Are you stuck in a pattern you didn’t choose… but keep repeating?

Do you ever feel like your life is running on autopilot, and no matter how hard you try, you keep ending up in the same place?

That’s not a motivation problem. It’s a disruption problem.

In this episode, Chuck Allen helps you identify the unconscious beliefs that are driving your behaviors—and gives you a practical tool to begin breaking free. This is the third stage of the Cool Change Method™—where awareness turns into agency, and real change begins.

You’ll learn:

• Why behavior change doesn’t last without belief change

• How to know when you’re truly ready to disrupt a pattern

• The difference between performative change and real traction

• A simple Pattern Interrupt Practice to apply immediately

• Why your focus must be top-of-mind, not buried in a doc

You’ll also hear a story from Chuck’s time at The Home Depot that changed his leadership identity—and a deeply personal reflection on the grief and freedom that come with disrupting what no longer serves you or the people around you.

🎧 This is the moment to take the wheel of your life.

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▶ Listen now, or catch up on the first two episodes in the series:

• Episode 77: The Stirring

• Episode 78: The Mirror

What happens when you stop coasting, stop justifying, and stop mistaking other people’s kindness for clarity? What happens when you finally pause long enough to really see yourself?

In this second installment of the Cool Change Method™ series, Chuck explores The Mirror—that uncomfortable but necessary moment when we come face-to-face with the gap between who we are and who we want to be.

Drawing from a life-altering health reckoning, years of coaching insight, and the quiet truths we often avoid, this episode invites you to slow down and reflect on the path you’re really on—not the one you hope you’re on, but the one your actions are taking you toward.

• Why good intentions aren’t enough
• The danger of mistaking momentum for alignment
• How other people’s kindness can keep you stuck
• A powerful wake-up call that came just in time
• The most important question you can ask yourself right now

• The Cool Change Method™ series (6 episodes)
• Coaching insight: The most common identity shifts people face in midlife

The mirror doesn’t judge. It just offers you a choice. And the moment you’re willing to see yourself clearly—that’s the moment everything can begin to change.

There’s a moment — sometimes subtle, sometimes undeniable — when life starts to whisper that something needs to shift.

That moment is The Stirring — the first step in the Cool Change Method™ and the first solo episode in this new series. Whether you’re facing a clear transition (like a new role, relationship change, or identity shift) or simply feeling low-grade restlessness, this episode is designed to meet you right where you are.

🔸 What you’ll hear:

– How to recognize The Stirring

– Why it often arrives before clarity

– What to do when you’re no longer comfortable in your current chapter

🎧 Listen now (under 9 minutes)

🔗 Full episode page + journaling prompts → coolchangelifedesign.com/stirring

Series Info:

This is Part 1 of a 6-part series on the Cool Change Method™ — a grounded framework for navigating personal transitions with clarity, confidence, and purpose.

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In a world fueled by stress and anxiety, emotional awareness is more vital than ever. On this episode of Cool Change, Chuck Allen speaks with Sarah Retzer, a mindfulness coach who transformed herself from a constantly anxious engineer to a thriving expert in emotional resilience.

Sarah shares how discovering mindfulness through InterMatrix Systems allowed her to move beyond simply managing emotions to actively training them—like building muscle at the gym. She explains how emotional patterns shape our reality, why intentional emotional responses are essential, and how we can shift from fear-based reactions to love-based interactions.

Whether you're feeling stuck in anxious loops, overwhelmed by emotions, or simply looking to enhance joy and peace in your daily life, Sarah’s insights offer practical tools to create lasting change.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotions aren’t just reactions; they're patterns that we can consciously reshape.
• Creating space between stimulus and response allows intentional emotional choices.
• Intentional daily practices can shift emotional patterns, enhancing relationships and overall life experience.
• Mindfulness and breathwork techniques effectively rewire emotional responses.

Special Offer:

Sarah is offering Cool Change listeners a complimentary special introductory three-session course designed to help you identify areas of your life ready for transformation, recognize emotional patterns holding you back, and begin the shift toward lasting peace and joy.

Connect with Sarah Retzer:

Phone/Text: 503-929-4632

Email: [email protected]

Recommended Books:

• Emotional Intelligence 2.0* by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves
• The Untethered Soul* by Michael A. Singer
• Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself* by Dr. Joe Dispenza

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In this episode of Cool Change, I share one of the most transformative experiences of my life—my journey with Ayahuasca. For decades, I lived with a deeply rooted fear tied to my heart health, stemming from childhood experiences with my father’s repeated heart crises. After a casual lunch with a trusted friend, I found myself embarking on an unexpected path—one that led me to confront my fear through Ayahuasca, a plant medicine known for its profound spiritual and healing properties.

In this episode, I take you through each step of that journey—starting with the preparation, to the intense three nights of ceremony, and the life-changing lessons I received from Ayahuasca. I reflect on how it reframed my understanding of my heart, not just as an organ but as the core of my emotional and spiritual being. Whether you're curious about Ayahuasca, grappling with your own fears, or simply love stories of transformation, this episode has something to offer.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The power of intention when entering an Ayahuasca journey
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• How childhood trauma and unresolved fear can manifest in our adult lives
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• The transformative experience of letting go of fear
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• The spiritual, emotional, and physical lessons Ayahuasca can offer
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• How my relationship with my heart—both physically and emotionally—was changed forever

Key Quotes:

• "Ayahuasca told me: 'You will be remembered as a man with a very good heart.' And in that moment, I knew it wasn’t just about physical health—it was about how I live, love, and serve."
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• "What I once saw as a source of anxiety—those heart palpitations—became reminders, love taps, pushing me to go out and do something meaningful with my heart."
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• "Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is ask for help, and Ayahuasca put me in a position where I had no choice but to ask."

In this brief episode, I take you back to the summer of 1990—when my best friend Tim and I, fueled by our “do-it-yourself” mentality, embarked on a series of DIY adventures that nearly cost us our lives. From leaky boats to collapsing cars, we learned that sometimes the most valuable skill is knowing when to call for help. This episode explores the fine line between admirable self-reliance and reckless overconfidence, and how a little humility can be the key to growth and survival.

The Cool Change: Sometimes, growth comes from realizing you don’t have to do it all yourself. Knowing when to step back and ask for help is a form of strength, not weakness.

Michelle Huebner is a powerful example of how attitude can color your everyday existence. In this episode, Michelle shares her journey with Friedreich’s ataxia (FA) and how it has shaped her perspective on life. She discusses the symptoms and challenges of living with FA, as well as the importance of finding joy and living life to the fullest.

Michelle emphasizes the need for independence and letting go of anger. Listen in as she shares her approach to everyday life, including a cool way to schedule more activities that bring you joy.

For more info on FA, check out www.curefa.org

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Inspiration

09:04 Finding Relief and Connecting with the FA Community

15:52 Hope and Progress in FA Research

45:10 Finding Happiness and Fulfillment in the Face of Challenges

57:20 The Power of a Strong Support System

01:10:20 Advocating for Others and Sharing Experiences

Lt. Col. Tim Doherty, founder of Doc's Healing Hives, shares his inspiring journey of finding healing and purpose through beekeeping. The conversation explores the therapeutic benefits of beekeeping, the impact of community and camaraderie, and the transformative power of finding a new purpose.

Tim's organization, Doc's Healing Hives, offers courses and support to veterans, helping them find hope and healing through beekeeping. The future goals of the organization include building a lodge and expanding their impact through farming and teaching others how to grow their own food.

Tim's advice to veterans is to never give up, find a new purpose, seek therapy, and connect with others.

Takeaways

• Beekeeping can be a therapeutic and healing activity, providing a sense of purpose and helping individuals find solace and camaraderie.
• Doc's Healing Hives offers courses and support to veterans, helping them find hope and healing through beekeeping.
• Community and camaraderie play a crucial role in the healing process, and joining a group or association can provide support and connection.
• It is important for veterans to seek therapy and not give up, as therapy can be a valuable tool in the healing journey.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction 02:15 The Journey Begins 09:29 Therapeutic Benefits of Beekeeping 12:02 Doc's Healing Hives 16:10 Community and Camaraderie 24:23 Future Goals and Impact 31:13 Getting Involved 33:51 Advice for Veterans 36:05 Closing Remarks

Episode Summary:

Hi, I'm Chuck Allen, your guide on the journey to a more intentional and cooler daily existence. In this episode of Cool Change, we dive deep into the transformative power of finding joy in our workouts. Joined by Colin Feldtman, a former pro baseball player turned fitness coach, we explore how shifting our mindset from viewing exercise as a chore to embracing it as a source of pleasure can fundamentally change our relationship with fitness.

What You'll Learn:

• How I went from hating every minute in the gym to looking forward to my daily workouts.
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• Colin's journey from professional athlete to a fitness coach, and how becoming a father has reshaped his approach to fitness.
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• The importance of finding your own motivation and tuning out the noise.
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• Practical tips for making your workout routine more enjoyable and less of a burden.
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• The power of asking, "What would this look like if it were easy?" to simplify and enjoy your fitness journey.
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• Why showing up is half the battle, and how small wins can lead to big changes.

Episode Highlights:

• My personal transformation story and how I found joy in the gym.
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• Colin's professional insights on adjusting fitness goals and routines as life changes.
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• Our discussion on the psychological shifts necessary for embracing fitness as a joyful part of life.
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• Strategies for anyone looking to make their workouts more enjoyable and effective.

More Info:

Find Colin on Instagram: @colinfeldtmanpdx

Mentioned: @crossfittualatin, @crossfitonetwenty

Closing Thoughts:

This episode is for anyone who's ever felt like working out is just another item on their to-do list. Colin and I share our journeys and insights to help you move from dread to desire when it comes to your fitness routine. Remember, the goal is to find joy in the process, not just the results. Here's to making our fitness journey a pleasurable part of our Cool Change.

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Summary

In this conversation, Chuck interviews Lisa DeAngelis about the Alexander Technique and its connection to change. Lisa shares her personal experience with the technique and how it helped her navigate a challenging medical diagnosis. They discuss the importance of choice and creating space for possibility in the process of change.

Lisa also highlights the significance of daily mindfulness practice in cultivating awareness and making conscious choices. The conversation emphasizes the holistic nature of change and the potential for transformation in everyday habits and actions.

Lisa also discusses her daily practices and the importance of mindfulness. She emphasizes the need to engage with each moment and reconnect with all our senses. Lisa also shares insights from her new book, 'Embracing the Unknown,' which explores the process of change and the tools and skills that can support it. She breaks down the book into three parts: why change, changing now, and living a life of sustainable change. 

Finally, Lisa talks about her future plans, including creating new ways to have meaningful conversations about mindfulness and intentionality.

Takeaways

• The Alexander Technique is a holistic approach to change that focuses on increasing awareness of how we use our bodies.
• Choice plays a crucial role in navigating change, and embracing the unknown can lead to exciting opportunities.
• Creating space and pausing before making a choice can help us break free from habitual patterns and make more intentional decisions.
• The Alexander Technique can have a profound impact on various aspects of life, including physical well-being, performance, and personal growth.