Couples Becoming Intentional | Christian Marriage, Communication, Young Marriage, Relationships

We’ve got special guests on the podcast today! Libby and Luke Vandergriff (also known as The Wedding Pirates) join us to share all about how they lived 5 years on the road and in a bus to now setting down roots. They share thow they had to be MORE intentional with each other since living in a converted tiny bus together, how they handled fights, and how it’s definitely not all glamorous. We hope you enjoy this conversation! 

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With our kids ending school and losing a little bit of normality and routine, we have been finding ourselves “just getting through.” In this episode, we’re talking through how we have had to be intentional about our connection as partners. Including taking time just the two of us, creating a new routine, and making plans with people we love. We hope this episode gives you hope and grace for the summer season. 

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Running a business with your spouse is not an easy feat. There’s lots of conversations about how to communicate, meet deadlines, and who is doing what aspect of the business. In today’s episode, Jon and Carrie are discussing the different ways they make it work for their family. 

Episodes Referenced: 

• Episode 26 | Making the Decision to Have a Full Time Stay at Home Parent
• Episode 37 | Gender Roles & Finding Harmony Within a Marriage by Using Our Gifts and Talents

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It’s Ask Us Anything time! We turned to Instagram (@carrievajko) to ask us any questions they wanted and now we’re answering them for you on the show! Questions like, what is something we’re passionate about learning, the pettiest fight we have, and if we regret having kids so young. 

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In today’s episode Jon and Carrie share the 2 things they wish they would’ve known before they got married. If you’re recently married, or thinking about getting married, we pray this conversation blesses you! 

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Diving into the concept, what if marriage was meant to make us holy rather than happy. Jon and Carrie share insights from their personal conversations with friends and family, highlighting the need to move beyond self-gratification and towards the edification of others. We refer to the book Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas and share questions to ask your partner if you’re in a tough season. 

Questions for reflection: 

• Why did you choose to get married or why do you want to get married?
• How do you think most Christians would describe the purpose of marriage?
• What has your marriage revealed to you about your sinful attitudes, selfish behaviors, and other character flaws?
• What do you think the reason is that marriage brings out so many character issues or character opportunities to the surface?
• How do you react to the idea that God may have designed marriage to make us holy even more than, even more than to make us happy.

Resources: 

• Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

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Stemming from a recent experience, Jon and Carrie share their recent situation about handling conflict and how it can easily become gossip or even seek advice. We talk through Matthew 18 and how to biblically handle conflict when they arise in your relationships. 

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Jon turns the tables on Carrie and asks 15 questions to connect. These are great questions to ask your significant other to spark great conversations. Let us know what questions you want to hear next and if you’d join Carrie on her epic dream vacation. 

Questions asked: 

1. What's got you excited right now?

2. Who has been pivotal in your life for growth? 

3. If I asked you at age 5 what you wanted to be when you grew up, what would you say?

4. What do you want to be when you grow up? 

5. Would you rather people perceive you as being kind, smart or attractive? 

Rapid fire: 

• Name one thing on your bucket list

• Name two places you'd like to travel to

• What was your favorite childhood game? 

• What show have you rewatched the most?

• Should toilet paper hang over or under?

1. What do you love about our marriage? 

2. What does your ideal friend weekend look like? 

3. What would you do if you won the lottery? 

4. What was your best birthday? 

5. What's the best thing about being a mom? 

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We follow up discussing more from Dr. Nicolas Ellen and his extensive work with relationships. Trust is something that is meant to be a gift in our relationships but often becomes a curse when it is broken. We’re wrapping up this conversation about what it means to trust others in regards to their relationship with you and how it’s ultimately a reflection of your relationship with Jesus. 

Connect with Dr. Nicolas Ellen

Episodes mentioned: 

• Episode 36 | The Four Levels of Relating in Relationships - Cultivating Open and Loving Relationships
• Episode 41 | Understanding & Developing Trust in Relationships - PART ONE

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We continue discussing more from Dr. Nicolas Ellen and his extensive work with relationships. Trust is something that is meant to be a gift in our relationships but often becomes a curse when it is broken. We’re diving deeper into what it means to trust others in regards to their relationship with you and how it’s ultimately a reflection of your relationship with Jesus. This is just part one, so join us next week for part two! 

Episodes mentioned: 

• Episode 36 | The Four Levels of Relating in Relationships - Cultivating Open and Loving Relationships
• Episode 39 | Starting Over, Moving, Disappointment & Navigating God’s Will For Your Life 

Questions to Ponder: 

• Are you looking to people for security? 
• Are you relying on someone to provide for you what only God can?
• Are you expecting too much from someone? 

Connect with Dr. Nicolas Ellen

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