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What does it really mean to be a man of God? In this powerful follow-up to Part One of the Biblical Masculinity series, we explore 8 core traits of a godly man through the PRIME MEN acrostic: Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble.

With insight from scripture, stories of failure and redemption (from Adam to Jesus), and quotes from thinkers like C.S. Lewis, John Piper, and Voddie Baucham, this episode will challenge and inspire you to grow as a man of faith.

Whether you're a dad, a husband, or a young man figuring out what biblical manhood really looks like, this one is for you.

🔑 Key Topics:

• Why meek ≠ weak (Jesus was both powerful and gentle)
• Endurance in suffering and fatherhood
• The cost of moral compromise
• How empathy and nobility set godly men apart
• Practical ways to grow in each area

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:
John 8, 1 Timothy 3, Ephesians 6, Genesis 18, Numbers 20, Judges 16, Matthew 4, Luke 23, Philippians 2, Proverbs 24, Micah 6:8

🎯 Action Step:
Grab a journal. Circle 4 areas you’re doing well, 2 that need growth, and 1 where you’re bleeding. Then invite a godly man to speak into your life.

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Is your view of masculinity shaped more by culture than Christ? In this first part of a two-part series, Chris Hilkin unpacks what the Bible really says about being a man. Drawing on personal stories, cultural contrasts, and Scripture, Chris introduces the PRIME MEN acrostic—a framework for understanding godly manhood—and walks through the first two foundational traits: Peacemaker and Repentant.

This episode is a call for Christian men to unlearn shallow definitions of manhood and replace them with gospel-centered convictions. Whether you’re raising sons or seeking healing yourself, this message will challenge and equip you for deeper discipleship.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why cultural masculinity often misses the mark
• What it means to be a peacemaker and why it matters in your home
• The difference between remorse and biblical repentance
• Why being a godly man starts with personal integrity, not dominance
• How to lead your children toward a Christ-centered view of manhood

📖 Scriptures References:

1. Matthew 5:9
2. Romans 12:1
3. James 1:19
4. Acts 3:19
5. 2 Corinthians 7:10
6. Proverbs 28:13
7. Luke 15 (The Prodigal Son)
8. Luke 19 (Zacchaeus)
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Why did Jesus always send His disciples out two by two—and why does it still matter today? In this powerful solo episode, Kaleb teaches the biblical principle of living life with godly brothers by your side. Drawing from Luke 10 and examples throughout Acts, he shows how isolation makes men vulnerable, while companionship strengthens our courage, witness, and joy.

If you’re a husband, father, or follower of Jesus trying to carry the load alone, this episode is a call to lock arms with men who will walk with you in faith, accountability, laughter, and mission.

 What You’ll Learn:

• Why Jesus never sent disciples out alone
• 4 biblical reasons men need strong brothers in their lives
• How isolation leaves you spiritually vulnerable
• The power of shared testimony and mutual encouragement
• Why friendship isn’t a luxury—it’s a gospel value
• How to build meaningful brotherhood in everyday life

📖 Scriptures References:

1. Luke 10:1 – Jesus sends disciples two by two
2. Ecclesiastes 4:9–12 – Two are better than one
3. 1 Peter 5:8 – Watch out for the prowling enemy
4. 1 Samuel 23:16–17 – Jonathan strengthens David
5. Proverbs 12:25 – A good word makes him glad
6. 2 Corinthians 13:1 – Testimony established by two witnesses
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What if friendship is one of the most powerful tools God gives us to battle confusion, discouragement, and spiritual despair? Kaleb teaches the story of the Road to Emmaus (Luke 24) to show how the presence of Jesus is often revealed when two believers walk together through grief and doubt.

Drawing from Scripture, Church history, and stories of Christian martyrs, this episode highlights how friendship is not a side benefit of the Christian life—it’s a core part of God's design for your healing and strength. If you’ve felt tired, isolated, or unsure where God is in your pain, this message will remind you: you were never meant to walk alone.

 What You’ll Learn:

• Why Jesus met two disciples walking and talking—not isolated
• The four spiritual benefits of gospel-centered friendship
• How the Holy Spirit enters conversations marked by honesty and humility
• The power of processing confusion with a godly friend
• Why real friendship requires transparency, not performance
• The image of “the third traveler” as the Holy Spirit in your walk

📖 Scriptures References:

1. Luke 24 (Road to Emmaus)
2. Ephesians 6 (Armor of God)
3. John 15 (Greater love has no one...)
4. John 14 (Spirit will not leave you as orphans)
5. Proverbs 12:25, 1 Samuel 23, 2 Corinthians 13:1

 Episode Mentions :

1. The Dwell Bible App – Sponsor offering guided Lent reflections and devotionals- dwellbible.com/dadtired
2. Perpetua & Felicity – Early Christian martyrs and friends.
3. Robert Murray McCheyne Bible Plan – Recommended yearly reading plan.
4. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, St. Bernard of Clairvaux, Augustine – Quotes and stories on friendship and theology.
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Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked.

If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as a Christian man, this episode reframes friendship not as a luxury, but as a command of Christ—and a taste of heaven itself.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why Jesus commanded friendship on the night of His betrayal
• How real friendship is a path to Christlikeness, not a distraction from it
• The danger of isolated spiritual leadership
• Why holiness without friendship is often just masked pride
• The healing power of brotherhood in seasons of mental, emotional, and spiritual struggle
• How friendship prepares us for heaven’s ultimate communion

📖 Scripture References:

1. John 15:12–14 – “Greater love has no one than this…”
2. Psalm 41:9 – Betrayal by a close friend
3. Romans 5:8, John 14, the Farewell Discourse

Resources and Links :

1. Missionary Flights International – Aviation ministry serving in Haiti, the Bahamas, and the Dominican Republic- missionaryflights.org
2. Spiritual Friendship by St. Aelred of Rievaulx
3. Augustine’s Conversion (Confessions)
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In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace that interrupts fear and helps us stay grounded in what God is doing right in front of us.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to break mental loops of fear, regret, and condemnation
• Why Jesus spoke peace to His disciples before His own suffering
• The difference between worldly peace and the peace of Christ
• How external perspective—God’s Word, a friend, or your spouse—can shatter inner turmoil
• Why recognizing God’s presence can restore joy in your fatherhood and faith

📖  Scripture  References:

1. John 14:27 – “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you…”
2. John 13–17 – The Farewell Discourse
3. Romans 8:28 – All things work together for good
4. Matthew 28:20 – “I am with you always” (implied)

Practical Advice:

1. Memorize John 14:27
2. Talk to your spouse or a trusted friend to break the loop
3. Allow God’s Word to “kick in your front door” when condemnation creeps in

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Many wrestle with the image of God in the Old Testament—how can the same God who loves and weeps in the New Testament also command war and destruction? In this episode, Chris Hilkin tackles one of the hardest questions in the Bible: is the God of the Old Testament morally good?
Chris walks through five biblical and historical reasons why the conquest narratives aren’t what modern readers often assume. You'll hear how ancient war language, the slow process of displacement, divine justice, and God's mercy all help make sense of these difficult passages—and why rejecting God on moral grounds requires a much deeper look at history and Scripture.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why “utter destruction” often used hyperbolic war language, not literal commands
• How God’s judgment differs from human genocide or racism
• The role of divine justice in protecting future generations from corruption
• Why God has the moral authority to give and take life
• How to answer questions about Old Testament violence 

 Scriptures  References:
Deuteronomy 7, 20; Joshua 6, 10; Judges 1–2
1 Samuel 15; Exodus 23; Job 1:21; Romans 13
Revelation 7.

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What has God entrusted to you—and are you stewarding it well?

In today’s episode we unpack a powerful biblical theme woven throughout the New Testament: stewardship. From Jesus’ parable of the faithful servant to the Apostle Paul's letters to Timothy, we’re reminded that God is watching how we handle the things He’s put in our hands—especially our homes, marriages, and children.

Plus, we share a wild church history story about the Apostle John chasing down a gang leader on horseback. No, seriously.

Whether you’re a dad, husband, or just a guy trying to walk faithfully with Jesus, this episode will challenge you to reject passivity and embrace your God-given role as a steward.

🔑 Key Topics:

• What biblical stewardship actually means
• How Jesus contrasted faithful vs. wicked servants
• Paul’s urgent message to Timothy about responsibility
• A convicting story from early church history
• Why passion fades, but daily faithfulness endures

📖 Scriptures Mentioned:
Matthew 24:45–51, 1 Timothy 1:11, 1 Corinthians 4:1–2, 1 Thessalonians 2:4, Galatians 2:7

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Many Christians—and critics—wrestle with this difficult question: does the Bible support slavery?  Chris Hilkin discusses the  most misunderstood and controversial aspects of the Old Testament. He confronts the assumption that God condones slavery by unpacking what the Bible actually says about servitude, justice, and human dignity. Through historical context, Hebrew language insights, and careful biblical interpretation, Chris explains how God’s law placed boundaries on power, offered protections to the vulnerable, and called His people to reflect His justice and mercy—even in broken systems.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why the Hebrew Bible doesn’t have a category for race-based slavery
• How biblical servitude functioned like voluntary indentured labor
• What protections the Mosaic law gave to servants—including freedom, fair treatment, and legal rights
• How the New Testament condemns slave trading as sinful 

📖 Scriptures References:

1. Exodus 21:16 
2. Deuteronomy 23:15–16 
3. Leviticus, Deuteronomy, Exodus – Laws protecting servants
4. 1 Timothy 1:10 – All are one in Christ; serve others in love
5. Isaiah 61 

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Many christians  feel unequipped to handle the hard questions—especially when it comes to the Old Testament. Why does God seem so angry? Did He really command entire crowds  to be destroyed? In this episode, Chris Hilkin opens a new teaching series by offering simple, powerful tools for reading Scripture faithfully. He walks through how to understand difficult passages, avoid common interpretation mistakes, and confidently answering the kinds of questions people might ask about God’s character in the Bible.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why we must use clear Scripture to interpret confusing passages
• How to distinguish between biblical description and prescription
• Why not every story in the Bible teaches a moral or doctrine
• How context, authorship, and genre shape proper understanding
• Common interpretation errors that lead to misunderstanding God’s character
• Why Jesus must be the hero of every biblical narrative

📖 Scripture References:

1. Psalm 82 vs. Isaiah 44 & Deuteronomy 6 
2. Exodus, Deuteronomy, Leviticus – laws about slavery, justice, and culture
3. 1 Samuel 15, Job 1:21, Romans 13 
4. John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8–9
5. Deuteronomy 6:4–6 – The Shema
6. Galatians 3, Philippians 2, Isaiah 61 

Resources & Links :

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Future Topics in the Series
Ep 453- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 2| 453
Ep 455- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 3| 455
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