Today we’re talking about projection — gaslighting’s ugly second cousin. You know, when someone accuses you of doing the very thing they’re guilty of. Fun, unhealed stuff, right? 

00:42 – “How are you, really?” (aka, are you dehydrated?)
02:32 – Projection vs. Gaslighting:
03:32 – Lazy boss calling you lazy?
04:18 – “You’re lying!” …says the liar.
05:05 – Why childhood trauma makes projection feel weirdly familiar
06:13 – Micromanaging boss
09:07 – Gossiping coworker accusing you of gossiping (make it make sense)
10:20 – Personal story
11:51 – Friend drama
16:40 – Signs you’re being projected on
17:10 – Grounding yourself
19:06 – The #1 rule
20:27 – Magic phrase
22:21 – Calm comebacks
24:27 – Journaling
25:06 – Documenting projection at work 
27:06 – Managers cause 70% of turnover — send those surveys!
33:31 – Journaling prompts that helped me stop the victim spiral
34:50 – 48 Laws of Power
36:46 – How I got burned in corporate 🔥
38:52 – Brilliance doesn’t always get promoted
40:14 – The garbage analogy

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⭐  The 48 Laws of Power - https://amzn.to/3KbuT48
⭐  Free Manager Survey Training - https://tinyurl.com/539zwm4c

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⟡ TikTok:  / corporatechristie 
⟡ Linkedin:  / christiehoffman 
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Is your family making you insane? Yeah… us too. In this episode, my friend Anthony and I get real about what finally pushed us to go no contact with toxic family members. Enjoy this first time we ever spoke and our raw talk about childhood roles, triangulation, the masks we wore just to survive — and how all of that showed up in our adult relationships.

This is just the tip of the iceberg from a lifetime of stories. From therapy breakthroughs to feeling like you're receiveing messages from the universe, to boundaries, and even letting go of the loved one with addiction issues in the family, we realized something big: sometimes you love someone enough to say goodbye so you finally stop hurting each other. And on the other side of that choice is healing, freedom, and finally becoming the person you were meant to be.

If you’ve ever felt the pull between family loyalty and self-preservation, this conversation will make you feel less alone. 

TIMESTAMPS
00:00 The Journey to No Contact
02:11 Family Dynamics and Triangulation
04:46 The Impact of Addiction and Mental Health
06:51 Understanding the Darvo Tactic
09:27 Finding Personal Values and Boundaries
11:26 Healing and Moving Forward
25:47 Navigating Grief and Emotional Awareness
30:40 Understanding Emotional States and Family Dynamics
38:30 The Impact of Family Relationships on Personal Growth
44:05 Parenting and Breaking Generational Cycles
48:04 The Snowflake Generation and Parental Expectations
50:14 The Impact of Parental Pressure on Mental Health
53:07 Navigating Family Dynamics and Boundaries
54:53 Manipulation and Control in Family Relationships
56:34 Healing from Generational Trauma
59:35 Finding Meaning and Spirituality After Trauma

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🔥 RESOURCES FOR YOU!

⭐ Toxic Family Survival Guide (made by me): https://tinyurl.com/kf9kcznn
⭐ Map of Human Consciousness (David Hawkins) https://amzn.to/4mTZBwN
⭐ The Feelings Wheel - https://feelingswheel.com/
⭐ Books on Toxic Family that healed me: https://tinyurl.com/4ctvzdkp 
⭐ Anthony's Viral Video - https://tinyurl.com/56ddym5m
⭐ One of My Viral family Videos: https://rb.gy/mjwgwm

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MORE CORPORATE CHRISTIE! 

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⟡ Email: [email protected]
⟡ Website: https://www.corporatechristie.com/

I sit down with ADHD & self-mastery coach Ian Mai just days after coming off Adderall for the first time in over 10 years.

This episode isn’t about bashing medication (it helped me — until it didn’t). It’s about coming home to yourself. It’s about getting real with the patterns beneath our hyper-productivity. And it’s about the terrifying, necessary, beautiful work of finding yourself again after pushing so hard.

We go way beyond dopamine and planners, and dive into:

• The deeper reasons we can’t focus or follow through
• What impulsivity is trying to protect
• Why medication helps — but might be masking deeper wounds
• The trauma hiding inside our “high performance”
• ADHD, shame, systems, and how we learned to abandon ourselves
• Emotional safety, breathwork, and body-based healing
• The loneliness (and power) of doing life differently

Contact Ian:

• ianmai.co
• linkedin.com/in/ian-mai-coaching

 Contact Christie: 

• linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman
• corporatechristie.com
• @corporatechristie

If you’ve ever tried to tell someone they hurt your feelings, but they made you feel like you were the bad guy—you're not Crazy. You were DARVO'd.

This episode is part education, part memoir, and part spiritual boundary bootcamp. I made it because I don’t want you to waste another year trying to get toxic people to understand you.

I break down:

• What DARVO is (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender)
• How emotionally immature people use it to flip the script
• Why you, the empathetic, conflict-avoidant, peacekeeper, are often the perfect target
• What healthy responses to feedback actually sound like
• How DARVO showed up in my own life — in work, family, and friendships
• Why I chose to go no contact with people who do it
• How to recognize this dynamic in friendships and work
• Scripts you can use to stay grounded when DARVO starts to unfold
• Why “nobody’s allowed to tell you your feelings are wrong or bad” is now my life’s measuring stick
• And why this is a non-negotiable skill if you want to live life as the main character, not a background character in someone else’s chaos

Connect with me

If this episode hit home, I’d love to hear from you!

• 📲 TikTok: @CorporateChristie
• 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/
• 📸 Instagram: @CorporateChristie
• 📺 YouTube: Corporate Christie
• 🌐 Website: www.corporatechristie.com

And if you’re an HR leader ready to stop getting steamrolled and start getting taken seriously, check out The HR Accelerator — my signature course to help you connect employee insights to real business impact.

In today's episode, I sit down with Amy Spurling, CEO of Compt, to unpack the gap between the benefits companies think employees want and what they’ll actually use. Amy shares her journey from CFO to CEO and gives practical tips on how to stop wasting your benefits budget. 

We dive into supporting hybrid teams, building the business case for better benefits, and why perks alone won’t drive retention. This one’s a must-listen for anyone who's tired of guessing what employees want, and need a benefits program that serves more and sucks less. '

🎙️ Connect with Amy Spurling:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyspurling/
Learn more about Compt: https://www.compt.io/

💻 Connect with me:

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporate.christie
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporate.christie

Your all hands meeting might be lighting thousands of dollars on fire. Not on purpose. But if your people are zoning out, shopping Amazon, or silently rage-quitting in their heads…that’s exactly what’s happening.

 In this episode:

• Why your all hands might be working against you.
• What "executive ring around the Rosie" is and why it kills engagement.
• How to run an all hands that actually earns trust, engagement, and yep—profit.
• The one leadership moment most CEOs fumble.
• The storytelling tool to make data interesting
• Why skipping Q&A is the fastest way to create backchannel drama.
• Real talk about why you probably don’t need a monthly all hands anyway.
• Learn how to find out if what you're doing is working

If your team dreads these meetings—or worse, feels invisible during them—you’re not just hosting a bad meeting. You’re quietly losing money, trust, and your best people. This episode is your no-BS playbook to fix it before they mentally quit (or actually quit). Stop burning salaries. Start leading meetings that make people lean in—and stay.

📺 Watch on Youtube  https://youtu.be/0PDdBWpumP0

📚 Resources Mentioned

•   Storyteller Tactics by Pip Decks: https://pipdecks.com/
•  🔎 Gallup’s research: https://www.gallup.com/workplace/349484/state-of-the-global-workplace.aspx

💻 Connect with me

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporate.christie
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporate.christie

 In this episode, I respond to Layla Hormozi’s now-viral poster: 'F your mood. Stick to the plan.'

Sure, discipline is sexy. But what happens when sticking to the plan means betraying your health, your instincts, and your actual life?

I talk about:

• How hustle culture wrecked my health, warped my parenting, and distorted my career
• What it’s like to lead a team with humanity, not fear (and still get great results)
• Why posters like Layla’s set the wrong tone for psychological safety at work
• How childhood punishment for “talking back” taught me to stay silent — even when I should’ve called the police as an adult
• What happened when I ignored every red flag and kept hustling through grief, chronic illness, and a divorce… all in the name of resilience

📺 Watch on Youtube 

•  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8K1skuDNww4

💻 Connect with me

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporate.christie
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporate.christie

🧠 Link to Layla Hormozi’s post:

F Your Mood. Stick to the Plan – Layla Hormozi on Instagram

This one’s raw. I just told the truth.

In this first episode of Corporate Christie, I talk about the moment my body shut me down — hard. Not because I was tired, but because I’d been powering through pain for years. It all caught up with me. Burnout wasn’t just a work thing. It was a life thing. And this podcast is going to talk about both.

This isn’t a productivity podcast. It’s not “how to be better at work” without talking about the real stuff getting in your way. We’ll get into that too — because I love giving tactical advice — but first, I had to go through it. And now I’m ready to tell the whole story.

💡 What I cover in this episode:

• The identity crisis that hit after I built something successful
• How childhood conditioning around productivity shaped me
• Why I paused Engagement Academy and how I’m reshaping it
• A cold plunge, a linen closet, and one surprising meditation
• The moment I met 8-year-old me in my mind’s eye — and what she said
• How divorce, loss, and no-contact family choices reshaped my values
• Why we can’t talk about leadership without talking about healing
• And why I’m done pretending life and work are separate

📘 Mentioned in this episode:

👉 Employee Survey Playbook ($49): https://bit.ly/42yQt9T

👉 LinkedIn:  https://bit.ly/42yQt9T

👉 Youtube:  https://bit.ly/4lHZJ2E

👉 TikTok: https://bit.ly/3YGgS2W 

👉 Instagram: https://bit.ly/4jBMe2E

💬 Closing thoughts:

If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t do this anymore,” — good. That feeling might be the start of something better.

You're not broken. You're just waking up. And this show is here to walk through it with you.

This one’s personal. I’m joined by executive coach and friend, Joseph Logan, and we’re diving deep into the emotional side of success. What happens after you’ve “made it” but something still feels… off? 

We talk about identity, leadership, and the moments that crack us open (in a good way). This episode literally sparked my own rebrand. If you’re a high performer who’s hit the top and asked, “Now what?”, this one’s for you. 

Key Themes:
- Success isn’t always what it seems
- Navigating identity beyond achievement
- Coaching high-performers through transitions
- Embracing moments of emotional clarity
- Rebranding when your purpose evolves

Want to talk to Joseph? Connect with him on LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephlogan/

Resources:
- Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporatechristie?lang=en
- Catch me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporatechristie/?hl=en
- Let’s connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/?

Timestamps:
00:00 – Meet Joseph Logan: Executive Coach to High Performers
00:13 – Why Success Isn’t Always Fulfilling
01:45 – The Episode That Sparked My Rebrand
04:02 – What High Performers Secretly Struggle With
07:50 – How to Lead When You’re Not Alright
12:10 – Coaching Beyond the Resumé
17:25 – Permission to Feel and Rethink Success
21:40 – Identity Shifts at the Top
27:15 – How to Rebuild Purpose After Burnout
31:00 – Final Thoughts: Be Brave Enough to Change

In today’s episode, I’m spilling the beans on how to avoid a tech headache and choose HR software that actually works. From filtering out vendor fluff to getting buy-in from your people, this is your no-BS guide to shopping smarter, not harder. 

Whether you’re leading your first tech rollout or just sick of being bamboozled by shiny demos, this one’s packed with tips that’ll save your budget... and your sanity.

Key Themes
- Create your HR tech must-have wishlist
- Use employee feedback to guide decisions
- Rely on trusted sources beyond Google
- Own the demo, don’t let sales charm you
- Get buy-in from managers and employees

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro: Choosing the Right HR Tech
01:52 – Ask Employees for Pain Points
03:00 – Don’t Trust Google: Do Deeper Research
11:03 – Control the Demo Conversation
15:09 – Ask Employees for Pain Points (Again, for Good Reason!)

Resources:
- Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporatechristie?lang=en
- Catch me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporatechristie/?hl=en
- Let’s connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/?