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Recently, we’ve walked through what it’s like to have friends move away from us in proximity, and the impact it has had on us. It’s holding grief and joy in the same hands. On one hand we’re excited for our friends who are being obedient to Christ, and on the other, we’re sad for what friendship looks like with distance and in a new season.  

Episodes mentioned: 

• Episode 39 | Starting Over, Moving, Disappointment & Navigating God’s Will For Your Life 
• Episode 31 | How Do I Find Community? Our Journey in Finding Our People

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We got asked recently how we’ve handled moving a lot and feeling like you have to start over your community, church, jobs, friends. Spoiler alert - it’s not easy! We talk about our experience with navigating having to start over and move to different areas (we talk more in Episode 2). Listen in as we share more about our experience and how you can navigate God’s will for your life. 

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With Easter right around the corner, we’ve got some fun Would You Rather questions that you can bring to your family this weekend while you’re having your holiday meals and gatherings. 

1. WOULD YOU RATHER Go zip lining OR… Bungee jumping
2. WOULD YOU RATHER Have to waddle like a duck wherever you go OR… Have to hop like a bunny wherever you go?
3. WOULD YOU RATHER Be 25 OR… 45 for the rest of your life? 
4. WOULD YOU RATHER Have a garage sale to make extra money OR… Have a lemonade stand to make extra money?
5. WOULD YOU RATHER Be allergic to grass OR… Be allergic to chocolate?
6. WOULD YOU RATHER Have 10 children OR… No children at all?
7. WOULD YOU RATHER Be 45 minutes late OR… 45 minutes early to every event or engagement?
8. WOULD YOU RATHER Have your least favorite song played on a constant loop, OR… Never listen to music ever again?
9. WOULD YOU RATHER Have a huge wedding OR… Just get a marriage license?
10. WOULD YOU RATHER Be on a dating show (like The Bachelor or Love Is Blind) OR… A survival show?

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One area that can cause conflict in a marriage is figuring out who is going to do what when it comes to chores, parenting, finances, etc. We talk about family of origin dynamics that carry into our marriage and who we assumed would do things, having conversations about who will do what, and how we can leverage our natural talents to support the household. 

Highlights: 

• Family of origin 
• Giving and taking 
• Having a conversation rather than stuffing 
• Our past experience 
• Being adaptable and serving each other well
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Episode References: 

• Episode 26 | Making the Family Decision to Have a Full Time Stay at Home Parent

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There are four different levels of the way that you relate to others in relationships. This concept was established by Dr. Nicolas Ellen has opened our eyes to showing us how we can best love and support those we love and move towards being in an open and loving relationship with everyone. 

These terms give language to where you’re at in your relationships and how you can strive towards open and loving relationships. 

4 levels of relating: 

1. Open and Unloving 
2. Closed and Loving 
3. Open and Loving 
4. Closed and Unloving 

Episode references: 

• 31 | How Do I Find Community? Our Journey in Finding Our People

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Hannah Brindley (IG: @hannahbrindley) joins us on the podcast today to share her journey of being single and how the Church has had an impact on her journey. She shares practical tips on how married couples can best love their single friends too. 

Highlights: 

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  Tell us your journey being single and how has the church been supportive or harmful in this area?
• What has been a blessing about being single?
• What do you wish married couples knew about being single? 
• How can those in a different life stage serve you? 
  
  

Connect with Hannah: 

Any questions you can DM on Instagram @hannahbrindley or email at [email protected]

Find more information about her upcoming membership at hannahbrindley.com/membership

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Have you ever gone on a date with your spouse and you realize you have nothing to talk about? You spend so much time together, you know a lot about your spouse, so you feel awkward with nothing to talk about. Grab your notes section in your phone and copy these questions down and bring them to your next date night. We hope this sparks great conversation and a great date night. 

Questions: 

1. Which Marvel Character would you date, marry, and do away with? 
2. Is cereal a soup?
3. What is the weirdest thing you've ever been called, or your most ridiculous nickname?
4. If our house started burning and everyone else including me, the kids, and the family pets are safe, what item would you take one last dash into the house to save?
5. What's your most useless talent?
6. If I was a Disney villain, which one would I be?
7. If animals could talk, what animal would know the best swear words?
8. Is there a purchase you regret? What about one that was totally worth it?

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Yep. We’re going there. We’re talking about how scheduling sex has made a dramatic difference in our intimacy as a couple. We know that this topic can be taboo in Christian spaces. We want to be able to shed light on it. We chat through how this habit has changed our life and marriage for the better! 

Highlights: 

• If we don’t talk about it, we make it what we want it to be
• Was Purity Culture helpful? 
• How far is too far?
• Does this grow me closer to God?
• Our sex expectations going into marriage
• Sex is not your identity 
• How do you define it?
• Benefit of having scheduled sex
• Being flexible too 
• Having your own frequency
• Different types of intimacy 

References: 

• Jefferson and Aluyssa Bethke on Sex 

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Immediate family and extended family are the people we tend to spend a majority of our life with. How do you spend intentional time with your immediate family (spouse, kids, or yourself) and how do you spend intentional time with your extended family (family of origin and in-laws).  

Highlights: 

• Finding joy in the small moments, at home 
• Removing the phone 
• Disassociating through social media  
• Removing things on our calendar 
• Creating time on the calendar for extended family 
• Inviting extended family members to the “big” moments of your kids life
• Releasing extended family decisions 

References: 

• Episode 22 | Navigating Family Through the Holidays
  
  

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Wouldn’t life be easier if making friends was just like elementary school? You’d simply go up to someone and ask “do you want to be friends?” without any fear of rejection or judgment. Making friends as adults and finding your community of people doesn’t seem that simple anymore. Today, we’re diving into how you can find your community. Your people. We walk through our journey of finding our people to do life with and the good, bad, and ugly of it. This one is vulnerable for us to share this story, we pray it encourages you. 

Who could you be more intentional with? 

Where can you look for a small group that you can join?

What activities do you like to do that you can include others with?

Where do I need to heal from past wounds?

What’s the next small step I could take today? 

Highlights: 

• Feeling like a fish out of water 
• Still figuring out who we were 
• Our journey in finding our people 
• Finding people who do the same things as you 
• Serving and being in a life group 
• Requires action 
• Taking a bold step of the ask 
• Not allowing past experiences to shape current ones

References: 

• Episode 27 | How Being Open With Our STUFF Has Made Us More Intentional With Giving
• I’ll Be There (but I’ll be wearing sweatpants) by Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnson  

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