“You can go on retreat in any moment of life by opening to now, emptying your cup, and opening to spaciousness.”
“Become no one. Become nothing. No thing.”
“The sense that I already know what the world is, I already know what life is—that’s one of the biggest blockages.”
Today’s video is another one I recorded on the Gondor retreat in Italy a couple weeks ago.
This one felt like one of my best communications on the pure joy of vastness, weightlessness, and becoming no one for a while. As well as why retreat is essential and how to go on retreat anytime.
I recommend the video for the full experience, though I’ll also include a transcript below if you prefer to read.
First: A Note on Why I Share This Type of Stuff
One might ask, “JB, why do you share so endlessly and enthusiastically about these kinds of ‘awakening’ subjects?”
“Why do you seem irresistibly drawn back into sharing about the simple freedom of the now-moment?”
I pondered on this today and I guess it’s just simply one of my very greatest passions, fascinations, and curiosities. I love exploring and celebrating the aliveness of now.
For me the subject is so omni-relevant and all-encompassing because it literally applies to every single moment of life, in every area of life.
To simply look directly and freshly at life…
To see it through a child’s eyes…
To find out what we may newly discover on this winding adventure…
This is perhaps the great and central animating impulse of my entire existence.
I simply love it! In my heart I’m some sort of poet, fool, child, hermit mystic.
It has been my experience that this whole exploration of ‘awakening’ is unbelievably fulfilling and nourishing.
It is not an exaggeration to say that it can reveal…
ever-present wholenessever-present alivenessever-present richnessever-present freedomever-present home
… and infuse all areas of life with far more lightness, flow, wonder, vibrancy, beauty, and poignancy.
That’s why I endlessly share about this stuff. It flows through me like a natural celebration of life.
For me awakening—contemplation, meditation, prayer, liberation—is the crown jewel of human life.
Everything from fatherhood and family life to vocation and wellness are greatly enriched by this ever-deepening discovery.
Discovery of what?
Openness! Spaciousness! Unity! Basking! Radiance! All-embracing-ness! Joy! Grace! Freedom! Poetry! The astounding miracle of existence!
In simple terms, awakening is the discovery of life. It is an ever-deepening opening to a living mystery beyond comprehension. It is simply life itself. Truly being life.
I hope today’s video gives you further inspiration in this respect. 💚
Video Transcript: How to Become No One & Go On Retreat Anytime
If you prefer to read instead of watch the video, here is a lightly edited transcript:
Peace and love from Italy.
What would it be like, my friends, to just become no one for a little while?
Just become no thing and no one for just a little while. Just a smidgen. Just a pinch of timeless time.
What if you just relinquished? What if you just dropped all identities, all identifications, all attachments?
You dropped the idea of your body and your name and the world of form. All your attachments. All the stories you tell yourself about what’s going on out there and what’s on the news. Your laundry list of grievances and complaints and to-dos and problems and challenges.
What if you just let all of that go?
Pop it like a bubble.
Drop it like it’s hot.
Let it blow away on the wind for even just a minute or two.
The crucial thing is that I’m not suggesting you actually burn down your life and end your relationships or anything like that. No, no.
Relationships are profound.
My dad always said family and friends are life’s greatest treasures, and he was speaking the truth.
These relationships shine like jewels in the tapestry of our lives.
So your life can stay exactly as it is.
And yet, if you can, find these moments to empty your cup, to become no one and no thing for even just a teensy little bit of time—just a teensy little bit of time.
You just go somewhere out in nature perhaps.
Nature can be very conducive to this.
You just go in nature.
You just sit still.
You just sit down.
You don’t do anything for a chunk of time.
You just go out in nature. You just sit still and you just look at the trees. You look at the rocks. You look at the dirt. You look at the sky, the clouds, the sun.
You listen to the sound of the birds, the sound of the wind.
And you let yourself start to feel like a hollow bone. Like the wind is just traveling through you. Like you’re kind of forgetting everything. You’re forgetting the world.
William Wordsworth said:
“Late and soon, getting and spending, we lay waste our powers. Little we see in nature that is ours. We have given our hearts away, a sordid boon.”
“The world is too much with us.”
That was from his poem The World Is Too Much With Us.
And that’s the thing: The ‘world’ is weighing too heavily upon us.
When we become overly embedded, overly attached, overly rigidly crystallized within the domain of formfulness, within the domain of our gorgeous, wondrous human lives that are very real in a profound sense—totally real and here and part of God’s immaculate creation, or nameless immaculate creation, however you want to language that—
When we’re too much with the formfulness and we’ve forgotten formlessness, then it can be unbelievably rejuvenating and replenishing and immensely restorative to simply be no one.
Become no one.
Become nothing.
No thing.
Become nothing and no thing.
Again, even for just five minutes.
Five hours.
Five days.
Depending on what kind of retreat you happen to be in need of on a soul-and-heart level at any given time.
You just find these pockets.
These pockets.
Even five seconds.
You find these pockets of timeless time to be no one, to be no-thing.
And oh, how rejuvenating it can be to even release the grips on your most cherished spiritual identities.
Where you’re no longer a Christian.
You’re no longer a Buddhist.
You even release the names of Buddha and Christ and Lao Tzu and God and Mary and the Mother and Father and consciousness and infinity and awareness and emptiness.
Whatever your most cherished spiritual identities, concepts, and signifiers happen to be, you let those go as well.
You just really let it all go.
And you just simply be.
You just simply exist.
You do nothing at all.
And not only do you do no thing, you be no thing and no one.
And we all have such a yearning for this on a deep level.
It’s been forgotten as an immensely rejuvenating soul technology.
You empty yourself.
You become no one and no thing.
And then you let that be filled by freshness.
By newness.
It’s a misconception that nothingness or the void is a total absence, like an empty abyss.
No.
You go to that space of emptiness, being no one and being no thing, so that you can receive a more subtle fullness.
So that the cup can then be filled with a subtlety and a richness that you were not able to apprehend in your prior clamping-down, your over-identified mode, your excessively crystallized and frozen formfulness.
You let that go.
You empty.
You become no one and no thing so that suddenly the fullness, the juiciness, the weightless, clear, invisible fire of love, of all-embracing, all-pervading love, can reveal itself.
So that pure spirit can reveal itself and breathe through you.
Pure spirit is a very subtle dynamism to apprehend.
It’s a continuous creative breath of life flowing through all things.
And we are not able to apprehend that fathomless freedom of pure spirit in our overly-fixated consensus-reality conditions and identities.
This approach is very much akin to apophatic theology in Christianity.
Many Christians are not aware of this deep and ancient monastic and mystical practice of apophatic contemplation.
It is essentially what I’m speaking to.
It is the emptying of your cup.
It is the relinquishment of all concepts of God and world and life and yourself.
It’s the letting go of everything you think you know so that God beyond all concepts of God can come in and meet you there.
Meet you there in that space of being the empty cup, the empty vessel, the hollow bone.
So that God can come in.
So that pure spirit can come in.
And you can be illumined, illuminated, enlightened in a sense by the true light—the true and subtle light that is all-pervading and always with us.
And it’s not a final event.
It’s not like:
“Poof. Now I’m enlightened. I’m now some kind of rarefied perfected Buddha to be put on a pedestal and worshipped.”
No, it’s not like that.
It’s an ever-deepening journey.
An ever-deepening journey where you discover these moments.
And really every moment of life is an ever-fresh revelation and deepening.
If we are truly paying attention to life, life can be this ongoing revelation.
But there can be moments where thresholds are crossed, where quantum leaps occur, where bountiful vistas of newness and freshness and spirit that had not been apprehended before suddenly come rushing in.
And there can be a whole fresh and new wave of understanding and knowing and seeing and feeling and directly being.
“I’m getting it now.”
“I’m feeling it.”
“I’m being it.”
“I am pure spirit.”
“This is pure spirit.”
“Pure spirit is with me.”
“Pure spirit is with us.”
“All is pervaded by pure spirit.”
“All is an emanation, a creation of pure spirit.”
“The signature of pure spirit abides within all things.”
All around us.
We are in spirit and spirit is in us.
That is the treasure that can be uncovered through emptying your cup.
Through apophatic theology, if you want to call it that.
Or apophatic contemplative practice.
You can call it whatever you like.
It’s essentially just finding those moments.
Finding those pockets of time.
Making space for retreat.
Realizing that retreat is not simply a luxury in life.
Not something only for wealthy people who can fly to Bali and go on some expensive retreat.
No shade on those people.
It’s gorgeous to go to Bali and go on retreat if that’s on your path.
But you don’t need to do that.
You can go on retreat in any moment of life by opening to now.
Emptying your cup.
Opening to spaciousness.
Opening to freshness.
It can be very helpful to design intentional containers for this.
Set aside even a half day or a full day.
Go to a local sauna.
Go to a local bathhouse.
Go to a local forest.
Go to a local church or temple.
And just exist.
Just be.
Turn off the devices.
Turn off your usual everyday consciousness—or see through it.
Ignore it for a few hours.
Let it go.
Be no one.
And make room for freshness.
Make room for the light.
Make room for revelation.
This is not optional.
This is not a luxury.
This is something that our human spirit and soul deeply, deeply needs.
A huge part of the reason why so many people are depressed and despairing and anxious is because we as a culture have become overly in the grips of a program of busyness and worldliness.
Busy, busy, busy.
Worldly, worldly, worldly.
More to do.
More to do.
More to do.
Christ Jesus said:
“My kingdom is not of this world.”
He was pointing us beyond the world as we ordinarily take it to be.
And yet that ordinary world is utterly pervaded by spirit and can be revealed as an unimaginable tapestry and artistry created and re-created continuously by pure spirit.
But we’re not able to see it that way when we’re totally identified with it and we’ve forgotten the other world of pure spirit.
Jesus was instructing us to rediscover the kingdom that abides as the vastness here and now.
The vastness that can come into the heart when we empty ourselves.
When we let all of our ordinary concepts and ideas go.
One of the biggest blockages is the sense that:
“I already know what the world is.”
“I already know what life is.”
“It’s this stubborn thing and I just have to do all this stuff and complain about it.”
Those attitudes deeply prevent an emptying of the cup and an opening to pure spirit.
So empty yourself.
Forget what you think you know.
At least temporarily.
Open to another world that is here and all around us, though it often appears invisible.
And discover that retreat is not optional.
It is essential.
I say this coming off a four-day retreat here in Italy called Gondor that I created and experienced with a group of beautiful brothers from six different countries.
We came here and remembered together the essential importance of retreat.
But again, you don’t have to travel anywhere.
You can create spaces of retreat in your day-to-day life.
Discover what it means to create a space to become no one.
Become no-thing.
Let it all go.
So that something new can come in.
This process can be confronting.
It can be destabilizing at times.
If it becomes too much, take a step back.
Go back into normal life.
Be a normal dude or dudette for a while.
Just chill.
Then give it another try when you’re feeling more grounded.
Or ask for support if that feels useful.
But the crux of the message is simple:
Retreat is always available.
Retreat is not optional.
Make space for retreat.
Make space for emptying your cup.
Becoming no one.
No-thing.
And discovering the immense rejuvenation available there.
The immense possibility of letting something new come in.
Something transformational.
Something alchemical.
A new set of eyes.
A new way of seeing everything that occurs in your life.
This is essential for discovering true freedom and true happiness and wholeness here and now.
The wisest and happiest people, whether consciously or unconsciously, make that space for themselves.
They find that space to go for long walks in nature.
To get really good rest.
Really good sleep.
To unplug.
To disconnect.
To sit.
And simply be.
So give that gift to yourself.
If this resonates, give yourself that gift.
Make that space.
And let’s enjoy life.
Let’s be love.
Radiate love.
Be the mighty sequoias rooted deep to the earth, branches to the heavens, centered in the heart.
Ending all wars within and without.
Setting the kids free.
Setting all beings free.
And bringing the kingdom to earth.
Bringing the love to earth.
What else is there to do, baby?
What else is there to do?
Spread the love.
Let’s go.
Peace.
Joy.
Grace to you.
One love.
Much love.
Familia.
Gracias.
Wholeness,Jordan
If you’re feeling the call to retreat, I’ll be attending and guest facilitating in England for Soulstice Retreat, starting in three days. Jacob Kishere and Matthew Green of The Resonant Man have brought together an epic group of men for this, and I sense it will be a healing, liberating, and empowering experience. Learn more and grab a ticket.
A few final photos of a recent woodland adventure <3
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