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What are the differences between rules and agreements and why does it matter?
How do you go about figuring out what agreements will support us to thrive in relationships?
Can there be room for delight and playfulness as you co-create agreements for your relationship(s)?

On this week’s show Effy and Jackie were joined by Eri Kardos, the author of Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship to talk about:

- A practical approach to intentionally making relationship agreements
- How to incorporate curiosity and lightness to the process and create a living document 
- Main pitfalls as people have their first go at making agreements

To learn more about Eri Kardos, follow her on  Twitter @Eri_Kardos, on Instagram @coacherikardos, or via her website: erikardos.com

You can find her book along with other recommended reads at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglist

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When the world feels like it’s tearing itself apart, how can we keep our relationships together? When the news feels terrifying, how do we revel in the erotic safely? When meeting new people feels like a health risk, how can we nurture new connections? 

Effy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the hyper-fast news cycle of apocalyptic headlines, and the still restrictive new normal on our nervous system and consequently our relationships and sex lives.

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What is it like to love the same person? What kind of relationship is available for those who share a partner? Do you have to know your lover's lover?

Effy and Jackie revisit an old episode where a panel of poly folks discusses their experiences connecting with their lovers' lovers.

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From ancient civilizations to modern times, why have people been going to play parties? Are they only all about hedonistic indulgences? What happens at a play party?

Effy and Jacqueline talk about their first experience at sex parties, why they go and what they have learned from their experiences, and how to throw your own party while discussing Effy’s book Play Party Etiquette.

You can get the book from playpartyetiquette.com.

You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglist

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Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles?  How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment?

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality.

You can find Jessica Fern via her website: jessicafern.com. On there, you can access her webinars and join her newsletter so that you get updates about her work and a notification of when her practice opens up to new clients.  

You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglist

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Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly?

Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion but not before they catch up on crushes, books, family, and city life vs country.

You can find the Fuel Gauge Activity worksheet mentioned in this episode here:
https://craftyourpath.org/cyp-worksheets/day-1

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Why do some asexual folks have sex? In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation? 

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen to talk about the asexuality spectrum,  its role in identity politics, and why her book is important all sexual orientations to understand the role of sexuality in society. 

To learn more about Angela Chen, follow her on Twitter @chengela, on Instagram at @angelaetcetera, or via her website: angelachen.org.

You can find her book along with other recommended reads at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglist

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We are planning a listeners' questions episode in the coming weeks. We'd LOVE to hear from you.

You can submit your questions in three ways: 

• Old school - you can email us at [email protected] 
• High tech - send us an audio message at [email protected] 
• Radio tech - call us and leave us a voice message at 201-870-0063

Note that if you submit your question by audio, we’ll likely include it in the episode. If for some reason you don’t want us to, then make sure you start your message with DON’T INCLUDE MY VOICE. 

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How do you imagine a family that you have never seen before? How do you make it work? What is the difference between complexity and drama? 

Effy and Jacquline are joined by Queers Next Door's Leigh Montavon to talk about managing the complexities of a family by design, bringing up children in a non-traditional family, and what it takes to make it all work. Effy takes her turn on the Soap Box to officially renounce ethical non-monogamy for good. 

To learn more about Leigh, follow her on social media @sexcoachleigh, on her website at sexcoachleigh.com, and check out her handmade zine about sex, self-care, & relationships at queerlovezine.smvi.co. You can also tune into her podcast - Queers Next Door - wherever you listen to podcasts and find them on IG at @queersnextdoor.

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The Curious Fox team has intentions of doing a new series we're calling Fox Tales, where we share stories of curiosity, struggle, and thriving. 

We would love to hear from folks who are willing to share their stories. Specifically, 

• if you are dating a sex worker
• if you have a working relationship with a sex worker
• if you've come out later in life
• if you want to explore and talk about your race and ethnicity as a relates to consensual nonmonogamy
• if you're in a triad or a thruple, with all parties in the relationship being with each other; 

We want to hear from you!

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