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CRUDE #10

In this episode, the Crude team get all wet as they dive deep into the fluid shallows of the world of squirting. So, what is it? How does it work? Can everyone do it? And, most importantly ... is it pee? [It's not :) ]

Misty and Frank in Berlin, Effie and Elle in London are joined by G in the studio to go over the myths and science as well as all the other sloshy details you need to know about squirting.

G (g/they/them) is an experimental intimacy artist, writer, erotic bodyworker and performer who has been 'orgynizing' and facilitating play spaces worldwide since 2014. G loves puns, is a proud squirter and prefers hip-hop to techno. You can find them on Insta @passions.g.ame

*What we were reading*

[Scientific study] A sexual superpower or a shame? Women’s diverging experiences of squirting/female ejaculation in Sweden

[Scientific survey] Female ejaculation has a positive impact on women's and their partners' sexual lives

[Historical article] The History of Female Ejaculation

*Squirting workshops and coaching*

[Insta] World record Squirter @lolajeandotcom

[Squirt coaching UK] ecbonyandivory.com

[Squirt coach UK, Insta] @jessicaparkerpleasure

CRUDE #9

Elle, Misty, Frank, and special guest Becka in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk about the different types of help people turn to to become better lovers or to enhance their own sexual experiences. With a huge surge in interest in sexual learning in the past years, the Crude team discuss if sex can be coached at all and why people believe it can.

Rebecca is a coach, workshop, and breathwork facilitator, and writer. Her focus is on sexuality, pleasure, relaxation and the exploration of how to live a rich emotional, and physical life. Find her on Insta @feel_more_bln

*What we were reading*

[Book] Avgi Saketopoulou, Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia (2023)

[Festival] Stockholm Scenario Festival

[Workshops] Workshops on seggsual learning from luhmen d'Arc Insta: @luhmendarc_

[Webpage] James Joyce's love farts

"You had an arse full of farts that night, darling, and I fcuked them out of you, big fat fellows, long windy ones, quick little merry cracks and a lot of tiny little naughty farties ending in a long gush from your hole. It is wonderful to fcuk a farting woman when every fcuk drives one out of her. I think I would know Nora’s fart anywhere. I think I could pick hers out in a roomful of farting women. It is a rather girlish noise not like the wet windy fart which I imagine fat wives have. It is sudden and dry and dirty like what a bold girl would let off in fun in a school dormitory at night. I hope Nora will let off no end of her farts in my face so that I may know their smell also."

CRUDE #8

On this podcast, the Crude team are chatting with two special guests about why they cheat.

Effie in London joins Elle, Misty, and Frank to get all down and Crudey about a subject everyone has strong opinions about but rarely discusses. Why do people cheat? If so many people cheat, then why do people get so upset about it? Statistics generally estimate that around 30% – 50% of the humans in this world are cheating.

What does this say about monogamy? Why are poly evangelists and people who practice ethical non-monogamy so smug and judgemental about people who feel they have to cheat because they have too much to lose with full disclosure?

Is cheating a kink? Are affairs always hotter sex? Find out the answers to all of these questions and more only here, on Crude

*What we were reading*

[Journal article, PDF] Money, Masculinity, and Marital Infidelity

[Scientific article] Reasons for cheating

[Article] Who cheats more, women or men?

[German Survey] More women cheat than men

CRUDE #7

In this episode, the Crude team gets all infectious with a whole show dedicated to STIs.

Why can't people be more honest about their STI status? Why do so many people not get tested? Are people in sex-positive scenes more or less trustworthy when it comes to sexually transmitted infections?

Elle, Misty, and Frank in Berlin are joined by the evergorge Effie in London to talk about the stigmas surrounding STI testing and the dreaded positive test call. The team also talked about the incongruities of the ridiculous testing regime in Germany compared to other Western countries.

DM our Insta channel (@crude_podcast) for info on doctors in Berlin offering free and easy STI testing for all genders and sexualities.

*What we were reading*

[Book] Susan Sontag, Aids and its Metaphors (1989)

[Article] The Secret Code of Beauty Spots

[Book] Kate Lister, Harl0ts, Wh0res & Hackab0uts: A History of S3x for Sale (2021)

[Article] Love is contagious: how sexual diseases contaminated art history

CRUDE #6

In this episode, the Crude team talks candidly about the hedonist excesses of s3x-positive lifestyle and how various substances and booze can enhance or even ruin playtime.

Misty, Frank, and special guest Visar, are in Berlin, while Effie is back in London. The four chat about their experiences with dr8gs and sex and how this can affect giving or receiving consent. Sober parties and dark rooms come up, and Frank reveals how Effie tried to murder him with her p**sy one fateful evening.

*Important addresses*

Substance usage is extremely dangerous and can very quickly lead to abuse and addiction. It's important to know that there are anonymous phone lines in every major city where you can find answers to any questions or concerns you may have about alcohol or drugs.

Berlin: This organisation has addiction counselors who speak multiple languages

London: Contact details for various addiction and counseling services around the UK

*What we were reading*

Infographic: A map of deadly drug combinations

Penile injections: An introduction to the effects and side effects.

[Article] The dangers of recreational drugs

CRUDE #5

When is a gangbang not a gangbang? We think it all depends on the perspective. Elle, Misty, Effie and Frank give you the lowdown on banging gangs. If this has been a fantasy of yours or if you want to hear how others experience it, join the Crude conversation.

Amanda Kerri: (quote in Substackú, Growing up Transgender): "I had body issues. For me, gang bang porn has a strong element of body and sex-positivity to it. Here is a person at the center of the gang bang who is indulging in just wild, crazy abandon of moral taboos, any sort of sexual shame, and is just letting themselves become almost gluttonous with sex. It’s not the people using the woman in the center of a gang bang, but her. It’s her body and sexuality that’s the center of the lust, and she’s in full control of it.´

Annabel Chong: We're not wilting violets, we're not victims, for Christ's sake. Female sexuality is as aggressive as male sexuality. I wanted to take on the role of the stud. The more [partners], the better." 

*What we were consuming*

Lucy Cook. Bitch: A Revolutionary Guide to Sex, Evolution and the Female Animal (2022)

Article: Sperm competition

Hyenas, matriarchal and slutty: https://www.discoverwildlife.com/animal-facts/mammals/why-female-spotted-hyenas-rule-the-pack

Article: Everything You Need to Know About Gangbangs: The History, the Reasons, and the Science

CRUDE #4

Half of the Crude team have had their tubes tied or snipped. Which is why we're talking about sterilization today. We'll focus on how understanding agency and bodily autonomy is key to this decision, and not what governments or society thinks about it.

Along with special guest Anna, Elle and Effie in London are joined by Frank and Misty in Berlin to talk you through some of the issues, facts and stigmas surrounding female and male sterilization. They'll also muse over the impact this has on women's identity independent of the baby machine model.

*What we were consuming*

Lucy Cook. Bitch: A Revolutionary Guide to Sex, Evolution and the Female Animal (2022)

• Childfree group on Reddit
• Ted Talk on not having kids
• NHS info page (British Health Service)
• German Government-sponsored information

CRUDE #3

WARNING! You may not want to be eating while listening to parts of this podcast.

On this podcast, the Crude team is talking about scat in all its stinky, dirty, and erotic glory. Is this the dirtiest kink or the most intimate? And why is it so funny?

Along with the history of poop and some partner fart stories, Elle, Misty, Frank in Berlin, and Effie in London laugh as they wade through the kink of crap and other fluids.

"Consider the image which presents the Pope's birth, emerging not from the vaginal canal of a human woman, but rather from the quivering, prolapsed rectum of a hideous she-devil, the papacy reduced to a fecal still-birth passed through the ulcerated sphincter of a sulfurous demon."

*What we were Consuming*

• Ed Simon. "Fecal Fridays: Martin Luther on the Toilet" https://queenmobs.com/2017/12/fecal-fridays-martin-luther-toilet/
• Dominique Laporte History of Shit (2002)
• Mary Douglas. Purity and Danger (1966)
• Norbert Elias. The Civilizing Process [Über den Prozess der Zivilisation](1939)

*Further reading*

Dieter & Jacqueline Rollfinke. The Call of Human Nature: The Role of Scatology in Modern German Literature (1986)

CRUDE #2

In this episode, Elle, Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to explore the topic of consent in s3x-positive contexts and beyond.

Does yes always mean yes in the same way no always means no? What kind of situations blur the lines between consent and kinky stuff?

Through the muse of their personal experiences, the four discuss how consent has evolved in these scenes over the years. They also chat about the different ways in which consent can be given. Importantly, they all agree that much more education is needed to make these spaces safe and fun for everyone.

Join the conversation on Insta @crude_podcast!

*What we were reading*

• Jan Schweitzer. Maenner*, Feb 2023, pp. 32-40 “Was heisst Ja?” [What does yes mean?]  https://epaper.maenner.media/manner-ii-23/68087916
• "I went on a date with Aziz Ansari..." https://babe.net/2018/01/13/aziz-ansari-28355
• Maggy Nelson. "The ballad of sexual optimism" in her book On Freedom.

CRUDE#1

On our first podcast, the Crude team discusses the topic of "Big dicks and feminism."

Can you be a feminist – male or female – and still be ok about liking or not liking big dicks? Does wanting to have sex with men with big aubergines mean you are upholding the patriarchy? Is it a problem if the only sex you like involves you reducing your male partner to the size of his member?

This whole subject is something of a taboo for most straight men. And many women feel uncomfortable talking about it in their relationships or with friends.

Elle, Misty and Frank talk you through some of these icebergs and try to resolve some of the issues surrounding big dicks and their effect on feminists and their understanding of feminism.

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Lucy Cook. Bitch: A Revolutionary Guide to Sex, Evolution and the Female Animal (2022)

[Book] Donna J. Haraway. Simians, Cyborgs, and Women : The Reinvention of Nature London: Free Association, 1991.

[Essay] Elisabeth Stephens. “The Spectacularized Penis: Contemporary Representations of the Phallic Male Body.” Men and Masculinities 10, no. 1 (July 1, 2007): 85–98.

[Essay] Greta Christina “Are We Having Sex Now or What?” in The Erotic Impulse: Honoring the Sensual Self. ed. David Steinberg, 1992, pp. 24–29.