Connect to Joy Podcasts: Circle of Hope | Not Quite Strangers | Time to Come Alive

Welcome back to Circle of Hope, the podcast where I, Valerie Hope, hold transformative conversations with leaders and visionaries who prove that meaningful connections spark extraordinary growth. In this episode, I’m joined by the unstoppable Shawn Paynemiller, II – or as he likes to say, SP-squared – now VP of Finance at Hyatt for the Americas. We dig deep into the real power of legacy, authentic mentorship (sometimes even from beyond the grave!), and why representation is more than just a buzzword – it’s the key that unlocks possibility for everyone in the room.

Shawn’s journey from Brooklyn to the C-suite was anything but linear, and he’s here to reveal the moments, relationships, and decisions that built his Circle of Influencers – from family stories about avoiding “Junior,” to connections sparked at orientation or church, to embracing Black professional organizations that fueled his rise and purpose. Together, we break down how opening doors for others, living out the lessons of those who’ve passed, and lifting the curtain on what’s possible leaves a legacy that reaches far beyond our own careers.

If you’re ready to hear the behind-the-scenes truth about thriving through industry upheaval, surviving layoffs or uncertainty, and the untold secrets of real mentorship and long-lasting professional relationships, this episode is for you. Dive in and get ready to expand YOUR Circle of Hope!

Watch This If you’re curious about :

• How to build authentic professional relationships that transform careers
• Why informal (not just formal!) mentorship impacts personal and professional growth
• The life-changing power of representation in the workplace
• Real stories: breaking into new industries, finding belonging, and leveraging cultural affinity groups
• How to navigate adversity, layoffs, and transition without losing your purpose
• Practical ways to become the mentor you wish you had

Episode Highlights (with Timestamps):

• 10:30 – The pivotal role of chance encounters – church, orientation, and asking for help
• 16:27 – Experiencing affinity: NABA, HBCUs, and finding your professional “utopia”
• 24:54 – Passing it forward: how to turn personal breakthroughs into career ladders
• 52:29 – Surviving layoffs, adapting to industry change & finding your North Star
• 1:05:49 – The difference between mentorship and coaching: investing in yourself

What You’ll Learn:

This isn’t just an episode, it’s your field guide to unlocking career growth, legacy, and belonging in any industry—especially for those who don’t see themselves reflected at every table. Shawn and I dig into:

• How to cultivate mentors (past, present, and future) who truly invest in your journey
• The distinct power of affinity groups, HBCUs, and professional organizations for people of color
• The difference between formal and informal mentoring—and how to make both work for you

Contact Information:

• Guest: Shawn Paynemiller, II
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shawn-p-620a8a14/

• Host: Valerie Hope
• Website: https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#ConnecToJoy #CircleOfHopePodcast #MentorshipMatters #RepresentationInLeadership #AuthenticConnections #CareerGrowthJourney #Hyatt

If you’ve ever felt isolated, judged, or wondered if true connection could transform lives, this episode is for you.

As your host, I invite you into an unforgettable, deeply honest conversation with George Orwa, founder of Safi Nyuolo Safi Community Based Organization in Nairobi, Kenya. This isn’t just a story of surviving seven years of incarceration in a foreign land: it’s about finding purpose, forging new connections, and learning how vulnerability, honesty, and faith can rebuild not only one’s own life but also ignite hope for others still imprisoned physically or emotionally.

Know someone who needs to hear this? Please share the episode, subscribe for more soul-nourishing stories, and join the Circle of Hope, where second chances create new circles of influence.

Watch This If:

• You want to understand the realities of incarceration and life after prison
• You believe everyone deserves a second chance (or want to learn why that matters)
• You’re searching for the courage to share your true story and build authentic trust
• You work in community-building, rehabilitation, faith-based service, or nonprofit outreach
• You want actionable inspiration to support marginalized or forgotten people

Episode Highlights (with Timestamps):

• 02:38 Why George said yes to sharing his story
• 04:41 The truth behind his project and personal experience with incarceration
• 09:31 The moment it was safe to share his real story
• 19:09 George’s journey: Seven years incarcerated in England
• 22:40 The personal fallout—marriage, family, and isolation
• 29:09 Staying connected through faith and action inside prison
• 36:47 Building trust and community among inmates
• 41:10 Coping with pain and being a silent support to others
• 46:03 Rebuilding life, family, and finding real love
• 54:42 Coming home: Why George started giving back in Kenya
• 57:01 Conditions in Kenyan prisons and how George’s organization is supporting inmates
• 1:02:43 The impact of empathy, prayer, and practical help in rehabilitation
• 1:14:42 Closing thoughts: Why everyone deserves a second chance

What You’ll Learn:

·        How radical honesty and vulnerability can transform relationships—even when shame or fear is present

·        Ways faith and service create resilience and a sense of purpose for those facing adversity

·        The vital importance of support networks for incarcerated people—and how you can help

·        How to rebuild trust after betrayal and navigate painful family fallout

·        Actionable steps to get involved or start your own project for marginalized communities

Contact Information:

• Guest: George Orwa
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/george.orwa.795376

• Host: Valerie Hope
• Website: https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHopePodcast #SecondChances #RestorativeJustice #PrisonRehabilitation #HumanConnection

If you’re seeking deeper connections, hope through life transitions, and inspiration for your own purposeful living, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I sit down with Iris Huang, multicultural executive coach, global citizen (hello, Uruguay + Taiwan roots!), and my inspiring peer from the Berkeley Executive Coaching Institute. This episode is a celebration of how two “third culture kids” find belonging, spark each other’s growth, and co-create meaning in a world that demands we code-switch every day.

Iris and I break down how building connections online (yes, on a random alumni Zoom!) leads to powerful, real-world breakthroughs. Hear her story of feeling “stuck” on her path from corporate leader to solopreneur coach…and how a single conversation unlocked a wave of clarity and action for both of us. We talk about cross-cultural identity, what belonging really means, our favorite code-switching adventures (from Moscow to Dallas!), and why finding YOUR circle isn’t just heartwarming, it’s a survival skill for the soul.

Packed with behind-the-scenes stories, actionable insights, and plenty of laughs (plus surprise Spanish!), this episode embodies the true spirit of the Circle of Influencers. Get ready to rethink how you connect, lead, and grow.

Watch This If:

·        You’re experiencing or contemplating a major life transition and yearn for more hope, belonging, and purpose

·        You lead (or want to lead) with emotional intelligence and authenticity and wonder what it really takes to connect deeply in a digital age

·        You feel like an “in-betweener”—multicultural, multi-hyphenate, or just searching for your circle

·        You’re curious about how meaningful connection sparks personal growth, creativity, and resilience—especially for women, leaders, and entrepreneurs

·        You believe in the power of shared stories to transform, heal, and guide you toward purpose-driven living

Episode Highlights (with Timestamps):

00:00 — Meet Iris Huang & the story of our first connection

02:13 — Recalling how a single breakout room sparked a lasting friendship

09:00 — Progress, paralysis, & the courage to start (the domain name story!)

17:00 — Hope and resilience: becoming your own challenger and finding your parallel people

25:00 — Code-switching, belonging, and building your herd across cultures

36:00 — Powerful moments of being “seen” as a multicultural leader

47:00 — Authentic leadership and emotional intelligence in action

56:00 — What elephants and humans teach us about connection

1:00:00 — Final reflections & staying connected in a changing world

What You’ll Learn:

• How to cultivate hope and resilience in the midst of uncertainty, change, or self-doubt
• Why personal growth conversations—especially with fellow seekers and mentors—are catalysts for authentic leadership and purpose-driven living
• The key mindsets and behaviors that drive emotional intelligence and meaningful connection (in life, leadership, and entrepreneurship!)
• How to consciously create belonging and “find your herd,” whether in a new country, a new professional arena, or your own family
• The truth about code-switching, self-acceptance, and redefining identity as a strength for career and life transitions
•  Actionable tips for sparking deep connections, digitally or in-personand why every “hello” could change your life

Resources Mentioned

• StrengthsFinder assessment (discover your top strengths: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths)
• Alison Armstrong’s “Understanding Men” & “Understanding Women” courses: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/

Contact Information:

Guest: Iris Huang

• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/irishuang1
• Website: [Coming soon—stay tuned!]

#CircleOfHopePodcast #ExecutiveCoaching #cross-cultural #multicultural #Connection #codeswitching

Know someone who’s nourishing their circle or needs a reminder that growth starts with connection? Rate and share this episode to invite others into our Circle of Hope.

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How Vulnerability Fuels True Leadership | Ep. 19 COH | Valerie Hope

If you’re a leader, coach, or seeker who wants to create deeper meaning, comfort with vulnerability, and lasting personal growth through your connections—this episode is for you.

Welcome to Circle of Hope! I’m Valerie Hope, and in this episode, I reconnect with my fellow Berkeley Executive Coaching Institute graduate David Ooley for a transformative conversation about meaningful connection, authentic leadership, and navigating life transitions with grace and hope.

In our heart-to-heart, David and I break open what it truly means to move from self-doubt to self-assurance, and how the right circle of influencers and experiences can pull off the suit of old roles and reveal our authentic selves. Whether you’re pivoting in your career, looking for purpose-driven living, or curious about developing more emotional intelligence, you’ll find insight, warmth, and practical inspiration here.

Watch This If:

• You crave meaningful personal growth conversations that go below the surface of “small talk.”
• You’re in a life transition, feeling stuck, or seeking more purpose in your work and relationships.
• You want actionable insight into building lasting, hope-driven connections and community.
• You’re committed to developing authentic leadership and emotional intelligence in yourself or your teams.
• You need permission (and tools!) to step beyond your comfort zone and say YES to new possibilities.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to recognize (and step through) the invisible barriers holding you back from growth and connection.
• Why hope and resilience flourish through courageous vulnerability—and why it’s never too late to take a new risk.
• Strategies for cultivating emotional intelligence and authentic leadership, even if it doesn’t come “naturally.”
• Tools for detaching from outcome, self-validating, and toggling between being a student and a teacher in your own life.
• How to mindfully manage technology, distractions, and social media for connection—not depletion.

Resources:

• Book: “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us” by Daniel Pink
• Book: “Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up” by Jerry Colonna
• Book: “The Creative Act: A Way of Being” by Rick Rubin
• The Daily Show with Jon Stewart
• Berkeley Executive Coaching Institute

Guest: David Ooley

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidooley_thehammock/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-ooley/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/david.ooley.thehammock

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website: https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHopePodcast #ExecutiveCoaching #LeadershipGrowth #Connection #Leadership

Know someone who’s nourishing their circle—or needs a reminder that growth starts with connection? Rate and share this episode to invite others into our Circle of Hope.

Join us in the conversation—drop a comment below if this story resonated, or share how you’re rooting your life in hope and resilience! Don’t forget to subscribe—your next breakthrough might be just one episode away.

In this heartfelt episode of Circle of Hope, I’m joined by Jérôme Vaillancourt, from Montreal, Canada, for an inspiring and vulnerable conversation about connection, coherence, and healing. Jérôme and I reminisce on how our friendship sparked in the most unlikely of places—a randomly assigned, two-minute breakout room during a HeartMath Institute course at the height of the pandemic. What began as a fleeting encounter blossomed into a monthly circle of support that’s provided healing, growth, and safety for both of us (and others in our group) through job changes, personal upheavals, and the intricacies of navigating life’s challenges.

We talk candidly about Jérôme’s journey from being a logic-driven, technically-focused airline pilot—through a life-altering depression—to someone who leads with intention, openness, and heart. He shares how our group supported him during his darkest moments, the unique safety we found together, and how energetic, heart-based connections can be just as vital as frequent communication. We discuss everything from the science of the heart to the magic of intuition, navigating relationships with new intention, and why “coherence” isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a lived experience that can transform even the most logic-driven environments.

Watch This If:

• You’re craving deeper, more meaningful connections in your life or work.
• You’ve ever felt isolated and wondered how to rebuild or nurture your support circle.
• You’re curious about heart-based science, emotional coherence, or the HeartMath Institute.
• You want practical tips for fostering psychological safety and vulnerability in groups.
• You’re navigating major life transitions, such as career changes or mental health challenges.
• You believe—or want to believe—that even brief encounters can change your life.

Quotes to Remember:

• “We don’t have walls in that group. We’re just standing on hard ground.” —Jérôme Vaillancourt
• “Relationships are actually not always just built in conversation and dialogue…but also in the intention that we hold about the people that we’re in relationship with.” —Valerie Hope
• “Take care of yourself and you take care of your relationships. Like really.” —Jérôme Vaillancourt
• “The courage that we have in sharing what’s going on with us…no matter where we are on the spectrum or how intense it is…the intention is always that it be a healing conversation.” —Valerie Hope

What You’ll Learn:

• How even brief, unexpected connections can blossom into powerful support circles.
• The science and practice of “coherence” and its impact on both individuals and groups.
• Why psychological safety and vulnerability are foundational for meaningful connection.
• Ways to nurture relationships energetically—even if you’re not in constant contact.
• How intention and heart-based practices can reshape your approach to work, life, and healing from major challenges.
• Practical ideas for reaching out, showing up, and anchoring a sense of community, even when others fade away or circumstances change.
• The subtle—but powerful—ways you can make a positive impact on everyone around you, seen and unseen.

Contact Information:

Guest: Jérôme Vaillancourt

• Website: https://ucoaching.art/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/j%C3%A9r%C3%B4me-vaillancourt-conf%C3%A9rencier-pilote-coh%C3%A9rence-physiologique?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=android_app

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHope #HeartMath #IntentionalConnections #HealingThroughCommunity #EmotionalCoherence

In this lively, heartfelt episode of The Circle of Hope, I sit down with my niece Lucy Hope, a rising high school senior—and, fittingly, my summer virtual assistant! We unravel the power of curiosity, listening, and connecting with those who help us grow. From Lucy’s early days as the inquisitive toddler in our family kitchen to her navigation of high school clubs, friendships, and the dynamic landscape of a big, bustling household, we explore how quietly observed details can lead to genuine influence and leadership.

Lucy shares her journey as a naturally introverted observer who discovered that being a good listener can make you not only a better friend, but also a thoughtful gift-giver, a connector, and, unexpectedly, a leader. We dive into fascinating discoveries about “human design,” how understanding your preference for invitations (“wait to be invited” versus “initiate or respond”) can shape your opportunities and confidence. Along the way, we discuss sibling relationships, family dynamics, generational gaps, and practical advice for both adults and teens about listening, mentoring, and finding “your people.” Whether you’re a quiet teen, a parent, or anyone hungry for authentic connection, this is a must-listen for practical wisdom infused with warmth and humor.

Watch This If:

• You’re a teen (or parent of one) navigating friendships, clubs, or new environments.
• You want to communicate better with young people in your life.
• You appreciate the hidden power of being a great listener or want to develop it.
• You’re interested in self-awareness approaches like “human design” or discovering your strengths.
• You value real-life stories and advice about forging meaningful connections and support circles.
• You’re curious about relatable intergenerational family wisdom and advice.

Quotes to Remember:

• “Just being able to understand other people and then give them the empathy that they deserve … is really important.” – Lucy Hope
• “There’s nothing worse than telling yourself you’re too old to try this or you couldn’t try this … If it interests you, just do it.” – Lucy Hope
• “You don’t need to have one person be everything for you. … We do need a circle of people.” – Valerie Hope
• “Sometimes, it’d be more helpful if, instead of me saying, ‘This is what’s happening at school,’ they asked, ‘How is school? What’s going on?’ … Sometimes I don’t want to be complaining … just having that space to bring it up in a conversation is really helpful.” – Lucy Hope

What You’ll Learn:

• Why listening quietly can make you more influential and empathetic—especially in friendships and family.
• How your unique style of initiating, waiting for invitations, or responding can open doors to new opportunities—and why it matters for teens and adults.
• The power and practicality of forming your “circle of hope” with different people for different needs (not expecting one person to be your “everything”).
• Helpful ways for parents and adults to support and communicate with teens (hint: don’t rush to “fix” every problem!).
• Real advice for young people feeling alone or starting fresh: how to make friends, be yourself, and build authentic connections.
• The surprising benefits of trying new activities, being open to invitations, and knowing when to move on (“never feel boxed in”).
• Generational wisdom: stories of resilience, reinvention, and curiosity passed through family.

Contact Information:

Guest: Lucy Hope

• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/i.love.llucyy/

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHope #TeenWisdom #ActiveListening #FamilyConnections #HumanDesign

In this special episode of The Circle of Hope, I’m joined by the incredible Ingrid Gavshon—accomplished documentary filmmaker, masterful coach, and a dear friend who truly embodies compassion and connection across cultures. Our conversation is a soulful exploration of how meaningful relationships are fostered, especially with those who may seem different from us on the surface. Ingrid draws from her rich experiences growing up in South Africa during apartheid, traveling the world, and sitting across from controversial figures as a filmmaker. Her insights remind us how vital it is to move past headlines and labels, and to “see people for who they are, rather than what they represent.”

Together, we talk about the power of asking real, curious questions, how to navigate cultural differences with humility, and the courage it takes to find humanity even in the most polarizing situations. We share personal stories—everything from dealing with tough conversations in family, learning to listen for what’s not being said, to transforming friction in teams and cross-cultural encounters into genuine understanding. If you’ve ever wondered how to hold space for difficult dialogue, become a better listener, or simply rekindle the joy of human connection in a divided world, this conversation is for you.

Watch This If:

• You want to learn how to connect deeply with people across cultural, political, or personal divides
• You struggle with “hot button” conversations and are looking for ways to navigate them gracefully
• You’re curious about the behind-the-scenes work of a documentary filmmaker
• You value empathy, curiosity, and courageous conversations
• You want practical tips to foster belonging and understanding at work or in your personal life

Quotes to Remember:

• “We both see people for who they are rather than for what they represent.” – Ingrid Gavshon
• “If you really know somebody else, you probably find some level of commonality… but it’s about listening for what’s not being said.” – Ingrid Gavshon
• “Our job is to get in alignment with that way of serving... There’s not one right way to do it.” – Valerie Hope
• “People aren’t their politics. They have lives… hopes and dreams and struggles.” – Ingrid Gavshon

What You’ll Learn:

• How to ask deeper questions that invite openness, not defensiveness
• The difference between seeking to understand vs. seeking to win debates
• Cross-cultural communication insights—preparation vs. organic connection
• Strategies for defusing tension and bringing humanity back to polarized topics
• The transformative power of storytelling, curiosity, and community
• How to identify your own intentions in difficult conversations
• That there are many valid ways to contribute to social change

Contact Information:

Guest: Ingrid Gavshon

• LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/ingrid-gavshon
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ingrid-gavshon

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHope #CourageousConversation #CuriosityConnects #GlobalCitizenship #EmpathyInAction

In this powerful episode of The Circle of Hope, I’m thrilled to welcome Linda Balola, a lecturer and peacebuilder whose journey from the Democratic Republic of Congo to Rwanda has been marked by transformation, learning, and the courage to shift entire communities toward healing. Our story together began serendipitously in Nairobi, Kenya, when Linda recognized me from my TEDx talk—a beautiful reminder of how messages ripple globally, touching lives we may never even imagine reaching.

Linda opens up about her personal evolution, moving from deep-seated judgments and cultural stereotypes to embracing the transformative principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). We dig into how she not only teaches these practices at the Protestant University of Rwanda but lives them—helping young people from conflict-impacted backgrounds explore empathy, process trauma, and rewrite how they relate to themselves and others. Our candid conversation explores the role of needs, feelings, and strategies for authentic connection and dives into our own real-life struggles and triumphs using NVC (including my very human experience navigating emotions at Costco!). If you’re curious about building peace in divided communities, shifting personal relationships, or simply want to understand yourself and others more deeply, this heartfelt exchange is for you.

Watch This If:

• You’re curious about how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) works in real life
• You want practical strategies for transforming conflict—personally or within your community
• You're interested in peacebuilding, empathy, and authentic relationships
• You’ve ever struggled with communicating your needs, expressing emotions, or breaking through stereotypes
• You’re looking for inspiration from someone living and teaching hope amid challenging circumstances

Quotes to Remember:

• “Everything we do, we do to meet the needs... Even if you commit something that is not good, know that you still have something good inside.” – Linda Balola
• “Sometimes our needs are not meant to be met by other people. The need that we have are needs that we need to fulfill—we then select strategies that would address that need for us.” – Valerie Hope
• “Nonviolent Communication is not a therapy session, but it can heal.” – Linda Balola
• “Beyond right or wrong, we can still connect.” – Linda Balola

What You’ll Learn:

• The fundamental components of Nonviolent Communication and their practical application
• How to shift from habitual judgment (“jackal”) to empathic (“giraffe”) listening and expression
• The importance of identifying and owning your own needs in moments of conflict
• How transparency and self-connection foster resilience and understanding, even in trauma-impacted settings
• Ways to compassionately hold space for strong emotions—both your own and others’
• Why cultural and personal stereotypes can be overcome through intentional connection
• How even compliments and praise can be forms of judgment, and the value of specificity in affirmation

Contact Information:

Guest: Linda Balola

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindaducc?igsh=am44NDBpOTFxNDNl
• LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/linda-balola-sylvine-2a2b36183
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1HwgWCZrm1/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

#CircleOfHope #NonviolentCommunication #PeaceBuilding #Empathy #TransformConflict

In this heartfelt and laughter-filled episode of The Circle of Hope, I reconnect with my brilliant, soulful, and multifaceted friend, AJ Thomas. Our journey together—spanning unexpected musical moments, executive coaching at Berkeley, and transformative collaborations at Google X—sets the stage for a candid conversation about the art of building deep, enduring connections both personally and professionally. AJ shares her inspiring career arc: venturing from corporate leadership at Google and Alphabet to founding her own VC firm, Good Trouble Ventures, where she now pioneers the fusion of creativity, technology, and impact.

We dive deep into what it really takes to create relationships that transcend time and space—the magic that allows you to pick up with someone right where you left off. AJ gives us a peek into her journey, the influence of her grandfather, her “why not me?” moments, and how belonging starts from within. Together, we explore the challenges and opportunities of bridging humanity and technology, the importance of authentic curiosity, and the power of being your best (and truest) self in every room you enter. It’s a rich, soulful, and joy-infused conversation you won’t want to miss!

Watch This If:

• You’re curious about making and sustaining deep personal or professional relationships
• You want to know how to switch—and thrive—in radically different careers
• You’re seeking inspiration about blending creativity and business
• You wonder how to stay grounded as technology transforms our lives
• You want tactical tips on creating authentic, resilient connections
• You need a reminder of the power (and importance) of belonging

Episode Highlights:

• [00:01:15] – The unforgettable moment AJ serenaded our group with “Over the Rainbow” and how music ignites connection
• [00:04:57] – AJ and I reflect on the roots of our friendship and what makes “soul surfing” conversations so special
• [00:10:13] – The secret sauce of enduring friendships: mutual curiosity and presence
• [00:15:29] – How AJ leapt from Google X into venture capital, guided by curiosity and creativity
• [00:30:37] – Being the “Selma Bridge”: AJ’s vision for connecting creatives and technologists
• [00:36:03] – The lessons AJ’s grandfather and children instilled—about competition, courage, and staying true
• [00:45:20] – Navigating connection in the age of AI: why being a great human matters more than ever

Quotes to Remember:

• “You must first belong to you so that whatever room you walk into, you’re already present.” – AJ Thomas
• “Every job I’ve had, I’ve never done before. That’s just my pioneering spirit.” – AJ Thomas
• “Mutual curiosity is the basis of deep connection, in any relationship.” – Valerie Hope
• “We are one decision or connection away from a radically different life.” – AJ Thomas

What You’ll Learn:

• How to foster lasting connections that survive distance and time
• The role of mutual curiosity in deep personal and professional relationships
• Strategies for reinventing your career—even when it means starting from scratch
• The importance of bringing your full, creative self into every space
• How to blend business, creativity, and service to make real impact
• Why belonging is foundational—and starts with belonging to yourself
• Navigating relationships and leadership in a rapidly evolving, tech-driven world

Contact Information:

Guest: AJ Thomas

• Website: https://www.thetroublemakerlab.com
• Website: https://www.helloajthomas.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helloajthomas/?hl=en
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chaospilot

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

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In this episode of The Circle of Hope, I sit down with my long-time friend and colleague, Rahim Saafir, to explore two decades of friendship, growth, and the power of authentic relationships. We reminisce about our journey at the Hyatt Regency DFW, where Rahim began working in security after leaving government work and transitioned into Human Resources—thanks, in part, to his unstoppable drive and the support of key mentors and connectors. Rahim shares how a chance encounter at a Taco Bueno drive-thru opened doors to the hospitality industry and ultimately to a fulfilling career as Director of Human Resources.

But this episode isn’t just about career moves. It’s a heartfelt exploration of what it means to give freely, the challenges of family and friendship, and the importance of making clear, actionable requests for support. Rahim opens up about receiving difficult health news, how he leaned on connections outside of family, and why he believes in paying kindness forward—always “plus one.” If you’ve ever struggled with how to create genuine bonds or wondered why giving matters, you’ll find wisdom, warmth, and practical takeaways in our conversation.

Watch This If:

• You’re looking to deepen your relationships and create a circle of genuine connections
• You want inspiration for overcoming career roadblocks or changing industries
• You struggle with asking for support from friends or family
• You’re seeking motivation to help others and “pay it forward”
• You value transparency and authenticity in both personal and professional circles

Episode Highlights:

• [00:01:07] Rahim shares the story of starting at Hyatt in security and the hurdles he faced transitioning into HR
• [00:04:06] The heart behind Rahim’s “gate opener” mentality: why he’s committed to lifting others up
• [00:07:18] From flipping tacos to hospitality: the chance encounter that changed Rahim’s career direction
• [00:13:31] What Rahim looks for when connecting people to opportunities—and how Valerie does the same
• [00:21:20] Rahim’s candid advice to his children (and listeners): how to choose and define true friendships
• [00:24:22] Navigating tough times: Rahim opens up about his cancer diagnosis and which connections supported him most
• [00:45:46] Valerie and Rahim discuss the importance of making explicit requests to get your needs met

Quotes to Remember:

• “In order to receive a blessing... you’ve got to give one, if not more.” —Rahim Saafir
• “Once you establish a genuine connection with someone, it’s there... even if you only talk two or three times a year.” —Rahim Saafir
• “Be very careful who you have in your circle and call friend... I have a lot of associates, but I have very few friends.” —Rahim Saafir
• “The easiest way to get that need met is to make a request... not just holding them to an invisible standard or an unspoken expectation.” —Valerie Hope

What You’ll Learn:

• How a small act of kindness or connection can jumpstart an unexpected career path
• The importance of being “a gate opener”—using your influence to help others
• The value of transparency and clear requests in deepening relationships
• Why giving to others often leads to personal fulfillment and growth
• How to discern genuine relationships and teach others (especially your children) to do the same
• Tips for maintaining meaningful connections across time and distance
• The difference between asking for help from family vs. mentors or friends

Let’s Stay Connected:

Guest: Rahim Saafir

• LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/rahimsaafir

Host: Valerie Hope

• Website:https://www.valeriehope.com
• Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/
• LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/valeriehope/
• Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope
• Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@ConnecttoJoy

Production Support: Lucy Hope - Podcast Editing, Copy, and Publishing.

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