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CRUDE#29

Misty, and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie and Angel in London to talk about Angel's journey of discovery and trans experience.

What is it like to hide your trans self?

What is a man, and how do men act?

When and why did Angel's dysphoria blow up?

And who sold weed to George Michael?

Angel is a pro domme (under the name Eris), cam girl, spicy content creator, kink photographer, welfare monitor, and dungeon mistress at some of the biggest UK feti$h parties. She founded Catnip FLINTA play parties.

As a seggs worker as well as a certified scene queen of the queer kink community, and as a woman of trans experience, Angel advocates for intersectionality within the London kink and fetish world.

[Insta] @angel_in_a_cage_80

[Website] Serve Eris

[Parties -London] Catnip parties (no CIS men allowed)

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Roxanne Gay, Not That Bad (2018)

[Music] Grime music

[Party-London] Riot Party

[Writing] Five act structure

[Definition] FLINTA - those who identify as Female, Lesbian, Intersex, Non-binary, Trans, or Agender

CRUDE #28

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by special guest Simon to talk about men, masculinity and the patriarchy. Simon discusses his journey of learning to suppress emotions and to open up about feelings, something that is absent from most boys' and men's skills sets, but why?

What do men talk about when they talk?

What don't men talk about when they meet up?

Why don't men have their own feminism?

Why don't men even think of themselves as men beyond the male roles they are given?

Should gender education be part of school curricula? What would it look like?

Simon Fokt holds a PhD in Philosophy and lectures at HTW Berlin. His academic work focuses on aesthetics, applied ethics, and metaphilosophy. His focus on taking complex philosophical concepts out of the scholarly discourse led him to adapt Aristotle’s virtue ethical concepts and apply them to modern masculinity discourse.

For more on Simon, visit his Linktree (website, Insta etc) here

Simon on YouTube: Here

*What we were consuming*

[Video] What is The Man Box?

[Statistics] Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK

[Statistics] The connection between a lack of male role models on violence, drug abuse and criminality

[TED Talk] How masculinity is evolving

[Academic article] Changing men, changing masculinities

[Philosophy] David Hume: "Reason Is and Ought Only to Be the Slave of the Passions."

CRUDE #27

Effie and her special guest Jane Grey are in London to talk about life as a dominatrix. Misty joins from Berlin as the three discuss their personal and professional experiences of being dominant or submissive and how their play has evolved over the years.

The Crudies also talk consent, again. And give tips on what to say if you find it difficult to say no before, during or after a scene.

Should we say Femdom or Dom femme? What's the difference?

Jane Grey is a professional Dominatrix, and founder of Scene and UnScene parties in London. She is also a creator of luxury, personalised experiences.

[Parties] UnScene (@unscene_ldn) or Scene (@sceneldn)

[Jane's branding agency] wmh-i

*What we were consuming*

[Wikipedia] Queen Jane Grey

[Podcast] The Orgasm Cult

[Hangover cure] Pre-Pear juice

CRUDE #26

When are hot dogs more than just hotdogs?

Crude goes to the zoo for this episode all about bestiality or sexual interactions with our furry and not-so-fury little friends on this earth.

Elle and Effie in London are joined by (lone wolf) Frank in Berlin to talk through the laws and hypocrisies within people's attitudes to animal welfare regarding sexual interactions with animals.

Which animals would the crew most like to kiss?

Is peanut butter the most effective way to seduce your pet?

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Luck Cooke Bitch: On the female of the species (2023)

[YouTube] Isabella Rossellini on bedbug mating (Green Porno)

[TV] Nip/Tuck episode with dog love

[Article] The Berlin magazine on zoophilia

[Article] Seggs with Donkeys in Colombia (Vice magazine)

[Article] [German] Two men discuss love affairs with their dogs

[History] Man loves horse (10,000 years old)

[History] Roman graffiti

[Pig love] Black Mirror Ep. 1

[Article] UK woman has seggs with pug

CRUDE #25

The Crude team talk all about different types of threesomes and what makes us desire them, as well as touching on how to have a good one.

Later on, they focus on the rise of male + male + female and male + female + male (MMF and MFM) threesomes. Are they all about power? Is placing the woman at the centre a necessary part of any successful threesome? Are male attitudes on same sex experience changing to suit women's desires, or are the Crudies just living in a sex-positive bubble?

While FFM threesome have been the cornerstone of 'risqué' mainstream culture and heteronormative fantasy, there has been a gradual shift toward more gynocentric attitudes to women's desire which is exemplified by increased female interest in porn that's focused on MMF fantasizes or more phallocentric sexual imagery and fantasies.

The crew also discuss some examples of MFM scenarios in films like Challengers (2024)

*What we were consuming*

[Article] Stats on women's top searches on adult websites (access original P*rnHub data via ManofMany website)

[Article] A Film Lover’s Guide to the MMF Threesome

[Film] Y Tu Mamá También – MMF scene (2002)

[Film] Challengers – boys in love (2024)

CRUDE #24

Effie is joined by Elle in London, Frank in Berlin and Elle's Lemurian sibling Margaux in California for this extra-sex-terrestrial episode all about aliens, probes, martian pegging and sci-fi.

History, scandal and three-boobed mutants. Crude goes to space.

Which aliens would the Crudies most like to sleep with or probe?

Why did people say aliens abducted them and gave them prostate massages? Was this a medical kink? Or are THEY walking among us now?

Abduction story credit: @libbiehiggins

*Alien Genetics*

[Alien-Ancestry.com] Elle & Margaux's alien heritage

*What we were consuming*

[Article] Nancy Reagan as the Throat Goat of Hollywood

[Article] H.R. GIGER’s Private Life Was Just as Dark, Sexy, and Pop as His Art

[Article] John E. Mack and the Unbelievable UFO Truth

[Article] Alien abduction claims examined

[Article] Neuropsychological profiles of adults ... implications for claims of sex abuse and alien visitation/abduction experiences

[Video] Betty and Barney Hill abduction documentary

[Article] The Satanic Panic

[Sci-fi author] Octavia Butler

[Book] Adrian Tchaikovsky Children of Time (2015)

[Book] Ursula K. Le Guin The Left Hand of Darkness (1969)

*Movie nerd stuff*

[Movie] Barbarella (1968)

[Movie] Labyrinth (1986) (Effie's Goblin King)

[Movie] They Live (1988)

[Movie] The Celluloid Closet - Documentary looking at queer cinema tropes (1995)

[Movie] Arrivals (2016)

CRUDE #23

In this episode, Frank in Berlin is privileged to be joined by the ineffable Effie and special guest Poppy in London. After all their poly-bashing, are the Crude Crew open to changing their mind on the term? Other questions that the Crew looks at include ...

What is polyamory? Why do Misty and Frank cringe at some poly language like "compersion"? Is everyone poly?

Poppy Scarlett is a professional over-sharer and Full-Time Sex Person™️. As a certified Sex and Relationships Educator, non-monogamy content creator and seggs worker, she bares all to help others shed shame and embrace pleasure.

Through her playful workshops and one-on-one coaching sessions, Poppy educates on sex, non-monogamy, and intimacy. She regularly appears as a guest expert on podcasts and panels. A proudly kinky, queer, and polyamorous woman, Poppy previously ran the much-loved online sex toy boutique, Self & More, before dedicating herself fully to pleasure education in all its forms.

For more, visit: poppy-scarlett.com

Instagram: @polyampoppy / @poppyscarlett_

*London parties*

• Scene
• Unscene

*What we were reading*

[Book] Natalie Lue The Joys of Saying No (2022)

CRUDE #22

On this episode, Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London and special guest Carlos in Birmingham, UK as the Crudies talk about all things gay party scenes and men-who-have-s3x-with-men (MSM)

Misty also tells us about her first g0ngbong experience, and Effie talks about London's S3x-worker pride and the party series that celebrated its inaugural event.

Special guest Carrrrrlos came on to answer all the questions we wanted to ask gay/MSM people who visit dark rooms and s3x parties. Are unsolicited d1ckpics ok? What is PrEP? What's the difference between Grindr and Hinge? What is wrong with condoms in the gay scene in London and Berlin? What about beauty standards among gay men?

*What we were reading*

[Fetish] Bug Chasers

[Medicine] PrEP explanation

[Parties UK] Riot Party UK

[Parties UK] Female and femme-leaning OneNightParties

CRUDE #21

On this episode, Elle and Effie in London are joined by a special guest Maya to talk about how and who sex workers date and the many complications that arise from it.

Crude Podcast: Seggsual healing

*What we were consuming*

[Podcast] Eva Oh

[Berlin exhibition] With Legs Wide Open

[Activism] Hackling // Hustling

[Article] Boomtown

[Article] Whorearchy

[Theory] Madonna–Wh0re complex

CRUDE #20

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk about their breakup experiences. Did they end things or stay friends, and why not just burn their sh* and move on? What about post-break-up seggs? Is it a good idea? Or have they lost the privilege?

In the catch-up, Effie talks about her holidays in the French nudist and swinger paradise in Cap d'Agde.

*Crudie break up songs*

• Lou Dillon – ICU
• Peaches – F#ck the Pain Away
• Gotye - Somebody That I Used to Know (acapella)
• Parcels – Once
• Michael Kiwanuka – Love & Hate
• Julia Jacklin – Don't know how to keep loving you
• Roger Fakhr – Fine Anyway
• Michelle Guerevich – End of an Era

.... more suggestions to our Insta @crude_podcast

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Katherine W. Thomas. Conscious Uncoupling (2016)

[Book] Esther Perel. Mating in Captivity (2006)

[Nudist holidays] Cap d'Agde on Insta: @villagenaturistecap