Courting in Color

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss the politics of dating. Before diving in, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis is becoming involved in local community organizing efforts and weeks later is still attempting to send postcards; meanwhile, Chatrice has finalized a bae-cation and learned compromise through the process. WIth the main topic, our hosts use the Political Compess Test to guide their conversation on political affiliations and dating. The test covers a wide variety of issues and our hosts ask questions to each other about country support, economy, personal social values, larger society, religion, and s3x.

cw: r@pe

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:32 - What the hosts have been up to since last time they recorded?

11:28 - Holidays we are celebrating: National Sex Toy Day, National Sandwich, and National Homemaker Day

14:45 - Shoutout for the culture: people of color dressing up for halloween; Blue Ivy getting awards; Twitter user @/__inCANdescent’s late bloomer tweet

22:52 - Main Topic: Politics of Dating; political affiliations and dating

25:21 - Are politics or political affiliations an important factor in dating?

26:19 - Nicole Moore, the CEO and owner of Love Works discusses how her clients do not want date people who are not work (from “How to deal when you and your partner are political opposites”

28:26 - Not talking about politics to keep race neutrality 

30:34 - Sex and the City reference, Samantha Jones’ view on politics

32:23 - Could you date someone whose political views are different than yours?

34:09 - The Political Compass Test https://www.politicalcompass.org/test 

35:28  - Prompt #1: I’d always support my country whether it was right or wrong

36:04 - Prompt #2: No one choses their country of birth so it is foolish to be proud of it

37:52 - Prompt #3: The enemy of my enemy is my friend 

39:59 - Prompt #4: People are more divided by class than nationality

42:40 - Prompt #5: Land should not be a bought commodity to be bought and sold

46:43 - Promt #6: Abotion when the women’s life isn’t threatened should be illegal

 47:41 - Prompt #7: An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth

51:00 Prompt #8: Good parents sometimes have to spank their children

53:20 - Prompt #9: Mothers may have careers but their first duty is to be a homemaker

54:21 - Prompt #10: S3x outside of marriage is usually immoral

55:12: - Promp #12 (Final) - These days openness about s3x has gone too far

59:05 - Final take aways

Notes

Article: Nicole Moore on Today.Com https://www.today.com/health/how-deal-when-you-your-partner-are-political-opposites-t192617 

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On this week’s episode, Courting in Color celebrates 50 episodes! Chatrice and Luis talk #SeasonByeve of Insecure. Do you watch the show, Courting Cuties? Before jumping into their thoughts on this new season, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis travelled with friends from grad school to Asheville, NC and Chatrice is bae-cation planning. For the main topic: our hosts talk college homecoming (yay or nay?), the point of college homecomings, the fates of the characters throughout the season, and questions they hope are answered this season.

*SPOILER WARNING 22:39 to end of show*

CW: death, su*cid*l

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:43 - Can you believe we have done 50 episodes?

1:30 - What have the hosts have been up to?

6:15 - Chatrice’s Bae-cation Announcement 

10:49 - Grocery bill increase from singlehood to bae-ified 

11:19 - What holiday are we celebrating or chosing not to celebrate?: National Text Your Ex-Day; Native Heritage Month

13:39 - Shout Outs: Courting in Color 50 episode, Happy Birthday Hayley 

15:45 - Shout Out for the Culture: Karma’s World (Netflix); Indigenous Goddess Gang (IG) posts about “A Gathering Basket”, a new indigenous cookbook by indigenous people; BAPS leaves Netflix November 1; #InsecureFest happened, our invite got lost in the mail

22:39 - Main Topic: Season 5 of Insecure (HBO)

22:40 - Quick recap of Season 4 insecure

25:50 - Season 5 Initial Thoughts 

33:30 - College homecoming, yay or nay?

40:03 - Is a return to college contingent on a glow up?

45:12 - Is college reunion the time to find the next bae or just catch up with people?

49:01 - Kelli is pronounced dead

50:30 - Luis wonders if Kelli is going down a dark hole this season

55:17 - Insecure and Sex & the City cross over

55:52 - Tiffany says about Kelli “And she was my soulmate” similar to Charlotte’s line from Sex and the City 

57:41 - Predictions for the rest of the semester

59:41 - Questions to be answered: where is the child? Where is Condola? Should Lawrence and Issa be together?

1:00:12 - “I don’t know if i’m on the right path” Luis relates to this quote from Issa

1:04:40 - What song brings you back immediately back to college?

Links:
- “ Karma’s World” Trailer - https://youtu.be/ZhNu93rGx-o
- “A New Cookbook by Indigenous People, for Indigenous People” by Priya Krisha https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/11/dining/indigenous-people-food-cookbook.html
- Indigenous Goddess Gang (IG) - https://www.instagram.com/indigenousgoddessgang/
- What’s Leaving Netflix November 2021: https://www.whats-on-netflix.com/leaving-soon/whats-leaving-netflix-in-november-2021/
- #InsecureFest: https://twitter.com/crissles/status/1452044797179351040?s=21
- @UrsineNoir’s Insecure Twitter Thread (for S5E1): https://twitter.com/UrsineNoir/status/1452712214075527168?s=20

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about one of their favorite television series: Sex and the City. Since last time, Luis visited their new therapist twice already and for Chatrice she is exploring a shared calendar with her boo. For the main topic, our hosts talk about when they were introduced to Sex and the City, their Sex and the City-esque New Years, and their favorite moments throughout the series.

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

2:55 - Shout out to therapist who do their practice with equity &  justice in mind

11:43 - Luis finds out Chatrice’s boo is an Aquarius!

15:57 - Holidays We Are Celebrating: October is National Kink Month; Sweetest Day is October 16th

19:23 - Main Topic: Sex and the City

19:52 - Sex and the City first aired in 1998 features Carrie Bradshaw and her three friends 

20:48 - Why Courting in Color is talking about Sex and the City

21:19 - What did Sex and the City mean to the hosts in 1998?

23:53 - How old were the hosts when they were introduced to Sex and the City? 

26:23 -  Luis talking about watching Sex and the City more in grad school to learn about dating

28:04 - TBS aired syndicated episodes of Sex and the City but were the edited/censored episodes 

29:11 - What was the grip of Sex and the City for people of color?

29:31 - Connecting to “Girlfriends” for Chatrice

31:39 - New York is the fifth character of Sex and the City 

36:07 - Chatrice and Luis celebrate New Years together Sex and the City style

37:24 - Are our hosts more of a Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, or Samantha?

40:14 - The queering and othering of Miranda throughout the series; the other character’s access to feminity in comparison to Miranda

41:52 - The Carrie Diaries on CW

44:56 - The show asked big questions, as did our hosts before they started Courting in Color podcast 

47:50 - A Luis Fave Scene: Samantha and “Hold My Rice Pudding” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2u57bgUjSM

48:41 - Sex and the City and communal aspect of food and strong friendships; Luis wanting that in their life

50:43 - In real life, who would our hosts be friends with?

52:09 - Shout out to Stanford Blatch and Anthony Marantino

53:57 - Vulnerability, care, supporting each other through major life events is what the girls’ friendship was about 

54:56 - Favorite Scenes

55:05 - Luis’ Favorite Scene: Carrie Gets Ditched on Her Birthday: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofTAgvr8R48

56:26 - Luis’ Favorite Scene: “Maybe we can be each other’s soulmates” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ-PzM4WnAI

57:25 - Luis’ Favorite Quote: A Plane Ride Away - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVdYiNhOYgY

1:00:28 - Chatrice’s Favorite Scene/Quote: Charlotte’s “My Hair Hurts” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JVeFRRLdAc

1:01:13 - Chatrice’ Favorite Quote: “I’m Looking for Real Love….” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5ax4dohrX0

1:02:45 - Chatrice’s Favorite Scene: Charlotte Gets Engaged to Harry and Carrie Gets Broken Up via Post it - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPhCvyb5jeQ

1:04:33 - More to discuss: the runner ups - characters the main 4 were in a relationship with (Samantha and Maria; Miranda and Robert)

1:06:28 - End of Episode

Links:

Sex and the City via IMDB - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0159206/

Sex and the City TBS Promo (2005) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5DdhL5r-Uc

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Jaime of Jota Reads, an Instagram Book Club, to talk dating and relationships as found in books! Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Chatrice is being superhost, on site for work, and celebration National Boyfriend Day; while Luis is a busy bee, being on the virtual speaking circuit, and finding time to breathe during a busy time. Before getting to the main topic, Jaime talks to Courting in Color and our hosts about Jota Reads including what is the word “jota” and its history as well as what is the importance of starting an online book club centered on queer joy. Our hosts and Jaime talk good relationship advice from romance novels, respond to an article about applicable relationship advice from romance novels, and to wrap up book recomendations from Jaime and our hosts!

 Time Stamp:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:56 - Hosts check in: Chatrice is on site at work, hosting on Airbnb again

5:28 - Question for the season: what holiday are we celebrating this week? October 3 - National Boyfriend Day; October 11- National Coming Out Day; October 11 - Indigenous Peoples’ Day 

6:35 - Chatrice celebrations National Boyfriend Day in style

10:51 - Shout Out for the Culture: Lil Nas X’s “MONTERO” album; Adele’s comeback and new album (named “30” perhaps?)

14:24 - Guest: Jaime of Jota Reads and guest introductions

16:40 - Whitness of bear community; affirming of body space, not affirming of people of color 

17:35 - What is the dating scene in Jaime’s hometown?

19:08 - Current dating/relationship s tatus of Jaime

22:03 - What is Jota Reads?  

26:18 - What is jota? The history of the word “jota”

29:05 - Main Topic: what can books teach us about dating and courting? 

29:19 - Research on the main topic: article - “Good Relationship Advice from Romance Novels” by Maya Rodale (Bustle, May 2015) 

31:07 - Advice: Believe in Hate at First Sight

34:40 - connection to Netflix’s Bridgerton 

36:48 - “What is my tresh hold of what can I disagree on?” - Luis

38:08 - Advice: Don’t Fall for the “Right” Guy

41:19 - Jaime talks about important value in dating as part of being the right guy 

42:17 - “You can’t marry a man you just met” - Elsa to Anna in “Frozen”

43:25 - Conversation on green flags in relationship in addition to red flags

43:55 - Advice: Be Totally Unrealistic

47:31 - “Everybody’s fairytale is different, you get to define yours” - Jaime

48:50 - Striving for the queer chicano fairy tale

49:10 - Are there books that come to mind that have taught us lessons about dating and relationships?

49:29 - Books from Jaime about queer love: “The Rain God” by Arturo Islas; “Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secret of the Univere” by Benjamin Alire Sáenz

54:29 - Books from Chatrice with lessons about dating and relationship: “How to Fail at Flirting” by Denise Williams

56:05 - Juxtaposition of reading black voices in the space of romance as opposed to white voices like in “The Baby Sitters Club”

58:11 - Who writes books about romance, dating, and relationship?

59:24 - Luis Book Recommendation: The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune

1:00:18 - Consuming media and representation in media 

1:01:24 - Close Out: Where can people find Jaime? Follow @JotaReads on Instagram!

Notes:

“Good Relationship Advice from Romance Novels” by Maya Rodale - https://www.bustle.com/articles/79598-9-relationship-lessons-i-learned-from-romance-novels-because-these-books-actually-teach-you-real-life-advice

@JotaReads on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jotareads/ 

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome the Courting Cuties to season 5 of this podcast! They catch up in this season-opener episode. Since the end of last season, Luis’ work has ramped, a therapy appointment soon, trying to find a groove in a new cooking schedule, and staying out late; for Chatrice, life has looked like an offical housewarming, enrolled in 2 PhD classes, seeing Spicy White officially, and doing Black Things with a new boo. 

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

2:23 - New Question for the Season: Random Holidays

3:06 - Sept. 30th is National Love People Day

4:01 - Sept. 26th is National Love Note Day

6:39 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: John, Tasha, Dr. Kate

10:58 - Shout Out for the Culture: Haitians at the Mexico border

17:40 - Main Top: Update on Chatrice’s and Luis’ lifes

18:00 - Luis’ Catch Up: work, therapy, creativity, new cooking schedule, staying up late

24:00 - Chatrice’s Housewarming 

31:14 - Chatrice Catch Up: PhD classes, stepping away from some dating prospects, officially stepping into dating one person offically, introducing a new boo to Black culture items, 

38:53 - “Dating me is dating The Culture”

41:56 - Talking about good sushi!

42:37 - Chatrice and Luis: what does it mean to you to be a foodie?

50:50 - Luis and partner are about co-care for a new kitten

Links

“How Hope, Fear and Misinformation Led Thousands of Haitians to the U.S. Border” - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/17/us/haitians-border-patrol.html

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk dating lifestyle. Courting Cuties, are you more of a homebody or out here in these streets in dating or in your relationship? What is your dating lifestyle? Since last week, Luis purchased new crocs and being busy at work; meanwhile, Chatrice is also busy at work and went axe-throwing! For the main topic, our hosts discuss defining “homebody” and “socialite”; routines in a relationship; and the performance of dating.

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

1:27 - Hosts check in: what have they been up to since last week?

7:28 - Me moments of the week for the hosts

9:46 - The plight of a good supervisor in a toxic work environment (possible presentation topic!)

14:43 - Shout Out for the Culture: Daneille (friend of the pod) attending a new blind dating initiative in New York; Reservation Dogs on FX as the first television show with an all-Indigenous writing room; Issa Rae’s “Sweet Life: Los Angeles”; Danielle Brooks’ engagement photoshoot; Happy Birthday Angela Bassett

21:50 - Main Topic: Dating Lifestyle; being homebodies vs. lifestyle

22:21 - Chatrice coins the word “Dating Lifestyle”

22:33 - Buddybits.com discuss how dating is a lifestyle

23:43 - Are you a socialite or a homebody?

23:45 - Luis answers the question

26:01 - What comes to mind when you hear the words homebody and socialite? Defining “homebody” and “socialite”

27:56 - Top tier of socialite: being able to go out alone and find people, second tier of socialite: going out, you are popular and the people know you, third tier of socialite: you go out with your crew

30:12 - Homebody alone vs. homebody with people

31:50 - Ranking Luis on a scale of 1-10 of being a socialite 

34:09 - Home-alite and social-body: new terms!

35:29 - Wanting to spend time at home because it restores us and protects us

35:57 - Do you look for people with the same social level and social intrigue?

37:28 - Do you think when you are first dating a person, should it be more social in nature and out there?

39:01- booty-doir

39:55 - Chatrice discusses dating two guys: one lives down the street and the other lives down the mountain

40:46 - Luis asks Chatrice which dating lifestyle she is vibing more: the homebody or the one she does more activity?

41:32 - Developing a routine when dating is not bad thing!

42:21 - Luis speaks in the “I”: developing a routine was a corner stone in cementing their relationship

43:07 - Chatrice wonders why saying routine could be a rut

44:10 - Just because you have a routine with a new boo does not mean you are dating automatically

46:17 - Thinking about dating lifestyles especially in early parts of the dating and courting process

47:46 - Chatrice is an activator in dating!

49:42 - Advice for cuties who are approaching a relationship: do they need to let go of their single lifestyle to make space for their dating lifestyle?

51:39 - Have the “me time” with the “we time” in a relationship

52:03 - Luis struggles with “me time” creating space for themselves that restore them or indicative of them

53:11 - Spaces outside of home should be for me not just for socializing or being a socialite 

56:13 - It can feel that being in a relationship needs to be outside and performed

56:58 - Social integration in dating can be inside the house as well as outside the house

57:29 - Comfort

59:17 - Rhytmns look different in a relationship vs. when you are out there dating vs. actively dating

1:00:01 - Is this 30? choosing to eat at home as opposed to eating out?

1:02:38 - Actively unlearning or relearning while you are experiencing a good thing because you are not used to

1:03:04 - When you are actively used to experiencing the negative, it can be a lot to experience the positive; so use to anxiety that you do not know what to do when you are not experiencing the anxiety

1:04:13 - Reframing “setting” as “choosing” 

1:07:03 - Overall takeaways from the conversation

1:08:33 - Next season idea: how covid has impacted dating lifestyle

1:08:48 - Did we really have a hot girl summer this fall? My fall plans vs. delta variant memes

1:09:48 - It is okay to be a homebody in a relationship

1:12:20 - End of show

Links:

Reservation Dogs in the New York Times by Stuart Miller- https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/06/arts/television/reservation-dogs.html 

Sweet Life: Los Angeles on EW.com by Marcus Jones: https://ew.com/tv/meet-cast-of-sweet-life-los-angeles-issa-rae-produced-unscripted-series/

Danielle Brooks’ Engagement Photo Shoot via The Shade Room: https://theshaderoom.com/danielle-brooks-and-her-fiance-are-serving-elegance-adventure-in-their-engagement-photoshoot/

“Can Dating Be Considered A Lifestyle?” by Jignesh Patel - https://buddybits.com/2018/10/dating-lifestyle/

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss being REALly in our relations. What does it mean to be your real self in relationships? Since the last episode, Luis has Florida travel adventures and went on their first triple date; meanwhile, Chatrice recently returned from DC and learned lessons for train travelling. For the main topic of bringing real selves into relaitonships , our hosts talk about when the real you shows up, self-sabotage, and Brené Brown’s definition of vulnerability.

Time Stamps
0:20 - Hello and Welcome Back Courting Cuties

1:56 - What have the hosts been up to since last time they recorded?

10:05 - Anxiety of being fat while flying

11:53 - New money

14:25 - Pro Tip for Solo Travel via Train

14:55 - Me moments for the hosts for the week

17:44 - Heux/Dating Tip: when going on a double date, an activity breaks the ice because there is something to do and something to come back to 

21:59 - Shout out for the culture: Nicole Sealey and #TheSealeyChallenge; Beyonce and her new Adidas x IVY PARK’s collection; Rihanna is a billionaire; Fenty jockstraps are coming, maybe?; Dr. Kate newest accomplishment

26:51 - Main Topic: Are we bringing our most real selves in our relationships? Do I want my partner to bring their true? Do I know who I am as a potential partner?

31:57 - What matters most in dating? 

33:44 - “The person you are in a relationship with shouldn’t be your everything”

35:13 - Point of episode, hosts examining themselves as opposed to the people they are dating

35:24 - Essence Article by Danielle Pointdujour

35:45 - “At some point the real you has to come out and all the little things you’ve been trying to hide need to come out of the closet, so you can be accepted for who you truly are –the good, the bad and the awkward.” - Danielle Pointdujour

36:38 - Generally speaking, when do you feel like the real you comes up or shows up?

37:11 - Luis speaks about how being in a relationship has been about understanding who they are along who they are with this person

38:48 - Loveprojectlove.com: “With the guy she fancied, she felt the need to perform and impress him, as there’s more at stake. This could be the one she could marry one day, so she needed to be on best behaviour, right?”

41:20 - Having someone show you intimacy in another ways; learning what hill Luis wants to die on; 

41:40 - Luis is asking what are blocks are they developing to self sabotage this relationship

42:00 - Mental shift: when you find someone good, it is weird to accept this

44:03 - Naming of being scared of having someone who is committed to relationships

45:19 - Dating someone who’s relationship green light is on: things are going to move

48:36 - Societal oppression: impacts sense of self for hosts as people of color

49:34 - Hard to let someone see all the bagge

50:00 - Brene Brown’s definition of vulnerability: “There is no intimacy without vulnerability.” “The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. But vulnerability is not weakness.”

53:31 - Chatrice asking about the presence of her Blackness in a new relationship 

55:15 - Luis asks, as a person in a interrelationship relationship with a white person, how much labor should they do or want to do to educate about all things race?

56:27 - Luis coins a new term: race reminders

58:54 - Is there a moment or time where the hosts wish they were vulnerable or wish they were more vulnerable?

59:35 - Luis talks about navigating dating and the world as a non-cisgender man

1:04:20 - Hosts reminding themselves to take it one day at a time

1:04:41 - Nip it in the bud if we are sending in our representive

1:04:47 - Chatrice discussing body image and bringing it up to someone else, because then they are thinking about it 

1:06:45 - Brene Brown talking about waiting for the other shoe to drop

1:10:04 - Chatrice takeaway: try to be the person you admire someone for being especially in terms of vulnerability 

1:11:11 - Luis’ last thoughts: emotional exposure is so real, the hosts honor yours and their journey

1:11:41 - Luis says, “I am deserving of love, giving love and receiving love, and i cannot be my own block in doing so” 

1:13:09  - End of episode

Links

“Your Representative Should Not Be Dating, But You Should” by Danielle Pointdujour (via Essence.com)

“Who do you bring with you on a date? Yourself or a representative?” (via LoveProjectLove.com)

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Guest Courting Cutie Monet to talk about conviencing. Our hosts and Monet talk about a recent Tale of Tinderoni , defining and naming the rules of convenience dating, and, dating without the need for it to be long-term. Before this conversation, our hosts catch up: since last time Luis is on vacation doing travel to celebrate Chatrice’s birthday and Chatrice has joined the 30+ club (hello Leo season!). 

Time Stamps

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:32 - Hosts Check In: up to since last week

7:50 - Me moments of this past week 

10:21 - Shout Out for the Culture: Amber at BBQ joint; Issa Rae got married

15:42 - Guest Introduction: Monet 

19:07 - Monet describes dating scene in her town 

21:36 - Tales of Tinderoni

23:58 - Reactions to Tale 

33:26 - Vibe Check instead of dates?

41:25 - Main Topic: conveniencing, or convenience dating

42:26 - Defining conveniencing 

44:14 - Conviencing and the convenience-r

44:54 - Lovepanky.com’s definition of convenience dating: https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/relationship-of-convenience

45:36 - Rules for conveniencin

47:51 - Rule 1: open communication

48:00 - Rule 2: check in with yourself

49:43 - Luis’ relationship to conveniencing and convenience dating  

51:01 - Another rule for convenience dating: siloed, kept in a vacumn of sorts

51:32 - Convenience dating sounds a lot like casual dating 

53:59 - Why are people afriad of having conversations in dating, especially defining what the relationship is?

55:03 - Best communication in dating can happen in open and poly relationships in BD-M relationships

57:50 - Monet asks, when conveniencing how do you keep yourself safe?

1:03:15 - Wrapping Up

1:03:40 - no stigma in dating someone you don’t see yourself long term with

1:04:20 - When thinking about convenience dating, does doing so hinder you from a long-term goals in dating

1:06:17 - Conveniencing can be positive   

1:07:45 - Convenience dating can help with practice and help with your relationship journey

1:09:52 - “Everyone told us to go get married and find a spuse but no one told us about the journey that we all have to embark upon to get there and what all that entails and how that looks so different for everyone”

1:13:25 - End of episode 

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On this week’s epsidoe, Chatrice and Luis bring the Cuties part II of their BDSM discussion - this time sharing and discussing the results of the BDSM test they took. Before diving into the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Chatrice and Luis went furntiture shopping and met an array of characters! Luis woke up hella early to win for free coffee for a year (thanks Dunkin!) while Chatrice went on a very special date.

Time Stamps

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:45 - What have  hosts been up to since last week

11:08 - Chatrice’s special date announcement 

17:08 - Chatrice has been going on Happy Birth-dates!  

17:35 - Me moments of the week for Chatrice and Luis

19:14 - Shout Out for the Culture: (1) Black Women on the Cover: Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition with Megan the Stallion, Leyna Bloom, and Naomi Osaka; Simon Biles on Wall Street Journal (2) Black Women on the Move: Nanga Awasum gets photographed by Bella Hadid and her career changes

24:22 - Main Topic, Part II

25:30 - What does BDSM stand for? 6 words that BDSM stands for

25:58 - BDSM definition from Merriam-Webster: overall and each word - bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism

31:28 - How much of whiteness is infused within BDSM?

33:01 - BDSM personality test discussion 

36:22 - Naming each of the Top 5 BDSM traits for Chatrice and Luis

38:36 - Defining the different top 5 traits: rope bunny, brat, submissive, vanilla, voyeurs, 

44:18 - Chatrice’s visit to Amesterdam

52:01 - Defining switch

55:22 - Final Thoughts

59:45 - Nude Beach adventures 

1:02:10 - Episode End

Links:
https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode

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On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss BDSM after completing an online quiz. For this Part 1 episode, our hosts specifically get into sex within in dating and relationships talking about orgasm gap, aftercare, and outercourse. Since last time Luis was recognized out on the skreets and figuring they lost all of their social skills during the pandemic while Chatrice continues to work on the house before her birthday and might have a date!

Time Stamps

0:20 - Welcome Back, Courting Cuties

0:34 - What the hosts have been up to since last time recording

7:59 - Courting Cuties Exclusive: Chatrice is dating a _____ ______.

11:24 - Selfish moments / me moment of the week for the hosts

19:14 - Shout Out for the Culture: Zayla Avant-garde, Vax That Thang Back; MJ Rodriguez’s emmy nomination

23:44 - Courting Cutie Shout Out helps us answer is breakfast a date-y meal

28:34 - Breakfast is a date foreplay

29:10 - Main Topic Intro

29:35 - Chatrice’s amazing d!ck appointment

32:40 - Foreplay Game: Word Association and Story/Memory 

33:36 - Word Assocation word: aftercare - originated from the BDSM community; the care, treatment, and support of one’s partner(s) after a sexual encounter

38:10 - Word Association word: orgasm gap - social phenoma, typrically referring to the dispartiy between cisgender straight men and cisgender straight women achieving orgasm during a heterosexual encourtner

44:20 - Word Association word: outercourse - sexual activity, can include a wide variety of activities but usually doesn’t include sexual penetration 

50:38 - Mutual beneficial, everyone should have their meets during sex

Vax That Thang Up: https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/juvenile-back-that-thang-up-vax-that-thang-up-covid-19-vaccine-1193507/

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