Crud Talk with Sonya Brunner

I met my father for the first time. **WARNING** Mature audiences Only

Be careful what you ask. You might now like the answers.

This is the gut-wrenching story and what I learned.

Every choice has a ripple effect on us...and everyone else.

I AM THANKFUL.

Everyone has CRUD. It's how we deal with it that makes all the difference.

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#forgiveness

#fathers

Has this ever happened to you?

You're called to do something, you're passionate, you're working hard and...NO ONE is cheering for you. In fact they don't even ask about it or get involved in any way. They might even make the conversation all about what THEY are doing. Sometimes, they can even be mean because of jealousy.

It can be lonely. It can be discouraging. But here's some things this cheerleader learned.

"When the CHEERLEADER Needs a CHEERLEADER!" Crud Talk E143

We are a society that has MORE than ever…as far as money, modern conveniences, information, and the ability to learn and change our circumstances. Now all we have to do…is GOOGLE IT! And we can find anything we need…like RIGHT NOW! We have it all...but still we want MORE. We have everything...but we are miserable...lonely...& discontent. Why? And how does that impact the other areas of our lives?

We're talking about discontentment and how to deal with that crud.

"I Can't Get No...SATISFACTION" - Crud Talk E142

Are you a MOM? We love it. It's our greatest accomplishment. It's everything we've ever dreamed of. We feel good about how we're doing and we're confident in our ability to be a great MOTHER. Right?

Hmmm.

Have you ever felt like this:

"There’s something wrong with me.

I feel like the biggest fake on the planet.

I wanted the dream.

A husband, who loves me...and kids.

I’ve wanted kids since I was little.

Now that I have everything I’ve ever wanted…

I’m more lonely than I thought I’d be.

I can’t handle being a mother."

"Good Mom's...Who Want To Leave!" - Crud Talk E141

Has this ever happened to you?

Someone hurts you and betrays your trust. But what if it comes from someone who should've known better but didn't do better by you? Those are some of the deepest wounds. We're hearing from a woman who was hurt by her father. Because of that hurt, she made choices that hurt herself and her marriage. This is an incredible story of heartbreak and healing. Listen to her story.

"Should've Known Better" - Crud Talk E140

It's March MADNESS. Basketball and MORE basketball.

And I'm MAD! Are YOU?

People handle anger in all different kinds of ways. 

Are you king or queen of the flagrant fouls or flopping?

So, what do we do when we get mad? 

What do we do when we’ve been hurt or betrayed or disappointed by someone else? 

Do we retaliate? 

Do we shut down? 

Do we hold a grudge? 

Do we blame others? 

Do we make excuses for how we act? 

Do we refuse to forgive? 

Do we get MAD? 

What does the anger do for you? Does it help you? Or does it become part of the problem?

It’s ALL about the way we handle our anger that matters most. We're talking about it.

"The MAD...In March MADness!" - Crud Talk E139

People are awesome...until they're NOT. (Deep Sigh.) And why does it seem like they're always the loudest and most repeat-offenders? (Eye-roll) When we've been hurt by others, we can get discouraged...especially if things don't ever change. Saying stupid things like, "If I didn't hurt you, you wouldn't be where you are today. I take 100% credit for you." Yep. Like I said, people are awesome...until you want to throat punch them. :) 

What do we do when we are stuck in the hurt? How do we get past it? We're talking about it today on Crud Talk.

"From the Pit...To The Party!" - Crud Talk E138

“It’s time to STOP telling our daughters NOT to wear shorts when Uncle Bob is over…and start telling Uncle Bob he can’t come over anymore.”

Uncle Bob would INSIST on "hugs". He'd look me up and down, he'd hold me TOO close and He would always try to kiss me. The worst part of all of it was...that his hands would always be TOO HIGH up. Then he would LINGER there, while TONS of adults stood in the room doing NOTHING!

I feel like many people have an "Uncle Bob" in their family. I hear from lots of people regarding this issue…and how much damage it’s cost them personally, not only the violation & trauma of the act, but the strain and the rejection of their family members. This is hard to talk about…but so so so common. I’m not one to sugar coat ANYTHING…you guys know that…So here we go.

“It’s time to STOP telling our daughters NOT to wear shorts when Uncle Bob is over…and start telling Uncle Bob he can’t come over anymore.”

"Uncle Bob Has Got To Go!" - Crud Talk E137

"Do what you want, say what you want, live how you want, when you want. Do what makes YOU happy. You do you!" If everything revolves around us and it IS all about ME...then why aren't we happy? Could it be that there's some crud in there that hasn't been dealt with...and we're responding in ways that are hurtful to ourselves or others? Is this is you, then...SHUT THE...CRUD...UP!

Got Crud? Everybody does. How we deal with it, makes all the difference. So let's deal with it.

"Shut the...CRUD..UP!" Crud Talk E136

I'm just so...HURT! 

Have YOU been hurt by someone? Have you been betrayed, disappointed, wounded? Has it been difficult to forgive and to get past it? I GET IT! I don't know a human being on earth...who hasn't been hurt by somebody else. All of us have crud, so what can we do...to get past the pain and move on? We're talking about CRUD that HURTS...and how to deal with it. 

"When It HURTS Like CRUD...How to Deal with HURT" - Crud Talk E135