On this episode, Elle and Effie in London are joined by a special guest Maya to talk about how sex workers date and the many complications that arise from it.

Crude Podcast: Seggsual healing

*What we were consuming*

[Podcast] Eva Oh

[Berlin exhibition] With Legs Wide Open

[Activism] Hackling // Hustling

[Article] Boomtown

[Article] Whorearchy

[Theory] Madonna–Wh0re complex

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk about their breakup experiences. Did they end things or stay friends, and why not just burn their sh* and move on? What about post-break-up seggs? Is it a good idea? Or have they lost the privilege?

In the catch-up, Effie talks about her holidays in the French nudist and swinger paradise in Cap d'Agde.

*Crudie break up songs*

• Lou Dillon – ICU
• Peaches – Fuck the Pain Away
• Gotye - Somebody That I Used to Know (acapella)
• Parcels – Once
• Michael Kiwanuka – Love & Hate
• Julia Jacklin – Don't know how to keep loving you
• Roger Fakhr – Fine Anyway
• Michelle Guerevich – End of an Era

.... more suggestions to our Insta @crude_podcast

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Katherine W. Thomas. Conscious Uncoupling (2016)

[Book] Esther Perel. Mating in Captivity (2006)

[Nudist holidays] Cap d'Agde on Insta: @villagenaturistecap

Misty in Berlin and Effie in London are joined by their special guest Kėkė to talk all about sex and music. The Crudies kick off with a discussion of how therapeutic gangbangs can be and Effie gives more tips on how to organise them.

Berlin-based un-disciplined artist, researching the intersections of sound, film, performance and somatic research. Kėkė's artworks are a space to explore how contemplative embodiment and improvisation can be a point of access to sense the living and connective tissue between ourselves, the spaces we inhabit and one another. By working across disciplines and sense organs, Kėkė seeks to create experiences through my art that invite introspection and innate curiosity, out of which the unexpected may emerge.

*Keké's links*

• Keké's homepage
• Kėkė's Instagram: @kekecreature
• Authentic Movement

*What we were consuming*

[Film] Midsommar

[Book] Andreas Weber. Matter And Desire: An Erotic Ecology (2017)

[Book] Adrienne Maree Brown. Pleasure Activism (2019)

[Essays] Audrey Lorde. Sister Outsider esp. “Erotic Empowerment” and “Naked Intimacy: Eroticism, Improvisation, and Gender”

[Wiki] Henri Bergsson

In this (yummy) episode, Effie in London is joined by Frank, Misty and special guest Clara from WeFeast to chew the fat on all things food and seggs.

After discussing how the food-fun plays out at Berlin's unique WeFeast play parties, the crud(ité) crew discuss their own experiences related to food and sex. Ever sploshed in a bath in a dress suit? What about remote zucchini seggs from Mexico?

Clara hosts unique and exclusive experiences for sex and food enthusiasts under the wings of We Feast. Carefully selected curious people are invited to explore themselves for a full weekend through immersive culinary adventures and tantric workshops hosted in a refined playspace. You can join WeFeast in Berlin and London.

Join the table: https://wefeast.life/berlin-feast/

Juicy newsletter: https://wefeast.life/letters/

*What we were consuming*

[YouTube] The Gum Wall

[Effie's elixir] Sweetened coconut condensed milk

The Masturbation episode

Misty, and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk all about the joys and methods of making love to your very special own self. The team talks about the moral panics and history of shame surrounding a theme that is still very much taboo for many people. Did King Onan pull out or spill the seed? How often does the Crude team beat the meat, and why? Why don't we all talk about it more? Is everyone doing it?

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Dr Eric Sprankle. DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation (2024)

[Article] Euphemisms for masturbation (2023)

[Article] Origins of masturbation traced to primates 40 million years ago (2023)

[Book] Thomas W. Laqueur. Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation (2004)

[Academic journal] Kontula und Haavio-Manilla, "Masturbation in a generational perspective"; Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, 2002. 14(2-3). 49-83.

[Academic journal] German-language study (2016) Link

[O-gap reducing services] OMGYES

[Article] Masturbation laws around the world (2013)

[Book] Samuel Auguste Tissot. A Treatise on the Curse of Onan (1758)

[Book] Anonymous. Onania (c.1712)

[Personality] Gypsy-Rose Blanchard

Special guest Lisa from Cybrothel talks us through the fascinating range of love dolls they have on offer, as well as VR experiences and other seggs tech services you can find at this unique house of pleasure in Berlin

Elle, Frank and Lisa look deeper into how love dolls will develop in the future and Lisa talks about how Cybrothel is actively looking to market dolls to a broader queer audience and for more female-centred doll experiences.

What are the ethics about seggs with dolls? What's happening in the future? And why do some people want to completely ban love dolls?

*What we were consuming*

[Futures anthropologist, Insta.] @roannevanvoorst Dr. Roanne van Voorst

[Cybrothel] Newsletter sign-up and info

[German kink magazine] My Kink

[Movie trailer] Her (2013)

[Series trailer] Westworld (2016)

[History of love dolls] “All Is Rubber!”: The Femmes en Caoutchouc and the Actual Origins of the Commercial Sex Doll

[AI chat bot] Replica

[Song, Elle's doll poem] Roxy Music: In Every Dream Home a Heartache

[...]

I bought you mail order

My plain wrapper baby

Your skin is like vinyl

The perfect companion

You float in my new pool

De luxe and delightful

Inflatable doll

My role is to serve you

Disposable darling

Can't throw you away now

Immortal and life-size

My breath is inside you

I'll dress you up daily

And keep you till death sighs

Inflatable doll

Lover ungrateful

I blew up your body

But you blew my mind

15 Is raw dogging really the wurst idea? Stipulations & reputations with bareback seggs

On this podcast, Effie in London is joined by Misty and Frank in Berlin to talk about raw dogging and bareback riding AKA completely irresponsible but occasionally hot seggs.

The discussion begins with a catchup on the team's news, the latest fivesomes, sevensomes and other some-somes. Including the perils of dating tall men and generic tech-bot guys ...

The crew then discuss raw dogging, bareback seggs (BB for short) and all the problems this can cause but also how hot it can be. Is it okay to fluid-bond with people while you are in an open relationship? Can your partner ask you to brush your teeth after you have swallowed some man jam? What is double-digging raw dog and is it worth it? What is the difference between rawdogging and fluid bonding? Effie gives us some insights from her now fully internalised polyamorous dictionary.

*What we were reading*

[Wikipedia] 'Rawdog' redirects to 'Bareback'

[Reddit] Who else hates the term fluid bonded?

[Gay adult film] BareBack Mountain (LycanFilms 2006)

After a catch-up where the team swipe themselves into a flurry talking about some of the mishaps, traps and jackpots they've hit while burning precious life energy on dating apps.

How is it hooking up with couples on dating apps? Is it easy for couples to meet unicorns or single boys and girls for fun? How is dating for bisexual boys and girls? What can go wrong when looking for hook-ups?

Insta: @crude_podcast

Email: [email protected]

*Crudie dinner date menus*

Misty: Clementines - "Before, during, and after"

Effie: Vegan sushi - "Just because"

Frank: Grapes & cheese on spikes - "Oldie but goldie"

*What we were consuming*

[Movie] Newness

[Festival] Easter Fetish Festival

[Article] Relationships that begin online are less stable

[Article] Maximisers and satisficers

*The apps and websites we use*

Bumble @bumble

Feeld @feeldco

JoyClub @joyclub_de / @uk_joyclub

Hinge @hinge

Fetlife https://fetlife.com/

Grindr @grindr

[Website] Fabswingers.com

After a catch-up where the Team discuss the opening of Elle's With Legs Wide Open exhibition at the Schwules Museum Berlin and the topic of sex work prohibition in Europe, the Crude crew dive deep into how they deal with jealousy in their relationships and situationships in the past and in the present.

Is jealousy sometimes good? Can it be avoided? What should you do if you are jealous? Are some people more competitive or is that jealousy? And what the f**k is compersion?

*Effie's t-shirt design ideas*

1.

Project Insecurities

Onto Other People

2.

High & Lubed

3.

Jealous?

Play squash

*What we were consuming*

[Article] DW article on the 2017 prostitution law

[Book] Esther Perel. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017)

[YouTube] ContraPoint on the difference between envy and jealousy

[YouTube] Esther Perel on the Nature of Erotic Desire 

[Spotify] Esther Perel on polyamory on the Tim Ferriss podcast

[Ted Talk] Compersion and Jealousy

[Podcast - in German] Embrace Jealousy

After a catch-up where Elle discusses an exhibition she is curating in Berlin (With Legs Wide Open), the Crude crew talk about all things ass, anal, butts and bums. Everything from rimming to fingers to plugs and willies and all the other stuff too.

Is it worth it for people with pussies? Does everyone like it? Can you cum from it?

Bottoms up!

*What we were reading*

[Book] Juno Mac & Molly Smith. Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights (2020)

[Book on feminist sex wars] M.G. Grant. Playing the Whore: The work of sex work (2014).

*Important links*

[Collective] Objects of desire

Effie's beginner butt plug