Curious Fox

No matter your gender, orientation, or relationship construct, everyone has a butt. Booty play can be a subversive and fun addition to your sexfolio. Effy and Jacqueline chat with sex educator and pro-domme Lola Jean to get into the whats, hows, and whys of pegging. From tops and bottoms, to toys and hygiene, they go through the ins and outs (pun intended) of backdoor play. 

Here are the links promised: 

Effy’s fave harness: Spareparts Joque Harness

Lola’s toy suggestion: Perfect Fit The Bumper Thrust Buffer, Black
Perfect Fit The Bumper Thrust Buffer, Clear
PerfectFit Brand The Bumper Add-On Donut Buffer Cushion, Black
PerfectFit Brand The Bumper Add-On Donut Buffer Cushion, Clear

Lola’s classes: Pegging

Jackie’s fave bedside table toy that glows: Dame Eva (Go to dameproducts.com/curiousfox for a discount.)

To learn more about Lola Jean, follow her on Instagram @lolajeandotcom, or via her website: lolajean.com.

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When society and cultures pack so much meaning to certain times of the year, what does it look like for those who have multiple relationships? When a simple premise of "spending the holidays with loved ones" seems not so simple, how do avoid putting your relationship(s) on trial?

In this throwback episode, Effy and Jackie talk about ways to navigate holidays when you are managing multiple relationships in your life. They share tips on how to schedule, have conversations, and make sure everyone feels loved and cared for. And how to make amends if it all ends up in a cluster f**k.

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How does our sense of safety affect the way we show up in relationships? What happens in our nervous system when we feel safe vs unsafe? What can we do to promote a sense of safety?

Effy and Jackie hang with sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner Rida Kıraşı to talk about how we can heal trauma, cultivate a sense of safety, and learn to regulate our emotions through the soma with the use of sound, breath, meditation and embodiment practices.

To learn more about Rida Kıraşı, follow her on Instagram @soundalatherapy, or via her website: soundalatherapy.com.

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Is it ok to be in a relationship when you are chronically dissatisfied if there are no arguments? Why do people end up staying in relationships that are not making them happy? What do we need to make us pull the plug on lifeless relationships? 

Effy and Jacqueline jump on the airwaves to challenge the idea that passivity is the same as peace. They discuss what Esther Perel calls stable ambiguity or what Effy calls relationship purgatory where people remain in a holding pattern in relationships where things are undefined, lines are blurred, and desires go unsaid even though they are soaking in dissatisfaction, disharmony, and disconnection. 

They explore what stable ambiguity looks like, why people choose to remain in purgatory, and what are some of the strategies to break the holding pattern.

If you are feeling unsafe in your relationship and need support, these resources can help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)
You can text LOVEIS to 22522 or call 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 any day or time to speak to an advocate to discuss your situation and develop a safety plan.

National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
You can text LOVEIS to 22522, call 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453 any day or time, or go on thehotline.org to speak to an advocate.

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (1-800-656-HOPE)
You can contact the Sexual Assault Hotline any day or time.

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Can psychedelics be more than a party drug? How are they used in therapy and why are they so effective? What does it take to get into a psychedelic treatment program?

Effy and Jackie are joined by the Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society,  psychotherapist, and clinical supervisor Dee Dee Goldpaugh to discuss their work with psychedelics and their effective use in treating and healing trauma psycho-chemically as well as spiritually.
 
To learn more about Dee Dee Goldpaugh, follow them on Instagram @deedeevega, or via their website: deedeegoldpaugh.com. You can find Dee Dee's article on tandfonline.com.

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In this Halloween Special episode, Effy and Jacqueline create a house of horrors made up of their relationship fears. 

From negative body image to feeling stuck on a relationship escalator, they imagine a terrifying room after a terrifying room of the gruesomest, the creepiest, and the most disturbing contraptions that represent their deepest dreads. 

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Why is talking about sex so hard? How can we use creativity to approach these conversations so we don’t have to navigate through shame, defensiveness, insecurity, and general awkwardness? Can talking about sex creatively result in more interesting sex life?

Effy and Jackie sit down with Jennifer Beman to discuss her work, the Graphic Sex Project where Jennifer offers a simple and creative methodology that helps people tell the story of their sexuality. They discuss how this approach cuts through the barriers and encourage a more open dialogue about sex and sexuality as well as personal desires, fantasies, wishes, and interests.  

You can learn more about Jennifer Beman and the Graphic Sex Project at graphicsexproject.com to make your own graph and on Instagram @graphicsexproject 

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Let’s talk about “Daddy.” Why is it a hot turn-on for some and abhorrent for others? What does the “Daddy role” embody within a power exchange? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by professional and lifestyle dominatrix, BDSM educator, kinky life coach, Mistress Lucy Sweetkill, as they challenge the notion that “Daddy” is only for those with daddy issues.

To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her on Instagram @lucy.sweetkill, or via her website: lucysweetkill.com

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Can sex work be a viable alternative for those who want to open up an existing relationship because they are looking for a specific sexual experience? How do you safely and ethically connect with a sex worker who’s not trafficked or coerced?  What is the best way to determine if someone is the right person to work with?

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by pro-domme, kink educator and owner of Chez-La, Miss Shayla to discuss what sex work is and what it is like to work with a sex worker, the impact of SESTA/FOSTA on the industry and the individuals, and bust some common myths about sex work. 

To learn more about Shayla, follow her on Instagram @yesmissshayla, or via her website: yesmissshayla.wordpress.com

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What is intersectional polyamory and how to find meaningful representation in the community? What is the impact of prescribed cultural identity on our relationships? How can we find and connect with online communities for support? 

Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian to discuss how different parts of our identity impact the way we practice non-monogamy, how representation matters within polyamory, and the importance and the risks of online communities.  

To learn more about Michelle, follow her on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian, or via her website: polyamorouswhileasian.com

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