Let's dive in to todays podcast. "What if things don't work out the way YOU planned?" Stay until the end friends. We are so grateful you are here.

In todays episode we are exploring CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and how it can help ease our mind and anxiety. Tara is a licensed therapist in the San Diego, CA area and a life coach for anyone outside of the San Diego area. She has helped me through numerous sessions with CBT and in turn, this has helped me focus on my breath, the good in my life and my own healing. Let's dive right into this helpful episode. We are so glad you are here. With love always; Kai

Welcome back to “Conversations worth having with” Kai and Tara. Recently, I have been doing these podcasts on my own as we are figuring out our time difference with Tara. Let me ask you something, if you click on subscribe today and this podcast can help the people in your life as well as you, would you please do me a favor and click on that subscribe button. We can be found on spotify, itunes, youtube and for important updates we can be found on Instagram. Let me dive right in and start with a question; Have you ever stopped being genuine to yourself only to please other people? I have, not only have I been in the shoes of trying to fit into the mold of others and I have also been guilty of relying on AI for many of these podcasts. It’s weird, because AI has no heart, yet I have relied on this machine because I thought it would give me some easy answers. What I am realizing instead is that if I do not type or write these podcasts out of my heart, I lose listeners. So, today, I want to tell you that this podcast is genuinely from my heart, the way all of these podcasts should have been. I want this one to be relatable to all listeners, whatever situation you may be finding yourself in.

"If life is measured in moments, then today feels like one worth sitting in for a while. One billion seconds of laughter. Mistakes. Adventures. Heartbreak. Growth. One billion ordinary moments that somehow became an extraordinary life.

Have you ever noticed that somewhere around the age of forty, something begins to shift? Not just in our bodies. In our priorities. The things that once felt so important slowly begin to lose their grip, and the things that truly matter start demanding our attention. Welcome back to Conversations Worth Having with Kai. I'm so glad you're here today. And before we begin, I want to let you know that tomorrow's episode is one I'm really looking forward to because Tara will be joining me. We're going to continue this conversation together, and I can't wait to hear her perspective. Today, though, I want to keep this conversation practical. Over the past two episodes, we've talked about accepting ourselves in a culture that profits from insecurity and learning to love ourselves before seeking approval from the world. Today I want to answer a very simple question.

What can we actually do today?

Have you ever wondered what beauty really is? More than 2,300 years ago, the ancient Greek philosopher Plato, who lived around 427 to 347 BC, explored that very question in his work Symposium. Through the teachings of Socrates and Diotima, he suggested that physical beauty is only the beginning. The highest form of beauty, he believed, is found in wisdom, character, goodness, and the way a person chooses to live. I find it fascinating that thousands of years ago, people were already asking questions that still matter today. Somewhere between ancient Greece and the world we live in now, we've allowed beauty to become something we purchase instead of something we become.

Welcome back to Conversations Worth Having with Kai and Tara.

Have you ever wondered why the ancient Greek philosophers spent so much of their lives asking one simple question: What is beauty? Not what is fashionable. Not what is desirable. Not what sells. But what beauty truly is. Long before advertisements, airbrushed magazine covers, social media filters, and billion-dollar beauty industries, philosophers sat beneath olive trees discussing beauty, truth, character, and what makes a life worth living. I often wonder what they would make of the world we live in today. Would they recognize beauty in a face with no wrinkles? Or would they recognize it in a woman who has lived through heartbreak, joy, disappointment, resilience, growth, and love? We are so grateful you are here. Please stay with us until the end of this episode and look for new episodes every Thursday. We appreciate you and you are loved here.

Hello, beautiful people. Welcome back to "Conversations worth having" with Kai and Tara. Thank you for being here with me today. Whether you're driving, folding laundry, walking your dog, sitting with a cup of coffee, or just needing a quiet moment, I appreciate you spending a little time with me. Today's episode is called Your Health Is Your Health.We hear people say that health is wealth all the time. It's one of those sayings that sounds nice, but if we're honest, most of us don't really understand it until life gives us a reason to. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Not because I wanted to...But because life reminded me.Recently, I had a health scare. I'm not going to spend today's episode talking about the details because this isn't about the diagnosis or the medical side of things. What matters is that something felt off. I knew it. Please advocate for your own health and well being. It is ok if other people do not appreciate your boundaries and they get mad if you do, maybe those are not the types of people you should be around in the first place. You matter and your health matters! Tune in and enjoy this short solo episode. You are loved, appreciated and valued. We are so glad you are here.

This one is from my heart as I am realizing I am grieving my dog badly. We are hopefully renting out our home to a fantastic military family who have two dogs. They even sent videos of the dogs to our email and this morning, around 7:45 am I started sobbing. I miss my dog. He was so much more than my dog. He was my rock when we got orders to Edwards and I had no friends, no family, no trees, nothing familiar, he was familiar. I knew even when I was deeply sad that I needed to take him for a walk, I had someone to cuddle and I was never alone. Story of Tallinn, old name Bandit, started in 2011 when Lonnie and I met. Our relationship moved quite fast and we fell in love fast as well. Starting to live together in 2011 and deciding to get a pet together which is apparently what people do before they have kids. Lonnie went to the Burlington County animal shelter here in New Jersey but prior to doing so, we saw YOUTUBE videos of "Bandit" aka Tallinn. We fell in love almost immediately and started crying knowing that he has been in the shelter for a long time and may be placed on "the list" soon. We all know what that list is. At the time I was at work when Lonnie brought home Tallinn aka Bandit.. I had always feared pitbulls and I was ignorant of how incredible and intelligent this breed is. Lonnie had to go to work that evening leaving me with Bandit aka Tallinn. It was just me and him. I sat on the couch for 45 minutes without movement because I was terrified. I thought because he is a pitbull he can attack me at any moment. Shame on me for my ignorance and the ignorance of many people today. The only person I knew who also had a pitbull was my dear friend Alex who lived almost an hour away. I texted Alex at about 1700 hours and asked her to please come over. She assured me that pitbulls are the most loving and incredible dogs on the planet and that I will be fine. As I sat there on the couch, Tallinn, aka Bandit at the time, was sitting on his brand new bed. I was too scared to move as Tallinn was about 50 lbs and I was a 102 lbs young woman. Ignorant and scared I finally needed to use the restroom and I got up. Tallinn started following me into the hallway and I think he just wanted to play and move. He jumped on the back of me because for some reason I was also dragging a blanket with me (I have no clue why) and he thought I wanted to play tug of war. No buddy, I was just going into the bathroom. After he jumped me I thought again he would most likely kill me, wow! I was beyond ignorant. As the evening continued I started talking to Tallinn like he was a human. Just full blown conversation. As time passed Tallinn and I became inseparable. I opened my own gold buying business at the age of 25 and guess who was always at work with me, yup! You guessed it. Tallinn was. Sometimes people came in who seemed suspicious or edgy to me and I always made sure to ask them if they wanted to meet my dog. Listen until the end and please share your beloved family member pictures on our Instagram page. You are loved.

In today's episode we talk about the control our phones have over us. Look into your own life and time the moment that could of been spent with loved ones instead of doom scrolling. Get honest with yourself and we will meet you here. We are so grateful for you and cannot wait to explore this topic with you.