially for girls about their body. We're taught (conditioned) to believe our bodies are designed for sex. The more men who find us sexually attractive, the more worthy women are. This needs to stop if you're ever going to feel freedom and confidence in not only your body, but who you are in every aspect of your life. Program --> www.rebekahbuege.com/programs

Do you have a fear of being noticed? Are you afraid to stand out? Women are socially conditioned to expect criticism for standing out, whether they look good or bad. This causes a hindrance on your ability to express yourself. Self expression is one of the purposes of life. I believe and see in scripture that God designed us to express his glory through our unique and distinct attributes and gifts. This is something you should practice doing if you want to grow in your confidence! Listen in for the full story on why I was hesitant to get bangs and much more. P.S. stop warning people about bangs. Lots of women can pull them off, just don't go to GreatClips and expect them to look good.

You don't need to become more like men in order to be confident and secure as a woman. One frustration I've had as a confident woman is finding that balance. How to be strong without overbearing? How to be a leader without being emasculating? Basically, how to be a confident woman without becoming a man. There are feminine qualities of leadership and masculine qualities, but at the core - there are biblical principles that show us leadership is about serving and sacrifice - not about power or control. The bible actually offers encouragement to confident women with capabilities to lead - because God designed you with those traits, He's gonna use them!

What's your go to verse on body insecurities? Womp. womp. Someone asked me this and I didn't have an answer. Why? Because body image actually isn't the issue. It's a symptom of an underlying illness. That illness could be pride, shame, but ultimately it's insecurity. The Bible speaks to how to deal with pride and shame, but obviously not body image. One challenge with trying to solve body image from a worldly perspective is that it's based in nothing more than your own opinion and belief. And your own opinion and belief can just as easily be negative (and most often is) so who are you to say your body is actually good v. bad? What authority do you have? Hmm. None. That's what leads me to giving the authority of my value over to God, the one who created me in His image. I don't get to decide who I am or what I am.

How many times have we heard "like a girl" used to insult something? As women, there's extra work we need to do to believe that feminine things aren't bad...but actually good. It's up to us to decide what makes us feel feminine, why, and practice that when we're doubting our self worth.

Every time you feel down about your body ask yourself a simple question, compared to who? I have another rare occurrence of a lovely guest on the show, Heather Creekmore, the author of Compared to Who? which is a book title I'm obsessed with. Listen in to catch our conversation about comparison and body image and how to use God's truth to direct our thoughts about bodies, self worth, and confidence.