From a clinical perspective the resigning and control stage is where we finally start to see some tangible indications of the effects of all of the shaping behavior that the initiator has placed on the target.

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Traditionally gaslighting is defined as a form of emotional manipulation that causes the person on the receiving end to doubt their version of reality.

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Criticism can be inherently uncomfortable but in the context of a trauma bonding relationship, it initially appears to be a little more subtle which actually makes it more confusing. If you find yourself in this stage, you might notice that your partner often makes small critiques by way of subtle or off-handed remarks rather than direct communication of what they are bothered by. 

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The trust and dependency stage builds directly on to the love bombing stage. Once an initiator feels like they have successfully convinced their target of their worthiness they will begin shaping the target to rely almost exclusively on them for mental and emotional support.

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Jennifer breaks down stage 1 of the Trauma Bonding cycle. Push play to learn more.

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First observed in October 1981 as a national “Day of Unity,” Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) is held each October as a way to unite advocates across the nation in their efforts to end domestic violence.
Communities and advocacy organizations across the country connect with the public and one another throughout the month to raise awareness about the signs of abuse and ways to stop it, and to uplift survivor stories and provide additional resources to leaders and policymakers. Today Jennifer Shafer opens up about her experience with domestic violence. Play, and share with everyone you know.
Blessings,
A&J

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Today Jennifer shares her Enneagram number with us! Click play to find out what the enneagram is. https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Remember to subscribe, rate, and review!

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Navy veteran and certified Yoga instructor Jennifer Shafer shares with us how she uses yoga to spend time with God.

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