Connecting with SuperKate: For women who can handle it all, and are tired of having to.

SuperKate welcomes guest Brittany Martin-Déjean, who shares how a lifetime of box-checking and perfectionism—shaped in part by her brother’s death and a drive to stay safe and belong—led her to identify a pattern she calls FOMU (fear of messing up). After leaving Airbnb in early 2025 and starting her own business, Brittany began questioning overthinking, people-pleasing, and the physical stress responses that fuel avoidance, self-punishment, and limiting beliefs, especially around mistakes. She describes separating facts from the stories we attach to outcomes, building confidence by trusting you can handle results, and using body-based tools to interrupt fear. Brittany also explains creating the Intentional Joy Club—15-minute Zoom dance parties twice a month—to make fun accessible, reduce stress, and bring lightness into entrepreneurship and life, and she shares upcoming dance and FOMU webinar/program details.

www.fomutoflow.com - (Webinar on Wed 10/28, 12pm ET) 
www.intentionaljoyclub.com (Dance party on Tues 11/10, 3pm ET) 

You can find her on Instagram and Tik Tok in these three locations: 
@fearofmessingup
@intentionaljoyclub
@brittanymartindejean

00:00 Meet Brittany
01:03 Boxes and Belonging
04:24 Breaking Perfectionism
09:08 Parenting for True Self
12:03 FOMU Cycle Explained
14:39 Mistakes and Stories
15:30 Recovery and Self Talk
22:55 Confidence and Outcomes
26:37 Fear and Flashlight
29:39 Name the Fear
30:23 Feel It in Your Body
31:29 Move and Breathe It Out
34:38 Why Joy Club Started
38:48 Designing 15 Minute Dance Parties
44:33 Showing Up on Your Terms
48:34 Community and Invitation Energy
48:59 How to Join and Upcoming Events
51:22 Celebrations and Closing Thoughts

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Earlier this year I was so angry I ripped honeysuckle plants out of the ground by the root. A few weeks ago I found myself craving something I’d never wanted in my life — arms pumping, sweat running, legs pushing through fear and uncertainty.

I never wanted to run. I complained about it at practice. I rolled my eyes at people who said they enjoyed it. I made every excuse — wrong body type, too hard on the knees.

And then I got quiet enough to actually hear what my body was telling me.

In this episode SuperKate shares what happens when you prioritize space and quiet in your life — and how that space can open a door to something you never would have considered before. Or actively railed against.

Plus a somatic check-in at the end that takes less than two minutes.

Want support building more of this into your daily life? Book a sales call here:
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00:00 Listening to Your Body
00:19 Rage Gardening Release
01:16 Meet SuperKate
01:25 A New Urge to Run
02:12 Quieting the Noise
03:45 First Walk Run Plan
04:50 Building Consistency
05:52 Why Space Matters
06:47 Simple Presence Practices
07:44 Body Check In Prompt
08:03 Coaching Invitation
08:24 Thanks and Wrap Up

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SuperKate interviews financial consultant Melissa Mittelstaedt, who helps conscious entrepreneurs get organized with money so they can confidently manage finances without long-term dependency. Melissa explains her “four prongs” approach—business and personal finances (kept in separate accounts but deeply intertwined), tactical routines, and the spiritual/emotional relationship with money—using tools like EFT tapping, journaling, breathing, and visualizations while maintaining client safety and boundaries. She shares her own journey from poor money management and debt to a healthier, less controlling relationship with money, and how her partner has grown through their conversations. Melissa describes adding a community space to support deeper money conversations, introduces her prerecorded micro-workshop “Pay Yourself Dammit” to calculate a baseline owner’s draw, and discusses her RV-nomad lifestyle, travel goals, and freedom as her North Star.

“Pay Yourself, Dammit!” Workshop
https://www.melissamitt.com/baseline

Learn more about, and connect with, Melissa here: 
https://www.melissamitt.com/links

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00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro
00:52 What a Financial Consultant Does
03:30 Four Prongs of Money
04:51 Reframing Money Stories
07:48 Melissa Money Journey
10:39 Money and Nervous System
12:22 Partners and Money Talks
14:09 Client Work and Triggers
17:18 Tools for Stuck Energy
20:37 Creating Safe Space Signals
25:55 Building a Money Community
29:03 Pay Yourself Workshop
31:39 RV Nomad Lifestyle
34:57 Dream Travel Destinations
36:31 Gratitude and Freedom
37:51 Where to Find Melissa
39:09 Final Thanks and Goodbye

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This guided meditation takes you to a gentle hillside stream — where the water flows around you, over you, and slowly carries away whatever discomfort you've been holding in your body. Tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, that anxious flutter in your stomach — you know the ones.

Find a comfortable spot to sit or lie down — and if now isn't the right time, bookmark it for later.

If you enjoyed it, it would be amazing if you shared it with someone who needs this connection or share it on socials and tag me.

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I watched them load the dishwasher. I didn't say anything. And then later that night I rearranged every single dish.

Sure it took five minutes. But what it actually cost me was 20 minutes of ruminating, weeks of low-grade worry, slow-building resentment toward my partner, and time I chose to spend doing something else instead of being with them.

All over dishes.

In this episode SuperKate breaks down why highly capable women get attached to doing things the right way — their way — and what that attachment is actually costing in time, stress, and relationships. Plus a body-based practice to help you notice the pattern before it spirals.

Coming up against some walls? Book a sales call here:
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00:00 Doing It Myself
00:24 Dishwasher Story
01:23 Hidden Costs
02:58 Resentment Spiral
03:48 Control And Discomfort
04:36 Body Check Exercise
06:13 Breathing Reset
07:02 New Questions
08:39 Challenge The Belief
09:36 Next Steps And Thanks

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In this episode SuperKate sits down with Crispin Spaeth, Alexander Technique teacher and movement educator, to talk about what's actually happening in our bodies when we walk into something challenging. Why we puff up when we're nervous. Why that puffing up disconnects us from the very presence we're trying to project. And what it feels like to actually inhabit your body instead of performing for it.

They cover how performative confidence shows up physically — and how to recognize it in yourself. How to connect to your body before a difficult conversation, a presentation, or anything that puts you on the spot. And how your posture is affecting not just how others experience you, but how you experience yourself.

This one is for anyone who has ever walked into a room trying to look more confident than they felt — and wondered if there was a different way.

Crispin Spaeth: https://www.crispinspaeth.com/
Crispin’s “On Air Ease” offer: https://www.crispinspaeth.com/on-air-ease

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00:00 Welcome and Introductions
01:20 Crispin’s Movement Journey
03:05 Discovering Alexander Technique
06:26 First Class Breakthroughs
09:40 Strategy for Social Nerves
11:28 Over-puffing and Confidence
16:39 Power Poses and Grounding
23:55 Leaning Forward on Zoom
29:43 On Air Ease Program
34:00 Body Gratitude and Closing

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I had 15 things on my list. Some carried over from the week before. And I sat there completely drained, unable to figure out where to start.

So I let myself feel stuck. I watched a TV episode I knew would make me cry. And afterward — more clarity than I'd had all week.

In this episode SuperKate talks about why everything feels important and urgent when you're overwhelmed — and why that's not a personal failing, it's a dysregulated nervous system that can't tell the difference between an actual emergency and an unanswered email.

Plus the scrolling statistic that will make you put your phone down. And five questions to help you find your next right step — starting with your body.

Coming up against some walls? Book a Momentum Calll here:
https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19347525&appointmentType=67133405

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00:00 Overwhelmed Week Ahead
00:57 Letting Emotions Move
01:56 Perimenopause and Biology
02:20 Culture and Expectations
03:11 Prioritizing Beyond Urgency
05:16 Decision Fatigue Explained
06:42 Grounding Before Decisions
07:20 Five Guiding Questions
08:21 Listen to Your Body
09:21 Momentum Call and Wrap

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Connecting with SuperKate - Episode 22

"What do you want for dinner?”

It should be a simple question. But when you've spent weeks crashing on the couch at the end of the day, running in service of everyone else, overriding your own needs so consistently that the signal has gone quiet — there's nothing there. Not "I don't care." Just genuinely, honestly, nothing.

In this episode SuperKate talks about what it actually costs you when you keep overriding yourself — and it's not what most people expect. One of the hidden costs is losing access to what you want. Not because you're indifferent. Because you've depleted the part of yourself that knows.

Plus the quiet voices behind all of it. And what your body is actually trying to tell you when it goes blank.

Book a sales call here:
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Website → https://thesuperkate.com/ 
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00:00 Friday Night Burnout
01:11 Meet Super Kate
01:24 When You Override Yourself
02:04 Why You Can't Feel Wants
03:28 The Quiet Beliefs Beneath
04:23 Weekly Practice Notice Wants
05:27 Wanting Is Not Luxury
06:00 Dinner Test And Next Steps

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Take a few minutes for yourself. That's the whole assignment.

This guided meditation brings your attention to the parts of your body you rarely think about — the fold behind the ear, the spaces between your fingers, the inside of your ankle, the backs of your knees. The in-between places that hold more than you'd expect.

Find a comfortable spot to sit or lie down — and if now isn't the right time, bookmark it for later.

New guided meditations released monthly. New episodes every week.

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00:00 Welcome and Intentions
01:04 Get Comfortable and Settle
01:27 Breath Awareness Check-In
02:44 Ear Folds Focus
04:20 Armpit and Finger Webs
07:07 Hips and Knee Creases
08:51 Ankles and Toe Spaces
11:39 Reconnect and Return
13:01 Closing and Next Episodes

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"Why don't you take a few days off?”

If that sentence made you want to roll your eyes — this episode is for you.

This isn't officially part of the Why Rest Isn't Working series — but it's the question SuperKate gets asked most when talking about prioritizing rest. Because understanding why rest isn't working is one thing. Believing you're allowed to do something about it is something else entirely.

In this episode — why slowing down feels impossible, the thoughts we stay busy to avoid, and the moment a doe and her fawn in the backyard changed how SuperKate looked at her time.

Plus a challenge for this week that starts smaller than you think.

Ready to stop surviving? Book a sales call here:
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01:00 Meet SuperKate
01:34 Why Slowing Down Feels Impossible
02:35 The Thoughts We Avoid
03:16 A Deer at the Window
03:46 Choosing a Few More Minutes
04:52 Small Moments Create Change
05:19 Access to Rest Matters
05:58 This Week’s Challenge
06:33 Notice Your Body’s Reaction
07:07 Next Steps and Goodbye

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