CRUDE #41

Frank in Berlin is joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest VEX about a very special gangbang with Effie and Elle, before the trio move on to conversations about Vex’s many guises and her fascinating professional career, which touches on virtually every facet of the porn industry. Vex also opens up about her sexual awakening in her 30s.

The Crudies discuss solo wan*ing, the sex-positive scenes in both the UK and Berlin, and how different cultures approach sexuality, performance, and personal branding. Along the way, they cover industry realities, creative freedom, and a host of other topics that make this episode an open, funny, and wide-ranging conversation.

Is solo-wanking breaching consent norms?

How can bad sex be good?

What's the difference between perverts and sluts?

Vex Ashley is an independent porn producer and performer and founder of the Four Chambers project. With a background in analogue photography, art school bullshit and digital sex online, Vex worked as a cam girl before beginning to make films as Four Chambers in 2013. Self-taught in cinematography with an emphasis on collaborative DIY practices, Four Chambers has spearheaded a new wave of creators making contemporary pornographic work from a new perspective with the aim to expand ideas about what porn can say, do and be.

Independent, conceptual, creative, porn cinema. She speaks, writes and spends her time talking about making porn creatively and independently, sex as performance, authenticity and the self, art and pornography, technology and sex, camming and online censorship.

Vex Links

instagram.com/vextape

instagram.com/fourchambers

*What we were consuming*

[Theory] Noelle Purdue (writer, artist, internet porn historian)

[Sauna] Boiler Sauna Berlin

[Research] Essay on women's growing interest in violent porn

[Film] Maman parts 1 & 2 (mommy kink) can be found on the Four Chambered Heart website.

CRUDE # 40

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest Paulita Pappel to talk about her role as an intimacy coordinator on film sets. Paulita has experience as a performer, producer and director in the adult industry as well as mainstream movies.

The crew discuses feminist porn and Paulita's incredible biography as visionary, activist and creative genius within the European porn scene. Before then discuss the role of an Intimacy coordinator role in cinema.

Is the role just about actor protection?

Can you be an intimacy coordinator and influence what a film looks like?

How can you work with queer sex scenes if you aren't queer?

Why is the Berlin porn film festival different?

What have romantic comedies to do with porn?

Paulita Pappel is a Spanish filmmaker and feminist pornographer. After studying comparative literature in Berlin, she worked both in front and behind the camera. She is the founder of Lustery, a platform dedicated to the sex lives of real-life couples from around the world. She is the director of HardWerk, a film studio creating cinematic and tailored erotica. She also co-organizes and curates the Porn film festival Berlin and the conference Adult Industry Forum. Paulita works as a producer, director, performer and intimacy coordinator, and is an advocate for a sex-positive, consent-based culture.

*Links*

paulitapappel.com

https://www.instagram.com/paulitapappel

https://x.com/PaulitaPappel

Paulita Pappel selected filmography: here

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Virginie Despentes, King Kong Theory (2006)

[Film] Anora (2024)

[Film] Blue is the Warmest Colour(2024)

CRUDE #39

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to finally dive deep into how they each define kink and fetish, what these concepts mean to them personally, and how they shape their relationships, identities, and everyday lives. In this episode, the trio explores the differences and overlaps between kink culture, fetish culture, latex, and sexual expression, sharing real-life experiences, misconceptions they’ve encountered, and the evolution of their own desires.

They talk about the role of consent, communication, boundaries, power dynamics, and negotiation within kink; how specific fetishes develop; and why self-acceptance is key in any alternative sexuality journey. The conversation also touches on how many people turn to sex workers to explore their kinks and fetishes.

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Anastasiia Federova, Second Skin: Inside the Worlds of Fetish, Kink and Deviant Desire (2025)

[Book] Justin Lehmiller, The Psychology of Human Sexuality (2014)

[Definition] Paraphilia – a condition characterized by unusual sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities.

[Wikipedia] Jessica Rabbit

[Fetish] "objectophile" or "objectum sexual": An individual who experiences romantic or sexual feelings towards inanimate objects.

[Book] Emily Nagoski , Come as You Are (2015)

CRUDE # 38

Frank in Berlin and Effie in London sit down with filmmakers Sam and Ed from altSHIFT Films to explore the world of ethical and feminist porn, creative freedom, and the evolving landscape of adult media.

Recorded during the Berlin Porn Film Festival, this episode dives into how ethical adult filmmaking challenges traditional narratives and the stigma that often surrounds the industry.

Sam and Ed — longtime creators and industry professionals — share insights from their latest movie Blowie, and open up about how they approach filmmaking with integrity, consent, and artistry.

In this episode, we discuss:

What defines ethical porn?

The role of performers, directors, and producers on set

The realities of filming — from consent practices to creative storytelling

Is impact play and similar content automatically unethical?

Why the Berlin Porn Film Festival is a key space for sex-positive cinema and artistic expression

Join the CRUDIES as they unpack questions about ethics, representation, and the art behind adult filmmaking.

altSHIFT film

"A couple of queers making cinematic filth"

twitter.com/altshiftxxx

instagram.com/xxaltshiftxx  

*What we were consuming*

[Film] Blowie

[Festival] Berlin Porn Film Festival

[Data on female kinks] Aella

[Wiki] Prince Andrew and the Epstein Scandal

[Film] The Antichrist, 2009 (Lars von Trier)

CRUDE # 37

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest Lucy Banks in Perth, Australia to talk about her incredible life journey from corporate banking to a successful career on OnlyFans and the challenges this brought to her as a mother – from aggressive mothers at school to problems within her friend circles.

Lucy Banks is the founder of Million Billion Media, a global PR and marketing agency helping adult creators and spicy brands build real, sustainable businesses. Previously one of Australia’s top OnlyFans creators, Lucy now uses her unique experience on both sides of the industry to help creators scale their income and grow their influence

Million Billion Media Website: millionbillionmedia.com

Lucy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imlucybanks/

*What we were consuming*

[Book] Kate Manne. Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny (2017)

[Expo] SeEx (formerly SexPo) Australia. Adult lifestyle expo

CRUDE #36

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London and special guests Dr Danielle and Celeste from the Somatica Institute to talk about their approach to sex and relationship counselling. Somatic healing covers emotions, communication, passion and sexual pleasure.

Celeste and Dr Danielle help clients their desires, boundaries, and feelings openly to became better listeners with their partners and the people they love.

Their innovative work has garnered international attention. Most notably through their roles as consulting producers and on-screen experts for Virgin Island, a groundbreaking British TV series on Channel 4 that introduces viewers to the transformative power of real-time intimacy coaching.

Instagram:

@somatica_institute

@celesteanddanielleofficial

TikTok: @celesteanddanielle

Websites:

somaticainstitute.com

learn.somatica.com

sexcoaching.com

*What we were consuming*

[Definition] Sex surrogate

[Series] Virigin Island

CRUDE #35

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in Spain and two very special guests to talk about female awakening and empowerment, OnlyFans, being ADHD and neurodivergent as well as burgeoning censorship in the US and OnlyFans. Mistress Kolipi and Øthyr took time out of their busy calendar(s) to share their life and missions with the Crudies

Mistress Kolipi and Øthyr describe themselves as are architects of desire who dismantle the boundaries between pain and pleasure, dominance and devotion.

Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, Mistress Kolipi and Øthyr are a queer POC artist duo who create erotic works that function as ritual, rebellion, and reclamation. Their films, images, and performances challenge the gaze, rewrite the rules, and invite audiences into deeper states of embodiment, surrender, and power.

Kolipi is a femme domme of colour and professional dominatrix whose ceremonial approach to kink merges discipline with transformation.

Øthyr is an award-winning film director, photographer, and music producer whose past work for Nike, Red Bull, National Geographic, The New York Times, and NY Fashion Week has earned three Cannes Lions. Their work has been featured alongside Ai Weiwei, bridging the worlds of art, sex, and political resistance.

Here is a master link where you can catch up on the duo's latest projects: HausofKo

Haus of Ko on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/thehausofko

*What we were consuming*

[Learning] The Consent Academy

[Film] Hump Film Festival

[Research - DSM 5] Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders

[US Law] Interstate Obscenity Definition Act (2025)

[SW documentary] Shame Shifters (Insta: https://www.instagram.com/shame_shifters/)

CRUDE #34

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest Talia as they discuss sexual abuse and how it can relate to sexuality to art and to self-understanding.

*Confidential/Anonymous Helplines*

UK

If you are over the age of 16, living in England & Wales, and have been affected by any form of sexual violence or abuse, specialist and confidential support is available 24/7. Call 0808 500 2222 or visit the 24/7 Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Line to chat online or find out more. 

Germany

Unter der Nummer 0800 22 55 530 ist das Hilfe-Telefon Sexueller Missbrauch montags, mittwochs und freitags von 9:00 bis 14:00 Uhr sowie dienstags und donnerstags von 15:00 bis 20:00 Uhr bundesweit, kostenfrei und anonym erreichbar.

*What we were consuming*

[Statistics] UNICEF report and statistics on child abuse globally

[Book] Roxanne Gay. Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture (2018)

[Wikipedia] Bravo: German Teen magazine

[Art movement] (Viennese Actionism - Wiener Aktionismus)

[Wikipedia] Hermann Nitsch

CRUDE #33

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with the female founders of Berlin Nocturne —a kink-friendly, inclusive companionship agency.

From careers in marketing, art direction, health, and hospitality, these women found their way into seggswork and Berlin’s seggs positive scene.

We talk about why they started this project, what sets them apart in the world of companionship, and how they are building spaces and a community where diverse desire is not only welcomed—but celebrated in all its expressions: curious, queer, intimate, wild, soft, and powerful.

berlin-nocturne (.de)

moonlightsociety-berlin (.de)

*What we were consuming*

[Parties] Pinky Promise UK & Berlin

CRUDE #32

Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to chat with special guest Dr Diane Mueller to talk about how to reignite and reset desire and passion in longtime relationships. Where Dr Diane's expertise lies in mainly monogamous couples, the Crudes discuss desire across the spectrum of relationship forms.

• How does dopamine affect relationships?
• And what are the siggles?

Late in the episode, the Crudes talk about dating apps and closing orgasm gaps in their own relationships. Not forgetting Misty's experience wrestling in coconut oil with 25 people at Liquid Love Berlin.

Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a board certified sexologist with dual doctorates in Naturopathic as well as Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine. She's the founder of the sex education centre: MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, where she helps monogamous couples create more passion, desire hotter seggs and better communication.

• Free Libido Quiz: Find the root causes (and solutions) for low libido: LibidoQuiz.com
• Free e-Book: Revive Your Love Life: 5 easy steps for mind-blowing orgasms and romance: hotterlife.com
• YesNoMaybe Checklist: MySexDoc.com

*What we were consuming*

[Dating app] Breeze

[Book] Emily Nagoski. Come as You Are (revised 2021)

[Definition] Limerence is a term to describe a state of involuntary obsession with another person, often characterized by an intense infatuation and a strong longing for emotional reciprocation. It's distinct from love, as it involves a focus on the possibility of a relationship rather than the established emotional connection and commitment of love.