Are You Sure You're Saved? Ask Yourself This.If you died tonight, how confident are you that you'd spend eternity with Jesus? A five? A seven? A ten?For many Christian men, that question brings up more anxiety than confidence. We believe in Jesus, but we still struggle with doubt, repeat the same sins, and wonder whether we're doing enough to be saved.In this episode of Dad Tired, guest host Pastor Chris Hilken of College Ave Church in San Diego tackles one of the most important questions of the Christian faith: How can I know if I'm really saved? Drawing from 1 John, Romans, and the Gospels, Chris challenges the questions we often ask ourselves about salvation and points us back to the finished work of Jesus.You'll hear why:<ul><li>Having doubts doesn't automatically mean you lack genuine faith.</li><li>Your salvation isn't earned by being a good enough Christian.</li><li>Confession, repentance, and a growing desire to obey God matter.</li><li>Your calendar, priorities, and relationships can reveal what you truly love.</li><li>Confidence in salvation comes from trusting Jesus, not trusting yourself.</li></ul>Whether you've followed Jesus for decades or you're quietly wrestling with where you stand with God, this conversation is an invitation to examine your heart without losing sight of God's grace.You don't have to put your confidence in your performance when you can put your confidence in Christ.

Are You Sure You're Saved? Ask Yourself This. If you died tonight, how confident are you that you'd spend eternity with Jesus? A five? A seven? A ten? For many Christian men, that question brings up more anxiety than confidence. We believe in Jesus, but we still struggle with doubt, repeat the same sins, and wonder whether we're doing enough to be saved. In this episode of Dad Tired, guest host Pastor Chris Hilken of College Ave Church in San Diego tackles one of the most important questions of the Christian faith: How can I know if I'm really saved? Drawing from 1 John, Romans, and the Gospels, Chris challenges the questions we often ask ourselves about salvation and points us back to the finished work of Jesus. You'll hear why:Having doubts doesn't automatically mean you lack genuine faith.Your salvation isn't earned by being a good enough Christian.Confession, repentance, and a growing desire to obey God matter.Your calendar, priorities, and relationships can reveal what you truly love.Confidence in salvation comes from trusting Jesus, not trusting yourself.Whether you've followed Jesus for decades or you're quietly wrestling with where you stand with God, this conversation is an invitation to examine your heart without losing sight of God's grace. You don't have to put your confidence in your performance when you can put your confidence in Christ.

Are You Sure You're Saved? Ask Yourself This.

What do you do when you want to lead your family toward Jesus, but your own failures make you feel like a hypocrite?Jerrad sits down with pastor, author, and Family Discipleship Podcast host Adam Griffin to talk about fatherhood, spiritual leadership, and learning to start again.They discuss the dad who loses his temper in the morning and feels unqualified to pray with his kids at night, why repentance belongs in family discipleship, and how to keep showing up when growth feels painfully slow.There’s also plenty of laughter, a last-minute father-daughter concert, and a reminder that God’s goodness doesn’t change with the way he answers our prayers.If you’ve wondered whether you’re doing enough—or whether you’ve messed up too much to lead—this conversation offers encouragement and a next step.Resources: <a href="https://www.familydiscipleship.com/">Adam’s books and Family Discipleship resources</a> <a href="https://www.thegoodbook.com/ministry/small-groups/free-small-group-kits/our-family-devotional">Our Family Devotional</a>Share this episode with a dad who needs encouragement to start again.

What do you do when you want to lead your family toward Jesus, but your own failures make you feel like a hypocrite? Jerrad sits down with pastor, author, and Family Discipleship Podcast host Adam Griffin to talk about fatherhood, spiritual leadership, and learning to start again. They discuss the dad who loses his temper in the morning and feels unqualified to pray with his kids at night, why repentance belongs in family discipleship, and how to keep showing up when growth feels painfully slow. There’s also plenty of laughter, a last-minute father-daughter concert, and a reminder that God’s goodness doesn’t change with the way he answers our prayers. If you’ve wondered whether you’re doing enough—or whether you’ve messed up too much to lead—this conversation offers encouragement and a next step. Resources: Adam’s books and Family Discipleship resources Our Family Devotional Share this episode with a dad who needs encouragement to start again.

What do you do when you want to lead your family toward Jesus, but your own failures make you feel like a hypocrite?Jerrad sits down with pastor, author, and Family Discipleship Podcast host Adam Griffin to talk about fatherhood, spiritual leadership, and learning to start again.They discuss the dad who loses his temper in the morning and feels unqualified to pray with his kids at night, why repentance belongs in family discipleship, and how to keep showing up when growth feels painfully slow.There’s also plenty of laughter, a last-minute father-daughter concert, and a reminder that God’s goodness doesn’t change with the way he answers our prayers.If you’ve wondered whether you’re doing enough—or whether you’ve messed up too much to lead—this conversation offers encouragement and a next step.Resources: <a href="https://www.familydiscipleship.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Adam’s books and Family Discipleship resources</a> <a href="https://www.thegoodbook.com/ministry/small-groups/free-small-group-kits/our-family-devotional" rel="noopener noreferrer">Our Family Devotional</a>Share this episode with a dad who needs encouragement to start again.

What Your Kids Need More Than a Perfect Dad

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearYou want your wife and kids to grow closer to Jesus. But what happens when you don’t feel close to him yourself? With a cup of coffee on the back patio, Jerrad wrestles with a question that came up twice at men’s events this week—and one he’s faced in his own life. He shares how shame, exhaustion, and the quiet belief that we can handle life without God can leave us feeling spiritually distant.Through a story about hiking with his kids, Jerrad offers a picture of spiritual leadership that makes room for a dad who’s still figuring things out: a guide who helps his family notice what God is already doing.If you’re carrying the weight of everyone’s faith while struggling with your own, this conversation offers encouragement and one simple step you can take with your kids today.

Important Links: Host A Dad Tired Conference at your church Join the FREE Family Leadership Program Shop the Dad Tired store for best-selling gear You want your wife and kids to grow closer to Jesus. But what happens when you don’t feel close to him yourself? With a cup of coffee on the back patio, Jerrad wrestles with a question that came up twice at men’s events this week—and one he’s faced in his own life. He shares how shame, exhaustion, and the quiet belief that we can handle life without God can leave us feeling spiritually distant. Through a story about hiking with his kids, Jerrad offers a picture of spiritual leadership that makes room for a dad who’s still figuring things out: a guide who helps his family notice what God is already doing. If you’re carrying the weight of everyone’s faith while struggling with your own, this conversation offers encouragement and one simple step you can take with your kids today.

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program" rel="noopener noreferrer">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearYou want your wife and kids to grow closer to Jesus. But what happens when you don’t feel close to him yourself? With a cup of coffee on the back patio, Jerrad wrestles with a question that came up twice at men’s events this week—and one he’s faced in his own life. He shares how shame, exhaustion, and the quiet belief that we can handle life without God can leave us feeling spiritually distant.Through a story about hiking with his kids, Jerrad offers a picture of spiritual leadership that makes room for a dad who’s still figuring things out: a guide who helps his family notice what God is already doing.If you’re carrying the weight of everyone’s faith while struggling with your own, this conversation offers encouragement and one simple step you can take with your kids today.

Leading Your Family When You Feel Far From God

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Learn more about <a href="https://adventures.org/trips/?id=159&utm_source=googleads&utm_campaign=%7BGoogleAdsPPC%7D&utm_medium=paid&utm_content=adgroup-152839034049&utm_term=&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20086068214&gbraid=0AAAAAodzGPpkweB-Bl8Z3UHhy-EG1fyzM&gclid=CjwKCAjwtp7VBhBjEiwAJfpV-03qhw6z9JfFxa7bQx6FSPd4GHlbpjwqEbb0FyWBqV2pDwL3lzTL1hoCkMMQAvD_BwE">Adventures in Missions</a> Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearDoes your family know what to expect when you walk through the door—or do they have to figure out which version of you showed up?After a stomach bug leaves Jerrad and his son stranded at a Mississippi airport, an unexpected road trip sparks a conversation about protecting your family, showing up with intention, and becoming a consistent man.In this honest, back-to-the-basics episode, Jerrad shares what he’s learning about the pressure to look impressive, resting in being known and loved by God, and processing big emotions without taking your wife and kids on a roller coaster. Plus, a look ahead at the upcoming Dad Tired family mission trip to Guatemala.An encouragement for the dad who’s still stumbling toward Jesus—and wants to help his family do the same.

Important Links: Host A Dad Tired Conference at your church Learn more about Adventures in Missions Join the FREE Family Leadership Program Shop the Dad Tired store for best-selling gear Does your family know what to expect when you walk through the door—or do they have to figure out which version of you showed up? After a stomach bug leaves Jerrad and his son stranded at a Mississippi airport, an unexpected road trip sparks a conversation about protecting your family, showing up with intention, and becoming a consistent man. In this honest, back-to-the-basics episode, Jerrad shares what he’s learning about the pressure to look impressive, resting in being known and loved by God, and processing big emotions without taking your wife and kids on a roller coaster. Plus, a look ahead at the upcoming Dad Tired family mission trip to Guatemala. An encouragement for the dad who’s still stumbling toward Jesus—and wants to help his family do the same.

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Learn more about <a href="https://adventures.org/trips/?id=159&amp;utm_source=googleads&amp;utm_campaign=%7BGoogleAdsPPC%7D&amp;utm_medium=paid&amp;utm_content=adgroup-152839034049&amp;utm_term=&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=20086068214&amp;gbraid=0AAAAAodzGPpkweB-Bl8Z3UHhy-EG1fyzM&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwtp7VBhBjEiwAJfpV-03qhw6z9JfFxa7bQx6FSPd4GHlbpjwqEbb0FyWBqV2pDwL3lzTL1hoCkMMQAvD_BwE" rel="noopener noreferrer">Adventures in Missions</a> Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program" rel="noopener noreferrer">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearDoes your family know what to expect when you walk through the door—or do they have to figure out which version of you showed up?After a stomach bug leaves Jerrad and his son stranded at a Mississippi airport, an unexpected road trip sparks a conversation about protecting your family, showing up with intention, and becoming a consistent man.In this honest, back-to-the-basics episode, Jerrad shares what he’s learning about the pressure to look impressive, resting in being known and loved by God, and processing big emotions without taking your wife and kids on a roller coaster. Plus, a look ahead at the upcoming Dad Tired family mission trip to Guatemala.An encouragement for the dad who’s still stumbling toward Jesus—and wants to help his family do the same.

What Version of You Is Your Family Getting?

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearYou love your kids. But when they’re struggling, it’s hard to know what to do. Come down harder? Give them space? Make another rule?In this honest ramble, Jerrad shares what he’s learning while navigating a challenging season of parenting four kids. From praying with his wife to laughing over Mario Kart, he explores what it looks like to move toward your kids relationally while still addressing the things that need correction.We talk about: • Why feeling out of control can lead to heavy-handed parenting • Paying attention to what each child needs • Making prayer your first response • How your phone can pull you away from the family you want to be present with • Receiving God’s love and forgiveness as you learn to reflect his heart to your kids If you’ve ever sat in the driveway wondering whether you have anything left to give, this conversation is for you.This week’s invitation: Choose one child and take one small, intentional step toward connection.

Important Links: Host A Dad Tired Conference at your church Join the FREE Family Leadership Program Shop the Dad Tired store for best-selling gear You love your kids. But when they’re struggling, it’s hard to know what to do. Come down harder? Give them space? Make another rule? In this honest ramble, Jerrad shares what he’s learning while navigating a challenging season of parenting four kids. From praying with his wife to laughing over Mario Kart, he explores what it looks like to move toward your kids relationally while still addressing the things that need correction. We talk about: • Why feeling out of control can lead to heavy-handed parenting • Paying attention to what each child needs • Making prayer your first response • How your phone can pull you away from the family you want to be present with • Receiving God’s love and forgiveness as you learn to reflect his heart to your kids If you’ve ever sat in the driveway wondering whether you have anything left to give, this conversation is for you. This week’s invitation: Choose one child and take one small, intentional step toward connection.

Important Links: Host A <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/conferences" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired Conference</a> at your church Join the FREE <a href="https://www.dadtired.com/family-leadership-program" rel="noopener noreferrer">Family Leadership Program</a> Shop the <a href="https://shop.dadtired.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dad Tired store</a> for best-selling gearYou love your kids. But when they’re struggling, it’s hard to know what to do. Come down harder? Give them space? Make another rule?In this honest ramble, Jerrad shares what he’s learning while navigating a challenging season of parenting four kids. From praying with his wife to laughing over Mario Kart, he explores what it looks like to move toward your kids relationally while still addressing the things that need correction.We talk about: • Why feeling out of control can lead to heavy-handed parenting • Paying attention to what each child needs • Making prayer your first response • How your phone can pull you away from the family you want to be present with • Receiving God’s love and forgiveness as you learn to reflect his heart to your kids If you’ve ever sat in the driveway wondering whether you have anything left to give, this conversation is for you.This week’s invitation: Choose one child and take one small, intentional step toward connection.

When Your Kids Are Struggling, Where Do You Start?

What if you and Jesus had different definitions of the word blessed?

What if you and Jesus had different definitions of the word blessed?

Are You Blessed?

If you're a guy who is bored with church, but not with Jesus, we should hang out.

If you're a guy who is bored with church, but not with Jesus, we should hang out.

Bored With Church?

Continuing our series into how you can most effectively use your time to accomplish the things God has designed you for. If you feel like your work/life balance is out of sync, you'll want to tune in.

Continuing our series into how you can most effectively use your time to accomplish the things God has designed you for. If you feel like your work/life balance is out of sync, you'll want to tune in.

Part 2: Balancing Family, Work, Kids & Coffee

In this episode, Jerrad gives gospel-centered advice regarding how to put more time towards the things that you are called to do.

In this episode, Jerrad gives gospel-centered advice regarding how to put more time towards the things that you are called to do.

Part 1: Balancing Family, Work, Kids & Coffee

ABOUT US: The Story of Dad Tired and how to get connected.

ABOUT US: The Story of Dad Tired and how to get connected.

001: An Introduction To Dad Tired

You’re tired.
Not just physically; though yeah, that too.
You’re tired in your bones. In your soul.
Trying to be a steady husband, an intentional dad, a man of God… but deep down, you feel like you’re falling short. Like you’re carrying more than you know how to hold.

Dad Tired is a podcast for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing.
Not with self-help tips or religious platitudes, but by anchoring their lives in something (and Someone) stronger.

Hosted by Jerrad Lopes, a husband, dad of four, and fellow struggler, this show is a weekly invitation to find rest for your soul, clarity for your calling, and the courage to lead your family well.

Through honest stories, biblical truth, and deep conversations you’ll be reminded:

You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And the man you want to be is only found in Jesus.

This isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about coming home.

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You’re tired. Not just physically; though yeah, that too. You’re tired in your bones. In your soul. Trying to be a steady husband, an intentional dad, a man of God… but deep down, you feel like you’re falling short. Like you’re carrying more than you know how to hold. Dad Tired is a podcast for men who are ready to stop pretending and start healing. Not with self-help tips or religious platitudes, but by anchoring their lives in something (and Someone) stronger. Hosted by Jerrad Lopes, a husband, dad of four, and fellow struggler, this show is a weekly invitation to find rest for your soul, clarity for your calling, and the courage to lead your family well. Through honest stories, biblical truth, and deep conversations you’ll be reminded: You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And the man you want to be is only found in Jesus. This isn’t about trying harder. It’s about coming home.

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