Creating Peace, Joy, Beauty & Variety

What has dropping expectations and relinquishing control created in my marriage? We like each other. We support each other. We are good to each other. We want the best for each other. When one of us succeeds or is excited about something it makes us feel amazing... because we had a big part in helping them create it!

You create love by thinking loving thoughts. If someone doesn't love you, it doesn't mean anything about you. Your lovability has NOTHING to do with you. It has everything to do with the other persons ability to love. If they aren't thinking loving thoughts, they won't feel love towards you. You could do and say all the right things, and they might never love you. You can't make someone love you. It's a freeing thought. My only job is to love them, not to try to EARN their love.

So often we decide to ACT differently to try to fix things in our marriage. Our behaviors are better, so why do our spouses feel manipulated instead of thankful?

Feeling resentful in your marriage? I share 3 simple steps to end resentment FOREVER!

One of my very favorite thoughts from my coach Brooke Castillo, is that B minus work gets the job done. So often, we are so worried about failing that we decide not to try. What if B minus work is the best we've got? What if trying and even failing is the way to success in our marriages?

"We need to talk." It's The Worst

While reading in the New Testament this past week I was given personal revelation about how this chapter related to my marriage in that past and many of my clients who are currently struggling with difficult situations right now. I feel a profound sense of love for all you who are suffering. What I share in this episode is one of the hardest things I've ever done- which is to humbly search my heart in an effort to let Christ heal me. How grateful I am to my Savior for taking my burdens in my marriage and making them light. I will be forever grateful.

How do some wives seem so satisfied in their marriages? Their husbands must be WAY different than your husband. They are so LUCKY... or are they? Listen for some tried and true methods to getting more of what you want in your marriage relationship or really any relationship that's important to you.

What I Got Wrong in my Marriage

How two different people not only survived but thrived when they were imprisoned in concentration camps during WWII. Their examples can teach us much when we are faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges.