Today, we’re dropping back in on an episode from 2017, on the question of whether or not consent is sexy. The background, btw, is that in trying to sell the idea of consent, for most of the last 50 years we’ve taken a perspective of using the stick, rather than the carrot; we’ve said “Do […]

I wrote a book, and I’m going to read some of it to you today. It’s got nothing to do with sex, but it’s on a topic I know many of you find interesting. It’s called ‘Success for Slackers’, and it’s about how to come up with a business or a role that’s good for […]

Today, I want to share with you some ideas on how to have an ‘altered states’ date. From a psychological perspective, an altered state is a state of mind that is different from whatever you regard as your normal. It means that the way your mind is working, or the way you’re feeling, is somehow […]

Today, I’m being interviewed by the crew from Off The Cuffs, which is a podcast with a focus on bdsm and the lifestyle around it. These folks are funny – I like them. Their names are Dick-Wound, Minimus Maximus, and Lexual Romance. The conversation covers one of my favorite kinks – bum-drumming, kinky scenes as […]

Today, we’re listening back to one of our most popular – and adventurous – episodes from early 2019: Kissing. What do you like, and not like, about kissing? How good are you at training a new person in how to kiss you? More importantly, how do you feel about training this person that’s in front […]

Today, I’m having a spirited conversation with Georgie Wolf. You’ve heard her on the show before, because she’s 68 different kinds of awesome. When I say, “I’m having a conversation with Georgie”, what I actually mean, is, “Georgie is having a conversation with me”. She recorded this for her podcast, which is called the Art […]

We’ve been getting a few questions lately about agreements in polyamory – and since it’s a topic we covered way back in 2017, today we’ll be listening back to that episode. With Rog are two sex educators and polyamory specialists, Anne Hunter and Dossie Easton. You should definitely check out Dossie’s book, ‘The Ethical Slut’, […]

Today, I’m finally doing something I’ve been wanting to do for ages. If you’ve ever been to one of our in-person or online Socials, you’ll already be familiar with what I call Q&A, where one person asks a question, then each person takes turns to answer. We’re about to do that here, with four sex […]

Today, I’m finally doing something I’ve been wanting to do for ages. If you’ve ever been to one of our in-person or online Socials, you’ll already be familiar with what I call Q&A, where one person asks a question, then each person takes turns to answer. We’re about to do that here, with four sex […]

Today, we’re listening back to an episode from 2017, where a listener asks for advice on how to become a dom. For those of you not in the kink scene, the word ‘dom’ is short for dominant, which is actually surprisingly hard to define, but you might say: The dominant is the person that’s steering, […]